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It's normal. Don't get yourself worked up. |
My advise judging from your own side of the matter, t pray to the one who created marriage (God) and lay your complaints before Him. Next, take a weekebd off together and have a heart to heart discussion with her. Could be a hotel not far from the house. Just the of you, pour out your concerns and get her feedback. There must be a reason why she's acting up. The Lord keep your Union. |
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OP, I think your relationship with your husband is not in top shape. Come on, if you guys are into each other. call, send texts, while away in the office/work, talk when together, do things together with good sex, chances that he will venture into such will be very slim. Chances are that he's seeking attention etc. So, i'll advice don't make trouble out of it, if really value your union and wish to make it work. You both need to sit down and critically do a forensic check up on yourselves, tell yourselves what is failing and pray together to God to help you. Cheers! |
This is so sad, so unexpected. I am certain everyone there including the culprit never bargained for this in their heart sincerely. Now him body don cool now. But why do people take pleasure in seeing others fighting (especially we Africans) instead of separating the two? The death of the one that died could have been triggered by some medical conditions like high BP etc. Hmm RIP to the dead. |
This is beautiful; very simple, straight to the point, money spent probably is than N10,000. Most importantly, I can see two young Nigerians that are determined to build a future together and take on the world! Na dis kain marriage you go hear say dem don build their house after 5 years and by the time the man is 47, he has finished paying school fees because all his 3 children are through with university education Here's wishing them the very best in their endervours. |
thorpido:You no go kee me with laugh, abeg ![]() |
Sad!!! What can I say? Maybe you take a break to sort yourself out. But what could have led him to cheating on you? You need to find out from him. Try getting to the root cause of his cheating on you, if you still love him (I know it's hard) Something however tells me, he will not change. How is your devotion to God like for both of you? I sense so much disconnect in your relationship. Learn to build your home in the Lord. Las Las na for both of una to go MFM for serious deliverance in order to go back to factory settings. |
OP, unfortunately the question you asked is what the school was meant to prepare you for. Ideally, after your 6months IT in year 4, you should know where you're going; working in the office as a design engineer or directing operations in a construction field (oil & gas etc) or a project engineer in a FMCG or buy & selling or getting skilled knowledge in mechanical repairs in order to set up a workshop etc etc. However, since it's like this, the surest way is to ask God. I know you're a child of God. Ask the Holy Spirit to direct you. You may need to seek His face in prayers. If you can add fasting to it good. Note that the fact that you have 2:1 doesn't automatically open doors as some of your friends will think. You will soon discover that in 5 years life will throw up everyone in your class such that by that time, each person will be at different level. So much that to attain the level of some will require more than 10 years of hard work. So to avoid a journey of 5 years becoming 15 years, quietly go to the Author of your life in prayers. Let Him show you what He want you to do and the steps to take. God be with you. |
NwaAmaikpe:You certainly and aptly described completely the behavior of the average bini person and why they will remain so for a very long time. |
Somebody should post that meme with the caption "this is how witchcraft begins" . OP, na you dey marry, so you are responsible for virtually everything. You lay your cards on the table and both of you work out the budget, which should fall within what you can afford. Better wife material would always ensure you are not "heavily taxed" by her people and also assist with taking care of some expenses. It will naturally come from her mind. However, ditching out % for her to bear (50% for that matter) sends wrong signals to her. So many comments; some sound, some caustic, some feminist. You can get a woman to spend without sounding brash like donstan18 stated. Way forward, wait till you get money or tell her to assist that you have run out of gas in a loving way oh. Lastly, no put eye for woman money, never. You both may need to go for counseling, then both of you must sit to discuss how you run the finances of your home. Again, that discussion should be blind to how much she earns. Let her contribution comes from her mind for you tho enjoy your marriage. Wishing you the very best. |
OP the only way to go is for you to make friends with your BIL full-stop. Trying to report him to your hubby repeated Just be nice to the guy, with time you can now be able to tell in calmly that you don't like some attitudes and behaviour of his and then you point them out. BTW there is nothing wrong if he dishes food to eat, if he is hungry, however you tell him that dipping his hand or fingers into the pot is not good and is unhygienic for food everyone will eat. If you are friends with him, with time he can even give you space (privacy) to do what you like, cause that could be another latent issue which you don't want to voice (as guy men here don decode )But sincerely, if na ya blodder, are you telling us that you will not find away around, without even your husband knowing? You don marry oh! so try and accommodate some things. Cheers! |
Porn is bad. Even repentant porn actors confesses it is bad and they regret going into it. So for cousin, you have plenty of work to do. But no be gra gra oh, it won't work that way. You need to sit down do better research and write down you points carefully - i.e be prepared and even pray; before you start. You both may need to go out somewhere and do some great chat. You must get him to trust you and you must promise to keep it cool within. Start from how he got into it...let him open up. On your own part you start by telling him as a child of God, it is bad and not healthy for him. Support your statement with relevant bible passages (preferably NLT version, so that the thing go sink very well). Thereafter list out the side effects of indulging in porn. Of course part of it is that it would affect his studies and may end up not attaining his full potential academically, which in turn has other ripple effects. Also marriage, erectile dysfunction etc. In all it must be done in love and always put him in prayer. You could enlist a male who is level headed too to help out. Not anyhow uncle, if not you don lose am be dat. |
Congratulations that you graduated from the university! Again congrats on your grade 2:2. Irrespective of what happened, it's immaterial right now; so long as your conscience is convinced that you put in your best. Therefore put all that behind you and strategise on how to succeed in life. A number of factors will be at play here. First you must anchor your trust in God and be close to him. Look at the bible; Ecc 9:11 (NLT version) says "I have observed something else under the sun. The fastest runner doesn’t always win the race, and the strongest warrior doesn’t always win the battle. The wise sometimes go hungry, and the skillful are not necessarily wealthy. And those who are educated don’t always lead successful lives. It is all decided by chance, by being in the right place at the right time." When you ponder on the above scripture, you will realise that even with a First class or "powerful 2:1" , things fit hard person and vise versa with someone who has a pass degree!So very positive, learn skills, get certifications , learn some online trading stuff that bring coins (money) every week, applying to any opening, be diligent in any little assignment that comes your way and be ready, because ".......it is all decided by chance, by being in the right place at the right time" I wish you the very best in your endervours. Cheers! |
vickydankal:Always making sensible comments. God bless your home OP, you should have taken time to hear from the woman before posting, for us to have a balanced view. Also posting the names of the kids and their classes is a no no. Try and respect people's privacy. I align with my sister up there that there's a serious communication issue with the couple. Tell your friend to have a heart to heart discussion with his wife and amicably settle any rift, misgivings the wife has against the husband. Next is to sit down to discuss the finances of the home. He needs to do alot (including showing her plenty of love) to bring her out of her shell. If he use force, nothing go happen. |
OP, you both should get a first car, which should be for her. A sound and reliable car oh, no be mechanic today/mechanic tomorrow or mechanic after six months. Make her and the kids comfortable, abi your hustling na for who. Since she has managed and endure all these while like you stated, it will be good to rested or gift her with a car. Later you but your own. |
@Vickydankal, I just love your beautiful responses of counsel and encouragement. That's the hallmark of a woman who is continuously working to build a happy home and showing "upcoming stars" the way. God bless you and your family. |
So what is difficult in severing ties with your childhood friend eh, madam? You even delete the chats - meaning the chats are not what the eyes can see, bah? Madam, please respect your husband, biko. Your closest friend should be your husband and that your childhood closest friend should be his wife period. If you truly meant well, if both you and your childhood friend reside in the same city or town, you can invite him and his family for lunch to foster mutual friendship, so that your husband and him get along, with the ladies doing their thing. If both of you live in different towns and you want to connect, you simply call in the presence of your husband, talking with his wife, give the phone to your husband to say 'hi' I am very sure that if you did this, there is no way your husband will harbour things in his mind concerning your relationship with that guy. For now, "it has spoil" Na damage control you go dey do now. You need to grow up, be responsible and act responsibly like a married woman of 11years. Stop being stubborn or else na you go still loose. Your husband seems to me like someone that has plan B, C, D..... up his sleeves. Be kiafu and take caution. |
So what is difficult in severing ties with your childhood friend eh, madam? You even delete the chats - meaning the chats are not what the eyes can see, bah? Madam, please respect your husband, biko. Your closest friend should be your husband and that your childhood closest friend should be his wife period. If you truly meant well, if both you and your childhood friend reside in the same city or town, you can invite him and his family for lunch to foster mutual friendship, so that your husband and him get along, with the ladies doing their thing. If both of you live in different towns and you want to connect, you simply call in the presence of your husband, talking with his wife, give the phone to your husband to say 'hi' I am very sure that if you did this, there is no way your husband will harbour things in his mind concerning your relationship with that guy. For now, "it has spoil" Na damage control you go dey do now. You need to grow up, be responsible and act responsibly like a married woman of 11years. Stop being stubborn or else na you go still loose. Your husband seems to me like someone that has plan B, C, D..... up his sleeves. Be kiafu and take caution. |
Young man, this is a new year and a new decade. Sit down and have a discussion with yourself. Have a self assessment of your achievement in the last decade. I am sure you will not be impress with yourself. Therefore, double your hustle, have a one year plan, a five-year plan and a 10-year plan. Stop investing your time and emotions on unprofitable venture like that your so called gf. Good luck. |
You must realise your son has gone far tey! tey!! Take him out and have a heart to heart talk with him. You've got to connect with him very fast, be sincere, open, be frank and advise him on the consequences of not getting his priorities in life right. Tell him he is free to have friends, God fearing friends whether male or female and be free to invite them home sometimes. However, engaging in sex is no no. Tell him as a child of God, that is fornication...... Talk to him with love, get him to open up. Subsequently get him to break off from that relationship and any other. Draw him close, go other together more often and pray for him always. God will see you through. |
emmachukwu99:If he has the mind to carry out this advise it's good. |
You screwed up big time bro. Straight away, start making plans to to pay up whatever he is still owing; even if it's the entire N3m. Or else you will lose your house. There's no grammar there. |
Both of you simply weren't prepared for what you got yourselves into. This is the result. I would kindly advice you to look for work, make money and try to be okay financially, cause this is only phase 1. Do all you can to get something doing fast, to live well, dress well and look really good, like say u no send. Maybe, then he might start taking you serious. |
So scary like a movie. So sad and painful, just short of words. R.I.P to the dead and I pray those still in detention will be released and get justice. |
Follow your passion, learn the skill with 100% commitment, work smart, be focused and be very patient. Above all, commit your plans to God in prayer. |
It's well brother. I just pray you're able to walk around this. I know t can be pretty difficult and most times lead to mid life crises. Very good advise to guys in the age bracket but then the country as at now no dey easy. Majority of guys in this age bracket are still in the universities/polytechnics (i.e for those that managed to gain admission for more than four/five attempts). Those who even graduated are either unemployed or underemployed/grossly underpaid. Others outside the education band are in God knows where. Bottomline is the operating conditions for young guys to get married in the country no be am. I can go on and on... I pray God will see you through. |
OP, it's not late to make amends. Start by talking to the one you least love, apologize to her, cause she knows as a child. Then call everyone to a family chat, admit your shortcomings and pledge to love everyone equally. In your private moment, pray God to give you the grace to love everyone equity. Praticalise it by ensuring you spend time with them, be friendly with them individually, do shopping together with everyone happy within your budget. |
Finding it very difficult the believe this story. I guess the intent is just to generate traffic. Audio story. |
Read every line. What a country. This is just to awaken is to the fact that for everyone that travels in this country, whether by sea, road or air, we owe God gratitude for journey mercies, no matter how short the distance. May He grant us all journey mercies throughout 2020, this decade and all through our life time |
OP, I align with the thoughts of SmileDance and JewessGratitude (hope I got that spelling right). If your thoughts towards her are good and sincere, the steps you are going to take will require a great deal of time and patience. Firstly, seek the face of God. Next, you need to get on your feet, be bouyant and be on your own. You need to encourage her to further her education or find out her plans for herself and if she is saving towards her plans. In between all these, your sister would be acting up, but you have to keep low. |
