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southniyikaye:
Saw a thread that made fp about depression..

https://www.nairaland.com/6862535/fg-job-how-name-replaced

I wish to keep this post as short as possible but it seems it's gonna be a long read..

I was the first to comment and people say I should share this story even though I have promised to never share any of my stories on nairaland again, this might just be the last one...
This is not to woop up sentiment or a self pity thread, just want people to be careful when you try to cyber bully people thinking you are catching cruise.
So last year from around Feb to may, I was an ardent begger on nairaland that I was even nicknamed the nairaland's president of begger, he no get where my account no dey.. Every begging or giveaway thread, I dey...
But around may or June last year, God came through for me.. I want to make this post as short as possible..
Firstly when I wrote about being suicidal, alot of nairanders came through. I thank Mr Bello, that man sent me total of 110k.it was like magic cos what we talked about was around 30k to start business..
Stupidity (this is a moniker on nairaland) too gave me 20k.i made about 15k from giveaway threads.
Then a brother of mine abroad came through and gave me approximately 1.3m..
All these came in a space of 1month..
Let me say this, you might not believe in prayers but alot of fasting and prayers happened in my life from January till God answered my prayers.. Mr Bello was God sent.. Apart from the money, he gave me alot of encouraging words, gave me directions and how to channel my prayers..
To the purpose of this thread..
Believe this or not, I spend more than 250k helping others both online and offline..
I tried about 3 businesses that failed and I was left with about 500k till I finally did a retail business that gave me more than 2m savings.
I was supposed to travel to South Africa around August, I was given a visa already but I was supposed to do some things in Lagos for like a month before moving to S.A.
So I sold my retail shop(first mistake) even though alot of people adviced me seriously against it, but I already made up my mind since I won't be needing it anymore..
I was in Lagos when my host told me I won't be coming to S.A again due to unforseen circumstances,na from there I know say I Don enter one chance..
The plan was to open a fabrication shop for me in S.A, accommodation will be provided.
This host was my bro who sent me money, he sent me a separate money for S.A processing and the plan was going on smoothly till I got to Lagos..
So I had to come back to ibadan but business was gone so I improvised...
Now, I and my wife settled our differences, I won't be gojng into much details but families intervened and not being a father figure in my kids life was painful to me as they are growing and always wanted to be with me..
So I got an apartment in ib, furnished it to taste(atleast ) and moved my family to ib, everyone was happy..
I know people might want to refer to my previous thread about family but everything was cool now as I prayed over it in 3-4 diff places..
I am leaving alot of details out cos the post is getting long already..
She has something good doing before coming, she was making good money in her work place, (she left the bar for a decent job) and she told me she can't come to me and be jobless.
She told me what she will like to do and I told her I got everything covered..
Plan was in motion and my new area has an advantage of doing same retail business I was doing before and the way am seeing it, the sales will be more than my former place..
I got a space for my fabrication job and everything seems perfect until my brother in S.A had a serious health issue.
This is someone that came through for me twice, this health issue was already developing that's why he didn't want me to come to him..
I sent everything I could gather and even borrowed more just to make sure he is OK..
That's how my financial mess started..
My family is already here and to feed became a serious issue. My wife has nothing doing, we've spent every penny she saved on kids school fees and feeding, she cries everyday and this breaks my heart.
She tried looking for work and none was forthcoming.. I too tried looking for job and what am being offered is nothing to write home about.
I even put up my big generator, big fridge I bought for her business and some other new house hold things for sale and the prices people are offering me heenn, it is well..
About 2weeks now, I was talking to someone when I started stammering, then I lost my voice... I was trying to make hand gesture to the person that have lost my voice when I started folding from inside, then I collapsed..
It took more than an hour to resuscitate me but believe me, I wish I died and be done with this world.. (was told it was an extremely low BP).
People will not understand the financial pressure am in and the fact that I made my wife resigned from her work to just live as a family and she is now jobless and crying everyday breaks my heart..
She tried her best cos everybody know what it takes to feed nowadays, now imagine feeding a family of four!
Last week, someone who knows me offline but I don't know was making jest of me on this platform, saying derogatory words..
No matter what, you don't beat a man that is already down. I was just getting myself from that collapse when he made that statement...

So, this is what I went through in the space of a year..
I didn't go into details and I know people will want to know the type of business that gave me such amount withing a year.. Not gonna hide anything but if I mention it, alot of people will know who I am cos I know alot of those in my area and even my previous customers are on this platform.
About my brother's issue, it is more serious than I wrote here but that too is supposed to be confidential..
Cc tmksouth, I don't know how far your reach in S.A is but I will appreciate if I can contact you and pls anyone that lives in cape Town..

What made me seriously depressed is this, this is the 3rd time am at the point of my breakthrough that this type of shit is happening and each phase of it is worse than the previous..
I have never been diabolical but shey my head no need washing and setting like this?
Abi shey I no go go ask why always me? Shebi na people Sha dey do long time business and succeeding without issues..

My advice to people is this, yoruba will say, MA titori pe o gbo kun kun Ojo ko da omi agbada nu.. (no becos say u believe say rain go fall make you troway drum water).
If i had leased my business and not sold it, I would have something to fall back to now..

Another is, always resist the urge to shalaye and keep your life private as much as possible, he get why. Expecially your success story or propose successes...

Ishilove
Pocahontas
I purposely tagged these two people cos they are familiar with my story and to let them know say, person wey do you bad today fit make you happy tomorrow..

You squander over 2m..... Pennywise, pound foolish

JackDaAlienz:
It started on Wednesday when I woke up around 3 am to make video call with my babe in Houston Texas after we had some argument on me cheating.
While I was waiting for her to pick up the call,I could hear my neighbor
kaboshing and speaking in tongues praying around that 3 am.
No issue, so I still call my babe again. She no pick.
I just lay back to bed, while my neighbor was still singing worship songs and praying fire fire.

I then woke up around 3:50 am my neighbor still kaboshing and i check my phone and saw my babe whatsap missed calls.
I call her she pick up first thing she cone dey para for me say which girl i dey sleep with we I no wan pick her calls. I wan talk she still dey yarn rubbish till the point u come vex. Out of anger I come shout
"What is wrong with you!!!
Why are you disturbing my life this early morning.
She replied that she know I'm with someone there. And I shout again
You be Witchhhh, You dey Monitor me
Thunder fire you there!!
I cut the call and didn't know my neighbor she heard me shouting and thought I was responding to her fire fire prayers.
Next thing I hear is this my neighbor singing in praises saying God has identified my enemies.
God has exposed them, holy ghost fire is tormenting him right now. Father expose all of them.
I feel like she is referring to me shouting at my girl thinking I was shouting because of her prayers.
Now my landlord on thursday evening told me that the woman is accusing me of being a ritualist that her prayers are affecting me at night. I explained everything to him but he still look at me one kind

My broda, how do I clear my name and save image from this kind of mess before she start spreading rumors around the street that I'm a Yahoo plus ritualist

Start going to Church

Lessonteacher:
Please fellows I want to know how good is Nokia 5.4 or Nokia 3.4 the focus is on the camera, battery and memory

Charging port issue...runaway from Nokia android

seedgreen:
This is getting really interesting. We have always known that there’s more to this COVID fiasco.

Moshood Abiola polytechnic, Abeokuta is requesting for vaccination card before granting its students entry into their final exams.

Yes, you cannot put others at risk cos of your carelessness

Mrxawe:
Been in Adamawa lately.. all these hausa and Fulani think of is love and marriage. Most especially the girls.. how they are gonna get married someday to the love of their life, how they're gonna do this, how they're gonna do that etc.. oboy no be here at all.. it's just terrible. They no dey know pass love and marriage.

They lack ambition, that's why they see politics as a getaway

Arobafin loba n pa

Foodqueen:
The baby mama resemble toyin Abraham.

Baby Mamas are always too bittered, always looking for opportunities to talk their baby daddy down.

Na them Sabi.

You LL soon become one n you LL know why

Sex heals

walkbrazil4k:
As you all know Brazil is a Christian country with strong Christian values and Christmas in Brazil is always magical and they celebrate it very well, look at the pictures below they are already selling Christmas trees and shops have started displaying Christmas stuff.


https://www.walkbrazil4k.com/2021/11/christmas-has-already-started-in-brazil.html?m=1

We can't wait here.... everywhere is Green n Red

Pay them and correct the errors later

Tobam7302:
I don't know why I am just different from everyone. For most of my life I have always been the quiet one in any group even if I wish I could also be free like anyone else.

And now I am in the university. I am still the same maybe even worse, I am pratically a loner now. The virtual stuff we are doing is not even helping matter at all.

Before I gained admission I have always hoped that university will probably change me, but I am in 200 level now nothing has changed. It's like I don't have that fast thinking to give good replies to conversations (especially Yoruba ). And my friend is like the complete opposite of me; free with everyone, funny, witty with words and stuffs.

I can count the number of things I say per day. I just want to get better than this and meet new people. I am going to be 20 next year, yet no babe or even female friends. Shey I even get male sef talkless of female.

My parents sef are probably hoping for some changes. One of my Granny's last words to me was 'when will you not be shy again'. I just laughed then but it's really serious to me... No day pass without me thinking about this.

I just envy people that are just so fucking good at talking, especially this funny bangers people do ( I am so bad at this. I will probably just bore the person out).

The worst part is the way people treat you like a kid just because I don't talk the way, I am supposed to. I am just depressed. Anytime I go out, I always come back depressed, why?. When I see the quality of conversations people have and how fun and confident they are talking. My friend is probably tired of me. Phone calls sef na trouble. No one calls me except my parents.


What do I do to be normal, how do I live like others and just enjoy life? I have even thought about taking weed to help me that's how desperate I am.

If you have experienced this before please how did you overcome.This is really draining me. I just wanted to let it all out sorry if the post is long.

Seek knowledge. Invest your time in reading and watch interesting movies, events etc, If you love football, go to viewing centres, if you're good academically, teacher others what you know, organize tutorial classes. If you're a Christian, join the Sunday school or choir group in your Church.

Mentioned above are activities that LL make talk, talk and talk even if you are a core introvert.

Ghot:
Government has banned its celebrities from showing off their wealth on social media in the latest crackdown on the entertainment industry.

Yawabase online newspaper understands that the Cyberspace Administration global made the announcement on Tuesday that celebrities in the country will not be allowed to ‘show off wealth’ or ‘extravagant pleasure’ on social media. More..

Source https://yawabase.com/2021/11/25/breaking-government-bans-celebrities-from-showing-off-money-on-social-media-and-parties/

Let them try me first

NovesaTillie:
Nairalanders

My boyfriend who I once posted here that he he didn't want to leave my house after coming to visit for the weekend has not called me after he left. I have called him severally after that and he picked on a few occasions and said he was busy with work.
What actually happened is we have been dating for close to 3 months now and sometimes spend times in each other's place but for me I have never spent more than a day at his place because I love my privacy and when he came to my apartment for a weekend hangout he refused to go, the day he eventually left he came back by 11pm calling that he wants to spend one more night at my place. The next day I took the bold step and told him to please leave my house because he was going against the arrangement we had to only spend at most the weekend in each other's place. Now ever since he left he has not been calling me.
Could it be that he is no longer interested?

He's had enough of you....you gave out too much so soon

Abbey4life:
Hello Fellow Nairalanders.
I registered my 16years old daughter who is in one of the high brow school in Ibadan and currently in SS3 to partake in the 2021 WAEC in another school while in SS2 to give her a feel of what the exam looks like.

Result came out and she cleared her papers with 1A, 2Bs and 6Cs. I would expect her to have at least 5As when she would be writing with her set next year 2022.

I have a bill of over #1m to pay for her yet to do 2nd and 3rd term fees for next year.

Now my issue is this. Do I allow her finish up with her peers and pay the bill next year with expectation of a better grade or I should just pull her out and focus on 2022 jamb and save some bucks.

What do you guys feel?

Let her do jamb jare.... Don't waste her time and your money. It's her ability that's key here and she's proven to be solid

Abbey4life:
Hello Fellow Nairalanders.
I registered my 16years old daughter who is in one of the high brow school in Ibadan and currently in SS3 to partake in the 2021 WAEC in another school while in SS2 to give her a feel of what the exam looks like.

Result came out and she cleared her papers with 1A, 2Bs and 6Cs. I would expect her to have at least 5As when she would be writing with her set next year 2022.

I have a bill of over #1m to pay for her yet to do 2nd and 3rd term fees for next year.

Now my issue is this. Do I allow her finish up with her peers and pay the bill next year with expectation of a better grade or I should just pull her out and focus on 2022 jamb and save some bucks.

What do you guys feel?

Let her do jamb jare

The leg o

None....I m yet to impress myself

Bradford14:
Nairalanders please help me i have a scar on my head making a circle of my head bald this scar on my head was caused by an accident when I was a child around 8 playing with my big bro the play ended up in a fight he pushed me to the wall my head hitted the edge of the wall since then there have been no hair growth on that spot this has been affecting me a great deal as I always put on a face cap or head warmer I am now generally known as cap man in my area because a cap Will always be on my head anytime any day any where.I feel uncomfortable walking without a cap this has affected my self esteem as ilook at a myself as a less privilege even at talking to girls I feel rejected even without giving it a try I need help on this please as of over the years have generated a strong hatred for my brother we no longer talk freely like siblings and evil thoughts are always on my mind to hurt him badly even though it's been long it happened.

You should always be non low cut. With time, you LL embrace your cross

That's what they all do with their miserable girlfriends they are trying to impress

If she will do money rituals...why not

nikky5:
I lost my wife after delivery about 12 years ago. I later married this lady who happened to be a single mother of a 16 years old girl. She had 2 children for me.
Fast forward. I had been suspecting her of dating another man who I later learnt had 5 children from 5 different women. She agreed going to the man's because he is a pastor for prayers. She has been going there even when there was no woman in his house and stay for as long as 4 to 6 hours. There was a day I gave her money to make her hair and returned home after 8 hours. She passed the night with her children in my landlady's apartment.
After much pleadings, I forgave her. Just last night, my daughter from my first wife drew my attention to a number which saved in her phone as Honey 1 and honey 2. Before now I have been doubting the paternity of her son aged 6 and the idea of running a DNA TEST has been running in my mind.
She travelled this morning for her in-law's burial and will be returning home on Sunday. A friend has confirmed the name of the honey boy.

What do you advice I do when she returns.

Thanks.

Carry your load...na you go marry after 1 now

He was part of the problem

He doesn't deserve to die. To err is human...
Nobody holy pass ye

Romeo n Juliet

Nigerians are now forming prof on snake matters. We only know how to react

Rightmindset:
3 years after graduation, I still can't afford good meal. See me sipping Garri with salt because nothing else to eat.

It is well with me and all those going through tough times in the country.

What are you taking this night? Let's see.

Go n look for job

NovesaTillie:
Okies. I have my own man and we just started dating just started dating not quite long.

How do you intend to tempt him. What's your modus operandi

Jodha:
95% of men think money is all women want...and that women will flock around them if they have money. Well I'm sorry to burst yhur bubble they're actually hard-working and contented ladies out there...and if money is all yhu have to offer then yhu have nothing to offer..

Guys should learn to work on their personality, attitude, general approach. I'm not saying yhu shouldn't have money ..but if yhu think having money is all there is...or if yhu have money yhure a total catch and ladies will flock around yhu regardless of how yhu behave...then yhure wrong.

A big lie

From experience, even if women flock around you for other qualities, it's just a matter of time, they LL frustrate and leave the man if he's without money

Mercychen:
I'm not an abroad freak. Ok?

By the way, why did my comment hit you hard? Hmmm..

kilo kan mi

Mercychen:
You no know say bad belle full this place?

Sha easy with the way you divulge your future plans on here.

You can only tell them your past but as for your future plans, keep it from them.

Too much Nollywood...As you keep your future plans reach, you still never commot naija

JungleJustice01:
I've been thinking strongly of relocating these past couple years and I've made up mind I'm going for it in 2022.

I'm awaiting my IELTS result already and will redo if needed.

A little bio
31 years with about 8 years professional experience in Agric, top tier companies, married with 1 child and expecting one by June next year. I'll be able to come up with #5million for this project.

3 options on my mind.

1. Canada skilled migration
2. Australian skilled migration
3. Post graduate in Germany.

I've breezed through their pages but there's so much information to consume and so right now, I want to make a reasonable choice I can follow through to the end.

Which option do I have/has the best prospects for me please. I've thought of USA post graduate but the tuitions are just too high.

Thanks

Post graduate Germany. You LL develop yourself for better opportunities elsewhere