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I am not in a position to advise you to marry or not marry the girl. You'll still go ahead and make your own decision in the end, judging from the way you've been responding to advice here. But I am worried whether at all you're taking the right steps.

You mentioned that both you and the girl in question are students. Obviously your parents are the ones shouldering financial responsibility for your education. But you took upon yourself the burden of bearing responsibility for the girlfriend's education. That's irresponsibility on your own part, if I may say so. How many of your own sisters and younger ones did you even assist in paying their school fees?

Your parents decided to take on the burden of sending you to school so that one day you would assist in paying school fees of the younger ones. But if you finished training that girl in school and she ended up marrying someone else, it would have been a fruitless effort.

If you worried less and stopped bothering yourself about who called her line or who she was talking to on phone, perhaps she might start unlocking her phone and stop hiding it under the pillow. Your constant nagging and policing of her private life may have contributed to her locking the phone in order to avoid unnecessary misunderstanding.

I think your problem stemmed from insecurity and jealousy. That coupled with your tendency to violent behavior (beating her up and all that) may have led to her decision to silence her phone. Keep your feelings of insecurity and jealousy aside for awhile and think of the many things you aren't doing right in the relationship, and maybe you might start to see things differently.

Don't get me wrong, I am Igbo myself and I do not see any thing wrong in friends making financial contributions to support one of theirs burying his mother or father. But imagine if same group of friends will pull together and donate to other causes, like charitable works, rural projects, scholarship, skills and entrepreneurship support funds to jobless youths within their domain, etc. Imagine how many lives would be impacted with such donations.

He is lucky to rule a country where nobody is patriotic enough to pull the trigger and save the nation from the scourge of a lunatic president.

1. WhatsApp 70% of the time
2. Facebook 30%
3. Spotify 85%
4. Replaio Radio 80% (I use this app mostly to stream Nigerian radio stations to help me keep in touch with home)
5. Netflix (with AT&T plan) 87%
6. Twitter 60%
7. Disney+ 55%

Your points are useless.
1. Ojukwu was all for One Nigeria (infact was an officer in the Nigerian Army right before he turned his back on Nigeria and fought for Biafra.
2. Sir Ahmadu Bello (Sardauna of Sokoto) stood against Nigerian independence during British colonial rule. He favoured a breakup ("araba") of Nigeria but later became a full fledged nationalist.
3. My uncle was once a diehard Arsenal fan, but he's today supporting Man U.

People change. Events and circumstances change people.

Anything just to trend.

I am not by any means making light of Russia's military capabilities. Russia is, indeed, militarily strong. But this apparent show of strength by the Russians stems from a fear of losing out in any possible future confrontation with the West. Make no mistake about it, in a full-blown military confrontation the United States, backed allies (like the NATO alliance), will deliver a crushing defeat to the Russians.

Her thing suddenly began to taste sour? Of course you know I'm joking. Please be man enough to let a woman know where you really stand. If it's space you're looking for, ask her to give you space. If freedom, feel bold and ask her to move out. Stop beating about the bush.

Nothing could be farther from the truth. Reno was right.

BonPatrick:
Good morning guys I leave alone and I don't know how to cook soup...

You LEAVE alone or you LIVE alone?

Juliusmalema:
Highly painful.

Nnamdi is done and dusted.
Well let him spent his remaining days on earth in prison.

Analysis of those his UGM Murdered

Igbos - 10

So those hailing him , come and see the scores.

You added names that sounded like Igbo in your football scores just to score a point. Clap for yourself.

jrjfjfj:
The earlier my fellow Yorubas realize that igbos doesnt love you the better for them .All they are after is to mock you after your downfall.Any Yoruba doing anything with igbo or fulani is going to regret it at the end .Igbo and fulani have been friends since BALEWA/AZIKWE Government in 1959.So forget that trash of igbos telling you they hate fulanis,Igbos and fulanis are allies ,YORUBAS DONT BE FOOLED.

You're wrong. The earlier the Yorubas realized they shared a mutual enemy with the Igbos, the better for them. And that mutual enemy is the Fulani.

North must GIVE power to South?
What an insult!

This man, Prof. Isaq Akintola, is becoming an emerging problem for the nation.

Officialgarri:
Anything to pepper the Terrorist group is welcome.

Your type always meets their own calamity in the end.

LordVoldermort:
Japan is not even allowed to have an offensive military so how did they get so high?
Pakistan, France, Britain, Israel could have filled that last spot

Correct. You're right.

It should be suicide claim, not "suicide theory." (It sounded as if the family just formulated a set of hypotheses to challenge suicide theory being taught in the Sociology Department of that University)

Masturbator2020:
What kind of Huck up self?if she send 300k for Huck up how much will she make from the Huck up? I am not understanding oo..Or are they looking for husband?

Please read well before commenting. The guy demanded 300k from the lady to stop him from releasing nude photos of her from the encounter. It was a blackmail, not a fee for hookup.

If this Abubakar Gumi was a Palestinian running his mouth wild like that, Israel's Mossad would have abducted and murdered him. He should thank his lucky stars that he's in Nigeria where impunity reigns.

There's something about sex that people do not understand. If a man abstained from sex for too long, did not masturbate, and did not have nocturnal or accidental emission, then the chances that he will not last beyond a few minutes (or even seconds) during his next sexual encounter will increase. Try it and prove me wrong.

This man should borrow sense from Olakunle Churchill: Keep quiet and move ahead. Silence is the best answer to a fool.

But she got her three minutes of fame—and passed a message across—which is what really mattered.

What kind of a man is this? I just love this governor of Borno State. His achievements are outstanding.

Thank God for the spirit governing football. At least this is the one sector of our national life that Buhari has not managed to extend his tribalism. Because, if only he could just have his way, he would select mostly Fulani players to play for the national team.

Shame on you guys! We go abroad to make money and to improve our living standards. But your own mission was to go to UAE and practice cultism. Shame on you again!

OnionBandit:
This Buhari government has done more for the South East than any other government since the birth of Nigeria

Despite the hate he is getting from this region, he is still doing soo much for them

Man like Buhari...

You don't know what you're talking about.

Who cares? Let that bloody demagogue leave office soon, so that sanity will once again return to the country.

UtuokeAlcoholic:
But all the regions in the south (South West, South East and south south) carry the nomenclature "SOUTH". Why there is a weaken or no sense of unity among them.

There's already inherent disunity among the Southern units. My concern was the Northern parts, where a section like the Middle-Belt has been caged into a "unity" imposed by Hausa-Fulani feudalists against its will, and needed to be extricated by giving it a separate identity.

The ultimate goal ought to have been to cut the North down to size for good. So it would have been better if those geopolitical units within the Northern geosphere were given different names that removed connotation of 'North.' For as long as "north" remained attached to the titles, those sections would feel still a sense of unity. It should have been Northern zone, for the states in the parent present-day north-west; Savannah zone, for those states in the present-day north-east; and Middle-Belt zone for states in the present-day north-central region. Such an arrangement would have succeeded to disrupt cohesion among the component sections of the North.

Agbegbaorogboye:


First rated idiot. Read what you wrote aloud and check the topic. Check the meaning of plan you halfbrain

I can never descend to your level of stupidity. Never. But to the benefit of reasonable people reading this, I will like to reiterate that the fact that Obasanjo "knew" about what happened to Abacha didn't mean he was part of the plot, or that he planned it along with the others. FFK mentioned Obasanjo's name as one of the few Nigerians at the top who knew what happened to Abacha. My argument all the while, therefore, had been along the line of that fact --- that Obasanjo knew about the plan (because he got wind of the incident eventually) even if he hadn't taken part in the actual execution of the plan.

Agbegbaorogboye:
Oga common sense. You claim to be bookish. Why don't you go and read OBJ's book about his prison experience in maximum security prison in Jos.

Then you can ask your common sense who would dare to visit OBJ who was incarcerated by Almighty despotic Abacha in Jos prison and kept incommunicado to discuss how to kill Abacha.

This your common sense needs an upgrade

You still need to sharpen your thinking. It's just about what Obasanjo knew, and when he knew it. If the plotters revealed the whole arrangement to Obasanjo immediately after Abacha's death, then it still suffices that he was informed; and that means he knew. It didn't matter whether he got wind of the information in prison while Abacha was still alive, or in prison after Abacha had passed away. Even if he had been informed about it only after his release from prison, it will suffice to say that he had been aware.