₦airaland Forum

alphabbey1:
You can't really get anything meaningful if you chose to run a background check, I mean, how u gonna run the check when no be say there's a cctv camera recording her past life... and her friends and families are definitely gonna protect there own, all secrets will be kept far away from you.... it was just last month my uncle's friend just know her wife have a son that's now fully grown up, and they got married since 2002.. annoying thing is, they had to do ivf to conceive, and my uncle's friend believed both him and her wife are childless prior to the ivf that led to there current first and only child... u self see that shock....

The background checks would definitely come from her own mouth and not from 3rd party or CCTV. Guys who kno how to stand above manipulations would know how to do that. And for ur uncle, he is a type of hubby who is less concern about past of her partner, this type of scenario common around such personality.

MartinCorridon:
I am amused at those sweating and bleating....dishing out advice and insult over a story that's likely 99% fake.

99.9% yes! Even in tortoise and mouse story, wise will learn one or two lessons from it.

chatinent:
Your friend or you?


Nobody can talk about his wife to his friend about that! Continue trying to deceive the gods.

U re still a teenager. Or you are adult but u reasoning like toddler.

HenryDion:
So, my friend just called me early this morning to let me know that his newly married wife have a tattoo around her vagina area.

I was dumbfounded, cause that can only mean one thing, but we could be wrong.

Right now this so called friend of mine is confused and restless, and they were the 'no sex before marriage' crew.

I didn't bother asking for a picture, even though I was tempted to ask.

Dear NLders, what do you think about the tattoo? Should he be worried?

Tell her he succumbed to manipulation of retired olosho. Anyway, if he rise up to take over and be in charge..........

How would you stand bf ur people in PH and campaign for another northerner after 8 years of agony, rape ,wanton kill etc from northerner ?

In fact, naija politicians are most selfish I ever seen, just because he is interested in VP, the position that he himself see how they totally subdued Osibanjo and reduced him to to PA.


Sooooo 16 years stretch of Fulani..........even if its dream I tot Wike would have rejected it. Oga ooo.

Disappointment and distrust my fellow men did to me far outnumbered the one ladies did to me.

Stop being prejudice by labeling women on issue pertaining to humans as females

Prettydevil:
Nigerian girls are such bad conversationalist, no matter how sweet or polite or rude or arrogant you are they just don’t know how to chat. They are just uninteresting to chat with online, but in reality they can be fun to talk to but online they are really slow. I prefer talking to girls online because I’m too proud to woo girls in real life, being admired too much has ruined my brain to beg one ngozi to notice me when all girls are smiling at me daily. So why don’t Nigerian girls know how to chat online?

If u knw how many guys like you charting with her at once and just one purpose (dating), if you knw how friend requests bombarded her, if you knw thousands of guy asking for her number, .....
If you knw that, you would understand that, she deliberately not replying or making chat frustrating.

To confirm, log in into ur sister or girlfriend fb account and see urself.

tuna85:
Islam, no doubt is a complete way of life.

Proper ways of burying a Muslim have been clearly outlined. No need for cremation or aquamation.

Muslims, let's be proud of what we have. Steadfastness and guidance are very important.

Na slave go show himself to the whole world ,kind of person he be.

So many dead Muslims that students of medicine are using in the lab for practical

vibratingpenis:
You forgot to add terrorism, rapery, banditry, child penising, robbing caravans, etc, so numerous to mention

U are answering son of one eyed woman, instead to keep silent ,he chooses to talk, so that people would show him disability his mom carried.

At least ,they would be dying for them, that's dream of every lady to have tall guy as her bobo.

Sirseedorf:
Salam Ahlaekum, as the Ramadan is getting closer, and as a bachelor am tired of going to the kitchen. I have a fiance that we've been courting about a year now and I wish she should be the one to cook for me when it is time for Ramadan, presently am not financially stable, can we do introduction of both families like the giving of food items in a lowkey place.

Is she qualified to cook for me in the Ramadan month with the introduction ceremony?

It's haram for cooking for u during Ramadan, but not haram for fucckking u endlessly.

Human being with self deceit.

Generous with money by either partner doesn't make him or her good.

For someone to be is far more than dashing you money.

Since everyone is looking for perfect partner, when he/ herself is full of imperfections

Marriage can only work if the couple reach compromise, neither of them should see himself/herself as king/queen to worship by others.

Husband and wife should start seeing them as one flesh

Johel:
You are married...Do not crush on anyone...Cos when faced with your crush,you could off your pant and loose guard when no one is watching....don't break those marital vows..

Keep hide under one finger OK.

If you married I will advise u to go blind, that would eventually stop any feelings towards opposite gender.

In fact the way you people reason is worrisome.

Johel:
It's wrong for married persons to crush on anyone,celebs ain't excluded....You are married,stick to the rules or become a fukk person in and out.

Hope u know the meaning of crush?


I think in ur own way , being married make body system to die towards opposite gender.

Vinnie2000:
So I visited my young Married friend and we were watching a movie where Christopher Okagbue (one handsome Guy that won GUS in 2012 or 2013) showed up..
Suddenly, my friend's Wife said 'Oh, see my Crush'..

Was surprised. My friend Did not say anything!. Whether he was Angry or not, I don't even know!..

But I was really Surprised and somewhat Confused!
Because some Singles Might have the likes of Genevieve, Nancy Isime, Beverly Naya, Ronaldo, Wizkid, RMD, etc as Celebrity crushes!

After Marriage, Are They still going to be Crushing on these People?

But, Really. Is it Right or Responsible for a Married person to have a Celebrity Crush?

Please Move to FP for further deliberation on this Issue!
Thanks!..

No human being that can't have feelings (crush) towards opposite when seeing or meeting him/her, but you off ur mind immediately if you are in committed relationship, if not, you become he-goat/ public hoe.

feckos:
Honestly I couldn't believe all the senseless comments I read here hailing the guy as being focused?

At 35? Been married for 3years? Not likely to complete his programme in next 2years? What loss will it be to him if e give the woman one pikin hold first?

This guy is just selfish and wicked.

That's how many guys are doing, they would be hold ladies down for flimsy excuses and if anything go wrong guy can easily manoeuvre while for women ,it more difficult.

If she had left him then, he would be lambasting all naija ladies.

MrBrownJay1:
if my daughter was this woman i certainly wouldnt advise her to force her husband into doing what he is not comfortable doing, and instead i will advise her that: since her marriage isnt going on the right track, she should reevaluate her life and make the right CHANGES needed in order for her to find a man that has the same vision of life as she does, and therafter be happy with that said man. i would also advise her that having a child isnt a necessity in marriage as parents need to be READY (emotionally/physically/financially) 1st before thinking of having one, and its obvious her husband is NOT ready. this would in turn be the bed for bad parenting/abuse/neglect etc.

sadly, in Africa, majority are so blinded by having children at any cost (even if they cant care for them) that every donkey under the moon desires a child, while they probably arent suited to care emotionally/physically and financially for a child for the next 18yrs minimum!
I guess, to each their own msery!

I pity foosl who will follow ur foolish opinion, easier to say than do.

dyingheart:
we dated for five months. i showed him so much love and care. all he did was complain it wasn't enough, he wanted to date someone else. we're not talking anymore. i miss him like mad. i can't sleep, i can't eat, i can't do anything. it's like my heart has been broken into a thousand pieces. i can't breathe anymore. someone talk to me


****abeg, the man in question is not a Nairalander. cheating was from his part. i was very faithful to him.

Learn how to love who loves you back. (My principle for years)

Its dangerous to love someone who will not reciprocate the gesture. Its tantamount to depression.

Citizenshelm:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CYEfEk1NTRe/?utm_medium=copy_link

Maaan! I gotta admit. My bachelor years were wasteful.
Let's do this math. I engaged a chef for 8yrs of my single life, at 50k a month, and I STILL couldn't come up with whipping up this kind of bad ass Egusi soup. I had to learn this shit on my own. My 3rd hand at it and no jokes, I got it in me.
But then again, 8yrs at 50k monthly is 4.8M
I played Myself. I didn't even use the flex to catch 1 babe then.
DAMN!

Hope "redpillers and marriage na scam crews" would learn one or two lesson from you. Nobody can run away from his shadow.

My dear brother, with my little research, out of 10 marriages that either or both of the siblings
of intending couple objected their relationship before marriage, 9 usually turn out to be......had I known.

What elder would see on a chair, kid won't see it even if he climbs tree �

MrBrownJay1:
you have a narrow minded view on the issue because you are focussing on the wrong things.... aka your desperate bodyclock etc
your man tells you he aint ready...so you can either WAIT with him or go find a man who has the same views as you...but dont try to change a man..

I fear who no fear you!

If she is ur daughter at 32 and married for 3 years , would you be comfortable with it?

If such girl left him b4 marriage and went for guy that ready for kids, you would be the first person to blame all ladies that they are useless.

Pinch urself with needle before pinching others OK.

Kolawole2130:
We have been married for 3 years now. We stay in a self contained apartment he tries as much as possible to pay his bills while i support him too with paying the bills. Since we married anytime i talk about childbearing he gets angry. Like he may not talk to me for days i will be the one to come and beg him later. He says his not ready to start bearing kids that he wants to be have enough money to take care of the kids. He says he doesnt want his children to suffer.
Am so pissed off am 32 now his 35 and he earns 100k while i earn 70k is that not enough to raise a family. Plus age is not on my side he doesnt look like he will be ready in a year time again. Am already getting tired and people around me are getting married. No body can even talk to him his mind is made up already. The last fight we had he said i can go and divorce him if i cannot wait till his ready. His busy reading for professional exam instead of him to be thinking of how to produce seed. Professiknal exam that will last another 2 years. His family cant even talk to him. Am just frustrated already.

You haven't married ooo

Be on look out.

Meanwhile, are you not having sex? What happens to several sex you had in the past?

I guess ur man is sterile and dnt want you to know about it.

My candid advise, report him to his people and threatening him for divorce if he refuses to follow u for medical check up.

Ur time is ticking second by second and closer to menopause.

But they say its only naija women that are useless, is it not disappointed to those who say its only oyinbo they can marry!
Where would they run to now?

Marriage na scam over to you.......

phemmyfour:
Some characters are not manageable. Can you marry a thief?

What of woman beater, chronic womanizer, man that would carry another woman come home to sex on his matrimonial bed?

Or for a man , a wife that everyone in neighborhood is fucckking.

Some red flags are no go area

With money in his hand I will be managing him ,I knw he would change if we finally get married.

After 3 years of marriage and her belongings now outside............ Marriage na scam screw would hit front page of nairaland.



Ask Naomi and FFK exes, they are in better position to tell how rich homes are hot atimes.

Truvelisback:
Lol, English Professor. U are offended because of my harmless comment.

I'm offended because of ur misinterpretation and unable to disseminate information , such man is dangerous to societies, I liken such person as 1/2 blinded man, who would always cause confusion to people around him, when he sees black he would say blue.


See your post on marriages, ur bias towards marriages is visible.

When are you going to post about Joke sliva, RMD, Gov Ikpeazu etc that are posting several years of wedding anniversaries, with wife and grand children?

Why are u always negative? Though you are a pessimist.

I asked girl out she declined, for the 2nd time she stood her ground, my feelings off immediately but for he-goats that is when they would be doing gragra. ........sleeping with girl who doesn't have a single love and feelings for you.

Truvelisback:
Let's be realistic here, there is nothing like 95% of loving and peaceful marriages in Nigeria. This is not say that there are no loving and peaceful marriages in Nigeria. There are, but not up to 95% as u exerggerated. A i not tag all marriages as mess and toxic. There are successful marriages but the success the percentage is not up to 95%. Note: I'm not in anyway discouraging anyone from getting married.

I sees, you lack basic comprehensive of English grammar and that is why you are misinterpreted and arguing blindly .


Hope u know the meaning of "95%" of loving and peaceful marriages?....................... The meaning: If we have just 10 loving and peaceful marriages, the 95% of it.

I won't be able to comment further with you, because your comprehension and ability to interpret properly is week.

Bye

Truvelisback:
Good day, Fellas. Nowadays, marriages are no longer the way they were in the past. In the past, Love and intimacy were really genuine. The word Love, marriage or intimacy is gradually dying. Nowadays, many people get married to just to bear children, some just For the sex or to satisfy their sexual desire, some just for the money, etc. Sadly after achieving all these above, marriages becomes so dull. If someone says Love or marriage is a scam or it doesn't exist, i may say the person is right because of what marriages are like, nowadays. If u have anything to say, take this mic.

Hope you knw 95% of loving and peaceful marriages would not come on pages on newspapers and social media! Take for instant ! How many kings marriages that came online? But only Ooni that collapsed that hit social media.

Will you now tag all Oba marriages as mess and toxic just because Ooni marriage went messy?

Ejirite:
My marriage is about to collapse which am not okay with it, my wife pack out of house with children because we have misunderstanding which has been settled by both family.
I don't want to involve my parents because am very sure it will affect the marriage and the children.
All my efforts to settle the issue by involved her parents alone is not working.
Please what can I do.

U didn't debrief what transpire and you are expecting solid advice for ur marriage, on what basis will you get such advice? (Particular things u must fix to correct anomalies) Or u expecting advice from magicians?