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CalliDora1:
Who initiated the relationship?

Now, you both are not a good match because one, he's an extrovert and you're an introvert. so, there's no way your being together is gonna work.

Another thing ive come to discover is, most men are not so much into military women for reasons known only to them. Yeah, I've heard that a couple of time. your man may be in that category and its reason I first asked, who initiated this relationship. If it was you, please kindly call it quits but not before sitting him down to find out if he's still interested or wants a break.( Not breakup) . If he says he needs a break, know for sure he wants a breakup then break up with him and move on. Life is too short to be in a one-sided relationship.

If you read her epistle very well, thou she is introvert, not up to the guy she is dating, she don't likes to be relating and sharing thoughts with anybody but her guy alone, so many people are like that.

2ndly no where in her story where she said her guy is extrovert

Dotar:
Please,kindly ignore any grammatical error.

I am a female military personnel dating a civilian in a distance relationship, I'm naturally clingy in a relationship, I love attention alot but my guy is always claiming busy at work ( well understood) but when he's off from work he doesn't give me a satisfied attention because is either he's sleeping,wants to prepare something to eat or already out chilling with a friend and whenever I call when he's out,he will tell me he's in a noisy place and can't talk till he gets home. so,most times I stay awake till 11 pm to get to speak with him before going to bed.

I always feel pretty lonely because I'm an introvert,I don't have friends.I really wish to keep another man to serve as a distraction but i find it difficult to because I love wholeheartedly and can only love one man at a time.

I cry everytime begging for his attention yet no changes,I feel ashamed that I can't have a grip over my emotions.

Right now,I am seriously fade up i dont know what to do any more, i have talked and talked but all fell on blocked ears, he doesnt even feel remorse whenever I complain,he rather defends himself and gives justifications for his actions and even blame me for being inconsiderate and that if I can't cope I should go because he's tired of my incessant complains.

I feel stucked in this relationship because i find it difficult to call it quit..i begged him to call it a quit but he said he can't do it,that I can go if that's what I want.

please advise me on what to do because I'm dying slowly.

If ur illustration isn't imagination, I will advice you to give another guy opportunity but he would be a man you can gossip with and if possible not a distance relationship


Many atime distance relationship are pretense, deceit and fraud .


You noticed and seen red flag in ur guy already, but as usual outward attraction will not let you think straight. Until.......

Oh God! What will kill me don't let me like it and what I will like don't let it kill me ooo

Fahdiga:
My only annoyance is the Niger delta oil money being wasted in the name of fighting terrorism but Niger deltans are seeing the Igbos as their enemy

Naija Deltan was thr for 6 solid years, he refused to do the needful, I'm very sure the next southerner will embrace and give them juicy positions again at least to placate them and to let them vote him for second time

Stick to your belief and leave them to wander in their ignorance.
Protestants accepting or rejecting of The blessed Mother Mary cannot change what She is in the eyes of God, it cannot reduce her fame neither can it denounce her from being the Queen of heaven.
I wonder what will happen on the last day when Jesus before all creatures will call himself the Son of the Father and Son of Mary.
Just pray for them.

Even when you asked God to i interceed for u through marry

Jesus is alpha and omega our faith! May God deliver you from ignorance and gaulibility of what my pastors told me, read Bible and interpret urself

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
E pain am well well

A lifeless also selecting, audio selective

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
If you're not in my social class nothing for you.
I don't date down and I have no apologies for anyone!

You will soon wake up from ur dream, if you like apologize for ur ancestors, it's ur business. U have dignity yet you crave to sex married woman, abeg park let human beings comment jare

tee59:
That association is for broke ass niggars. Mtcheew.

Must you eat guy's money

LordReed:
You people are all kinds of funny. So "true Christians" are not human beings? "True Christians" don't make mistakes? "True Christians" don't fail? Keep lying to yourself.

Read entire comment, make sure you give to who know how to read and explain Very well to explain last 2 paragraphs for you

LordReed:
Rubbish! I know 2 christian couples on the divorce path right now. One of the couples met themselves right in the church, their own didn't even last 2 years so don't give us that BS.

Don't forget the adverb/adjectives she used.... Hardly and truly

But quickly noticed Christian and start attacking


Nevertheless even if their truly Christians they still need to follow tenets of marriage critically

Are they compatible? If not they will be enduring until it finally collapses

ayusco85:
I actually agree with your opinion, we share the same thoughts on almost everything u shared. Alot of people have missed it, and another mistake is not every girlfriend or boyfriend is husband material. There are people u just date but shouldn't marry, there are people that are made to be good wives and husbands. Ur ability to identify each will also help

I think you have vital experience,i won't say opinion...... It's not every boyfriend or girlfriend that one CAN marry but lust always take away our eye during dating. In fact some people, (m or f) are not marriageable, no amount of endurance can make you have peace and enjoy marriage with them

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
I have no problem with banging a married woman if she is on the same social class as me.

OP the reason you did not bang her is cos she's a cleaner and I would have done the same as you

So if she is accountant or any other senior staff, her pussy will sweeter?
Girls you sex bf are all the range of ur social class?
Ur mentality is weird, you are type who will polarise any organization they ask you to lead base on social class assumption

For men forget , but for women it depends on the class of girls

For those who cheat without remorse, there's absolute nothing you can do, those class of girls have men mentality on cheating, inside their DNA , even if you brings oath or charm she will ready to die instead of stop cheating, but thre are very few girls that they cheat with remorseful those girls may change

Marriage is more than I see my spec I fall In love with him or her.

So many married their partners just because outward appearances and how they will enjoy sex with each other , after a year of rigorous sex, they get tired of themselves, they even start irritating each other.

Others married because she believed she had seen financial security, wen she eventually gets him to marry her, after marriage money she taught would be flowing refused to forthcoming, she will start seeing partner as arch enemy and stumbling block.

Some couples don't know how to reach compromise, a partner shouldnt be having upper hand at all times, when presenting opinions or advice,if couple refuses to apply this magic formula, the marriage will soon fall even if you married a partner that is ur friend

Lastly wen one eventually married, he or she must start avoiding some characters that can work as single but can't work as married

Most people married yet still behave like single

ThatKING:
There might actually be more to the story but nonetheless she is a murderer as it is now unless the Court prove otherwise which will be very hard.

If she had family support, it would be hard for her to be engaging in ashawo business. And according to the story, she and the guy she murdered has been seeing each other for some times now. So it's possible she isn't even an ashawo sef.

Family support? A girl that earning at least 33k , with little responsibility to carter for, Whc support did she need, wht of married man tht working in private school with less than 30k,

The day woman starts thinking of using her body to make money Is the she starts enslave her destiny, hands are used to make money and not pussy

paddyofboss:
The most sensible comment so far. How did she go to his house, get an idea of where he kept machete and then went to pick the matchete and used it on him. Or did she come in with the matchete? Wouldn't the guy have atleast resisted. Some things dont add up If the act was premeditated then she would have thought of an escape plan. But for her to try scaling the fence then something is out of place. Maybe cultists came and did their thing and left her and she was running for her own safety and got unlucky.

You don't know how chronic HookerS behave.

If they enter man's house, first 30 minutes they will be looking every angles of the house, how to get wallet and if room is safe for them, in that process they locate where you keep kitchen utensils, some will plead with you to go and bath, they won't say it until you remove ur cloth o. They have ulterior motives


Meanwhile some do hookups of weekend, so from Friday to Monday she will know where he keeps things

Yet Some people still attacking when they say naija rank second on patternity issue,

A whole serving Corp member, went for hook up! I'm very sure she will have serious boyfriend if not fiance, with her look, can one believe this quiet and calm face can be riding every dicks that offer her money? Even though she still receiving at least 33k monthly.

If she mistakenly gets pregnant now, I'm very sure she wont know who impregnates her but put it on one poor lover boy (fiance)


Still imaging how girls leave their hands to work for money and using VJ instead.

(95% of girls have unshakable orientation of man must give them money after sex)

Indeed dignity had been put to dustbin

The exact story was spread four years ago, thou the location was ekiti,and founder was male

In as much I'm not going aganst conversion from religion to another, but its still beat my imagination how entire church will agree to follow founder to other religion even from C. A. C to celestial or chatholic is almost impossible not to talk of Islam

Keep pushing useless posts and leave informative and educative at backdoor

thorpido:
I can't tell you exactly what to do.Just let your heart head lead you.

One thing I can say about you is the thing that took you to a guy who is a drunk,drug addict and womaniser till you made a baby with him is the same thing drawing you to this man.

You don't have depth and seem swindled with ephemeral things.

She is definitely going to way of destruction, the lady is confirmed dog and such woman only good for banging, and not for marriage, she will soon wake up to reality

One thing girl/woman don't know is that, how they think they are before their guys not always what their guys perceive about them
You will see a lady telling all who care to hear about her guy and how she plans to spend her rest of life with him, meanwhile the guy will only see her as sex material........ this is my turn, let me dig the one I can dig and leave it for the next available guy to continue.

Michelle55:
But why bring a child to this world if you ain't ready to shoulder your responsibility as a father

Read well, she didn't say he is not bringing, he is not bringing much, the way alhaji is bringing

Cadburyy:
There's something that has been bothering me for a while.

I'm domiciled in a foreign country but I maintain a sound relationship with my parents at home . I keep them updated on everything that happens in my life and even that of their granddaughter. That's how great my relationship remains with my mother.

I work hard to support my home but my baby father does not bring enough to the table like I do even though he earns a little higher than I earn. He spends on alcohol , drugs and women. When I complain about his bad behavior, he leaves home and says I nag a lot. When he returns after days away from home, he tells me I forced myself on him and he didn't really want us to be together.

There's this very handsome medical doctor working at the hospital where I am employed. He started confessing his love for me late last year. He's taller, more handsome and way richer than my current partner (my baby daddy) but the only thing is that he's a Muslim.

He told me he's a traditional Muslim and wouldn't compel me to become one. He also assures me he will not even have a relationship with another woman, that is, polygamy is totally ruled out. I have dedicated my time to learn about Muslims recently and I think I've made up my mind to give him the chance to love me the way he wants. My daughter relates well with her "soon to be step-dad".

The problem here is not even my baby father since I can discard him whenever I want. The problem is my mother who is a devout christian from the South East. She will feel bad if I tell her about my relationship with the handsome Muslim doctor.

Do I accept the Doctor's proposal without informing my mother. If you think I should inform her, how do I tell my mother without making her panic?

Which type of good Muslim will like to hijack someone' wife?
Which type of woman are you? Sleeping with another man, wen you still married! Dog? Unfaithful??
Immediately woman starts loving another man she would start seeing all inadequacies of hubby and the new guy as perfect man.

An incoming man will do everything to make himself good before you, when he eventually gets what he wants, he will show his full colors.

If you marry the Muslim man and he forces you to convert after one kid for him, what will you do?
( Don't forget CHANGE Is CONSTANT)
(NON DEVOUTED TODAY MAY BECOME EXTREMIST JIHADIST.)

If he renegates his promise and marries another wife in future, (Note you re after one o). How will you feel? Cope??

If after you born for him, he too shows characters that you don't expect and divorce you, I guess you will gladly be searching for third husband.......... 3 kids, 3 fathers, not even a woman from decent Christian home.

Did you also take note of kid you born already, raising her by another woman or take her to another man' house.

Women should learn how to apply break immediately they got married, .....handsome and rich men will keep coming ur ways for years to come....I imagine how you will be coping whenever you meet them.

.office romance is dead dangerous.

virginprincess:
I have a friend who behaves somehow, i don't know if this is the definition of a female simps, this my babe is dating a very toxic guy, the guy is so rude, pompous and mannerless, he insult and beat this girl at will, the worst part is that he doesn't spend on this girl, instead it is the other way round yet my friend still worship and adores him just because he is good looking and with the mentality that he would change one day, pls is this the definition of a female simp or am the one not getting it.

75% of ladies have this type of problems,mentality of tall and handsome guy they crazy and worship such guys at detriment of their own marrital issues, when they pass their peak, they start praying from one mountain to another.

Outward appearance not supposed to be 1st-3rd consideration when choosing partners, guy or girl

Salmoneus:
I wonder why those prophets that claim to see the future for every new year never predict events like these.

If they foretold this type prophesy, you would also say they never see good vision but negative

Can you see you are problematic even unto self now.

Every post you must attack, blame and conderm

shantti:
Grammatically and logically your write up made no sense, your funny, ive not even seen my neco result till date, i entered the university with only WAEC. Empty vessels make the loudest noise, you expressing pity for Nigerian education is the joke of the century, at least you should be schooling abroad to pity our educational system, but i am very sure you never see money register for jamb lesson not to talk of going to the university, keypad warrior, claiming online but offline you're very pathetic

Go back to my last comment, I see full correction.

Schooling abroad again! Thank God that I schooled in Nigeria, I am still be able to correct 'obodo oyibo guy grammatical blunders, abroad guy doing menial job for White people.


I guess you will move higher from abroad to heaven