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Number 1 cause of r.ape:

Rapists.

Number 2 cause of r.ape:

Rapists.

Stop excusing this heinous act, or coming up with "reasons" it happens, or blaming the victims.

If you rape, you are a rapist. And you have no excuse at all. No one invites rape. No one wants to be raped.

Even in a committed relationship it can create jealousy, paranoia and accusations based on small actions.

You used to think things to yourself "I like that man's handsome face". Now you "like" his photo or follow his IG and everyone knows what you think about. Your partner will be jealous, worry if you spend lots of time on social media and maybe accuse you of wanting to cheat with this person.

It also makes it easier to see someone who broke up with you, making the heartbreak worse.

That's why I don't have social media.

Cutehector:
please educate them. Some of our nigerian ladies can't appreciate the good nature of African men

African men are the only men I have met where a few of them actually respect women.

Men worldwide don't really respect women. White men are the worst. They are violent, rude, cheat and drink too much. They openly hate their wives and speak badly about them to everyone.

But among all the bad eggs here, I have met a few African men who do show respect. It gives me hope.

abbeyology88:
But that would bring issues, I mean big issues to the country.

The only way is d business to be runz undisclosed to the world, which is how it has been in existence. People are aware of it and no woman would want to be addressed a "prostitute" hence, a concealed and silent biz

Where I live it's legal. There doesn't seem to be many problem. They even have a union and their identities are protected. It works better than illegal because it's safer and the gov makes money from income tax.

newsphase:
Just stop that... So using yourself to compare more to the feelings of more than 2 billion females all over the earth... Sexual urges are a characteristic of puberty..... so when I said crave I mean feel sexual urges.... millions of ladies (eg. you) choose to act on this impulses.......

Secondly.... sex is not overrated.... some people get a girl and Bleep the day lights out of her expecting to feel some very powerful orgasm that would take them to the land beyond.... But sex is meant to be more than orgasms... and it is.... After sex, before sex and during sex feelings constitute something (which i will not state) which lead to a form of fulfillment for both partners... which makes sex feel glorious.. its not just about oral simulations, its more than that.....

I believe you need to start thinking of what the word good sex means.... rather than placing judgment on it based on some certain encounters...

You haven't still told me your name

I'm not going to tell you my name.

I just don't think everyone rates sex as their main agenda in life, nor do I think anyone should be judged or judge themselves based on sexual encounters.

Virginity is not important. Love is. If you truly love someone, you can commit to exclusivity in sexual relationships. But virginity? What if you have been previously married? What if you were raped? Born again? If virginity could be tested and only virgins could get married, there would be about three married couples worldwide.

abbeyology88:
With u friend. Nice point at d Bolded.

It isn't a taboo anyway, but just a hidden business dat govt beliv it exists but doesn't not deserve official legalization

It should be legalised so those girls get some protection and rights.

chigoizie7:
What is all these virgin this, virgin that and that shít about?


To me, I don't see virginity as any form of dignity.

I have had encounter with 2 different virgins and I don't wish for that ever again.


The fact that u have many body counts doesn't matter to me.

Just like me,(b4 now) I don't go into relationships to waste anyone's time neither did I go in just to have sex,deceive u and leave. 80% of my relationships was on good intentions, I went it hoping that it will last but things didn't actually work out as planned and the fact that I have had sex with her during this time never made any of us cheap of some sort of bad people.

This^ is exactly how many girls end up having many sex escapades with different men. It doesn't make them whores or cheap.


Except lately when whoever I want to fúck, I make my intentions known, u will be surprised to know that so many ladies just want to have sex without any string attached too, I don't see them as cheap girls, I see them as girls doing what makes them happy.



We should not always do what the society wants us to do @ our detriments.


What am I saying? It doesn't mean that all virgins are good or the best, the same way it doesn't make non virgins bad or worst.

Well said, high five.

Sticking to your values and having a good heart makes a good person. Not their virginity.

Anyone who is doing bad things to people on purpose and without remorse are ones to wprry about.

Whatever happened to trash cans? Smh.

Are they crazy?

White men are awful!

newsphase:
people like you would tell virigins how good sex is.... what they hear and the importance culture has attribute to sex and what is on the net would educate this woman of the pleasure that lie in sex.

Secondly, we all have sexual urges, and do you remember that feeling of when you are so pressed and when you finally ease yourself you feel some great ease... Thats how sexual urges feel when you hold them in, so you know that when you act on that urge the feeling that awaits would be highly pleasurable... so in other sense you dont have to have sex first before you know what it holds....

I hate quoting you as foolinlove...

Change this moniker... or drop your real name in your reply

I don't know how to change my moniker.

Yes you can feel pleasure, relief, but when that's over... you realise you can do without. How can you crave sex if you've never done it before?

I don't crave sex. Especially with a person I don't know or love. Love drives me to sex, not the actual act of "getting off".

Some people don't find sex that big of a deal. I know I don't. I'd prefer a good meal honestly. So I should starve myself until marriage? Sex is overrated imo.

It just doesn't make sense.

...

You want to literally be a mothafukka.

Congrats.

slyIsaac:
.. their brain is already on default mode with their answers....

Because they prolly talk to thousands men per day who all ask the same stupid questions and say the same stupid thing. They prolly only tell full truth to those who seem like they actually care - men who aren't their customers.

I don't see why prostitution is such a big taboo.

Demand and supply.

Prostitutes are humans like anyone else. And given the choice, no one would do that job.

I never understand men... sometimes they say "I wish I could fuk for money" while forgetting they might have to fuk wit someone ugly or a lot older than them. Someone they don't desire.

I respect those girls. I respect their struggle. I can never understand it, but it doesn't mean these girls should be demonised.

They have lives and human rights as well.

No. Next.

abbeyology88:
Hello my friend

Where av u been since all these days?

Went for holiday

How r u?

Stupid stupid stupid.

Women don't cause men to cheat. And men don't cause women to cheat.

Cheaters gonna cheat.

If you wanna stop a cheater, best lock them in a cage and remove their phone.

fuckYouSeun:
you are not welcome sweetheart

Neither are you

Festivalofholi:
Hmm.. I like confident girls like u sha.

Thanks. I like me too

newsphase:
Being a virgin means abstinence, abstinence means depriving yourself of the greatest pleasure in the world (sexual pleasure).... It takes a strong lady to stand up for what its right no matter how much pleasure it gives.......

This is just one thing a keeping her virginity tells about a lady

How can you be depriving yourself if you don't even know what it's like?

Virgins have no idea how good sex is because they never did it.

PunkyV:
Wow! Sounds like a lot of fun though I like slightly dangerous situations. Makes you feel ALIVE!

So true. You think like me as long as my life isn't in danger, things can be exciting! I don't mind at all

Festivalofholi:
Ha! So ur not married and u r proud to tell pple u've had sex. Hmmm.. Ok o.

Yes. I have no problem with it. I don't see why I should. I'm more than a sexual vessel. Sex doesn't define me.

jashar:
. Ehyah!!! Ndo ooo....
Where you from and where do you stay?

I'm whitr and not from Africa. I dont stay there either.

Watching porn from young age is dangerous.

Gives men the wrong idea of whay women like in bed. It's almost always focussed on the dude treating the woman like trash. There's always focus on the man enjoyment more than woman's. It's often violent.

So women get the idea that they are just a group of holes for a man, men get the idea that women are just objects.

So when dudes eventually have sex they're terrible and it takes a long time to retrain them.

Example: Once a guy slapped me in the face during sex and I yelled NO and stopped. He said "what's wrong? Women like that." He got the idea from porn.

Maybe porn has changed since I saw any though.

dryyansh1:
atleast we start from somewhere... even in school we do theory before practical. When should we start

You're incorrigible.

timsonpreye:
yea, stab u for lying too much without taking it easy on us

Lying too much? What u talking at?

jashar:
cheeeiii.... white guys no dey well at all at all.

Are you stronger now? In a better emotional place to even date at all?

I think I'm better. Those white guys didn't break me... was the African guy broke my heart. In a better place now though

PunkyV:
LMAO. Sounds scary though. What a loony!

I actually found it hard to run because I was laughing so hard. I think he gave up chasing me cos he thought I was laughing at his small d. So funny.

Because I went to girls school, we had lots of loony-tunes hanging around. Always a new funny story every day.

But it could get scary. One crazy man make a girl take off her socks for him and threatened to stab her with a syringe if she didn't

Festivalofholi:
Ok. Hope u r married

No. What has that got to do with sex?

jashar:
Babe.... these your posts that I've read all point to 1 thing.

You have deep issues that need to be sorted out. Are you getting help?

You've been through a lot in the hands of men. Kai......

Free men for now and heal your wounded soul abeg.

OP, I've not had a weird date experience. I don't usually accept dates till I know when we see, the moment won't be awkward.

They were all white guys. I dont date white anymore lol

PunkyV:
LOL, then you're my kind of girl Ever had a close brush with the arm of the law?

It happpened twice with me. The 1st time I was totally justified. The 2nd time, guilty as charged but had to lie my way out of handcuffs. Whew!

I've had a few... I actually got chased down the street by a guy with his D out when I was a teenager. Only time I haven't lied to the police

Hahahaha

dryyansh1:
You mind teaching me?

I can teach you the theory. Not the practical.

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