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Kingcalls:
Story... another lie from a woman to decieve herself

Una happy come be say na una de file for divorce 70-80% of the time

Wait till you get married

PoliteActivist:
It is always their friend
Unless it is a good "problem" (like "why are girls are always chasing me?)", then it is emphatically them!

That's it

Nugesboi:
Good morning Sir/Ma,

I’m good and thanks for your concern.

Please what details do you need that will make you understand my predicament? Let me know so I can provide them. I have also sent you an email request on here.

Regards

In this life, if we keep our problems to us, we sink deep into it, but when shared, it gets partially solved

We are all passing through one thing to another

Kingcalls:
As expected, women lying to themselves... thats y u all end up depressed

A woman can never ever be depressed in marriage

She has ways of having happiness in her marriage

Ask any woman

SATANlSTMINION:
don't Tell me you believed that Nonsense cooked lies fabricated by a jobless nitwit

I actually believed that story because what she narrated is actually what women go through and what women does, especially when a woman can't find love in her relationship
Worst is in marriage

SATANlSTMINION:
ogbeni rest.
leave frozen70 alone and go learn a skill.
find people for your church or relatives make dem help you

My dear
Thanks, they want to drain me but I go dey use wisdom follow them

Frezhkid10:
So satisfying one’s urge brings badluck??..
Mr pastor abeg shift front…and look at your life first.

Satisfying one's urge doesn't bring bad luck if your have a steady partner

Not numerous ashawo partners

PoliteActivist:
IT IS HIS FRIEND, NOT HIM!!
Can't you people read??!!

You and I knows that once they said a friend, it's probably the Op

But whomever the person is looking he will forward the advice to him

Mathematricks:
Pls ma, did you see my last msg?

Yes i did
But can't be of help
Sorry about that

assholemods:
Is this how to give advice? You bloody hypocrite! People like you do worst things , you might even be one of the ashawo.

I know that both of you does the same thing

Keep visiting Ashawo that's what you call your own investment

Your mates are chasing their future you are going deeper and deeper into male prostitution

sylve11:
After reading this, if he doesn't change his mind then nothing will ever change his mind.

Thanks for acknowledging
It's left for him to take the advice or keep on rocking after all, it's his life

Anewme:
I think you are the only one that understand me very well. In my life I will never commit adultery again. I will never seek love anywhere again

Lol @ understands you very well

As a matured woman,, I understand exactly why you did what you did and I didn't blame you because

A woman's heart needs a man to warm

While a man looks for which woman's heart to warm

But am happy for you that you are ok now

SATANlSTMINION:
what if he stays away from sex and engage on masturbation and pornography to satisfy himself?

One can't manipulate nature no matter how smart we are

Sex urge must come up and as a man, he ought to know how to sort himself out

His girlfriend is far from him, what stops him from having a friend for that purpose

Men are more into sex than women because they have more urge than women

Women doesn't have the kind of steady urge men have and most times we don't feel it the way men do

Judybash93:
I have a problem with your response. Do you know how difficult it is for anyone to open up this way? Instead of you to try to persuade him in a way that'd help, the only thing you are doing is to poorly chastise him. Relax ma'am.

Honestly I am not chastising him

I only said the truth and people don't just like hearing the truth

We all have sex urge but we definitely have away to control it

We can't be careless with what we can control

Mathematricks:
Pls ma. I really need a job. I stay in Owerri.

I stay in Lagos and I don't even know how to go about your request

But put your trust in God

Brendababy:
I'm really bothered, i don't know how to talk to my boyfriend about this

I don't think you are s serious person

Sorry if the word hurts you

He used you, he went ahead and Marry his choice of woman and still wants you back

Keep sharing what you have since you can't control yourself

Na you go loose pass

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Lalasticlala Mynd44

She married his family not the man

She knows what is going on and the family of the guy are her back up

Oluwashina72:
Someone help my guy....
My urge for sex whenever I'm with money is killing me... I'm into long relationship,my gf will be through with school in two years to come,300level writing exams going to 400level... Im done with school, working and also stay alone but anytime konji hold me... Na to run to ashewo joint to kill my konji and na overnight.. I tried having a side chick but is not working... With this "ASUU" wahala she's able to write her exam in her school because her school didn't join the strike "ekpoma"...
"Hmmm everybody with hin own wahala na my own be that oo"

The issue is not that when you have money the urge will come up

The real issue is that, you don't have self discipline in you

In that case, keep on rocking and expect one or more of these unfortunate stories
HIV
Infections that brings low sperm count
Bad lifestyle
Poverty
Unwanted babies
Failure in all areas of life
And
Bad luck

All of these are found in what you are doing to yourself

Kobojunkiee:
Let me remind you that marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman. This woman here married and stayed with the unemployed man for what amounts to 15 years, had children with him and even paid him a salary, and gave him money to buy a car( money which he, according to her, squandered). No one forced her to accept and have kids with this man. She did that of her own volition. Who are we to complain? Who are we to tell her that her choice of a househusband was wrong?

I have met women with househusbands who do house chores and care for the kids with pride. I even had one as a classmate in college some years ago and this man was diligent with his position as a househusband in his home. I personally don't think there is anything wrong with a man living as a househusband so long as it is what husband and wife agree upon. I have met men who are too weak to work outside the house and as a result, stay home to take care of the home and kids while the wife carries the job of providing for the home. Much the same way a woman can sit as liability, a man too can. it is not a badge only one gender can or should wear. If it behoves a couple to have one member sit at home while the other works, I say why not.

What I don't approve of is when one partner becomes nothing but a parasite sucking the life out of the other. In this case, this woman here allowed and enabled the parasitic behaviour of her husband. And even after her own child alerted her to what was going on, rather than kick the chinch out of the house, she allowed him to continue to broach her presence even after having an affair right in the house. Very bad!

Since you didn't find any fault in a man who has fashioned his life to be a nuisance

But put all blames on a woman who has done everything possible to give a good lazy man a chance to change

Let's end the discussion before it leads to insult

Both of us are not related to the woman or the man

Anewme:
I know my English is bad but I just want people to learn something from my story. Thank you

Well you tried
I don't want to blame you for seeking for love and attention from other men because your love heart was lonely and you just needed a guy to listen to your heart and you just got one, but he bleeped up

You cared for him despite his poor life and he thought you were a fool where's he was the biggest fool

The incident that happened was actually made you and your husband to reconcile, your heart went off totally from your husband and went to another man

Your husband noticed it and he knew that it's easier for him to remove pride and make peace with you

Than to accept the divorce and start all over again

As a woman, I have come to realize that, if you marry a man that doesn't value you or your life

There is the tendencies that you may musbehave simply because your heart seeks love but can't even get it where you kept it

Every woman needs a man to warm her heart

While every man can get aby woman to keep his heat warm

Your trial strengthened you and prepare you for the worst but finally brought you back to where you belong

Enjoy your renewed home

Kobojunkiee:
oh, so a man is allowed to accept a jobless woman for a wife, but a woman is not equally allowed to accept a jobless man for a husband? Give me a break!

She accepted him for her husband, and that does not make him hopeless in any shape or form, nor she stewpid for marrying for herself what amounts to a househusband.

Some people marry with the hope of having a good fortune

If she insisted that the man must be working before marriage they will be all her a Gold digger

She married him with faith that things will turn around for good, but because the guy discovered that she is struggling and making money on the he relaxed and decided to make life easy for him instead of finding his bearing, that's what made him a lazy man even before they got married

So if she decides to leave the marriage, she has nothing to loose you the child will be with the mother and both parents can have access to the child

The man will start from square one and even his sibblings will not assist him Financially because they know that he is a lazy man and they have their own children to look after

No matter the amount of money a man's wife is making, a man should have something doing for him to have little respect and sense of belongings

Christiansimon:
ladies run from any man that is quoting that the bible say that women should submit to there husband...

No lady should run for such man

If a man says the Bible says a woman should submit to her husband

The same Bible says a man should provide for his family

So if the man is providing then no problem

And if he is a liability and the wife is providing

He will be fathering another man's child/children

Untill the time the real owner will appear

At op, you move, you are a strong woman for staying with such a liability

Who that kind suffer head marriage help

Kobojunkie:
What is wrong with placing him on a monthly salary and giving him a car? She accepted him as an unemployed husband by that - a househusband. What is wrong with that?

Make you dey reason well at times or will you want to be like that hopeless man

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Why I Donated Kidney To My Husband

What could be the reason why one would sacrifice his life for the other person to live?

Currently, we live in a society where kindness and love for humanity had been crucified on the altar of money. True love has since died and buried. But here is a woman who had a distinct version of the story.

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Her husband must have showed her what real love means, for her to trade her kidney

Nugesboi:
The time has finally come.Chest pain Thank you all

Why do you want to end your life just like chicken

Your case is not the worst among the number of Nigeria youths

Am very sure that you are the problem you have for yourself

Send me your account details that will help me to understand more of your problems

Threesha:
From DM

This one weak me

No son, born of a woman will stand by his wife when the wife Insults his mother

Every son has rooted connections with their mother and that's why they get confused when there are quarrels between mother and daughter inlaw

I personally, I think you not wanting child so soon or not caring about being desperate to have a child, made you not to know how to handle your mother inlaw

You are supposed to get married to a white man, who have the same mindset like yours

Your mother inlaw
For talking back to her in that manner, even when she is wrong with her own attitude towards you, is set and ready for you to have problems in that marriage

You actually Insulted her with the way you bulshit her

Such is not acceptable in Nigeria culture

You have to make up your mind to go and apologize to her and reconcile with her and accept her as a mother

Then go with any kind of gifts be it food stuff, provisions and lots of edible gifts to appreciate her as your mother inlaw

Once she accepts your apology, accept her back and ask her to pray for your marriage

The above suggestions can be done only

If you are very sure you love your husband and you don't want to loose him to any woman

Then you start making efforts to get pregnant and that pregnancy will bring absolute peace and happiness in your life and marriage

But if you know that because of your success and status you can't do the above reconciliation with your mother inlaw

Remain in that marriage at your own risk and sadness

Alternatively walk away

Nigeria customs and traditions doesn't support your style, but you will get what you want abroad

Xedmark:
Hmmmmm............ I don't think what u need now is Capital trust me, I'm also a business minded person plus nobody will invest in your business for now knowing you have some debt. Sincerely u should be wise enough to give a realistic details of how you're going to get back on your feet. You just discussed your problem and left your account details, it doesn't work that way. There's no free money anywhere people want to be sure you will get something back in return be business minded. Plus I will advice you to have guys who are very matured in business as close pals.

You have said it all
Let him partner with people around him who understands the Nitty Gritty of the business

It's difficult to get an investor here because they don't know who you are neither do they know your family incase you fail them

You can also discuss with your family members who will make sense of your request

Flipman01:
It was a long night of rumination and I realised that, slowly, I'm slipping more into depression and anxiety.

I have a challenge that has been given me sleepless nights. And that has been affecting my academic performance in a terrible way.

I'm a student of one of the state universities, a top-performer and well-behaved in my academic doings. I'm a rookie photographer (still learning) and also work in cyber cafe to support myself. With little support from relatives due to my humble background, I've been unable to meet up with other needs which don't really matter.

However, my major problem now is that I couldn't raise my tuition fees and the school has declared carryover for those that didn't pay. It's frustrating for me because I might be spending an extra year because of lack of finance and not due to unseriousness or grievous offences. It really hurts me. I could barely concentrate anymore, I don't know what to do.

I just need someone to talk to. I think I'm losing it already.

How come you got into school and you are doing well and all of sudden you need money to pay your school fees despite your brilliant performance as you stated

What about your parents are they not aware you are a student and you need money to pay for school fees

esthel:
She gon learn

Jceeee:
Hello everybody,

We are based abroad , my first daughter who will be 22 years old has graduated last year in computer science. She is has been working for 3 years and earning good money , she has her own car brought with her own money . We are so proud of her because she is a good example to her younger ones but she broke our heart when she started dating this congolese guy , he is not even a student like her. He has a bad reputation in the community with a lot of baby mamas he is after her for her money because that's what he has done with his previous baby mamas, she is aware of the situations but she is not ready to listened to me or her father. my husband was shouting at her all the time to leave the guy she has decided to move out of the house and she has changed her number. I don't know how to help her not to fall in his trap because by the time he impregnate her and has stolen enough money from her , he will then dump her and move to the next prey. My husband and I are very devastated how can we help our daughter to get back in the right track??

I think you guys have done enough to inform her about the crazy life style of this guy and she has refused to do take corrections

At this stage, you have to be careful not to loose her to that guy who is already planning on how to wreck her life

You guys have to look for her and reconcile with her, she may not pack back to your house but at least let there be peace between you guys

Secondly, allow her toskr the choice, be it a mistake or not, whatever that comes out of it, will be the experience she needs to behave properly

As for the guy, ask her to bring the guy so that you guys can meet him, don't fail to inform the guy in the presence of uoir daughter the findings you know about him amd his escapeds

When he goes, seat your daughter down for the last time to remind her that you are from your observations, that guy will wreck her entire life and she will be emotionally affected

But if she can let him go, she will get a good man

What I understand here is that, that guy is one of those guys who knows how to handle a woman a the most romantic way and such women finds it hard to separate from them and but they are serial heart breakers and they don't have remorse about it because they are Casanova's

They go into love and come out of love because they know exactly what young girls like, they eat your money and give you all the love and attention she wants and once the money gets finish, they leave you to the next person

They are too lazy to struggle but have the whole energy in the to give a lady love and attention