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Davies25:
Hello familylanders,
I have a 3 year old girl who's my life. She's cute, good and almost perfect.
But recently, I've discovered she's intentionally being disobedient. Like, you literally have to threaten her sometimes to do somethings. People say she's spoilt but i don't see that element in her. I just see a growing girl. She doesn't overdo things.

The reason for this thread be say...
Uhm, my girl likes to cuddle, she likes to be touched, more like a cat �. I didn't see anything sexual in it until my baby was Caught Kissing a 4 year old male. My heart has been paining me since then. Have i failed as a father?
The mom wanted me to scold her or even beat her but I've been confused. Does she know it's a sexual act or she just saw someone doing it?
Can my baby understand sex education at 3?
What should be my reaction?
I'm lost really.

She must have been displaying what you and your wife does in her presence


If at this infant age you can't handle her, what happens when she gets to teenage age where she will now know what's her right and wants to be freedom

Take a decision to start handing that child the way you want her to be highly disciplined before it gets out of your hand, do so with her mother so that she won't have escape route

At three years, stop cuddling her and let her have a sister or brother so that attention can move away from her

Father's do love their daughters but if you don't discipline her now, you will be very weak to outsmart her as a teenager

Vevejoy:
Dear nairalanders,
I'm here with another marriage wahala and need your candid opinion. I'll appreciate mature advice and ignore trolls/insults. Thanks in advance

So my hubby and I have been married for 8years with 2 kids. The first 5years of our marriage was a bliss but the last 3years have been a rollercoaster of emotions. From arguments, insults, accusations... etc from both parties. The worst of them all was hubby accusing me of attempting to "charm" him. Before God and man I wouldn't be here writing this if I had ever attempted such. He did not only accuse me of that, he said my mom and I tried it and I brought a charm to the house (SMH). I asked where the charm is and he said it was removed spiritually by soothsayers. NB: he consults native Dr's like his life is dependent on them. We live abroad and have been here for years yet he consults and communicate with different native Dr's more than the people in Africa. I'm not judging him here, I'm just pained because he dragged my name and mom's into it. Well this aside

So we had a fight over bringing a parent over to help us with childcare. I wanted my mom to come and he wanted his to come so we ended up not bringing anyone. We only had 1child then. Now that we have 2, we literally can't afford childcare for both kids who are not yet in school and we are both full time students at the moment. So to avoid issues, I told him that we should bring his mom. I personally did the application and paid for her medicals out of my pocket. I didn't want the fight of who's coming to begin again so I just said let's file in for your mom and he obliged and I did the application and now we are waiting.

I'm currently on maternity leave so I told him I'd like to travel to Africa for vacation to get a break from abroad. He was fine with it so we did all the arrangements. Our families live in Cameroon and we both grew up in Cameroon (Nigerians though). Given the insecurity in the English part of Cameroon, we rented a guest house in The French part so families can visit. I paid for everything (flight, guest house and even the allowance I brought to cameroon ��). He gave me no support which I am not very happy about but haven't voiced it out to him.
So I informed my inlaws and my family that I was coming with the kids. Non of them have ever met our kids and it took us 5years to have these children so I'd think they'll all be excited to meet them. My parents and sisters family said they were coming to pick me up from the airport but not a single inlaw opted to come and pick me up. No problem! I've been here for 3weeks, called my parents inlaws as soon as I arrived and non of them have come to visit me. All my family members left and I'm here with my brother. Of course I can't be alone with the kids given the insecurity. So hubby called and said his parents will be coming next Tuesday and I should make arrangements for my brother to leave. The guest house is a 2bedroom (rooms upstairs) and 2 bathroom. My brother has been sleeping in the living room since he came and my inlaws are coming to spend 3 or 4days so I'll still need my brother around when they are gone. My dear nairalanders, must my brother go before my inlaws come? Can all of us not stay in the house? As soon as hubby said brother needs to go and I expressed my disagreement, he insulted the hell out of me and said he's been planning to deal with me and will teach me a lesson. He said "I don't know him, he's going to deal with me". He dropped the call and sent a couple of voice messages with insults and threats.He said non of his family members will come here and I can do whatever I like it's my business. His family takes instructions from him so I'll not be shocked if they don't come.On a normal day I'll reciprocate but I held my self and did not reply to a single voicenote. I left him a message that we'll talk when he's calm. Since then he's not picking my calls. I stopped calling.

Put yourself in my shoes and tell me what you will do? Truth be told I've been tired of this marriage for the past 3yrs and came to Cameroon just to rest my head and be away from him. Yet I am still dealing with this.

This guy is just tired of the marriage as well but he is waiting for a time bomb to explore before he will finally inform you that he is pulling out

Your saving grace is that you foot most bills if not you are on. Your own

Meanwhile, just obey him, ask your brother to leave so that your in laws can have space when they come around

For the fact that you pregnant, you don't need to drag anything with him, just wait patiently and put to bed

He is very wrong to ask your helper to leave that means he doesn't care about your health this time around

You went for vacation because of the trauma you are passing through

But bear this in mind
Start saving if you have not been saving, so that the day he will start his nonsense, you will fall back to your savings

He is acting like a man that have another marriage plans and am very sure that you know that very well

lilkech:
Okay, so we know women have a time frame to get pregnant due to their natural body systems and I have a career relative who is in her early 40’s but unmarried and without kids.

This my sister is considering adopting a child but I’m advising her against it instead imploring on her to get a guy to get her pregnant (assuming there’s nothing wrong with her womb) and she raises the kid as her own the natural way but she’s adverse to my opinion due to her highly religious inclination saying ‘it’s against her faith to bear a child out of wedlock’ meanwhile time is ticking against her body.

Am I advising her wrongly? I need a wider audience and mature advice concerning this topic please.

Since she has brought religion into the matter
Leave to decide whatever she wants

It's left with her and her God

I think you should visit your father on the condition that your mum have to give you her approval

You see, I don't know if your mum is hypertensive

Your mum must have been hurt badly by your dad and she seems not to want anything to do with him again

Your mum needs you around her but you have to politely tell her you will be traveling to stay just two days and come back to her

She is scared that you may be poisoned

Alternatively, any time your dad is coming to the village, then you guys can arrange to meet

But before then, keep calling and communicating with him

You are more important to your mum as for now than the importance of your dad to your mum

GorillaApp:
You are always very objective and practical in your analysis. Maybe you can give pointers on an issue. Can I reach you

Hello, thanks for your observations

Yes you can

Regardless:
Hey guys,
Pardon the long post.
So when I was still in 200 level staying in school hostel, I had this pre-degree roommate - handsome bad guy. He met a lady at the center he was attending tutorials for Jamb and PD exam. The lady and her mum were living in the town where our school was. They started having sex like mad. They so much had sex to stupor that one day this my guy came back completely drained. We had to arrange Malt and Milk for him to get himself that day. Now this girl was involved with another guy who was already working in all this Oil drilling company and he was alright.

I came back from lectures one day and my former roomie was alone in the room and moody. I asked him what was wrong and he opened up to me that the girl is pregnant and they have tried to abort the baby to no avail. Ha... So wetin wan play like this? He said the girl and her mum had already planned to pin the pregnancy on the working guy's head as this my guy no get shishi plus he couldn't even tell the girl to keep it for him or go and stay with his people because he had stayed at home for like 5 years committing plenty atrocities before his mum managed to send him to school for PD. He was sad because he didn't want another man to take care of his child.

When I asked him about the situation after some time, he said the working guy had already accepted the pregnancy and had already started buying baby things down. lol... The guy didn't gain admission again and went back home. Later he came back and did Diploma... When I asked him of the child, he said the child was a carbon copy of him, that the girl had done intro with the guy but when he has money he would come back for the child..

Last month, I received a friend request from my fomer roomie on FB. Long story cut short, after 7 years, he has blown through yahoo in SA. I asked him about the child and he said he can't trace the baby mama again, her mum had relocated from that town and he has exhausted all means looking for them. I jokingly offered my help and the guy was willing to give me money to help him trace her. I told him I would see what I can do.

It took me a while but I was able to trace the girl on SM and even traced the now husband to LinkedIn. Babe is living well with Oil money and has 3 kids and truly the first girl is my guy's carbon copy.. Damn... I started feeling for the child. Beautiful soft girl-child.

I decided ring the girl and immediately I told her what was happening, she hung up and blocked my number.. lol.. I sent a msg to her with my second line and told her to better call me back before I send a message to her husband... babe called me and was begging.. that my former roomie is not responsible. he was not trying then... she couldn't wait .. blah blah .. that please I should not scatter her marriage... was really crying over the phone... The RP in me wasn't buying it until she mentioned that I should please think about how this would shatter her daughter's life. Omoh the human in me made me pause come begin reason am...

My former roomie's lifestyle isn't really what a child would be proud of.. the guy has done everything from cultism to robbery and still hasn't changed and now to yahoo.......only thing he has now to offer that child is money....He said his mother has been telling him to go and bring the child from another man's house.
I don't care about the babe because ladies always think their hoe-phase would go unrewarded..
I pity for the babe's husband coz he was simp then and has remained so till now oblivious of anything.....
I only sincerely care about the 7y/o child whose life would be turned upside down by this shocking revelation..

Anyway, I told her that I wouldn't do anything for now but my guy is very desperate and she better handles it fast and that it's only a mater of time my guy gets to her one way or another... Babe thanked me and hung up. Next day, she wiped her and her husband's SM clean and deleted the accounts.. except the man's LinkedIn of course.. The man don sha accept me as one of his connections.... I've not revealed any findings to my former roomie.. Last time he asked when I want to start tracking her, I just stalled him. I'm sitting on the sidelines for now.. Omoh I weak ..... The good, bad and ugly comments are welcomed.

This is a dicey matter

Just ignore everything and face your own problems

Your life and safety is in your hands

Pull out of this sensitive issue

tnenge:
Am enjoying every bit of my marriage but the only problem am having is the case of my mother inlaw's excessive demands.
My wife and I are blessed with two kids. I realized that she has being the one giving her mom clues as to when I have money because we operate a joint account. I have tried talking to her peacefully but she mostly over discuss our conversation with the mom? How can I resolve this without painting my self black before her people?
Cc lalasticlala

Put a stop to this demands, if she wants to carry he will be daughter let her come and carry her

Forget how your mother inlaw will feel if you change your mind towards her

After all, you are not owing them

jeromestarks:
This man is foolish. Send him to jail ASAP.

To Young men out here:
If you did not settle down to search for a virgin woman, she will frustrate you until you begin to beat her. And then she will die. This is how you will end up in jail.
A woman who has slept with a man other than you will compare you with the man who disvirgined her. She will belittle you. She will disrespect you. She will even use your children against you.
It will take the grace of God not to hit such a woman.


Men, marry a woman whom you're the first to open her legs and have a peaceful marriage.

What is the actual problem you have with non virgins

Yet you sleep with them when you want sex

Why not get a virgin if you know it's easily available

And who told you a virgin is different from non virgins in terms of attitude

Who did this to you

blessochampion:
The man will keep regretting right now.

Such men have no regrets and remorse

frozen70:
You seems to be alone in this

Why not involve your family and both families with meet and end this marriage then file for a divorce

But am very sure that she is not in good terms with your family

You may remain like this forever if you don't take the above step and advice

udede:
there was no agreement with her not to have kids, i also noticed that she is hiding things from me especially reasons why she couldn't have kids.

You seems to be alone in this

Why not involve your family and both families will meet and end this marriage, just tell them that you are no longer interested in the marriage and don't listen to any begging from any one to give another chance, return the bride price and then file for a divorce if necessary

But am very sure that she is not in good terms with your family

You may remain like this forever if you don't take the above step and advice

But If you are a very weak man, then that's another bigger problem

jeromestarks:
It's because God wants us to marry a virgin woman not hoes. Thank you ma.

Is alright

jeromestarks:
Don't do it. You will regret it.
Your best bet is to impregnate and keep her at home; this way, she won't misbehave.
Quick question, is she a virgin?

Why are you spoiling another man's plans

Is it because you have no plans for yourself

LoveUdie:
"I got married in 2021. Ever since day one, my hubby and I have sex twice a month. I have tried talking to him but he'll say he isn't feeling fine. If I try to seduce him he'll remove my hand. I'll have to wait till he feels like having sex which is twice a month.

We don't have kids yet and we both work. I'm tired because I'm missing out on the fun of marriage. What can I do?"


What can she do house? How can she make her husband show more interest in sex?

For the fact that you don't have kids yet, is more worrisome and the family will be accusing you of not being pregnant

This one weak me

MPESA:
No reason to justify her actions.... Food or no food.. let's call a spade a spade.

If you read the man post very well, he said he provides

The woman said because of hardship

Then I said it's only the man that can explain if her statement is right or wrong

Yes, hardship amd hunger can cause one to start misbehaving, especially the lazy ones

Lastly, I never supported her and you did not read any line that says that I supported her

azraeljaheel:
Good afternoon

I hope this week gives you all that which your heart have ever craved for
Amen

Thanks again for Saturday

You are welcome

VeryWickedMan:
Not yet.
Wait till you are 40. That's the best age to be ashamed.

That's just the right answer for him, since he doesn't have plans for himself

Talentempire:
So
I stay in a compound that has about 8 flats not face me I face you

I and this my neighbor are the oldest tenants there.

Since all the tenants that use to be in the compound moved out

I became kinda close to this my neighbor

am married she is also married
I became close to her because it is not good for one to leave in a compound and have no relationship with at least one tenants there

And also I don't want to build any relationship with any new tenant again cos I don't want any drama I have seen enough from privious tenants.

So since she is the oldest after myself I decided to just maintain the friendship.

But the problem now is

This Woman can make everyone around her enemy without them offending her.

as she use to say " I can keep malice with all the tenants in this compound with extra"

So
There is this new couple that just moved into the compound and for no reason she just hate this people
They can not come outside in peace , they can not seat in the front of their flat peaceful her children will be going round and round ears dropping on this couple conversation just to go back n tell their mother what they heard

An most times the information the the kids gives their mom are mostly lies

The next Thing she will come and tell me with so much anger and bitterness

The annoying part is anytime we are together the only thing she talks about is this couple how much she dislike them and all of that

Which I have asked her severally what they did to her that she hate them this much
But no solid reason .


As for me I have no business with any new tenant in the compound the only thing connecting us is greetings and maybe NEPA bill

But the way this my neighbor friend is treating all the new tenants in the compound is very disturbing

She has stopped all of them from fatching water from the well because the well is close to her window , she has also stopped all of them from drying her their clothes near the well.

After doing all this she wants me to support her and clap for her
if I tell her she is wrong she gets very angry.

Because of her troublesome nature the landlord ones evicted a tenant because of her
But that was when she newly moved in
But later the landlord got to understand that she doesn't like peace..

Even when we take our kids for outing this woman must make trouble with with people there
Same when we go to the market

People will sometimes ask how I cope with a person like that
But I cope anyways

But like this now am tired

Most times I feel so embarrassed
When she act stupid in public .

My issue with her is she always wants me to support her to matter her wrong,
To always tell her that her actions towards other people is right
Which I can't

Just last week she went to fight her kids school teachers plus the owner of the school base on what her kids told her

And just Just yesterday again she came to report this new couple to me base on what her kids told her

And I told her to stop fighting people who are not fighting her and she should tell her kid's to stop telling her things about other people

This morning I greeted her she gave me a cold reply

Please if you have any experience with this kind of people what's the best solution to handle them?

You get time to dey relate with such person

GOFRONT:
........And a Man died just lastweek within my neighbourhood because of this similar issue. A very gentle and quiet man for that matter. His promiscuous wife left him and their five children to go stay with her Man lover because of hardship.

I guess it is the heart break and shock that accompany the adultrous lifestyle of his wife that finally sent him to his untimely death. Now she and her manlover will take over the dead man's property Properly.

Op, As we speak, we are yet to get over the sudden death of the man in the neighbourhood........Pls quit it now. I dont want to hear "So so and so Nairalander with moniker Lastborn has kicked so so and so type of Bucket.........but you shall overcome this one.

Lastborn0074:
Please I need honest suggestions. My wife has had several male platonic friends ever since we met. She became friends with others through me. I trusted her because she's a very sociable person, so I wasn't bothered because I know a lot of ladies that have male friends too. She's been open to me about them.

Recently, something happened. A close female friend of hers (also married) started keeping her at arm's length. My wife didn't know what the problem was until information got to her that this friend of hers was going about telling people that she could no longer be friends with her because she's sleeping around with men indiscriminately.

My wife confronted her with this information, for which she denied. But the informant, who was also invited, insisted that she actually said it. Before this time, my wife would always complain that each time she visits her friend, she would knock on the door but nobody would respond. This happened repeatedly until her tenant told my wife in confidence that his landlady was always around each time she visits.

Recently, I discovered that my wife was actually having amorous relationship with her male friends. I have access to her messeinger and I have seen those amorous chats. She would delete the ones that could implicate her. A male friend of hers even sent her adult videos and she told him to send more, that she was enjoying it. This man went further to send her his masturbation video.

I confronted my wife with these and what people told me, but she denied. After putting much pressure on her, she said she was about to do it, not that she actually did it. I asked her the reason and she said that it was because of the hardship we were facing. Since her business collapsed, it's been very difficult to survive with our four children. I'm the only one fending for the family. Even after confronting her, I discovered that she's still into the act.

Given the above scenario, what should I do? Please I want only healthy comments that will help me make my decision. Thanks.

This is very sensitive

She said is because of the hardship

Meaning what she gets from such outing is part of what she brings to the table

Well you are the only one that will prove that either she is assisting you in feeding the family and you never asked her the source of her money

Secondly, if you are very sure that you are the one providing for the family, the why is she saying that she is doing such because of hardship

I think you need to really find out exactly why she is being promiscuous because she is doing that either for pleasure or for hardship

Her response will make you to forgive her or not

But she needs to stop it because it brings badluck in marriage

BLIVESHEALTH:
I am writing this grief in my heart. I lost my elder brother who has two kids with a lazy woman. He is just 29 and i am 22, I have been a bet addict but i am now fine earning up to 200k monthly. During my gambling days i have stole my mum money and now my mum believes she has right to my money. She coerce me to do things. My brothers wife want to feel entitled to my money always telling me "enu iyawo yin gbe" means she is hungry. I have two sisters, one younger one older who feel they are closer to me than my brothers wife. And i must help them before my brother wife
I am still in school 400l and i am at home due to ASUU strike so i cant move out.
I work remotely
I spend money carefully now anytime i but new things billing.
Please your advice what should i do

Concentrate more on uoir brother children and uoir sisters

As for your brother wife,
The more you care for her the more you create more problems for her

As for your mother, just be flexible with her, she can't wait for you to care for her

But let her know that those order ones mentioned needs your financial attention more

While you are doing all these, pls for yourself

There is no excuse not to meet up

azraeljaheel:
I used to be this happy dude growing up but life dealt with me I can't comprehend

Over 7 billion beings on earth I still odd like I am by myself

I find myself talking to myself

We have people who made it out there without their parents and I wouldn't use that as an excuse for my failure in life


I got a kid already marriage ins something that might not happen with me (scared of commitment)
Kid's is with her mum's parents. They won't give me access to her (story for another day)

So many things went wrong between mum and I. As a kid who did almost 4 months in the incubator guess she never expected zilch from me

Mum don't care about dad vice versa

Dad is married to someone else and nd mum got a partner already

Good afternoon

It is well
Braze yourself and move on

azraeljaheel:
Bless you ma'am

I pray the flood gate of heaven opens unto you.. you didn't just feed a depressed soul.. you fed a generation

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I should really have a reason to be grateful. . But the question is who should I be grateful to? (Most people would say, be grateful to God. A god who never have a shiii about me)

I give God the glory

azraeljaheel:
I used to be this happy dude growing up but life dealt with me I can't comprehend

Over 7 billion beings on earth I still odd like I am by myself

I find myself talking to myself

We have people who made it out there without their parents and I wouldn't use that as an excuse for my failure in life


I got a kid already marriage ins something that might not happen with me (scared of commitment)
Kid's is with her mum's parents. They won't give me access to her (story for another day)

So many things went wrong between mum and I. As a kid who did almost 4 months in the incubator guess she never expected zilch from me

Mum don't care about dad vice versa

Dad is married to someone else and nd mum got a partner already

Good afternoon

Check your account, I just send to your account with the name frozen

HustlingHustler:
Hi guys,
I am currently running my masters degree here in Nigeria with few months to finish before the ASUU strike came.
I have plan to use the certificate to boost my Japa plan initially. I have also invested alot of time and resources into the study.
With each day passing, I am getting really tired of Nigeria and I feel my time is been wasted.
I don't know if I should just start applying to schools abroad to start afresh or wait to finish this course in Nigeria.

I think you can start applying for schools abroad if you are interested an afford to train yourself while waiting to see if the strike will end

azraeljaheel:
Thank you so much ma'am

Really sorry about the inconveniences I might be causing you.

Got a quick question...
Do I reach out to my mum? Someone told me last night. . That I need to forgive myself(forgive myself for someone else's carelessness) before I could genuinely forgive her. .


I see individuals with their families and I feel my heartache (would call it envy)

The main issue now is that, I. Still wondering why you seems to be alone on earth

Your dad must have left your mum, that's story for another time

What is wrong or what happened between you and your mum that you guys don't check on each other

What exactly is the issue because with this kind of solo life

I don't know how you will raise a family without you and your family having a good relationship

What I mean to say is, if you want to marry now and the girls family insist on seeing your parents or either of uoir parents, what will you tell them

Forgiving your mum means something went wrong along the line

So tell me what really happened

And let's see if it's something that can be sorted out

Between you, your dad and your mom, no one is checking on each other

What is the cause of this dysfunctional family

Thinkam:
This lady I've barely known for less than 2weeks, doesn't want to leave my apartment.

Please what can I do to get her, out.

You done bellefull

The thing done tire you abi ?

OK Naw, get another woman senior to her age, to do the job for you

Women no dey fear man, na their fellow women them dey fear

azraeljaheel:
Good afternoon ma'am

I Saw your account details, you will get it tomorrow, but not directly from my account as I don't want my details to appear

Once it's done I will notify you immediately

azraeljaheel:
My parents are fine and well. But separated, one living large the other I don't know his where about. .. I never knew him

And yeah I am alone




She ✔ (i would say yes, but she doesn't care)
he ❌ (i doubt if he knows me)

What kind of assistance do you want


Job or financially: to survive the day

I feel for you and may God come to your rescue

Send me your account, may God provide for you

I don't want you to live a life of pity

Go closer to God and seek his face

You are very far from family and loved ones and its some how affecting you psychologically, you just have to come out of that as soon as possible

If you believe in God, your life will experience turn around

Keep praying

azraeljaheel:
I choke and wheeze, smoking trees like the cure for my own disease.. The only way I know to keep my soul at ease... I been searching for a slow release from the dose of grief... That always seems to undermine the goals I've reached...

I don't know if I should give up and go to sleep
Or keep breaking day, stay awake to follow hopeless dreams


Keep fighting

What is actually wrong,
You are acting as if you are alone in the world

Where are your parents, siblings and your entire family

Are they aware of the situations you are passing through

What kind of assistance do you want

azraeljaheel:
Good afternoon
Thanks for the swift response
I subtle joke (since you got another phone can you bless me with old on lol)

Can I actually come out clean with you ma'am about what i want to request via the mail?

Go ahead pls

azraeljaheel:
Good morning. I want to believe you and your family are doing great

Happy new month

I just sent you a mail ma'am

Good morning
We are fine
Since I got another phone my mail has not be active yet I saw your mail I try to open it but it's not responding

Kingkum:
You summarize everything correctly in few sentences as if you are here.

but i can't blame anyone cos i believe karma is on my case. do you know that i once drank poison to end my life but god did not want to me go that time so that he can unleash all he had in stock for me? it was the most painful experience in my life.

i don't even want much in this life as a person, i even dedicated myself to help people to atone for my sins but mba! the fire on my head keep increasing. worst is how i don't have anyone to talk to, english language is a scarce commodity here talkless of people who can use it in sign language.


thanks for the time.

Hmmm

Let the will of God be done in your life

Designllensis:
I am writing this after reading about the woman that wrote she is about leaving her marriage because of her husband's disabled child.

I felt to sharing my story

My 10 year son was a very healthy child but August last year I passed through the worst phase of my life.My son got infected with encephalitis, he could not sit,eat, walk or do anything for himself.he soiled himself.The worst he was in pains and could not sleep, his two legs became paralyzed,even his hands, neck was bending anyhow, he couldn't even see again.

The thing that happened to my son is endless and I can't even start writing all, they said the survival rate was 20%, we were stuck in the hospital for 2 months, the drug they used to treat him one injection costs 26k,3 shots daily , he was taking it continuously for more than one a month, we did brain scan, endless medical tests.

God will bless the doctor that treated him, he sought the efforts of a consultant pediatric doctor. That woman is a god. People advised we go to general hospital or luth, I refused and I thank God will didn't go

My mum visited me from east in the hospital when she saw me she wept, my sister wept, I was a shadow of my self, my fair skin color went bad, my 'yansh' dried up,clothes was falling from my waist, sudden grey hairs. People called me aside and advised me to give up, that he is never going to survive it.

I raised this boy all alone, his father is abroad never planning of coming back, I prayed all the prayer l could ever pray.

I thank God he survived it, with continuous treatment the pains subsided, the doctor said it took time because he didn't do the brain scan earlier.
Through the help of a physiotherapist he learnt how to sit, crawl, stand and it took like six months he started walking again, though with difficulty,it was tough as I had to learn most of exercises he was doing and did them myself, the physiotherapist always makes sure I learn and practice with him.
Then we sought the services of a masseur he worked with him another 3 months.
The hospital bill was in millions, thank God for my church God used them to save my son's life.

He lost a whole school session, last term he started school, he lost his writing skills he is learning how to write ABC, there is improvement. He can walk on his own though with a limp.

I don't know if his dream of being a football player will be possible but I am very happy he made it.

You are a very strong woman
God bless you richly and I hope you find happiness in your life

Your son too is a hero, he rejected to die because he was wondering what will be off you if he should leave

Once again, may the lord be with you

Your true life story will motivate and encourage others here

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