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Kingkum:
My story is long and pathetic. i don't think any human can help at this point.

From having a rare health condition to life difficulties, spiritual problems to now a nearly broken marriage. what pains me more is the badluck that is following me, if things were atleast going well with me, i should have overlook some of this things and focus.

So you just concluded that bad luck is following you in addition to your health problems

Well, I think your family is far from you, meaning either you distanced yourself from them or they are not showing you love

May God never allow you to take your life and if you force yourself to do so

Then you are destined

Davies25:
I will be creating several threads about the troubles am in. I'm the definition of problematic.
Let's talk about this one first.

About two years ago, i employed a sales girl. She was good ( a single mom).
Few months later, i got very sick. I couldn't take care of the business for months. She took care of it. Increased our sales by almost 100%.
I felt i needed to make her more committed to the business since i don't even know if i will be alive in few months. So i adopted her daughter and i started dating her; but with a caveat; no serious relationship. It was supposed to be casual and it wasn't supposed to affect the business. A year later, she moved to my place. With an agreement to move out as soon as she got her own place.

Fast forward, I met a girl, she's everything i ever wanted. But she's way younger ( about 10 years age difference). All my friends advised against it. I was advised to stick to my girlfriend
Note; I'm a sickle cell disease patient. My girlfriend is AS. So we can't have kids even if we decide to get serious. We both agreed i could date any time i want to settle down.

Now, the problem; my girlfriend called my new girl and told her about us. Told her to stay away.
I got angry and we had a fight cos we didn't agree on a for better for worse.
New babe had to go back to school cos she couldn't handle the situation. Though we still talk and she promised to come home when I get my single mom girlfriend a place ( i got a self contained close to the business, it's very expensive but i had no choice. The place will be ready in a month time).
New girlfriend agreed to stay low for the one month.
I need my old girl cos of the business.
I love my new girl so much. She's everything i could dream of.
I'm stuck.
New girl messaged me tonight that she can't cope. We need to break up. It felt like i died. But i can't force anything on her, anyone that would love me need to love me on a personal decision scale cos of my many challenges.


What should I do?

I think you need a matured woman who will be matured enough to understand you and your health conditions and willing to share love and understanding with you

You are very fragile and sensitive, so dating a junior girl, will quicken your life crises

As for your sales girl, you have gotten an accommodation for her, that is good
You may end up with her and adobt a child because of your genotype statuses

Kingkum:
I have considered that too, but it seems my presence is root of all the problems. i believe they will survive. i don't how they will do it but i strongly believe am the cause of all the problems each of them is facing. thanks for your concern

I love this uoir reply

Now tell us exactly what the problem is without leaving anything out

I am interested in your case, only if you will be transparent enough

Kingkum:
Excaltly. i'm not testing god but if he did not show me his face or power that he exists, i will go and meet him. maybe just maybe, he can tell me the reason for all this suffering

So what about your wife and kids

Are you taking them along

Or you want them to miss you and suffer more

Pls I need your reply

baralatie:
Be cause her life is God's hand o

Is alright and her goods are in her hands, lol

[quote author=envoymedia post=115238405][/quote]She left her life and safe guard her goods

H0711:
Unfortunately he can't afford to take the child anywhere. his younger sister has refused to come and help and I can't do it too. Being a single mother is not a death sentence I rather leave than carrying a burden which I didn't agreed for.first of all he didn't tell me anything about the child and her condition and why would I have to stay and suffer taking care of her including my own baby who will be born in 2 months time. If another woman would be happy to come and take care of the child is not my problem I wish her all the best.

I wish you good luck in any decisions you take

ustanejnr:
Sorry I understand your pain with the OP, this will keep alot of old olosho or you're not my class unmarried for long. Try marry early haunty so post like this won't pain you.

How can I be pained

You are the one that feels pained not me

It's just a topic of discussion not a must do

[quote author=BananaPeel post=115246463][/quote]Probably the man is destined to have a dysfunctional family, where women would have a kid for him then return the child to him when he gets another woman

azraeljaheel:
Your reply is enough to lit a dark soul

.Please just go through my thread ma'am

I Saw your mail notification but could not open it, probably because I am using a new phone because I do see and read mails notifications on the previous ones

justiz5:
Let me tell you the truth, that woman will never enjoy the sanity of her life if that Child continues to stay with her. Whether a nanny is provided to give support or not.
This is insane.

The best thing to do is for the husband to take the Child away from their home. Even if the Child had no physical disability, it would still be very insensitive and disrespectful for the man to bring this Child under the same roof, a Child he told the wife nothing about.

When it becomes marriage, all sort of nonsense will crip out

The ability to deal with it is what makes it a successful marriage

In her case, she can walk away

Another man will pick her and her man will pick another woman

Live goes on

[quote author=tempest2019 post=115255605][/quote]I hope she does my dear

chuksanambra:
They have used the money to support Peter Obi.
Na Mkpurumiri 1pobs kidnap am.
UGM
ESN
Ipob
Autopiloters
BLF
Obituary pigs
Most likely Obituary pigs.

One of these criminals are responsible

Common sense is not found in every one's garden

Lamom:
Hello peers


I have been observing this trend now and it has seen that it is a natural phenomena. Most couples whom i have seen online or heard offline after trying to give birth for years without getting one now gives birth to twins, Triplet and co . Is it that if they dont give birth,the woman's womb will keep holding on the eggs till years then release it when it meets a sperm?

Please is it a medical condition or natural?

It's 100% IVF
After waiting that long to conceive naturally and conception is taking time, they go for IVF

Though very expensive but it's the way out

dollytino4real:
really!! But to help distance is not a barrier

Yes you are right, I wanted to market your products in my office environments and get my colleagues to patronize you

But with the distance it may not work because of Logistics

dollytino4real:
no dear, am in ph rivers state

Chai

Vinnie2000:
I Often hear Nigerians say ' Some of our First Class Graduates are now Riding Keke and Okada because of Unemployment and Hardship!

Is this really Possible?

In my Alma Matter (Delsu,Abraka), First Class Graduates were treated like Princes!

SO, FIRST CLASS UNIVERSITY OR POLYTECHNIC DISTINCTION GRADUATES RIDING KEKE AND OKADA.
IS THIS POSSIBLE?

Lalasticlala
Mynd44

Take to FP. Thanks!

Na condition bend crayfish

dollytino4real:
I sell liquid soap, bleach n other things I just need to expand it

OK, I love the fact that you doing something. You stay in Lagos and where

VeryKindHearted:
It's almost a month now since my mom died and I cannot begin to get over the pains of the loss. My father died 22 years ago when I was yet a small boy and because I went to stay with my uncles, aunt cousins, and grandparents, I was able to get over it after some time, because of how I was treated with so much love, because I was still a child. Children can easily forget pains.


I have come to the recognition of the fact that there is nothing as painful as the loss of a mother.


The first day my mother died, I thought that I would not be able to survive the knowledge that she is no more.


Life looked so meaningless and unnecessary that it looked as if there was no need for me to continue living.

Because everything I have achieved so far was to please her and make her enjoy my money and my little achievement.


But she didn't even live to properly enjoy my money before dying.


Although I have come to accept it, but the shock of her death still continues everyday.

How can one get over the death of his mother considering the fact that someone cannot bring her back from the dead?

You will get over her death, just mourn her as what you are passing through is part of mourning her

You will definitely be fine

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good morning all. My wife and I separated in 2020 for seven months we have reconciled in september 2020 and she took in the same month but I still have doubts because while she we were separated she had cheated on me with her colleague at work. Which I had Proofs. The reason why I have accepted her back was because the fault was mine I didn't cheat on her. I lost my job and my boss gifted me 300k I didn't know tell her anything and I confided to my sister in Benin Republic I sent her 200k to buy goods for me and she duped me. When she found out she started abusing me to the extend I had to leave the house and moved away to stay with my mother. I still doubts about the paternity of our fourth child because she doesn't look anything like me nor her mother. I strongly believed she was already pregnant that is why she came back begging me to return back home. The more the baby is growing up the more she is looking like her colleague. Ever since we had reconciled everything is perfectly fine our relationship is stronger than before but I can't stop thinking about the baby not being my own. I want to take her for a secret dna test but if the result came out I am not the father my family will be ripped off and I don't want divorce but i can't also live not knowing if I am truly her father or not. What would you advise me to do should I go ahead with the secret dna or not I just want to know the truth bur I am scared of the outcome

You can't really get the truth from her

Just let her know openly that you want to go for a DNA test for your children, just tell her that you want to be very sure of your paternity of the last child

And tell her to tell you anything if she has any secrets because if it's positive fine and if negative that from the test result center, she will hand the child over to the owner before coming home to inform her family about it

Just be strait about it

H0711:
I got married two months ago , I am 7 months pregnant my husband didn't tell me he had a child from his previous relationship and the child has a disability celebral palsy. Her mother came to dropped her off in my house saying she has done enough and she's tired it is now hubby turn to take care of her. The child can't do anything for herself she can't sit, talk, walk and she does toilet in her clothes. I can't do it anymore I love children because I have taken care of my own nieces and nephews before I would have taken care of her if she was normal but taking care of a child in this question is hard and if her own mother has had enough she abandoned her and why would I kill myself taking care of her in my condition. I want to divorce and go back to my village I have told him i am leaving next month ,he is pleading with me not to leave him that he will take the child somewhere else but the place is not free he has to be paying like 200k monthly for them to take care of the child and he doesn't even have that amount of money because he is not financial stable. I will stick to my decision but I want to know what will other people do in my situation

I understand what you are going through as a woman but taking such decisions is not the best for you at the moment

The child mother has tried and probably the man left the upkeep for her and married you, so since she lost the marriage, she has to return the child to disabilitize your marriage

Divorce is not even the best option

The best option is to take the child to a welfare center where the have the services the child needs or better still get an in-house Nanny to look after the child while he provides for the child care and pay the Nanny for her services

With the above, the child is not your business any more, nor your responsibilities and you still stay happily in your home

Worst case, he can take the child to his parents and they all will sort it out there in there family house

If you divorce him another woman will come in and oversea the suggestions I made mentioned above

Then you will be a single mum to be and you can still rock your life though

[quote author=ChangedMan1999 post=115216556][/quote]No wonder, deal with it

fman:
Female biological clock ticks faster than male

But biological clock isn't the issue here
Men too experience theirs and they feel bad when they can't get it right, that's their own biological clock

I hope you understand

azraeljaheel:
Good morning ma'am

Hope you are doing great

Can I mail you

Good morning my dear brother, I hardly accept mail, sorry about that

But if it's very important you can, though subject to my approval after reading

Flacko225:
so after 3 months would it be okay to spend the money?

Why I said 3/6 months is to rule out any fault that you quickly withdrew the money that was wrongly sent to your account

shortgun:
What's the downside for a man to get married to a woman who's 10 or 20 yrs younger than him? What are the disadvantages?
I didn't see any in your post

Well we are not debating about the merits and demerits

If a man chooses to marry a woman he is old with such age difference, there is nothing wrong with that if it's his choice

But certainly they don't belong to same age category so whatever he comes across in her, he will shoulder it

He doest want any woman to challenge him but he will definitely be challenged in so many ways, so far na woman

frozen70:
Since you escaped out from Psychiatric hospital, you changed your moniker to changedman, have you forgotten that madness is inborn in you

ChangedMan1999:
Go back to the psychiatrist where you escaped

Since you escaped from Psychiatric hospital, you changed your name to changedman, have you forgotten that madness is inherit in you

dollytino4real:
Abeg NL, I need help, from the small u 've share to me and God will bless u richly!! Abeg mod no remove my post o! Help to push it well and far

What do you do for a living

Bluezy13:
Technically, yes.


Time will tell.


Of course.

By the way, good morning.

Good morning my dear and have a good weekend

VeryWickedMan:
Are you okay? DNA test for what?
Does that look like me??

That child looks exactly like you
We have already congratulated you and so shall it be life because you already claimed that your wife had a baby for you

Bluezy13:
You have a point.
But his point is better.

OK Naw
His Point is to marry a younger woman to take a look care of him as they get old

What guarantee does he have

Anyway which ever way is a choice for whomever