Kobojunkie: What you just posted amounts to what is disconnected gibberish.
This young man explains here to you that he is already overburdened and unable to handle any more of his current. He practically explains that he has near lost it all. He can't control it anymore and has no idea where to go from where he is. He is looking for a way out, yet you advise he further complicate his life by adding the burden of a relationship to his life - more mental stress - to his already overflowing ticket. Why?
Try and stay away from my post if you can't reason well after reading gibberish
Kobojunkie: WOW... yet on the other thread with the wife whose husband struggled with gambling addiction, your advice was that she stay away from him, how come?
I like the way you are monitoring my post
Back to your question
This guy in question is asking for help, so he needs advice on how to come out of his addiction before it gets to the level of the other guy in the post you are talking about
This guy is a bachelor and he needs to find his bearing before he looses all
This one is tired and willing to come out of those nonsense life style
The other guy in that post you are talking about is a complete nuisance who is not even seeing the problem he is putting his neck into
He already has a family yet gambles and live stupid life
So his wife should continue to suffer because she wants to keep a marriage that have driven her into depression
My dear, they are two different people in this issue One is tired and wants to come out while still young
The other one is complacent with his stupidity and sees nothing wrong with it
Unyimekelvin: I'm totally down,i mean emotional damaged by All this acts of mine.
I started masturbation at 16, now it is up to 6 years i could not stop it ..also betting .. I'm a strong addict on this..... especially virtual game this shit has eaten me deeply, plus masturbation i can't understand anything in life again...i tried stopping it but I couldn't...
Note i does this gambling online... this how its always goes, when I fund My bet wallet,i will start playing virtual games( in the space of 6 years i have Lost up to 5million naira) ND if I don't winn ;i will divert to porn from porn to masturbation...
I got My dick injured through masturbating some one should help out please... just drop your advice biko...
I don't even know how to write this, cos I'm crying now
Get a sensible and responsive reasonable girl friend
Tell her about all this and she will reform you
Just be ready because she is going to work on your bad habits and you will be alright with time
XullySwt: Oh dear, am happy this comment is coming from a female like me. My dear we aren't planning for any big wedding, i do much appreciate ur advice i like it. Thanks for ur compliments.
Thanks Sis Reading your post gave me some happiness for you
XullySwt: Good evening everyone, thank God for life coz that alone is indeed a great blessing.
I will be brief with my post here i promise Indeed i have seen life at its worst....
After mourning my husband i decided to leave my city Kaduna to begin a new life with my kids,yeah a boy and a girl.
I started from the scratch here in Abuja, from lesson that paid not upto #6000 to a school that pays #20,000 and presently am working in a school that pays not less than #50,000 all these boils down to my hardwork and perseverance and above all God.
Alright this the main ishhh, i met this single, understanding and loving guy that have already paid for my dowry and wedding is coming up November this year
Now my fear..... We love each other, he loves my kids so dearly we have been together for almost 2 years now that's why he decided to move the relationship further.
Ohh yes, i said my fear, his currently a job hunter ?
we thought things would get better before the wedding but Nigeria got no chill sincerely so now i have to leave my job and follow him to his city where he base so as to help him with his little business hoping things would get better.
So now my question, Am i doing the right thing by moving to his city or i should continue with my job and wait till he gets a better job??
Adding that his in his mid 30's and willing to settle down.
Please my people advice me. Or if you can help him pass through this stage of life, blessings will follow you.....
He is a graduate and lives in Zaria. God bless you all.
Between sorry for any blunders or typo error, am just seeing double
Congratulations on your new life with a new guy
You are lucky to have a man that loves you and accepts your children with love
If he is the one that paid uoir bride price from his own money then he means taking you to another good level
Though you guys don't have much now, you are a struggling woman and am sure he is so there is hope for you guys
The main issue now is, if you guys can't afford the type amd kind of big wedding you want to
Why not invite few family members, go to your church and get God blessing, that is the same thing people do get from the alta Then go to your parlour and entertain them
You are not doing the wedding to impress anyone but to get wedded and have your witnesses
You guys have alot to do with money Especially you that have much responsibilities on uoir children and your new home
By the time you guys have made your fortune, you can celebrate your wedding anniversary as glamorous as you want
Since birth till date (I'm 31) I have never fallen sick to a point were a test is recommended, so I have never had a medical test all my life.
Sometimes when I feel feverish or down in anyway I usually buy malaria and typhoid medicines and that usually work for me.
But some time in 2018, (I was 27 then) I was informed by my uncle's wife that she was going to do a free medical outreach in our village as her own way of helping people (she's a nurse in U.S) and she told me she would like me to be present to help organize and sort out things to make the work easy for medical professionals she invited to do their work.
Majority of the people that turned up were oldies so we had loads of work to do bring in chairs for the overwhelming turn up.... people's blood pressure and blood sugar were check and they also had eyes test and corrective lenses were given.
Now, after the whole exhausting exercise, my auntie as a fondly call her asked all of us that worked to also check our BP and blood sugar, which took turns and did as instructed.
My blood sugar was normal according to the nurse but my BP was something else, 105/156... she immediately called my auntie's attention to it and she opted to check me herself using another equipment, she did and it came as 110/160..... she told me it's really very high and considering my age shouldn't be.
Prior to that event I have never felt anything awkward or unusual, I play football and do almost all exercises a young guy will want to do... it's also pertinent to note that I do not smoke and even though i drink beer i dont exceed 2 bottle because i have "light brain" like they will always say.
She ("my auntie" asked the senior doctor present to exchange contacts with me so that at intervals of 1 or 2 weeks I will always go check my BP and see if it will reverse to normal.... I went to his private clinic twice and the results was always high so he, on the second occasion gave me a card of 10mg drugs...
I took the whole card as direct and came back to the clinic this time the result was 100/138, he now asked me to always check it at any pharmacy store near me and always have the aforementioned medicines available. The doc. asked me not to be taking it daily anymore but only when it's high (above 100/140), I have kept to this routine ever since...
Now my problem here is, in recent time I find myself feeling more week and dizzy and I dont even know how to describe the feelings I become very worn out after 45 minutes football unlike me, I barely play now.
My auntie travelled back and seems to forgotten everything she promised, I call and no response and I hate pestering people. I want a solution to this BP thing, I feel bad about it all the time and always ashamed to even mention it I feel I'm gradually going downhill health wise....I need help and I need it urgently please...... I can't take anything more than this
Pls don't panic as it's not a new thing
BP on young people could be as a result of the following things
Hereditary Excess consumption of salt Restlessness And other unknown factors
Now that you have known uoir BP status
Keep to your drugs routine and stay healthy
You may not feel anything now because you are still in your prime and you may start noticing the signs and symptoms at about 35/40 yrs of age
So if your both parents have BP then you are not far from it
Meanwhile, reduce your spead in football to avoid sudden collapse
Ikennaford: Please help me OG's, we started having sex last 2 years almost everyday till now,I see her every day,I have really deep feelings for her but I don't want to Express it to her cos I don't want to date for now, please help on how to quench my feelings, I've tried so many times to stop but I can't resist her anytime she comes to my flat,,, please help me, I'll be in the comment section
Modified:
We are not dating,she wanted us to date initially when we started having sex 2 years ago,bur I told her I don't do love,,but I have really feelings for her inside me bur still play hard guy and I don't care attitude when she's around..
You better make up your mind and go into a good relationship with her before she gets another to replace you
You can't be forbidden yam. Yet you enjoy pounded yam
flashinglights: the reasons that you have given aren't enough for you to want to disown your family. believe it or not, family is the only ride hard people that you've got.
you're still 18 and I am sure in a few years you'll have different mindset than you have now.
Think twice before you take a decision that will affect you
The excuses you have given doesn't warrant such drastic decisions
bpalace: Any society that deny women the necessary environment to thrive is doomed… but I wanna ask is it advisable to marry a woman earning less than 50k? Some men can’t stand N200 billing…
Whatever she earns is not the issue, the issue is does she earns at all
Most women that works and earns salaries doesn't give too much bills because they feel it too
Boliboli760: Yes, I want to stop breastfeeding but baby refuses to stop .She is eating a bit of solids but major feed is breast milk day and night. I want to have another baby but it is not happening and I think it is because I am breastfeeding.
I know people have been lucky getting pregnant while breastfeeding, but has anyone who had no luck tried anything extraordinary to get pregnant while breastfeeding ?
When you are ready, you will take a step and to stop breast feeding
Once you stop breast feeding, your body will reverse then your period will normalize then you start trying
edoman2016: I have a cousin who is single at 35. We are age mate and very close since childhood. Her last relationship didn't work out cause her boyfriend was a time waster and irresponsible.
Her parents are pressuring and calling her to get married before december. That she is not getting any younger day by day. Because of that, she is so worried and depressed. I don't even know how to advice her so that she won't be desperate. Cause she is my cousin sister.I need opinions from nairalander. NO INSULTS please.
At that age its not late in life
She will get pressure from families but that is not enough to push her into a wrong hand
Let her look for men around her age grade and she will definitely get one, so far she is not after money or wealth
A video of Limpopo province's health MEC (minister) Dr Phophi Ramathuba lashing out at a Zimbabwean patient at a government hospital has sparked an outcry in South Africa.
The MEC is heard telling the patient that migrants are to blame for her department's stretched budget.
Dr Angelique Coetzee, a Solidarity Doctors Network board member, said the MEC was out of line.
“This patient is a victim of the drama between the two countries. Even if they cross the border illegally to get health services, it’s not their fault. She [the MEC] wasn’t supposed to embarrass her like that in front of people.
“It was unethical, unprofessional and out of line. She should have addressed that at a different level,” Coetzee said.
She added that the constitution makes it compulsory for anyone to receive emergency medical attention.
Dr Mike Ramothwala, from the Limpopo department of health, endorsed the MEC's statements, saying: “The last statistics showed that 80% of women giving birth at Musina hospital are illegal Zimbabweans and SA women sometimes didn’t find beds to give birth on. We are trying to fix our healthcare system but we can never do it unless what our MEC is saying is addressed.”
dennis3888: Good day everyone please i need your candid advise and opinion
Am about to leave my bank job of seven years with a salary of 100k for a new business note the business has already been set up already
my fears is that am married and you know what that means i have ready responsibilities. so am now having fears that what of it doesn't work (which have been praying about seriously).
probably the fears is just in my head. your opinion please
Since you have set up the business, I will advise you go ahead but do the followings
Take a month leave if it will be granted for you
Go for three days intensive training on bakery and go with your wife if possible
Then take off the bakery while on leave and watch how it grows
For the next three weeks remaining in your leave, get someone to be paid and both you and your wife will follow up watching, observing and taking notes of where to improve
By the time you return back to work, give yourself up to six months to pull out finally and face the bread business
Faithellafranci: My brother insist that I follow a Yahoo guy. He was like trying to tell me some things and my kind of person I don't like it and I have a guy already who I love so much and that also loves me so much and wants to marry me at all costs.
The guy is gentle, caring, and I have this believe that he is going to be a nice person. Our meeting was just too sudden. It was God that brought him to my way.
At first I have been into a relationship that it will be going well at the beginning but later on it will lead to misunderstanding and then break up will follow.
Believe me guys, I have this feeling like something keeps on telling me that this guy is going to be a good man for me. I love him so much that living him will be like losing my own life and above all he is a Christian, a very strong one at that and though he is not that financially bouyant yet but he is trying just that Nigeria don't know the value of graduates in this country. He went to school, he is a graduate.
I don't want to follow my brother's advise. I love this guy so much since we started dating. I know of what I have not ever notice in my past relationships that am noticing now he doesn't shout at me he is just too different.
Please guys I need your advice. I have asked so many people for their opinion on this but now am asking you guys now please help me come out of this confusion I on my own I have said it and I have made up my mind that I am not going to follow my brother's advise and ready to struggle with this guy to make it am ready to build a future with him money is not everything in life and I so much believe that we are going to have so much money he really wants to marry me and I have already agreed to marry him guys please I need your advice because soon he is coming to see my family.
Please I need you guys advise please.
If you know very well that all you said about this guy is true and he loves you
Seat him down and tell him what you have been passing through and what you feel about it
Then both of you can work out some thing
As for your brother, he wants to trade with your marriage and have an inlaw he will be making money from If not, why is he forcing you to follow some one who is worst than a gambler
He should wait till his daughter is of age then trade on her
Meanwhile, don't exchange words with him, just stamp your feet on where your heart is and that's all, he will give up when he sees your stand
Godsprojectayo: Teaching job of 20k salary 7:30a.m to 4p.m or okada hustle for a bsc holder? which would you recommend? All contributions will be appreciated please!
Go for okada it will give you time to be your own boss and you can manage time and control stress of daily life
My younger brother who is in his early 20s graduated from a polytechnic around 2020. Since then he has been working at my uncle's bar for a monthly salary of 10k, in this economy. Even though he doesn't pay for transportation, rent or food as he is staying at my family house, I am quite worried about him. He might just sit there month after month and before you know it, he is in his late 20s and then 30s.
I don't earn so much myself, I earn a little over 150k monthly. I have some savings to around a little above 500k outside my rent and other bills which I want to set him up on any mini business that he can earn something more tangible for himself and grow.
I recently got a loan in form of a laptop from the company I work with so I can give him my current one to learn graphics design or some other relevant digital skills.
Please Nairalanders, help me suggest some mini businesses I can start up for him with that amount. I am thinking of POS, but with the rate of POS vendors, I don't know how profitable that will be. Secondly, I don't think he has the mental maturity to handle money. He might get tempted to squander the money due to peer pressure. I have seen him blow that amount before in the span of a month.
Please help. Thanks, with love!
You need to find out from him what he wants to do to establish himself
That's your first point after that then you start a survey on what his passion is
Then he needs advice on how to be serious about life to avoid waste of money and time
Romance › Re: Masturbation, Betting Have Killed Me Help Out by frozen70(f): 1:46pm On Aug 27, 2022
asked the senior doctor present to exchange contacts with me so that at intervals of 1 or 2 weeks I will always go check my BP and see if it will reverse to normal.... I went to his private clinic twice and the results was always high so he, on the second occasion gave me a card of 10mg drugs...
