Winneygirl: Spent 10 years plotting a revenge? Evil fool. I wonder what he will spend the next 10 years of his life doing... Probably monitoring her and not living his own life. Vindictive fool.
For the rest of his life, he will remain alone and miserable for plotting something like this 10yrs ago
I just want to share my experience. I want people to learn from others.
So recently I started dating and meeting women with the mindset of getting married as everyone around me keep shouting that I am getting overripe. Some are even wondering if everything is ok downstairs lol. How can you not be married up till now? You know those types of comments. But how could I have gotten married when unemployment no release me until 36? Nigeria is something else. It was at that age that I finally landed a decent job. I am even lucky to be where I am now.
So many youths are underemployed/under paid. Less than a month ago, a good friend who is also my course mate messaged me to express his frustration at teaching somewhere for 50k and he said he's now ready to make money anyhow even if it will take someone's blood . It's just a threat out of frustration.
The problem now is that I don't know if there are still good women like our mothers in this country. I have met so many young girls that I have stopped trying, the quest and hunger of these girls for money is just too much.
You are unemployed and you want me to buy you an iPhone of 150,000 Naira and she was making so much noise about it. Meanwhile I use a phone of 30k lol. Almost all the ladies I am meeting are unemployed and expensive. I met one girl awaiting NYSC, she told me straight up, that I will have to be taking care of her, that she's tired of dating broke guys so she has decided that any man she wants to date will have to be responsible for her completely. It sounded like a transaction. Though she's a very pretty, tall girl but I am not even after all those facial beauty.
Another lady told me she has half of her rent and she's looking for the remaining half. The stories are so many, I could write a book with them. I don't even know how to get working class ladies. But I have now realized that Nigerian ladies are not even the problem, it's the economy. Many young ladies are struggling just like guys and the only way they can meet up with their bills is by dating 3/4 guys.
Advise from my experience.
After my NYSC, over 10 years ago, I had this mind set that I won't get married without a job or funds to take proper care of my family. I think that mindset MAY be wrong, so many people still think this way.
I will advise you look at it again because it may take you 15/20 years after University to become comfortable (not your portion). Let me be sincere with you, this Nigeria is getting worse by the day especially with the type of leaders we have, who think only of themselves and their families/tribe.
For example, you can see for yourself what is happening with the outbreak of Corona Virus in the country. After 2 infection, people started advising that we should stop foreign flights, they refused until so many infected people got into the country, now they are running up&down. If we are lucky to get good leaders after now, it may take another 30 years of continuous good leadership to save Nigeria.
My advise is that after your NYSC, if you have a supportive family and a good/understanding girl friend, just marry her and start your family. You two will Hussle together and God will bless your hustle. You may ask why? Because most people finish around 25. If it takes you 10 years to become stable and get married, if you are lucky, you will have your first child at 36, 37. By the time you are 50, your child will be in junior secondary.
Be wise money is not everything.
You made sense
If you want to be with a woman and both if you will have to struggle to make it, just respect yourself when you have made it
If you try to outsmart her or treat her bad after success
englishmart: If you were to share 100k between your parents, how much will each get? And why?
Me, I will give mom 70k and 30k to dad. Reason is, Mom needs a little more love for her enormous sacrifices. Woman has starved and done a lot of strenuous jobs to keep us going
Your sharing formula is good, part of it will still go into the family feeding
Don't be surprise your dad's own will finish before your mum's own, even without a penny being dropped at home
bobkezel: Good morning guys, I'm confused with something. Does someone that wedded traditionally use "single" or "married" while filling a form or document. For eg, bank form, recruitment or job form, nysc form or any other documents.
Once you have done traditional marriage but yet to get English wedding
You are already married, all you need is affidavit of marriage from the court to back you up on the absence of marriage certificate
charles009: The last few days has been hell for me. The entire world has been held hostage yet some people are yet to come to terms of reality mostly in Asaba where I live.
I stay in a two bedroom apartment in an estate, neighbour's have been trooping in and out as of nothing happened, the one that annoys me most is when confronted on the need to practice restraint, I hear one of the most annoying things that the God they worship won't allow the virus infect them, therefore we are free to live careless lives without precaution. Absolutely preposterous.
Infact a lady returned from church and was continuously banging on my door for over 30mins, when I eventually opened, her issues was she has neither seen my family. Nice gesture I exclaimed but please stay in your house for crying out loud..... I banged the door. Maybe I overreacted but desperate times deserve desperate measures.
My message is clear and simple, stay in your houses, do not bring pain upon another with your folly and indiscretion. People are dying and falling like pack of cards in vastly far developed countries, an improvised third world country like ours, we cannot afford to be careless, it will literally be the end for us.
Stay in your damn houses, stay in your damn houses, this shit is REAL.
Don't take it too personal, you are not the only one affected
Your dad is acting the way he is acting because he doesn't want you to waste by so doing, he wants the best from you
But he has to use other crude measures to get it out from you
Do t let that take you down, be bold and strong with your rate of success and achieve good results which will make him keep. Silent over any other staments he will have in you
Don't take his words to heart, you may end up hating him
Just make goid results and he will understand that it wasn't what he was thinking
Beejaynma: I married this man 10 yrs ago and i have never enjoy the marriage even for one day. He had nothing when I got married to him because I believe everything will be fine if both of us join hands together and work hard. I wish I married a rich man that is giving me all I want and maltreating me as the one I married is treating me. Several times I have knelt down to beg him for offence I did not commit just for peace to reign. I hate malice and he likes it alot. He can keep malice for 6months without talking to me. I know I have made the gravest mistake of my life because this is not the marriage I prayed for. I wanted a friend as a husband but God gave me a boss that always see me as subordinate. I don't ask him money even when I know he has numerous girlfriend that he's spending for. He always defend his girlfriends anytime I challenge them. Honestly am dying slowly, i decided to end it all last year by taking poisonous liquid but I survived. Am just so lonely and I don't want to cheat, honestly I don't want to. Am trapped already and he told me I can't take his 2 kids away because I told him I want to go and get apartment. My kids are my life and I can't leave them. I know there are lots of responsible married people here, please is this what marriage all about
Sorry about what you have been passing through
If you go to court, the court will grant you custody of the children
But if you can't do without those kids, stay there and sort yourself out
Let him keep his malice and you too over look his attitude
Behave as if you didn't see his attitude and he happy
Kerp friends that will understand what you ate going through and let them know that you need them to keep you at peace
If you have a source of income, start saving for tomorrow
As for your husband, pray that God will do something that will arrest his stubbornness
Be strong and don't let your spirit to go down
Be happy with yourself and don't take your life, he has nothing to loose but your children will loose you
Surfondsystems: I am going through some family dispute which requires legal redress. I am hoping to find good legal representation against my dad. I am willing to go through some details of what i am seeking legal counsel for as soon as i find someone here who is willing to take my case up.
I think you need to give us details of the issue or issues between you and your dad
You may get a good advice here
What about your mum and your siblings
Are you the only one affected or the entire family or you are the most affected
What is your present status, working or student
Just explain in details what is happening and you may get a lawyer or refral here
Or you man not necessarily need a lawyer but ideas and dialogue
JONNYSPUTE: ....Story.i know of a man in PH that was giving his wife all the good things of life but she was busy giving those things out to her pastor. The one that broke the camel's back was when she stupidly gave out her new car to the pastor.
Forget about treating a woman right just pray to be involved with one that have small sense.
Look at this,do you think it doesn't happen?
Like you said, pray for good one's
Women going to pastors and serving them is like men have a side chick
Women hate it and men too hate the aspect of their wives going to pastor
All of them are seeking for a listening ear and attention giving
I am 26 currently and I'm single. But my problem seems to be that I'm more comfortable relating and thinking of relationships with ladies older than I am. I have dated in the past (Two relationships) and all were older than me. One was older than me with 5 years and I was very okay with it
I always tend to see ladies younger than me as too immature or unserious. I don't know if this is a problem.
I met a lady in her 30s recently. She's brilliant, a kind soul, crazy and everything I wish for in a lady, but she told me she can't have a relationship with me, although she admits she did actually like me. Her reasons are that I am not ready to wife her, and she doesn't think I'll be comfortable with it in the future
My friends think I'm crazy for liking ladies older than I am. I really don't know what to think anymore
It's not like it's a fetish, but ladies in their late 20s and 30s tend to know what they want, are responsible for themselves, are serious minded. Although they have their flaws, but these are the kind of people I want to get attracted to.
I don't know if this is psychological. Or if anyone who was in these shoes can advise me
Thanks
What I understand here is that, you believe maturity counts in a relationship
You can't handle your juniors because of their premature behaviours
You did rather prefer your seniors whom you believe are matured enough to understand things without much difficulty
You can follow your mind but you have to be respectful because thst you are junior in age doesn't mean you want to ride them or boss them around without making impact into their lives
Gabrendo: This video is a proof that women honor their pastors more than their husbands.
The woman continuously served her husband stale foods but the day the pastor comes visiting, she prepares a fresh meal for him. What an irony! But what do you think?
That is why I advocate marrying virgins! But you can't compare non virgins(and exes) with single mums (and baby daddies). Single mums have children that connect them with their baby daddies, so the likelihood of still hooking up with the baby daddy is HIGHER compared to non virgins with their exes
That's interesting
Since you advocate to guys to marry virgins, you have disvirgined some of them, so who will marry those ones ❓
ofemigeorge: Please, urgent, I need help on the gender of these Delta names below. which is Male, Female or unisex. Also are there female version for any of the names that are male?
I don't mind kwale(ukwani) names for my baby girl, that as to do with "favour" or "God's plan".
fineboynl: I am tired of the aftermath of preparing semo. my pot or frying pan get urgly. it's too difficult and trying to clean them is too disgusting.
I hate garri/eba reason that it affect my health. pounded yam is my favorite but it's too expensive now and stress with pounding.
I was wondering if there is a way to prepare semo like eba.
There are no other way
Once you are done with semo preparation, soak the put to the brim, by day break, use iron sponge
Mizwisdom: There are some bitter guys that will soon take over this thread of yours. You don't need people's advice as an adult, it should be your full decision. That her child will become yours if you keep an open mind and accept her as yours wholeheartedly.
NextD18: Your respect will not fetch him dollars or pay his bills, neither will it give him long life and prosperity.
This is how you lots you around emotionally enslaving and holding people from saying their mind with "I use to respect you", then emotionally manipulate them to say what will suit you ladies. Nothing else!
How much una online respect dey pay?
If you are a single mother, you need to pay attention right now; Single mothers are the worse and most deadly set of women any reasonable man will ever think of getting married to. They are full of problems, bad attitude, nagging, arrogant and emotionally manipulative.
If you are a man reading this, if you want to live long as a husband, if you want peace, if you want the happiness of your biological kids, if you must take the risk of marrying a NON-Virgin, please DON'T EVER marry a single mother.
Whatever made them a single mother, will still scatter your marriage.
You just told us how hard and bittered your heart is
As there are single mothers so they have single fathers
Even a marriage of 10yrs can still be a victim of single parent
You are just typing rubbish because you have not yet gone into marriage or gain any experience about marriage
You may end up being a single father with this your mumu brain
Family › Re: Wedded Traditionally, Should I Use "Single" Or "Married" To Fill Form? by frozen70(f): 10:05pm On Mar 22, 2020
