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kamtrix:
Thinking of getting a new freezer. Dear nairalanders what is the best brand to get. Thanks guys.

All freezers are OK but I prefer LG freezer and make sure you get it from their sole importer, fouani, Google it

zexy2030:
babe what are u feeling like, I hope u understand what it means when they women are weaker vessels.

Lol

Audio Weaker vessel

Women are stronger in all areas of life

Can't you see that they are resilient

Afrobeau:
Hi everyone, please I need your advice. I am an Igbo girl but my boyfriend is from Delta state (He is Delta Igbo). We've been dating for some months and now he really wants to marry me. He's 25 which my parents think is too early for him to get married and I'm a year younger than him. Speaking of my parents, they are not 100% in support, my Dad is ok with where he's from but my mum, not so much. Their incomplete support also has to do with the fact that my boyfriend is not yet very established so they are skeptical of his true personality. I also heard stories that deltans marry many wives and that sometimes they cheat and do not take it as anything serious. He is good looking and has a couple of girls running after him. He says he loves me and has promised me over and over again that he will never cheat and will do anything to make me happy. I'm seriously confused. I love him but sometimes I have doubts.
Just any information about how marriage in Delta state works could help. Information on their religious beliefs and tradition, the physical environment, and the place of a wife in the extended family, or personal experience/marriage with Deltans will be appreciated. since he is Delta Igbo, will my kids be regarded as Igbo too, (my boyfriend sees himself as Igbo), I have nothing against Deltans but I would love my kids to be seen as Igbos however, I wouldn't reject my boyfriend if he wasn't 100% Igbo.
Thanks in advance.. (pls don't be rude)

Forget about his promise to you that he will not cheat on you

He will cheat with time, so put that aside

If they marry two wives aa they are permitted without guilt, the tendencies are their

My concern is his present kstatus and source of income, if it can sustain both of you on the long run

Their is no need to hurry, tell him you guys still have enough time, then use the window to study him well and while doing so, don't get pregnant carelessly if you do, that's the beginning of the marriage

Dereformer:
How are they going to survive this lock down. Give birth to the number of children you can cater for, they will not listen.

Why will a man that have no steady means of livelihood have up to 4 children?

Now there is no movement. What will happen to their families?

Swz is the only cheap thing they have to comfort themselves

At the end of this lockdown, they will have another child on the way

To them plenty children is insurance for old age

Their highest education is waec

SweetCunt97:
I did. That post is simply my opinion. But then not every lady got d capacity to spend in a relationship e.g unemployed, student...

Unemployed student should be mindful of her present status and shouldn't demand more than she should

The topic is about working class ladies

Theclaaa:
I ave a big problem with my junior brother staying with me this boy want to kill me. It happened that this boy dont want to listen to anything I tell him , he is 19 years very stubborn and lazy , all he does is eating and sleeping , he never help me with my 2 small children 3 and 2 at a time i had enough of his wahala i send him parking sometime last year the boy cried his eyes out begging for my forgiveness , i forgive on one condition he had to prove to me he is now a change person , the boy said ok aunty i will behave , from that time in june till now i have seen some great change in him , he started helping me with my boys because i work and my husband stays in different states , he only comes home once in 3 months , his also has been helping around the house also his stubbornness become less than before.


Las month he told me he got a job at this building sites he will be working mon to Saturday i was happy for him to have something doing even taught i knew things will be a bit harder for me with the kids , i had to look for someone to be staying with my children while i am at work , i ask some friends at work to help me look for a help aged 18 above , i told them no small girls and a friend of mine brought this 11 years old girl for me , i refuse becsuse she was small i see it as child abuse but she said thats the only one she has found for now and when she narrated to me the girl story how her aunty abused her , i was in tears and dcd to help her.

The girl is been staying with us for just a month , i like her a lot very polite she is doing really well , a great sister to my boys and my boys adore her a lot , with this covid19 everybody is home including my brother and yesterday i had to rush to the hospital with my second son because he had convulsions, on getting back home i met my girl crying her eyes out i got worried brcsuse ever since she is been here it was my frist time seeing her crying in that state , i asked her wetin happens, she was still crying holding her stomach, i ask and ask no response from her , i went inside my brother was lying on the sofa watching television, i asked him why is grace crying , he said he dont know , he saw her coming from the bedroom crying and when he asks her she said nothing , i call my girl asking her again the girl has refused talking at that moment i got angry and send her to the room to go and cry more so when she finish she can come and tell me the problem even she has made me angry but i was still worrying about her but she wasn’t cooperating with me and the way that girl cried frustrated me , it made me more angry that i gave her 2 hot slaps and send her out of the house still my heart bled because i knew what i did to her was wrong but her refusal to talk has caused it and the girl stopped crying but did not tell me the causes of her cry.


The rest of day went well, we ate , gist and we all went to bed , me , the girl and my sons both sleep in the same bedroom while my brother sleep in the parlour , at the middle of the night my girl woke me up that she has something to tell me , i checked the time , it was 3 something am , i was like grace go to sleep and tell me tommorow , she said aunty please i want to tell you , i told her to go ahead and this was when my girl opened up and told me everything my brother did to her when i was away in the hospital , she said my brother forced himself on her , he rape her both vaginal and anal i was shocked felt like my heart came out .

i asked her if she is really sure of what she is saying , i gave her a slap to make sure she is was conscious of what she is saying , she said yes aunty and when she removed her panties to show me her private areas , i could see it open , i almost collapsed , i taught maybe it is a dream and i will wake up from it but it was true , the poor girl has been crying for the pain she been throught being rape both vaginal and anal, got angry that i went to wake up my brother hitting him with a broom, he try denying everything calling grace a liar , i ask him what will a small girl of 11 will gain about lying that he has rape her and i started talking sense to him , why would he rape an orphan like i and him .

we are also orphan he knows all the sorrows we had passed through after loosing our mum and why did he choose to destroy a poor girl who went trough a serie of lots of abuse in their hand of her aunty the same eay we did too, after being rescued , she felt secure in my house now he did this wicked acts to her , why did he no go and sleep with prostitues instead of raping the poor girl.

he was crying begging me and grace for forgiveness that he didn’t mean to harm her it was the devil, he cried but i
told him he will be punished for what he did , i will get him arrested he was still pleading i ignored and went to my room locked the door , myself and grace were crying i felt her pain , i told grace to forgive me and my brother i will not send her away , i will protect and take care of her and i told her to keep this as a secret , the poor girl agreed and said she has forgiven him too.

I hate my brother so much that i dont even want to see his face right mow but at the same time , i feel sorry for him because we are orphans he dont have anywhere else to go and i dont want to arrest him but for him to do this evil acts that means even my children are not safe with him. I am in dilemma my head will explode soon because i dont know which is the best way to do, this boy has made me miserable , i cant stop crying , i am writing this with tears , i dont even want my husband to hear this because he will send him packing immediately. Please i beg i only want matured advice because this is not a joking matter please advice me like a sisters please no insult.

Your husband must hear this

Assuming the girl was your daughter, won't you get mad

Your brother is turning a nuisance because you have not handled him they way he deserves

Grace you s now your family member, stop slapping her and see her as your daughter

If you had hugged her and pet her the day she was crying, she would have told you that same moment

That your brother will gay your sons very soon

At his age he left the pussy for anus, he is gone already for a bad guy

Be ready to send him to any other family members let them too live with him and see how bad he has become

Tell your husband what happened and ask him to assist you in sending him out

Don't give him more than transport fare

He wants to suffer let him go to the world and suffer

Who knows if he has been doing that with your sons

It's either you protect your marriage or you protect your brother

Mustack:
To be honest we're not.

My concern is the loan I took from GT bank and infinity micro finance bank.

GT bank palava is small but that micro finance bank is my headache

Government have told them to forget about intrest on loan this period

SweetCunt97:
He spends, she spends. That's d best.

You didn't read my comment well

Try and read again before you comment base on your understanding from what you read

Chisom604:
Good morning nairalanders,I am new here and I need your advise.
I started chatting with my classmate for a time now and he normally shows intention that he likes me with the way he chats and call me.Anything I explain this to my female friends,they normally tell me that he likes me and he would soon tell me how he feels
Recently, I got to know that he has someone he likes already. I felt heartbroken and I thought that maybe he used me and he normally chat with me anytime he is bored.This is not the first time guys will do that to me,they shows feelings that they like me but at the end I will get to know that they like someone else
Please what can I do to stop it?
And moreover it is okay for me to feel heartbroken about it?

What you are experiencing is primary stage, you ate yet to experience the secondary stage that will affect your emotional state

Guys will never come to you with out them having one or two before you

But at the same time while on the game, they are looking for the best among them

They will have one for fun and the other for gist and the other for online companion

That doesn't mean they don't love you, it will all end with sex and by nature they have the ability to love their wife and still love their girl friends

Simply because they don't fall in love with emotions unlike women

So relax and don't put all your mind in a relationship until you get to the alter

chizpim:
hello ladies,
I'm currently looking for a working class lady to settle down with, I'm gainfully employed and ready to start my own family.
Interested ladies should msg me via mail. chizpim050@gmail.com.

What happens with the ones you have been with

haryothosyn93:
I will be brief with my story, it all started last two weeks before the lock down of everywhere in Nigeria.
I met this young lad with her friend in a canteen around my area where I went to eat. As a guy who like to help, I paid for their meal and we exchanged contacts. Late evening of that very day, I called her and we talk on phone for few minutes. The night of the following day, she came to my house with her friend,they intend to pass the night in my place which I was a bit confused on their decision. For a girlfriend to follow her to a guy house overnight.
To make the story short, i stay in a bedroom flat but because i wasn't expecting her to bring her friend to my place for the first time to pass the night with me. I was mad but kept cool, she said she didn't want to come alone and besides, we are meeting for the first time which i later agreed. It was time for me to sleep, I told that her would sleep in the sitting room because the other room was occupied with stuff and she agreed to that.

Less I forget that she promised never to come to my place with her again, that night we had sex over and over again which I believe her friend sleeping in the sitting room knew what went down between us. The following morning, they left and we have been contact since then and due to the nature of my job... I am not always available for stuff like that until this night that she called me again that she has miss me and she will like to come over to my place for the night. She promised me that she will be coming alone but I was disappointed we hen I saw her with the same friend she came with in the first time. I when as mad but I just have to keep cool. I paid the bike man to take them back to wherever they are coming from.

Where I need your advice now, are they trying to pass a message across to me by bringing themselves to my side?
Or is there any secret between them that I am not aware of?
Have anyone here experience such before?

Please, kindly advice me on what to do on this matter.

I love the way you paid the bike man to take them back

She and her friend are not the serious type

zexy2030:
Women is one of the mysteries God created. They adapt to anyone who gives them attention and would love u take them for adventure.

Exactly ❗❗❗

Eagleboney:
Women so much hate themselves,

they can hold grudges against each other till death

They only hate themselves when one especially being a junior one is trying to outsmart

Zayttoven:
I wonder what would happen if women were world power leaders.

For example in the case of the United States vs Iran.

There would've been a full-blown war by now.

God already knew what we women are when he made man the head and he first created man before women

Despite out of the 30 ribs a man have, he took just one to create a woman yet, that single one he took is still stronger and tougher than the rest 29 ribs

HenryThegreat1:
Dear all,

I would like to know which among these, is ideal for good relationship.

1. She visit you regularly and you guys kiss, romance, cook and eat together as well as having sex.

2. She visit you often, but no kiss, no romance, or love making, just cook, eat and gist.

3. She doesn't visit and insisted she can only know your place and living with you permanently after the wedding.

Pls I want to see people opinions especially ladies before I will reveal the one my girl is practicing with me.

No 1,helps to bound the relationship

No 2,the feeling's are not yet visible, still growing

No 3, is risky for women so that she won't complain of unsatisfactory sex after marriage

humble1010:
Good day y'all...hope we are staying safe.
I'm not an online beggar but right now, I have no other option.
I'm the first of two sons of a widow. I'm the one taking care of my mother and junior bro. I'm a student but I do mason work, draw architectural/building designs, web designs, besides other little things I do to earn a living.
But right now, I need urgent help as my mother is in the hospital now with a very bad health condition which requires immediate surgery, else it will become worse.
The cost of the surgery is about 100k but I've been able to raise 70k. I need 30k to complete it. Even feeding daily has been a very serious issue too.
Please, I'm begging and pleading with good-spirited individuals to come to my aid.
If u wish to help, u can call or text me. My number is on my signature.

No amount is too small or too big please.

U can also check my signature for my number if u want to call or chat me up.
Thanks and God bless y'all as I look forward to ur favourable responses.
Stay safe.

No pictures of your mum

No pictures of her medical reports

No detailed details about her health condition a d the surgery she is going into for

No family picture with her

Nothing, what so ever to prove your plea

Go back and come again

Kekereekun123:
Working ladies why why why. They will collect transport or uber money from you. Ask for hair money and rent. What kind of wickedness is that

You see up bringing matters and self respect crowns it all

Some women are so stingy that they will rather wait for a guy to pick their bill than spending it on themselves

The same way a lady needs to be paid bills for and cared for is the same way guys need it

The same way women wants money, that the same way men needs it more than women

If you are dating a girl and all she wants is your money without bringing at least 40% of her own money

Just keep her at length by so doing she will spend it on herself and she will understand how it pinches the pocket

And for the men who are lucky to have women who contribute to their upkeep, appreciate them

If she loves the relationship, she will make sacrifice

You guys are having conflict in data of occupancy and date of expiry

Including date of renewal

Get his close friends and involve them in the calculations

Whatever the mistakes, it will be resolved

Just tell them what the problem is and invite them to come and settle it, make sure you are seated with them

annex1:
☝️Go Girl!

Lol

mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

You know what

Getting married to that guy may not be a good idea because you alone will shoulder the family responsibilities with out remorse from him

He is not loving and not caring, for God sake what are doing with him again

Any way, if he can be good at love making, manage him till you get a replacement

He is not even ready for marriage unless you are the one forcing him

Pls be sure before you commit yourself

He doesn't have to zeal to make things work so he is satisfied with having things work for his partner

primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.

I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly

She is in a relationship with you not because she has gotten a man of her choice but she is just holding up with you while keep searching for the man she really wants

You told her about meeting her parents and she said don't be in a hurry

Just take a break from the relationship stylishly and watch how long she can do with out having you around

You can force a horse to the stream but not to drink water

When he wants to drink water the horse knows where to get water

Naanlong01:
Thank you and God bless you. Its not easy being in my position. I now perfectly understand why my uncle, the only male child of my mum's siblings went far away from home without looking back after he got married over ten years ago. The funniest thing is that, all his family including my mum beleives his wife turned his back against his family which is wrong.

Exactly

Take a decision
Stand on it
Be firm and accomodating

cooooooks:
Trying to change her won't do anything.

He should watch with her.

I don't think it's a good idea

Something must be wrong with her or something must have not been gotten right

Fhemmmy:
Your question probably wont be answered because OP doesn't seems to wanna answer such question . . .

You are absolutely right

She just want to ask for help and get it without being questioned

Who is the mugu

That's quite painful, can't they be given an anaesthetic injection

rust6:
I bought it in Jos and took it to Fouani office in Jos two weeks after I bought it.
I stayed their for for like 3-4hours and behold they brought the fridge out for me I felt everything thing was Chill even the crisper portion, I asked the engineer their what the problem was and he said it's probably power problem and adviced me to get a Stabilizer which I did immediately.
I got a 2000watt stabilizer for it but I still experience same problem what shocked me was today I had light for 5hours straight but the crisper was not chill at all I have no problems with the freezer compartment just the refrigerator section is given me headache also when the fridge is empty without any thing in it every part of the fridge is cool but the magic starts immediately you stock it up with items

Sorry, quite painful

Good idea from government

HenryThegreat1:
. I will be the last person to post unverified news. This is directly from channels TV.

Don't mind those Thomas

Godsbaby1:
sorry for the English language, as a teacher I always do.my best to make sure my children to be the best. thanks I really need help am for real thanks for ur understanding

Does it mean your husband is comfortable doing nothing while you beg and feed him

Am just asking ohhh

Acers:
I was born of wedlock, my mom died when I was 4 years old and i have been staying with my grandparents for as long as I can remember. I want to know my dad, I want to see him, if he is still alive. Here is the little information I can provide. My mom(her name is Linda),siblings and her parents used to live in Benue state before she went to school in ABU Zaria, though she never graduated, came back home pregnant. From the little I was able to deduce from my grandma, she beat her badly and threaten to chase her from the house, but she didn't reveal my dad's identity, her senior sister (my aunty) even told me that she asked her as a sister and she refused to say anything. I once saw my birth certificate, it showed that I was born in Port Harcourt, asked grandma about it but she gave me no reply.
All what I wrote above happened between 1999 to 2001. I write this hoping someone who knew my mother (Linda)or even my dad might contact me. I look forward to ur replys

I don't wish to be you, but if I were you

Settle down where you are now as its going to be your village and state of origin

If you are not obedient to your grandparents, you may not be recognised and may not have an inheritance

You have reached your final destination and the earliest you accept your fate the best for you

Wizpa:
Hello nairalanders
My fiancee insists on bearing two kids because of
1. less stress raising the kids
2. being able to manage them during her work time

I insist on bearing 4 kids because
1. There is strength in numbers (Well secured family
2. Dining table will be complete
3. Family SUV will be complete
4. Children are gift from God
5. Satisfactory distribution of wealth
6. a boy and a girl (it's just better and wiser to have double of anything)
7. House will be very lively
8. I want my name to last for as long as it can
9. 4 kids will secure our nuclear family, it's heritage and legacy
10. Military and Business, Health and Leric


We had this argument the last time we spoke and her last statement was "I hope this doesn't hold us down soonest because its as though we can never reach an agreement in this aspect. And of course might affect this relationship".

I love her very much and I believe she does too, what should I do.

I will advise you go ahead and get married but as you start having kids, involve her in financial matters and make sure you give her a certain percentage to contribute

As the family grows her percentage grows

If she can contribute and be steady about the contribution four children are not too much

Besides child birth Labour are one of the things that limits women in child bearing

Just let her be contributing actively, she may even end up debating the two because she is now involved