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crownmeohGod:
I am in a very confused state right now and about to lose the relationship have nutured for about 2 years now..

Please don't mind my blunders,
I will go straight to the point,I have been with her for 2 years.while with her her dad said he could get us a gud land..i paid half of d money before my business started falling..
To the extent that ,There was a time.i had to beg friends to have something to eat..

As time goes on,still I kept saying to my self that things will be okay..I lost some contracts while this was going on..
But because she was very faithful,i just kept it going..

As a man,i started a part time job to get something at every ending of the months still i couldnt balance things..But the more i do,the more responsibilities comes...
There are times when ever i sleep i am been attack by someone but i used to fight back,i think it because i am prayerful..but sometimes,this thing just hook me down to the bed while sleeping..

At the end of all this,She chatted me up just today,this morning to end the relationship for good...

She said she think she is the cause of everything,that a prophet said she has heaven husband and it has been the one tormenting me and all this.Truly,I am in a very unbalance financial state.

I am still surprised because this is a lady everyone even my family knows her and even hers..we were even planning out marriage but this is not going well at all..
Please have anyone been in this kind of situation before..
Is there even solution to this or i should just let go and besides,my money for the land..I don't know if i should just let go of everything

I know there are matured people here on nairaland..

Am glad she opened up to you, take a break from the relationship for now

Ask her how she intend coming out of it

Her response will put you to a proper position of things

If you are in good terms with the father, pls go to him and tell hi you are having financial crisis and you don't mind him selling the land so that you can get your money back and start again

He is a man and he will understand but you have to give him time to do that

Meanwhile don't discuss his daughter issues with him and don't pull out of the relationship just like that

Stop sex and start withdrawing gradually

But if you love her and can't let her go

Team up with the family and find a solution to it

Admissionclass:
when a girl you like starts playing hard to what should you do especially when she is showing subtle signs she likes you leaving you confused.
should one continue to chase her till she accepts or move on.

Just don't get tired and don't rush her

Slow and steady wins

She has a treasure you want to hunt

So, let her decides if she can give it to you or not

And if you are running out of patience, avoid contact with her

cyrilamx:
A young lady of 22-year-old has taken to a popular relationship blog to lament that she has never been asked out by any man in her entire life.

I am 22 and no guys ever approach me (not even creepy or old guys approach me). My aunt came to visit me and told me that I need to start dating and finding someone since I have never had a bf before. She asked me if anyone has asked me out yet and I told her that no men ever approach me and she got shocked and surprised. Yea I don't understand either.........?

People tell me many times that I have a very young looking face but should that stop men from approaching me?

I don't know what to do about my nonexistent dating life. I feel like I am pretty much am about to be forever alone even though I am not ugly and I don't have any physical defects. I am not going to approach a guy so please don't tell me that is what I need to do. i just want all of this to end, I might just end it all.

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Start giving guys chances to approach you

Unless you want to maintain your virginity

Efe42:
Please help me I'm little confused now my cousin want to be visiting on regular basis and I don't know what to do now, undo she was very supportive and caring to me for some time that was 2016 I was really broke at then I don't have any serious relationship with anyone because I was jobless and some of my friends has already got 2 to 3 kids already I know what there are going through already so I'm not ready to take those chance for any reason deep down in me I really needed someone in my life but I haven't found that understanding type because most girls go after money now so I stick to my dream to become the person I wanted to be most of my always asking where you fiance sometimes I say different things to them but inside sometimes I feel very lonely despite all my effort of get a job first but I know this year my break through my come so, about that 2016 my cousin work at sizzler restaurant shadvice. times visit me like 5 to 6 a week some time's and she normally come with food, bread,and others and she will pass the night over and so On people na beginning to think that's she my girl friend like I'm In a relationship with with her I told them serval times that she is my cousin but because of her constant visiting but didn't believe and one day She told me she like me well I take it as a joke but her attitude towards me I don't really understand she always want me to go out her to but anything she want to by before I know it I started having feeling towards her and sometimes at night I don't even understand she will like want to Romance me little by little before I know it my joy stick is up and she still want me to get a serious relationship with someone else I'm really confuse about her right now please I need advice.

Are you scared of telling her point blank that you want her to reduce her visit to you, that you guys can do more on phone

The dick doesn't know what is incest and doesn't understand tradition

She has a mission and you are not getting the signal

If you can't chase her out politely, go ahead and sleep with her

It's your choice after all, you are above 18yrs

You can pregnant a woman who is ovulating

Born20win:
My dear I don’t want to go thru this baby talk with her anymore, last time it ended up with so many tears from her , she was even ready to go and stay with the neibor because over there they have many children she will play with me she was just tired of being the only child. This thing was stressful for me now she has forgotten about that, I don’t want to remind her again

That's alright, my advice was base on your question, probably I responded late

Pls let her be, it's already over

Try and get her a beautiful doll baby

You never can tell

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen. He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed. I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him. Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me

I think you are so much in a hurry and I would not like you to make a mistake

How long have you known him

Is he working or doing something that will bring in enough for him to pay a mini flat and still have some for himself

Are you dating for living in one room or you are dating him because you want him to leave on a flat

OK, if you leu him to get a mini flat, and you contribute to the payment,
Are you going to remain there with him, if yes, as a wife to be or to stop him from bringing another woman to the apartment you jointly paid for

Alright, if the relationship stops halfway, who will renew the rent and who lost or wasted money in it

seanwilliam:
yes, we can see from the write up that it is the lady that really wants him and started pressuring him to do what he cant clearly afford

Pls don't start what you can't finish

Keep calm and follow the relationship, you will definitely get to something that will amaze or interest you

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen. He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed. I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him. Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me

I think you are so much in a hurry and I would not like you to make a mistake

How long have you known him

Is he working or doing something that will bring in enough for him to pay a mini flat and still have some for himself

Are you dating for living in one room or you are dating him because you want him to leave on a flat

OK, if you lue him to get a min flat, and you contribute to the payment,
Are you going to remain there with him, if yes, as a wife to be or to stop him from bringing another woman to the apartment you jointly paid for

Alright, if the relationship stops halfway, who will renew the rent and who lost or wasted money in it

Pls don't start what you can't finish

Keep calm and follow the relationship, you will definitely get to something that will amaze or interest you

OlawaleBammie:
See dis Man oo, Noo kini?? make i hear.


Did u know how catchy and interpretive my brain was wen i was small??

I remember asking my dad dat was is d meaning of Ojuara(VJ) just wen i was small, my dad said to me dat i shouldn't worry, i dont need to know it now and i shut up.

But mind u, i knew the meaning just immediately. could u bliv i was only 5 goin to 6yrs??

hmm, sidon der oo

If you reason well, this is a girl child not a boy child

Mothers to daughters and sons in terms of sexual matters

Fathers to son, in terms of sexual matters

See it from that direction

Diiiamoond:
I’m a nurse, obviously anxious about what dangers and nightmares lie ahead, and my Husband has just said that I don’t have to go to work if I don’t want to, and he’d rather us live on just one wage if it meant I could be kept safe.
Has anyone else working in hospitals ever felt so nervous about what’s to come that they’d consider leaving?

What your husband said about you leaving your job, is his opinion

You taking that, depends on the economic position of things in your family

Is he carring to a fault

Can he provide for his family till infinity

Do you contribute any thing and if you do, if you stop working, will it affect the family

You see, it may not end well and you will be the recipient of the falls

Women stay home and suffer whatever goes on and still face the children and their home challenges

Men go out to wine and dine still come home late when the stress at home would have gone to sleep

Talking about your job, every job has its own risk

No job is free from risk

Born20win:
Plz hux I nid ur help ooh my 7yes daughte cut me and hubby this afternoon having sex actually she was playing downstairs with the neibor children we was not expecting her to come back anytime soon to my surprise she just entered our room boom hubby was on the top of me she saw both us naked then run. We was very embarrassed he wanted to go and beat her I told him to forgive b/cos it’s not her fault and we don’t know what to tell her. She is been quiet didn’t ask me anything about what she saw. She is now asleep but I can’t stop thinking about it. Is it necessary for me to talk to her about the incident in the morning or I should just leave it and carry on as normal. Thanks

To me ohhh, I think you have to let her know that you guys are trying to have another baby that's why she met you and dad playing

Then ask her what gender she wants

After that, tell her to pray for God to help you and daddy get another child

Then you advise her that anytime any body wants to touch your body, run away because they have HIV AIDS

sex education should be taught to these children at early age so that they know what it is about

Then you guys can go to eateries and have a meal and when you cone back tell her they took her out to enjoy herself, so she should pray hard for you to have another baby

I don't want to blame you for the carelessness because you must have learnt your lessons

OlawaleBammie:
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Noo ❗ ❗ ❗

She is already sacred of daddy it's normal

Let your husband stay off the topic, with time she will be fine

Just continue your relationship with her

Born20win:
Plz hux I nid ur help ooh my 7yes daughte cut me and hubby this afternoon having sex actually she was playing downstairs with the neibor children we was not expecting her to come back anytime soon to my surprise she just entered our room boom hubby was on the top of me she saw both us naked then run. We was very embarrassed he wanted to go and beat her I told him to forgive b/cos it’s not her fault and we don’t know what to tell her. She is been quiet didn’t ask me anything about what she saw. She is now asleep but I can’t stop thinking about it. Is it necessary for me to talk to her about the incident in the morning or I should just leave it and carry on as normal. Thanks

To me ohhh, I think you have to let her know that you guys are trying to have another baby that's why she met you and dad playing

Then ask her what gender she wants

After that, tell her to pray for God to help you and daddy get another child

Then you advise her that anytime any body wants to touch your body, run away because they have HIV AIDS

sex education should be taught to these children at early age so that they know what it is about

Then you guys can go to eateries and have a meal and when you cone back tell her they took her out to enjoy herself, so she should pray hard for you to have another baby

I don't want to blame you for the carelessness because you must have learnt your lessons

SpyAC:
God, here is 1500

That's not true, why not state the place

Better still go for semolina

jnrbayano:
Brilliant

Thanks

OluwasureGig:
Hi nairalanders, I know the world is battling coronavirus and I probably shouldn't be talking about this at the moment but I could use your advice just incase we all survive this pandemic that has so bedeviled us.

I'm a young man in my mid-twenties and by this time last year I was broke and had a very poor account balance but by the Grace of God things are different now. My business is booming and I'm balling. Now I'm the type of guy that likes to look good and smell nice always, and this might just have proven to be my Achilles heel

It happens that there's this extremely beautiful girl I've been crushing on in church and I finally made my move this Sunday. We got talking and exchanged numbers. Now this girl is like my dream girl; she's very very beautiful facially, tall, has a fat ass, perky boobs, flat stomach and very straight legs. She basically looks like them models we see on IG

The problem is I asked her out and she said she can't date me because she thinks that I'm "too clean" and would therefore cheat on her as a result. I've tried all I can to make her change her perception but she is not coming along. Please what do I do or say to this girl to make her date and marry me because I've already sworn that she'll be my last bus stop in the dating world.

Please your advice will be duely appreciated. Thanks

Don't be desperate about the relationship

Don't rush her, you will miss it

Just take it easy and calm

She is scared that you may have lots of women or you want to bed her and go

Give her the whole time she needs, she is using this window to study you

If you are lusting for her, you will give up easily.
If it's true love, it will magnet before you know it
.
Just keep in touch and follow her, you patience is all that is needed if truly you want her genuinely

Akinowon123:
So I av a question, and to be honest it borders me sometimes. How does married couple who live in one room with their grown up children have sex.

I have never been in such situation but I see many families like that and I couldn't decode how

I think sex to them under that situation, is no longer needed as it would have been

Though they can book out to have it or any little chance at home be it day or night, the door will close for few minutes

It may be when the children goes to school or work place

However, they do sort themselves out

Then, living like sardines in one room is too much wahala for the dick to raise any how

3sexy:
I am a married woman with a lovely kid , I love my husband but he is too selfish in bed , to him, lovemaking means" penetration" , no romance no fore play , all he is interested in is just to penetrate me ! he doent even care if I,m wet or not .this is really getting frustrating because it is painful and sometimes I end up having blisters.
Most tines I try to initiate pre-intimacy and make him slow down a bit he gets impatient and angry ,and I just let him have his way , and the worst part of it is that when he is done he will fall asleep immediately !
Pls matured minds how do I make him change without hurting his feelings , for over 5 years now i have not had a pinch of climax, I love him dearly but I also want a normal sex life in my marriage .

You have tried to explain to him, but because he is selfish and pride won't allow him to follow your idea

Some stupid men thinks women are chickens that the cock bounces on just like that

If you chose to go out and get it hot, the community will blame you but they will not be aware that you are being starved

Five years no orgasm, you are building up unreleased tension that is supposed to be off while you climax

I will suggest you start pleasuring yourself and you will get to orgasm with time

Even if he catches you, politely explain to him that you are suffering and its affecting you emotionally because he refuse to give it to you the way you feel will make you cum and because you don't want to misbehave, you have decided to do it yourself

If he has shame and feelings, he will cover his face with shame and think twice

Watch adult video sites and you will understand how to go about it

If he likes, let him report you to any family, when you get there, tell them, speak out and the table will turn against him

Nonsense

Sexytincoll:
What's stopping you from telling him and if he doesn't change,then make sure he doesn't reach climax on every sexual encounter he has with you by pushing him away before he does.Let him learn from that

She doesn't have the will to do that yet.
But gradually if he continues, she will bring out the beast in her

Bigblessed:
A selfish man gave you a lovely kid.

Women, Women, Women!

Sex for procreation and sex for pleasure are two different things

Assuming she needs to climax before she can take inn, that means she will be stranded ❓

After birthing children, sex continues for pleasure, now where is the pleasure ❓

You do come across men that does everything right to make their women feel like a woman, do you think they are stupid

Leave money aside, sex satisfaction is one thing that keeps a woman to a man, its also that same thing that makes her to get it else where

Have you ever heard of a man saying he did not enjoy sex or finds it difficult to cum, noo ❗❗❗ it doesn't work that way

So she should endure consistent rape abi? Fire needs to be placed under your anus every night for you to understand what she is going through.

OP, it is well. Inform your gynecologist and maybe she can suggest products that you can use to ease friction also talk to your husband about it, both of you need a marriage counselor. Good luck

Good talk

But the husband will not want to hear that gynaecology or counselling because of pride

bennyrazz:
in the hands of some selfish women

Yet the selfish and stupid men goes to them for sex

Well she can always file for a divorce. You ferret.

If you read well, you will see where she mentioned that she loves the man

Before an issue will get to divorce, domestic violence would have become an issue

misspicy:
Did you test drive before marriage?

NO

you was doing virgin mary,please enjoy your husband like that or keep praying maybe he will change and listen to you

She is enjoying the man but just this single issue

You mean to pray for him to change his sex idea

No way ❗ ❗

There are other things she should be praying for

Why can't the man listen to her

Don't blame her if she doesn't taste it before marriage, don't you know the tricks men plays when they want it their ways

They will rush you I to marriage because of one hidden default in them

Which will be discovered by the woman later in marriage

sunvick:
@OP

Why dont you one day take charge and lead the sexual chorus to your taste and satisfaction.

Just tell him 'Honey, I want to be in charge today/ Honey i want to make love to you.

Lie him down and ask him to relax....give him a good head game (If he survives it then proceed below).

If he is still standing Ajar... mount the horse in reverse cow girl and get urself satisfied.


Life is too short not to be sexually satisfied ohh!!!

Do you think this same man will give her room for that

Communication is the vital thing in every thing we do

When couples communicate very well, underlying issues get resolved immediately

Her type of man may not be romantic and such men are always full of themselves and nothing to write

2sexycom:
first of you are infringing on my trademark as "sexy" here.(kidding)

Anyway, your husband is just being a typical African nay Nigerian. I don't see him changing because his background and perception on things like this are pretty archaic. His type believe women shouldn't enjoy sex lol

People like do not know anything about femaie sexuality and therefore needs to be schooled. Get him some books to read if he is the type that love reading. It might help because that is like personal counselling.

Aside that, he is going to be a hard nut to crack.

about his half current dick

His type are the stubborn one's who believes that women must not be heard

Full of pride yet not passionate about his wife sexual pleasure

That woman will deflate him when she summons the courage

Franzinni:
no sir it is just breakeded!

Lol

Franzinni:
Naija no go kee person ... Kai

They said Ghana, you are saying naija, is your screen cracked

Vega100:
Thank you ma, the truth always hurt when told to your face, greedy and selfish women. Mtcheeew!!!

Am done with you

Jamariwolff:
How do uou control your sexual urge (without masturbation)I'm tired of being fúcked like a goat, my exboyfriend is very handsome tall and good in his stuff.
Every time i try to be celibate, i keep running back. I find him touching my body everyday at the end of it all.
I'm even turning lesbian little by little.

Pls Help me kill this urge all sexual urge, i need to focus on my books and get a first class please .

Sorry about the unwanted urge

You are at the pick of your productive years

Your hormones are doing what is expected of it

Since you have a boyfriend, enjoy your body

Very soon, you will be naturally tired of thinking about love

Just be decent and keep one partner

But be careful because of pregnancy

SeunDobo:
Please I need ur Advice my people , Due to this corona virus I run comot my stations and come to hometown One girl dey my street for hometown, she go be around 17 years old shaa with big boob and nice back , Anytime I see her I dey trowey face cuz I no dey do child abuse but dis girl go dey play with me dat one normal but wat cum make ham worst pass be say she go dey asking for money all time , first day wey I come to the town she ask me waiting I bring com I give her #500 like 2 days again she still ask me for money I bone her ..she keep asking for money I dey give her 1k or #500 anytime she see me unless I dogde her .. I dey think make I kuku Nack her .cuz wetin be my gain nah ..kini gbogbo werey ye nah I be Lagos boy nah , Advice me plz.

Just respect yourself and tell her to stop asking for money from you

Is either she will avoid you or hate you

Don't bed her, you are not an opportunist

Vega100:
If u are truly a female, Be thankful for any full blown man that will accept that nonsense!.
If u are a female, not my serious date, not my sex mate, not my relative, then u are as useless as my feaces is to me, and I wouldn't need you close...

You are soo silly and rude

Your low life and self esteem needs an upgrade

ggood:
Good evening please help me , I met a lady three weeks ago and we started dating , everything was going well , few days ago she told me that where she stay her room mate want to leave the town , and she does not have money to pay for her rent that she want to stay with me. I stay alone in very nice apartment my house have everything inside including running water, steady light, shower etc. She has been begging me to allow her stay for the main time and I don't know what to do. I Barely know her, she said she want to pack her bag and come and drop in my house, and am new in that town. My fear is that she will block me from having other ladies and exploring other girls and she will be feeding in my house because she is not working at the moment she a graduate waiting for her NYSC according to her.

Please help me out what should I do

What you are about doing is like buying trouble for yourself on hire purchase

Tell her that your siblings comes and goes and you will not want a situation that things may not work out well

It's better you refuse her request than accept her pregnant her yet, she is nit the type of woman you want for marriage

Let her sort herself if she doesn't have family members

padi94:
How can you be friends with a virgin and she still remained a virgin by the time another man marry am... what was the basis of your friendship, what did you gain in it

Every friendship must not end in bed

My reason for keeping you as a, friend is different from your own purpose of the same person

olanreyman:
We have heard you. But you haven't answered the question we asked you earlier. Where is all the 50billion, 1billion donations to help fighting corona and feed the poor?

It's too early to start asking for account, abeg

sassysure:
That a lady married as a virgin doesn't mean she dont know what she want.
If the spark isn't there, she will look outside for fulfilment.

Women have particular preference to the type of dick they like whether virgin or non virgin. This is one of the reasons women go outside.
Also, it's just a matter of time the virgin wife will lol outside if she isn't fulfilled.

No matter the size of a dick, if you as a guy doesn't know how to use it, then forget it

Some have big dick, doesn't know that fore play is the point to use yet, they use it rough and it ends up painful

Some have small dick, the fore play alone is 99% close to orgasm

Women are not automatic like men, press the necessary buttons and she is already at cloud nine

When she finally gets there, she will never have any justifiable reasons to get it out side

The man becomes her world

sisisioge:
Absolutely! But those unvirgin guys actively seeking virgin girls won't like to hear it

Sure, lol

sisisioge:


Interesting. That's a valid point.

It would be difficult to match virgin guys to virgin girls cos majority of virgin girls searchers are none virgins .

It's not difficult

Virgin couples will fit in properly and enjoy it without even being bothered about any other styles or methods

LilMissFavvy:
Seriously? That wouldn't be fair on a poor virgin who closed her legs, yet end up in marriage with an incompetent man. Infact, a virgin girl deserves better, she deserves a virgin guy as well. Any man who has health issues is supposed to be OPEN about it is. I don't know if ''for better and for worse'' contracted under deceit is valid. Any man or lady who deceives another person into marital union (hiding health issues) deserves to be properly dealt with in the marriage honestly. As in, i can't just imargine it.

Love covers a multitude of weaknesses, it's possible for a man to find a woman who is willing to marry him despite his pee size or health challenge, so deceit is just not it. If this woman now decides to make the marriage miserable for him, they will say, women are bad.

You have said it all

Guess what, such men gets paid back by the women they deceived

UncleJJ:
Yeah first you have to been rode by:

- an Audi,
- a Mercedes
- an Opel
- a Porsche
- a BMW
- a couple of Chinese cars.

The issue then becomes the tire marks, skid marks and wear and tear that happens after all this.

Do you know how intoxicating the new car scent is?
The plastic coverings affirm that your money was well spent.
The innocence the engine displays, when you throttle down or how it surrenders when you hit the brakes.
The firm car seats, and responsive gears . The pride and bragging rights that low mileage affords you.

No man in his right senses would prefer a tokunbo vehicle over a brand new car; regardless of his pocket "size" or experience.

After you dealt with most ladies, you now realised that, virgins are chassis

You need to be a virgin to be able to boast of it

sisisioge:


Sorry sis, most of the guys asking you to wait until after you've married them have things to hide. Things like: undersized peepee, errectile dysfunction, incompetence bedroom skills, mismatched libidos and other faults in their hardware that for better for worse won't give you the chance to redress. That's why they want virgin girls who can't tell the difference between their China products and correct German machines as she had no prior experience to juxtapose .

As a matter of fact, to reduce untoward disappointments here and there, every man with any hardware issues should do all he could to marry a virgin as they have no reference for comparison while every non virgin girl should ensure she knows what she's getting into before signing the deal. Issue resolved.

You are absolutely right

Most and I mean a big number of men with small joy sticks, go for Virgins

They know why and you will think they are proud getting married to a virgin, no ❗ ❗ ❗

They have their secret reason

Yustash001:
The fact that it didn't work for you doesn't mean it won't work for others....

Forget it, it doesn't work well in all cases

Most times, the women bears it all