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Folade2020:
Thanks for the suggestion . I appreciate it.

Get there first

Relax and get settled

Don't be in a hurry, take a survey out and make your visibility study

Don't be supprise to discover that there are other things to pick from

Once you make up your mind, go for training like one month to three months to understand the trade

Every business has its own secret and until you learn about it you won't get it right

Kuns84:
I'm a medical doctor by profession and completed my residency over a year ago. However, I'm currently frustrated with the state of things in this country. I work endlessly, shuffling between a public hospital here in Lagos as well as also doing some consulting on the side in a private hospital – all to make ends meet.

Many of my fellow medical practitioners have relocated abroad and are all doing tremendously well for themselves earning fat salaries. My friends have tirelessly encouraged me to also make that move but for the past 3 years now, I’ve be peddling a lie that I’m 'comfortable' here in Nigeria. What many don’t know is that MY WIFE is the main reason why I’ve not been able to even attempt the exams not to talk of passing and eventually relocating.

Her reasons?

I have an elder brother who currently lives in the UK – he’s an engineer doing incredibly well for himself. He is married to a fellow Nigerian who is a naturalised citizen abroad but here’s the problem, my wife cannot stand the thought of moving to the UK because of an ongoing issue with my brother’s wife. I can’t go into much detail lest I digress, but my wife has always had this inferiority complex that my sister in-law will look down on her because she was raised abroad and comes from a wealthy home. These two have never gotten along from the very beginning and things have deteriorated to the point that this has affected my relationship with my bro. I personally like my brother’s wife, she’s an intelligent and down to earth lady and we got along so well until I met and married my wife. My brother and I have both tried to get our wives to reconcile but to no avail and now that I could potentially move abroad, this matter has been a major stumbling block affecting my ability to forge ahead in life.

Every time I try to talk sense into my wife, she flares up and refuses to admit the truth, rather she’d claim that her reasons for not wanting to move abroad is because “the grass isn’t greener on the other side”, “people are suffering abroad”, “she’s comfortable with her job here in Nigeria” etc.. but deep down we both know that she doesn’t want to give my sister-in law the satisfaction of seeing us move to the UK for a better life – coupled with the fact that we might have to squat with them for a while before finding my feet.

I am depressed but do a fantastic job at hiding it but the truth is, It breaks my heart every time yet another colleague of mine relocates abroad with his family and then tells me of how conformable life is over there and how much doctors are being paid – it’s not that I’m jealous, I genuinely feel happy for my guys, but just can’t help but feel stuck and unfulfilled with how things are going in my career and personal life.

So you allowed your self to be brain washed and manipulated by a woman, am not surprise

Once something is not to a woman favour, she doesn't allow it to work out

Now to your Complain, if you keep seeking approval from your wife before you will make plans to relocate, then you are not a man but a push over

You already know thst your wife has low self esteem and she is intimidated by your sister in law, that shows you how low she is

Pls go ahead and make pals to relocate, besides you ought to get there first, get settled before bringing her over there and if you get there and get settled she doesn't want to be with you, then that's a good way if dropping her and picking someone who is ready to unite your family

Another important thing, pls renew your relationship with your brother and his wife especially

Trust her, if you don't reconcile with your sister in law, she will make you uncomfortable in her house for the period you will squart with them

Don't make your wife a topic of discussion where they are, you will expose her timidity the more

Start making move and once you ate set to leave, you inform her but that will be after your have bought your ticked and about 24hrs to leave the country

By then it will be too late to react, if she wants to cry let her cry tears doesn't kill

Keep relationship with your brother and his wife a good level because if tomorrow

If your wife wants let her join the relationship ban and if she doesn't want let her be left alone

But if you chose to keep pretending that you are OK before your friends who will be willing to help you, it will get to a stage they will drop you and help others by then even your wife will make living hell for you at home

As a medical personnel, you know what depression means

JewelDiamond:
You make a comment they don't like. They will start calling your father and mother as if they are the ones that told you to write it. Is it that they lack manners or just frustrated by the kind of parents they have. I just don't understand. [color=#990000][/color]

They won't abuse you because it will not hurt you the way it will if they insult your parents

So they will extend the insult to your parents to hurt you the more

This is lovely, how can one get in contact with you ❓

mtngloetiartel:
Pls help me. I had done the registration online. The only document sent to me was like a receipt of my payment. Since then, I had not heard anything else from them. The date I choosed is 25th of this month. Am worried if there is anything else I need to do, take along or whatever before, and on that day. Please share me some enlightenment. Thanks so much

You processed online and made payment, you expect it to get to final approval without you going there to sort things out a get a date and time fixed

You are not yet ready for it

Go there and do a follow up, if you like go empty pocket that's when you will know why the delay

damesilver:
It's been more than 4 years now we have been battling with bedbug infestation at home. Even at school or other places a member of the family moves to they follow.

Several methods have been employed yet they do not go. Whoever has experienced bedbugs would know that these little creature are as deadly as Boko Haram.

They aim for your blood, hide in dark places and crevices. They disrupt your sleep, your life and you begin to live in perpetual fear. This is serious.

I've tried the traditional science of taking some live bugs to the market, yet doesn't work. A lot of money has been spent on Sniper, DD force, etc, despite that they come with their attendant health consequences due to exposure.

Please help oh..

Fumigate your apartment every four weeks for good three months and you won't see any

Even if their eggs survives, its worst than three survived life ones

Get your neighbours to fumigate too because them move in walls to any where they want and just one is enough to multiply in the whole house

They are hermaphrodites so they have both sexual organs that's why one can breed the whole world

Horlartunes:
Hi guys, so me and my friends were discussing about lifestyle and relationships etc and one mentioned that am a loud guy

So this got me confused what does it mean
How can I stop or change it.

Being lousy is another way if say that you are not cultured.

Are you a talkative, are you always making arguments with every little topic

Do you always challenge issues that requires you to talk with manner

Are you alway making noise, I mean unnecessary noise in the mist of friends

Then drop all the above mentioned, these are attributes of a lousy person

Gentle men don't behave so, real men are calm and calculated and talk less

ajalawole:
thanks. the problem here is the nurse in our compound, she was the one who invite her, that same nurse invite me too. am not up to two years now in this apartment. Have try to explain things to her. my anger is even on the nurse, why can't she mind her own business.

The nurse here is nit really the issue, any one can invite any body

It's the way the invited responds that's the issue

Is your wife a push over ir you don't have firm grip on her

ajalawole:
I recently did my introduction last December and plan doing my white wedding June or July. my wife to be have been staying with me since after our introduction, we are both Christian thought am not that a religious person and from same village, I would have let her stay in the village till after our wedding, but I get her a job where am base and she resume since January. am an optical laboratory technician and she is into teaching. the issue here is that am not use to going to church due to my busy work, but anytime am home on Sunday I make sure I follow some live Sunday service on my GoTv. a neighbour(who invite me to her church last year, but I decline the offer cuz I have my own church) in my compound invite her to there church last month, and my wife to be has been going to that church every Saturday morning and sunday thereby forgetting some of her duty which am not comfortable with. I seat her down and talk to her that we can be going to my church together every Sunday, but she often get upset about that. am not comfortable going to desperate churches, thought I know I don't go to church every Sunday. Holiness is from the heart. please how can I handle this issue

She just moved down to you and nit yet settled down, a neighbour already introduced a church to her and, she us already committed and faithful

Doesn't she have a mind of her own ❓

Despite all you told her, she is defiant about it, hmmm

If you don't know how to give instructions in your home and watch it being obeyed, then you don't have a firm grip of your future home

In Sunday, prepare for church and let her prepare to follow you, if she refuses and goes to that same church, by this Easter break, prepare her to go visit home

When she gets to her family, speak with her parents and tell them for now, she should stay with them because you can't leave with her because of her disobedience

Simple

If they ask you what happened, tell them to ask her, she will explain better

They will call to plead and you will have to let them know that, you cant tolerate disobedience from her and for now, the marriage plans coming up has been suspended

Take a stand and be firm, the hand you give your wife from day one is the hand she will follow

If you are a weakly, sorry you have gone

Love and appreciate your wife as a man and carry out your duty at home so that when you talk, your words must
be respected

If possible don't pick her calls, all this will prove to her that you have a mind of your own

Couples going to different churches in marriage creates doubt and trust and you can't real pray together as a family because every one has its own belief. Unless it's two different religion then you guys must have discussed how or will be and who the children will follow, of course they will follow mum

Engrgreg231:
Good evening pals I have this issue bothering me for quite a while now now let me explain to us what happened because your advice is highly needed I was into a relationship with this girl on campus fortunately she got pregnant for me and gave birth but the problem here is my mom doesn't like her simply because she visited some seers whom told her we aren't compatible that the future is not bright for us I am totally confused about the whole issue and we are from different states the only thing I observed about her at times is that she could be stubborn

Every one is stubborn in his or her on way and can only manifest when it doesn't get favoured

Keep dating her if you really love and understands her

With time you will be able to understand if she worths being your wife and if you are ready to accommodate her for life

Being pregnant is not the jamb exam to get admitted into a relationship, passing the post utme, which is her attitude is what will give her the choice of course to study that's is being in the marriage

There are no sweet marriage it all depends on how you can cope when the harmattan of

Davash222:
Every Nigerian girl is stubborn, so don’t use stubborn as an excuse to disembark from your responsibility.

What makes you think that every Nigeria girl is stubborn ❓

When the men are difficult, how do you expect the girls to fit in

plugchef:
Hi Guyz, I am about to upgrade to a smart TV with a budget of 150k, i don't mind a 55'' television. kindly suggest a tested and trusted tv brand.
Thank you.

Admin front page please. I can't afford to be returning television for repairs every week.

Go for LG, you won't regret, especially if you buys it from Fouani the sole importer and distributors of LG products

Your question about sickness and health works better in situations where thean really prove himself by taking care if his home amd loving his wife

No woman will leave such a man

Those men that think they are enjoying themselves and keeping more than one wife

You get your reward at old age not now

One wife and her children will be with you in thick and thin

Knowing fully well that you were there for their mum

But more than one wife, every child knows that you are not faithful to them or their mum, the woman will succeed in telling the kids she does all because you refuse to take care of them because of the other woman

You know what, at old age, that's when you will know how women and children are united

Asquare84:
It hard to keep, I am guilty of this

Because you want to be the man that can't keep one wife

It's your choice anyway

NextD18:
Women are like properties to men.

And there's nothing wrong with a man buying another property to add to his already gotten one.

The only thing women as a property should be praying for is for the owner to keep maintaining and taking care of it.

Nothing else!

Your mi d set is very poor and am glad you have sisters whom you have assumed to be a bought property by am man who wants to invest into properties and you will have daughters whom investors will come for their hand and buy them as properties

Mymynd4u:
Married fellow pls come in bcox this has been troubling mi.. Can a man keep one wife and not cheat at all? Despite cheap beautiful girls all around, can a man be faithful to one woman??

Being faithful and responsible to your marriage is a decision you have chosen to make not because others are doing it or because it can't be done

If you chose to love your wife, face your family, over look other women outside, no one can influence you over it

Marriage is for well prepared mind

As we have female single parents so we have the same exact number of male single parents

A female single parents is as a result of a male single parent

Most third class students read through to get such position and you know the Nigeria education system, if you do what us expected of you, you will get a first class, but you may not be able to defend it when you get to the open market

Most third class got what they can defend

GreatResearcher:
Once a happy and lively fellow. Now moody. Lost interest in most things. No appetite for food. Everything around me disgusts me. Future seems blink. Dreams broken.

Any uptil now,you can't quote exactly what is wrong with you for us to know

How then do you want us to talk heart to heart with you ❓

InDistress:
My dad is a very conservative man and will be broken if I leave. My younger sister left her husband for same infidelity and my parents haven't heard the last of it from neighbours and gossips. I don't wantbtonput them through emotional stress. My husband's elder brother separated from his wife over 30yrs ago over infidelity and all tgeir children amounted to nothing, I feel scared for my kids.

You are giving me the impression that you are leaving for others

Forget about her they will feel, your happiness is being tampared and you are here considering how they will feel

OK keep lamenting if you can't take action

slimjohn2k5:
All I am trying to say is that you fast and pray against the spirit of womanizing

So she should fast and pray for an idiot, what do you expect her to do when she needs God attention on her and the children

She should chanel her prayers to her and the children and leave that beast to suffer what he brought upon himself

InDistress:
Please I want reasonable opinion from responsible people.

I got married 12years ago and have 3 kids. His elder brother is a family friend and my dad knows their family quite well, especially his older siblings.
He does not live in the country but visits 4 times a year, during those visits, he spends about a month or two. Before someone says I Married him for money, I didn't. As at the time we got married he had NOTHING, in fact he was sharing a 2bedroom flat with his elder sister in a remote part of Lagos and drives a rickety Audi, but he was this type of person that wants to be seen as a multi millionaire, he is so desperate to put out a certain public image. Yes he is doing quite well now, but he isnt rich.
During the haydays of the marriage, as at then, camera phones were not rampant, so I picked up his Sony camera when he came back from abroad just to view pictures, then I saw him in a 3some, in fact it was an òrgy because I could hear other people's voices in the video. I confronted him about it and he begged. Later i also found out that he was sleeping with his secretary in Nigeria. It was on Valentine's day that year, I begged this man to stay home so we can celebrate valentine at home, but he refused asking me if valentine is the food we will eat, but I had a hunch and decided to go to his office only to see him sharing a bottle of red wine with his secretary and some other people. He later didn't come home that day as he said he went to the island to see a business partner and was stuck in traffic so he decided to sleep at his business partners. But i later saw his chat and it happemed that he lodged in a hotel with the secretary to placate her for me coming to the office.
Recently I called him when he travelled to the village, but he didn't know we didn't hang up the call and I heard him propositioning a hooker. I confronted him and he got defensive. So I decided to hack his whatsapp. It was then I found out tgat this man is the most irresponsible man alive. I saw a chat with a Tanzanian girl he met on flight and he booked a two-way ticket for this girl to come and meet him in Dubai. What broke my heart the most was that he told me he had an urgent deal and had to travel to his country of residence. Last Thursday, he told me he was going to for a friends childnaming ceremony, I asked to go with him and he declined only for me to see his chat where he was booking a hooker to go with him. I also saw his chat where he was telling one to come and meet him at an upscale hotel in my area where the least room is 35k. The girl asked if they accept short rest there, he said that he will pay full and the girl can stay back to rest afterwards. But whenever you ask this man for money fornhomekeeping ,he will say there's no money tgat business is bad.
Recently we started a building project in the village and I committed almost 4m of my own money (My mom warned me not to try it). We already have a 3b3droom apartment in same compound but we are building a bigger one now. Instead of him to be sleeping there, he opted to stay in a hotel for over two weeks. We agreed he should be as discrete as possible when he goes for the project, but this man packed 2 other tagalongs and paid for their rooms too where they were taking pròstitutes.
Everytime, he will say there is no money. When travelling, he will drop 15k for me and 4kids while he pays his hookers as much as 50k, in fact there is one he is paying her houserent. I contacted one and she said she asked him for assistance for her sick child, and he said he will only help if they have sex and he paid her 30k , all these while the children's fees have not been paid.
He keeps very irresponsible and backward thinking friends who empower his behaviour. I saw a chat where he and his friend were passing around a particular hooker. The funny thing is that before he has 5 lines of chatbwith these girls, they start bringing all their family problems and he will ask for account number.
Currently, I have herpes and the gynecologist said it's untreatable, I confronted my husband and he denied any wrong doing. Ever since I Married this man, heaven knows that no man has ever come close to my body. I always saw packs of antibiotics in his car but I never knew he was always popping them after having unprotected sex withbtge hookers. Every part of the country he visits, he has a load of callgirls at his beckand call.
I feels so used and heartbroken because I have dedicated my entire being to make this marriage work. Sometimes I go on days of fasting for this man whenever he has a downturn in his business, but I never knew he was the one invalidating the prayers with his waywardness. He goes about telling his whòres that he isnt married. One of them I contacted told me that he is a serial womanizer and never uses protection.
Before anyone ask me what I bring tontge table, I own a flourishing business. I can afford to travel to Dubai to bring my wares. Yes he started the business for me, but that's just it and that was 10yrs ago. I'm tired of this man, whenever I see him I start feeling murderous. But I do not want another person raising my kids. I feel terribly sad.

Pls I will beg you to relax before you do or take a decision you will not be happy with

For now stop contributing to the building project and face your children pls

Fight him from now till the end of the year, he will not change until something terrible that will teach him a lesson happens to him

Just face your children and family if you can't pack out

Any sex from him, you must use protective, if he refuses to put on a condom, no sex, start from that

Let it be known to you now thst he is clueless about you and your children so forget about him and stop reading his messages or chats it hurts anytime you find out about his escapedes

If you over look him amd his clueless attitude, you will be happier than the fun he is having outside

If he becomes violent, walk out alive

Start saving because of tomorrow

You only live once (YOLO)

TONYE001:
It's either you didn't read the OP's post completely or you didn't understand it.

Kindly read again and change your opinion. It's just unfair to her after she has spent all energy and time explaining this much.

So who told you that hypertitise B is now sexual transmitted, hmmm

Plead:
Tales by moonlight

He is the architect of his own bad life not his family because his dick is with him and not with his family

If that same dick gets sterile or impotent, he will humble himself

Pearl05:
Just sell the man

Who. Will buy a loofer like him, even ritualists will not get anything from him unless they want to use him ams get more girls

xendra:
you have obviously accepted this cross, as all the signs were there from the beginning and are still glaring; so why complain now stay and continue to suffer so that people wont talk, or leave and feel free no matter what haters say. the choice and decision remains yours

Why are you talking like this, would she had loved to have a man as irresponsible as he is

Who ever cares what people will say if your marriage brakes up, are you there for them

The more you care about what people say about you, the more you lose your happiness

InDistress:
Please I want reasonable opinion from responsible people.

I got married 12years ago and have 3 kids. His elder brother is a family friend and my dad knows their family quite well, especially his older siblings.
He does not live in the country but visits 4 times a year, during those visits, he spends about a month or two. Before someone says I Married him for money, I didn't. As at the time we got married he had NOTHING, in fact he was sharing a 2bedroom flat with his elder sister in a remote part of Lagos and drives a rickety Audi, but he was this type of person that wants to be seen as a multi millionaire, he is so desperate to put out a certain public image. Yes he is doing quite well now, but he isnt rich.
During the haydays of the marriage, as at then, camera phones were not rampant, so I picked up his Sony camera when he came back from abroad just to view pictures, then I saw him in a 3some, in fact it was an òrgy because I could hear other people's voices in the video. I confronted him about it and he begged. Later i also found out that he was sleeping with his secretary in Nigeria. It was on Valentine's day that year, I begged this man to stay home so we can celebrate valentine at home, but he refused asking me if valentine is the food we will eat, but I had a hunch and decided to go to his office only to see him sharing a bottle of red wine with his secretary and some other people. He later didn't come home that day as he said he went to the island to see a business partner and was stuck in traffic so he decided to sleep at his business partners. But i later saw his chat and it happemed that he lodged in a hotel with the secretary to placate her for me coming to the office.
Recently I called him when he travelled to the village, but he didn't know we didn't hang up the call and I heard him propositioning a hooker. I confronted him and he got defensive. So I decided to hack his whatsapp. It was then I found out tgat this man is the most irresponsible man alive. I saw a chat with a Tanzanian girl he met on flight and he booked a two-way ticket for this girl to come and meet him in Dubai. What broke my heart the most was that he told me he had an urgent deal and had to travel to his country of residence. Last Thursday, he told me he was going to for a friends childnaming ceremony, I asked to go with him and he declined only for me to see his chat where he was booking a hooker to go with him. I also saw his chat where he was telling one to come and meet him at an upscale hotel in my area where the least room is 35k. The girl asked if they accept short rest there, he said that he will pay full and the girl can stay back to rest afterwards. But whenever you ask this man for money fornhomekeeping ,he will say there's no money tgat business is bad.
Recently we started a building project in the village and I committed almost 4m of my own money (My mom warned me not to try it). We already have a 3b3droom apartment in same compound but we are building a bigger one now. Instead of him to be sleeping there, he opted to stay in a hotel for over two weeks. We agreed he should be as discrete as possible when he goes for the project, but this man packed 2 other tagalongs and paid for their rooms too where they were taking pròstitutes.
Everytime, he will say there is no money. When travelling, he will drop 15k for me and 4kids while he pays his hookers as much as 50k, in fact there is one he is paying her houserent. I contacted one and she said she asked him for assistance for her sick child, and he said he will only help if they have sex and he paid her 30k , all these while the children's fees have not been paid.
He keeps very irresponsible and backward thinking friends who empower his behaviour. I saw a chat where he and his friend were passing around a particular hooker. The funny thing is that before he has 5 lines of chatbwith these girls, they start bringing all their family problems and he will ask for account number.
Currently, I have herpes and the gynecologist said it's untreatable, I confronted my husband and he denied any wrong doing. Ever since I Married this man, heaven knows that no man has ever come close to my body. I always saw packs of antibiotics in his car but I never knew he was always popping them after having unprotected sex withbtge hookers. Every part of the country he visits, he has a load of callgirls at his beckand call.
I feels so used and heartbroken because I have dedicated my entire being to make this marriage work. Sometimes I go on days of fasting for this man whenever he has a downturn in his business, but I never knew he was the one invalidating the prayers with his waywardness. He goes about telling his whòres that he isnt married. One of them I contacted told me that he is a serial womanizer and never uses protection.
Before anyone ask me what I bring tontge table, I own a flourishing business. I can afford to travel to Dubai to bring my wares. Yes he started the business for me, but that's just it and that was 10yrs ago. I'm tired of this man, whenever I see him I start feeling murderous. But I do not want another person raising my kids. I feel terribly sad.

Pls I will beg you to relax before you do or take a decision you will not be happy with

For now stop contributing to the building project and face your children pls

Fight him from now till the end of the year, he will not change until something terrible that will teach him a lesson happens to him

Just face your children and family if you can't pack out

Any sex from him, you must use protective, if he refuses to put on a condom, no sex, start from that

Let it be known to you now thst he is clueless about you and your children so forget about him and stop reading his messages or chats it hurts anytime you find out about his escapedes

If you over look him amd his clueless attitude, you will be happier than the fun he is having outside

If he becomes violent, walk out alive

Start saving because of tomorrow

You only live once (YOLO)

TONYE001:
It's either you didn't read the OP's post completely or you didn't understand it.

Kindly read again and change your opinion. It's just unfair to her after she has spent all energy and time explaining this much.

So who told you that hypertitise B is now sexual transmitted, hmmm

Plead:
Tales by moonlight

He is the architect of his own bad life not his family because his dick is with him and not with his family

If that same dick gets sterile or impotent, he will humble himself

Pearl05:
Just sell the man

Who. Will buy a loofer like him, even ritualists will not get anything from him unless they want to use him ams get more girls

InDistress:
Please I want reasonable opinion from responsible people.

I got married 12years ago and have 3 kids. His elder brother is a family friend and my dad knows their family quite well, especially his older siblings.
He does not live in the country but visits 4 times a year, during those visits, he spends about a month or two. Before someone says I Married him for money, I didn't. As at the time we got married he had NOTHING, in fact he was sharing a 2bedroom flat with his elder sister in a remote part of Lagos and drives a rickety Audi, but he was this type of person that wants to be seen as a multi millionaire, he is so desperate to put out a certain public image. Yes he is doing quite well now, but he isnt rich.
During the haydays of the marriage, as at then, camera phones were not rampant, so I picked up his Sony camera when he came back from abroad just to view pictures, then I saw him in a 3some, in fact it was an òrgy because I could hear other people's voices in the video. I confronted him about it and he begged. Later i also found out that he was sleeping with his secretary in Nigeria. It was on Valentine's day that year, I begged this man to stay home so we can celebrate valentine at home, but he refused asking me if valentine is the food we will eat, but I had a hunch and decided to go to his office only to see him sharing a bottle of red wine with his secretary and some other people. He later didn't come home that day as he said he went to the island to see a business partner and was stuck in traffic so he decided to sleep at his business partners. But i later saw his chat and it happemed that he lodged in a hotel with the secretary to placate her for me coming to the office.
Recently I called him when he travelled to the village, but he didn't know we didn't hang up the call and I heard him propositioning a hooker. I confronted him and he got defensive. So I decided to hack his whatsapp. It was then I found out tgat this man is the most irresponsible man alive. I saw a chat with a Tanzanian girl he met on flight and he booked a two-way ticket for this girl to come and meet him in Dubai. What broke my heart the most was that he told me he had an urgent deal and had to travel to his country of residence. Last Thursday, he told me he was going to for a friends childnaming ceremony, I asked to go with him and he declined only for me to see his chat where he was booking a hooker to go with him. I also saw his chat where he was telling one to come and meet him at an upscale hotel in my area where the least room is 35k. The girl asked if they accept short rest there, he said that he will pay full and the girl can stay back to rest afterwards. But whenever you ask this man for money fornhomekeeping ,he will say there's no money tgat business is bad.
Recently we started a building project in the village and I committed almost 4m of my own money (My mom warned me not to try it). We already have a 3b3droom apartment in same compound but we are building a bigger one now. Instead of him to be sleeping there, he opted to stay in a hotel for over two weeks. We agreed he should be as discrete as possible when he goes for the project, but this man packed 2 other tagalongs and paid for their rooms too where they were taking pròstitutes.
Everytime, he will say there is no money. When travelling, he will drop 15k for me and 4kids while he pays his hookers as much as 50k, in fact there is one he is paying her houserent. I contacted one and she said she asked him for assistance for her sick child, and he said he will only help if they have sex and he paid her 30k , all these while the children's fees have not been paid.
He keeps very irresponsible and backward thinking friends who empower his behaviour. I saw a chat where he and his friend were passing around a particular hooker. The funny thing is that before he has 5 lines of chatbwith these girls, they start bringing all their family problems and he will ask for account number.
Currently, I have herpes and the gynecologist said it's untreatable, I confronted my husband and he denied any wrong doing. Ever since I Married this man, heaven knows that no man has ever come close to my body. I always saw packs of antibiotics in his car but I never knew he was always popping them after having unprotected sex withbtge hookers. Every part of the country he visits, he has a load of callgirls at his beckand call.
I feels so used and heartbroken because I have dedicated my entire being to make this marriage work. Sometimes I go on days of fasting for this man whenever he has a downturn in his business, but I never knew he was the one invalidating the prayers with his waywardness. He goes about telling his whòres that he isnt married. One of them I contacted told me that he is a serial womanizer and never uses protection.
Before anyone ask me what I bring tontge table, I own a flourishing business. I can afford to travel to Dubai to bring my wares. Yes he started the business for me, but that's just it and that was 10yrs ago. I'm tired of this man, whenever I see him I start feeling murderous. But I do not want another person raising my kids. I feel terribly sad.

Pls I will beg you to relax before you do or take a decision you will not be happy with

For now stop contributing to the building project and face your children pls

Fight him from now till the end of the year, he will not change until something terrible that will teach him a lesson happens to him

Just face your children and family if you can't pack out

Any sex from him, you must use protective, if he refuses to put on a condom, no sex, start from that

Let it be known to you now thst he is clueless about you and your children so forget about him and stop reading his messages or chats it hurts anytime you find out about his escapedes

If you over look him amd his clueless attitude, you will be happier than the fun he is having outside

If he becomes violent, walk out alive

Start saving because of tomorrow

You only live once (YOLO)

TONYE001:
It's either you didn't read the OP's post completely or you didn't understand it.

Kindly read again and change your opinion. It's just unfair to her after she has spent all energy and time explaining this much.

So who told you that hypertitise B is now sexual transmitted, hmmm

Plead:
Tales by moonlight

He is the architect of his own bad life not his family because his dick is with him and not with his family

If that same dick gets sterile or impotent, he will humble himself

InDistress:
Please I want reasonable opinion from responsible people.

I got married 12years ago and have 3 kids. His elder brother is a family friend and my dad knows their family quite well, especially his older siblings.
He does not live in the country but visits 4 times a year, during those visits, he spends about a month or two. Before someone says I Married him for money, I didn't. As at the time we got married he had NOTHING, in fact he was sharing a 2bedroom flat with his elder sister in a remote part of Lagos and drives a rickety Audi, but he was this type of person that wants to be seen as a multi millionaire, he is so desperate to put out a certain public image. Yes he is doing quite well now, but he isnt rich.
During the haydays of the marriage, as at then, camera phones were not rampant, so I picked up his Sony camera when he came back from abroad just to view pictures, then I saw him in a 3some, in fact it was an òrgy because I could hear other people's voices in the video. I confronted him about it and he begged. Later i also found out that he was sleeping with his secretary in Nigeria. It was on Valentine's day that year, I begged this man to stay home so we can celebrate valentine at home, but he refused asking me if valentine is the food we will eat, but I had a hunch and decided to go to his office only to see him sharing a bottle of red wine with his secretary and some other people. He later didn't come home that day as he said he went to the island to see a business partner and was stuck in traffic so he decided to sleep at his business partners. But i later saw his chat and it happemed that he lodged in a hotel with the secretary to placate her for me coming to the office.
Recently I called him when he travelled to the village, but he didn't know we didn't hang up the call and I heard him propositioning a hooker. I confronted him and he got defensive. So I decided to hack his whatsapp. It was then I found out tgat this man is the most irresponsible man alive. I saw a chat with a Tanzanian girl he met on flight and he booked a two-way ticket for this girl to come and meet him in Dubai. What broke my heart the most was that he told me he had an urgent deal and had to travel to his country of residence. Last Thursday, he told me he was going to for a friends childnaming ceremony, I asked to go with him and he declined only for me to see his chat where he was booking a hooker to go with him. I also saw his chat where he was telling one to come and meet him at an upscale hotel in my area where the least room is 35k. The girl asked if they accept short rest there, he said that he will pay full and the girl can stay back to rest afterwards. But whenever you ask this man for money fornhomekeeping ,he will say there's no money tgat business is bad.
Recently we started a building project in the village and I committed almost 4m of my own money (My mom warned me not to try it). We already have a 3b3droom apartment in same compound but we are building a bigger one now. Instead of him to be sleeping there, he opted to stay in a hotel for over two weeks. We agreed he should be as discrete as possible when he goes for the project, but this man packed 2 other tagalongs and paid for their rooms too where they were taking pròstitutes.
Everytime, he will say there is no money. When travelling, he will drop 15k for me and 4kids while he pays his hookers as much as 50k, in fact there is one he is paying her houserent. I contacted one and she said she asked him for assistance for her sick child, and he said he will only help if they have sex and he paid her 30k , all these while the children's fees have not been paid.
He keeps very irresponsible and backward thinking friends who empower his behaviour. I saw a chat where he and his friend were passing around a particular hooker. The funny thing is that before he has 5 lines of chatbwith these girls, they start bringing all their family problems and he will ask for account number.
Currently, I have herpes and the gynecologist said it's untreatable, I confronted my husband and he denied any wrong doing. Ever since I Married this man, heaven knows that no man has ever come close to my body. I always saw packs of antibiotics in his car but I never knew he was always popping them after having unprotected sex withbtge hookers. Every part of the country he visits, he has a load of callgirls at his beckand call.
I feels so used and heartbroken because I have dedicated my entire being to make this marriage work. Sometimes I go on days of fasting for this man whenever he has a downturn in his business, but I never knew he was the one invalidating the prayers with his waywardness. He goes about telling his whòres that he isnt married. One of them I contacted told me that he is a serial womanizer and never uses protection.
Before anyone ask me what I bring tontge table, I own a flourishing business. I can afford to travel to Dubai to bring my wares. Yes he started the business for me, but that's just it and that was 10yrs ago. I'm tired of this man, whenever I see him I start feeling murderous. But I do not want another person raising my kids. I feel terribly sad.

Pls I will beg you to relax before you do or take a decision you will not be happy with

For now stop contributing to the building project and face your children pls

Fight him from now till the end of the year, he will not change until something terrible that will teach him a lesson happens to him

Just face your children and family if you can't pack out

Any sex from him, you must use protective, if he refuses to put on a condom, no sex, start from that

Let it be known to you now thst he is clueless about you and your children so forget about him and stop reading his messages or chats it hurts anytime you find out about his escapedes

If you over look him amd his clueless attitude, you will be happier than the fun he is having outside

If he becomes violent, walk out alive

Start saving because of tomorrow

You only live once (YOLO)

TONYE001:
It's either you didn't read the OP's post completely or you didn't understand it.

Kindly read again and change your opinion. It's just unfair to her after she has spent all energy and time explaining this much.

So who told you that hypertitise B is now sexual transmitted, hmmm

InDistress:
Please I want reasonable opinion from responsible people.

I got married 12years ago and have 3 kids. His elder brother is a family friend and my dad knows their family quite well, especially his older siblings.
He does not live in the country but visits 4 times a year, during those visits, he spends about a month or two. Before someone says I Married him for money, I didn't. As at the time we got married he had NOTHING, in fact he was sharing a 2bedroom flat with his elder sister in a remote part of Lagos and drives a rickety Audi, but he was this type of person that wants to be seen as a multi millionaire, he is so desperate to put out a certain public image. Yes he is doing quite well now, but he isnt rich.
During the haydays of the marriage, as at then, camera phones were not rampant, so I picked up his Sony camera when he came back from abroad just to view pictures, then I saw him in a 3some, in fact it was an òrgy because I could hear other people's voices in the video. I confronted him about it and he begged. Later i also found out that he was sleeping with his secretary in Nigeria. It was on Valentine's day that year, I begged this man to stay home so we can celebrate valentine at home, but he refused asking me if valentine is the food we will eat, but I had a hunch and decided to go to his office only to see him sharing a bottle of red wine with his secretary and some other people. He later didn't come home that day as he said he went to the island to see a business partner and was stuck in traffic so he decided to sleep at his business partners. But i later saw his chat and it happemed that he lodged in a hotel with the secretary to placate her for me coming to the office.
Recently I called him when he travelled to the village, but he didn't know we didn't hang up the call and I heard him propositioning a hooker. I confronted him and he got defensive. So I decided to hack his whatsapp. It was then I found out tgat this man is the most irresponsible man alive. I saw a chat with a Tanzanian girl he met on flight and he booked a two-way ticket for this girl to come and meet him in Dubai. What broke my heart the most was that he told me he had an urgent deal and had to travel to his country of residence. Last Thursday, he told me he was going to for a friends childnaming ceremony, I asked to go with him and he declined only for me to see his chat where he was booking a hooker to go with him. I also saw his chat where he was telling one to come and meet him at an upscale hotel in my area where the least room is 35k. The girl asked if they accept short rest there, he said that he will pay full and the girl can stay back to rest afterwards. But whenever you ask this man for money fornhomekeeping ,he will say there's no money tgat business is bad.
Recently we started a building project in the village and I committed almost 4m of my own money (My mom warned me not to try it). We already have a 3b3droom apartment in same compound but we are building a bigger one now. Instead of him to be sleeping there, he opted to stay in a hotel for over two weeks. We agreed he should be as discrete as possible when he goes for the project, but this man packed 2 other tagalongs and paid for their rooms too where they were taking pròstitutes.
Everytime, he will say there is no money. When travelling, he will drop 15k for me and 4kids while he pays his hookers as much as 50k, in fact there is one he is paying her houserent. I contacted one and she said she asked him for assistance for her sick child, and he said he will only help if they have sex and he paid her 30k , all these while the children's fees have not been paid.
He keeps very irresponsible and backward thinking friends who empower his behaviour. I saw a chat where he and his friend were passing around a particular hooker. The funny thing is that before he has 5 lines of chatbwith these girls, they start bringing all their family problems and he will ask for account number.
Currently, I have herpes and the gynecologist said it's untreatable, I confronted my husband and he denied any wrong doing. Ever since I Married this man, heaven knows that no man has ever come close to my body. I always saw packs of antibiotics in his car but I never knew he was always popping them after having unprotected sex withbtge hookers. Every part of the country he visits, he has a load of callgirls at his beckand call.
I feels so used and heartbroken because I have dedicated my entire being to make this marriage work. Sometimes I go on days of fasting for this man whenever he has a downturn in his business, but I never knew he was the one invalidating the prayers with his waywardness. He goes about telling his whòres that he isnt married. One of them I contacted told me that he is a serial womanizer and never uses protection.
Before anyone ask me what I bring tontge table, I own a flourishing business. I can afford to travel to Dubai to bring my wares. Yes he started the business for me, but that's just it and that was 10yrs ago. I'm tired of this man, whenever I see him I start feeling murderous. But I do not want another person raising my kids. I feel terribly sad.

Pls I will beg you to relax before you do or take a decision you will not be happy with

For now stop contributing to the building project and face your children pls

Fight him from now till the end of the year, he will not change until something terrible that will teach him a lesson happens to him

Just face your children and family if you can't pack out

Any sex from him, you must use protective, if he refuses to put on a condom, no sex, start from that

Let it be known to you now thst he is clueless about you and your children so forget about him and stop reading his messages or chats it hurts anytime you find out about his escapedes

If you over look him amd his clueless attitude, you will be happier than the fun he is having outside

If he becomes violent, walk out alive

Start saving because of tomorrow

You only live once (YOLO)

nairafamedotcom:
https://punchng.com/man-kills-sibling-for-bringing-parrots-home/

Anger has spoilt many things several times, yet we refuse to control anger

niqqaclaimz:
What ever they want to do is fine just wanted to know what's going on

Ok

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

Patience is needed in this your case

If really and you are sure other suitors are coming, pick one and settle down if you think you want to settle down now

This guy you are talking about, don't rush him, you must exercise full patience to know what he us upto

niqqaclaimz:
Hello guys. Lately I have just been curious to know the fate of Nigerian's outside the country like your friends and family.

The coronavirus issue is just getting out of hand.
Like have some people you know started making plans to coming back to Nigeria's or like how are they surviving out there. Let's discuss about this.

Pls help move this to front page so we can talk about this.

You expect them to relocate home because of corana virus and come and face hardship virus here ❓

They will rather stay there and pray to God for protection than to come and suffer here

Vyvyanvyvy:
I had 2 children. When I got married, my husband had none and accepted them like his own children.

Before marriage, we had discussed about the children living with us after marriage but that couldn’t be possible anymore because we were having financial problem so we couldn’t afford to move to a bigger apartment. We were staying in a room self contain with my daughter while my son was staying with my elder brother and his wife.

Now three years after we had moved to a bigger house still my husband doesn’t want my son to come and live with us. At the moment my son is going through hard times. My sister in law has been maltreating him to an extent that he has been stealing, he was caught and beaten like an animal. My brother said he doesn’t want him in his house again. He wants me to come and collect him.

I pleaded with my husband for me to bring him with us but he said no, he should stay there because he doesn't want him to damage our children. I’m angry at him I stopped talking to him and I don’t know where my son will go because I have no mother no father it’s only my elder brother and kid sister even my sister who is married doesn’t want him. I’m pained and in tears seeing my only son suffering while I’m still alive and I’m helpless to protect him.

Your son can not deny you or leave your life to suffer or leave you to another mother

Your husband can decides to pack out to another woman or even leave the marriage for good

Your son was behaving the way he was behaving because no one has a firm grip on him and he lost it all
He must have been suffering going through difficulties which lead him to start pilfering
He could as well be starved and am sure he has not experience love since you left him there

Pls get your son back to your home before he gets use to wild life and keep watching his behaviour, correct him with love as that's the only way to get him back to his good self

Let your husband react, just keep quiet and plead with him that tomorrow, this child will be you people's hope

If he refuses and insisted on him leaving the house, just keep quiet let him do his worst

You have not given birth to him and the one you have, you are not with him,

Who do you want to impress

Worst case he will pack out that's shows he loves you for what you have