₦airaland Forum

OlawaleBammie:
U re not man enof if u dont know wat to do bro

Exactly

GboyegaD:
Tell them or not, what difference does it make to your relationship? Do you need their approval on if you should marry a single mom or otherwise? Oga, it is your decision to make as you live with the consequences of your decision by yourself.

That's true

madridguy:
If the father of her daughter is still alive, please don't marry her. I know some people will call for my head but i don't care.

Majority of baby mama are still very much attached to their baby father so don't start your life with someone else wife. Shikena

That's not true, circumstances can make a lady to have a child for another man and if it doesn't work out for them, it ends there

They can be communicating because of the child they have

That doesn't mean she is committed to him

Acct2:
Good day, My fellow nairalanders, I have to create this second account for ur advice.
I have a lady I met for some months now, We fell in love with eachother but the problem is that she had a daughter for another man. She's a single mum...should i tell my people about her daughter, because of the way our relationship is moving towards marriage... please I need the house to tell me the implications of hiding it from my people?

Tell your parents about her

Tell your parents about her status with her child

You are the one to leave with her not your parents

If you find peace of mind in her, that's wonderful

Real and true love is difficult to get, so if you are happy with her as a life partner, forget about what your family will say

Just assure them that she is your happiness

rottencorpse:
The best thing to do to them is to throw them into the River Niger... I always wonder when some of our youths will use their time for productive ventures that will better their lives and also better the lives of others. I'll keep on saying it that Nigeria is a zoo and some of us are animals residing in it. NOT PROUDLY NIGERIAN

If you throw them to the river, their families will loose them

Best option is to expel them from school and they will leave to regret it all their lives

borngeologist:
My story might be lengthy with a lot of grammatical blunders.. But my elders Abeg help me just manage read am and advice me because am really confused..

I have a boss who actually loves me. He likes me like a son and he always wants me to go out with him. We are actually very close pal.

There was a day he went out with his girklfriend. I was at home when my phone rang. He told me to bring 3k to where he was with his girlfriend. When I got there he told me to sit down and drink and eat dog meat with them. But I don't eat dog so I only drank one bottle. The lady and I later talked and I left them.

She came to our place this Wednesday. I was inside my room, she was just insisting that she wanted to see me. When I got there, she was just telling me my boss drinks a lot which is quite true but he dosent misbehave. That it is too much. As a guy man I covered up for my boss. And I left her and my boss.

Today we went to her shop. My boss ordered for drink for us. We started drinking. Later I went out, she followed me. We sat together and started talking. She started telling me that If she actually saw me first she would have dated me that she loves me that she doesn't like my boss. I was quite shocked and told her that since she is already dating my boss it is not possible. Then my boss and one of my other colleague with a lady came out and joined us. That was how we started gisting again. I had an important call to pick so I later entered her shop because the outside was noisy. That was how this lady came inside and kissed me. I was really shocked I have to run outside.

My boss and I later left her place for a burial where a friend of his (a lady) invited us to a burial. When I got there this lady started saying she really likes me that she wish she meet me earlier that she would have dated me.. That she really likes me a lot. My boss now jokingly asked me that I want to take all his girls from him. Mind you that my boss girlfriend calls me her husband even people close to her shop call me her husband.. And these ladies are way older than Me..

Please all I need from you guys is advice on what to do cause am confused.

There is also a married lady too that told me she wished she met me earlier that she would have dated me. And other older beautiful ladies. In their early and middle thirties and am just 23.

I don't know what you think about yourself with ladies and women above your age hovering around you

You must have been flashing yourself on them or may be doing the Mr Nice guy stuff with them

I can see that you can't discipline yourself, your boss is watching you and be ready to accept anything that comes out of it

Born2conquer:
If I don’t act FAST, I might lose my sister

She made a mistake marrying this beast and I can’t keep on looking.

Please, what’s the fastest way to institute a divorce in lagos?

Since you did not state exactly what happened, separation is the best option, forget about what people will say, some body must be a topic of discussion

Let your family ask your sister to come home, if she is actually complaining about the marriage as a bitter marriage

It's still too young for her to experience bitterness in marriage

Someone will appreciate her more

Marriage these days, is not a do or die affairs, if its not working out, just walk out alive

When men are frustrated, they vent their anger on their wives

If the man comes for peace, you guys should not be in a hurry to release your sister

I also hope she has a job at hand

It's a 50/50 thing, whatever eksu gives you, take it and rewrite jamb

The devil is not even aware of this

Rest in peace girl

Rot in jail guy

hmonaco:
Source: https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/i-mistakenly-raped-4-yr-old-girl-suspect.html

You will be thrown to prison by mistake

udoekere:
I just received an SMS with my utme score being

English-45
Government-54
Crs-49
Economic-44
Total=192

so what are my chance of getting admission into the university of uyo to study political science

You have a good chance if you can read harder for post UTME your score is OK but post UTME is what will determine your fate

miclef86:
I met this lady, a colleague of mine for over a year now, we work in the same unit. Don't get it twisted, our Organization permits marriages but one of us will make a transfer to another branch within the same location.

I liked her, everybody in our unit noticed there's a connection between us. However, we're like cat and dog we fight over everything, always disagreeing, yet.

I have been getting a lot of advice from my fellow colleagues about how she's the perfect match for me and how compatible we're if we decide to be together.

However, truth be told, I have not been really serious with her, I flirt with other single girls in the unit. The other day, they were having relationship discussion, a senior colleague of mine said that I use to jump from one girl to another.

The last Valentine's day, I called her that we really need to talk she told me if it's really that serious I should come over to her house which I did. I went there to profess my love for her, I asked her to give me a chance that I'm gonna be a better man.

She calls me a confused human being, that I don't really know what I want, that it's too late. That she already has someone and planning to get married to him next year.

Now, I've decided to accept my faith and move on with one particular lady that cares about me, I no longer call her like I used to anymore, just greetings that use to join us now.

I have noticed a hostile attitude from her towards me, she gets angry whenever she sees me with the other girl.

Yesterday, during lunch hour, I met her with few of my colleagues and little conversation ensued between us she said I should bet with her that I'm going to leave that girl and come back to her, that made me a little upset within. So we had a bet.

Pls I need your advice, I truly love her, I think about her almost all the time. Should I swallow my ego and try to make things work between us again or I should let the sleeping dog lie?

If you love her, try again

You may be lucky this time

But watch out if the relationship will go far or not to avoid issues

helinues:
Imagine how peaceful Lagos would be without noise pollution.

Welcome development oo

Especially that loud speaker in the mosque, it's constituting nuisance

WAEC Ooohhh

scorpiogal:
Good day everyone... I made a post yesterday about my brother that has been missing since on the 7th of March. That’s the link below for the post.


https://www.nairaland.com/5740195/find-brother-missing-person-case

I really wanna appreciate everyone that said a prayer or two for my brother, and those that called to sympathize with me, God bless you all.

My brother made contact with us yesterday night, he’s fine and okay, though he hasn’t given us a story of what happened, all he said was he has been sleeping under the bridge at dopemu, how he got there all the way from ogba, we have no idea.

He’s home with us now, and we thank God that he’s at least fine.

That aside, someone from Nairaland tried to blackmail me... he called my line saying he has my brother and if I don’t do as he says, he’s going to send down his body parts, luckily for me, my brother had already contacted us at that time. So when I got the call from this dude saying he has my brother, I knew it was all a big scam.

I posted for help here, not for someone to come take advantage of the situation for his own greed and wickedness... If you are reading this now, you know yourself, you better change your ways.

Below is the number of the “supposed kidnapper” and the message he sent when I stopped picking his calls.

*08158725704*

Thanks be to God your brother is back

As for the scarmmer he will be a victim soon and he will experience the trauma first hand

darfay:
Fork u and your first class, ... Better enter street...



Modified: y'all quoting might not believe, but I also had a first class, so fork u too

You are nothing but a discourager

SHOCK7:
Getting a good gf is one challenge, then it comes with it's maintenance costs!

There are girls in every corner of the state, but guys will prefer the one's that are flashy with all sort of attractive look on them

Yes, they are good looking, but have you guys forgotten that, the more flashy they are the expensive they will be

Check out those girls that are modest and not wearing those flashy dresses that attracts mens attention, get one of them and model her the way you want her to be

quineP:
Hi everyone

To the doctors in the house

I would like to go straight to the point, ive had irregular periods for a year plus and i was told to run a hormonal profile test which came out fine. Now the issue im having is my fiance wants me to get pregnant before having our wedding inwhich im fine with but i jst dont know how to go about it. I dont know the type of test to run and the type of drugs to use to make my period normal.

Note: ive bin to the hospital and i was told its because im in my late twenties thats why im having irregularities.

Pls doctors in the house should come to my aid

You have not stated how irregular your period is

The woman body has different forms of irregular period

Your boyfriend gave you a condition of getting pregnant before marriage

So you are now under undue pressure to take in by all means

Do you realise that for the fact that medicaly you are OK, the more worried you will be for not getting pregnant the more you get hormonal imbalance

Have your boyfriend gone for fertility test or he is 100% fit

My dear sister, at your young age, just don't start something that will keep you on your toes for the rest if your life pls, your boyfriend wants you to get pregnant first because you opened to him about your fluctuating period

OK assuming you become pregnant and it didn't get to full term, he will send you out if the marriage or he will wait again

Anyway, if you insist, pack to his house and keep trying every two days after your period

But for such men giving you such condition, he doesn't have true love in you

He must have seen how desperate you are about getting married

Just deal with it anyway

wonuks:
What a terrible way to die after such a terrific age. Blame her children. Life is in stages. The first and last stages require the utmost care and attention.

Just give me reasons why her children should be blamed ❓

southniyikaye:
what if it was the nanny that threw her over? Did you consider that possibility? She may have grievances

If you think the nanny did that to her delebrately, leave her to God for judgement

wonuks:
What a terrible way to die after such a terrific age. Blame her children. Life is in stages. The first and last stages require the utmost care and attention.

Just give me reasons why her children should be blamed ❓

DenreleDave:
I understand the woman frustration

Being an igbo is so frustrating

From civil war to tribal war to land war
No Grammy award, no Nobel, nollywood sef, notin for them, music they are begging yorubas for a collabo


Mind you, I am from anambra pls.. I'm more igbotic than you... So no insult

Hoodbilonia:
Hw can u restrict aged person to a flat. Ar least nanny should have been taking her around compound or for a lil walk.
She jumped cos that was the only way to freedom
The nanny should be sued to court for involuntary manslaughter.
Why was the nanny employed
To be sleeping or watching africa magic ba
Or the 85 yr old woman

Who cares where you come from, cave an inch for yourself and leave the igbos they are on top of their game

Hoodbilonia:
Hw can u restrict aged person to a flat. Ar least nanny should have been taking her around compound or for a lil walk.
She jumped cos that was the only way to freedom
The nanny should be sued to court for involuntary manslaughter.
Why was the nanny employed
To be sleeping or watching africa magic ba
Or the 85 yr old woman

Why are you commenting like this

Who tells you that she doesn't go for walks and the rest of things you mentioned

A deranged woman for that matter, so the care giver should use rope and tye her to herself

Always reason before passing comments

It's not the first to comment that is the issue, is talking sensible that matters

MiVida:
I recently met a girl in school, she's all I want in a woman, she's too beautiful well mannered BUT, she is making life in school hard for me! I've taken her to my parents already and hers are trying to get to know me which is cool.

But the rate at which this girl monitors me in school is embarrassing! I don't have any female friends cos of her. I had to call a good friend of mine (a girl) this afternoon in front of her to tell the girl to keep her space just because my girlfriend saw me give her a hug! I didn't initiate the hug, the girl called out my name and opened her arms and to avoid being rude, you can't decline a hug and that was why it happened.

My girlfriend insists I don't keep female friends, in fact, she prefers I stay alone in school. I'm getting tired, I getting fed up, she's always monitoring me everywhere and I have a reputation to maintain in school. Now I can't laugh over a girl's joke cos I have a girlfriend and it's not like I have time for her in school as that's the only time I have my little freedom, cos outside school she's always at my place and it's suffocating enough...now she brings this attitude to school... I'm tired and don't know what to do!

Are you telling me that you don't know how to handle such girl tgat wants to choke your life

If by a chance she gets pregnant, do you think she will let you go off it

Be bold, sit her down and tell her that for sometime, you have been unpleasant with her attitude and you will appreciate if you guys can go on break

In that break, don't always call her and if she calls, do not pick all the times

Don't visit her and if she does, let it be brief and don't give her all the attention you always give her

With time, she will correct herself and be a better girl

If after the break she has not changed, it's either you accept her that way or you end the relationship at the earliest stage

Some ladies are like that, a man needs freedom no matter what he wants to do with his freedom, the most important thing is for him to place his woman above other women he may have

Monitoring a man's movement is nit necessary, they are like beds that must fly, pearch and still come back home

chatinent:
You know nothing.

Mr knowledge

Those women he claims are the ones who are stranded and goes to him for one charm

chatinent:
The real reason is so he can easily use any of the children or wives for ritual or test charms. If you know, you know.

He can never use his own children to taste the efficacy of his charm, never

UnaToto:
I wanted to ignore you but I'm being forced to reply.
I'm not in anyway mocking the victims, UnaToto is my format and you can't take that away.





UnaToto

I can see that your stupidity is giving you moral

Shame on you

Pls how do I check jamb scores, she had her exams on Monday yesterday

LordAzubuike:
When na prick you go dey fvck up and down how you wan take remember your center. When I wrote mine in the 90s, pencil and paper, we made sure we located our centers at least 2 days before.

Well to answer your question, there might be a remedy but your chance are slim. Go to Abuja and lodge your complaint there if you want prompt attendance or you can send them a mail if you have the patience.

Your were very uncort and lousy with your first paragraph

What's your business if she bleeps up and down

Are you not the one fucking her, why being nasty on her

hisexcellency34:
Did anyone notice Sanwo-Olu never pointed in all the pictures?

This Sanwo-Olu- Hamzat combination is just too sweet. Like Trump and Pence

He has stopped pointing since they started calling him pointus pillate, do you think he wasn't aware of it

sassysure:
This is good!

Add achìkwù too.


I don't normally call out mods but I need to call them out on this.
Lalasticlala and MYND, can u guy do something please.

We want more and dances too.

That achikwu is a strong one ohhh