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Jaqenhghar:
Where do I start explaining sef?
You are not always with your wife or gf. There are days wife or gf doesnt feel like ot and you get Hot as fúck l. The option is to cheat or go the other way.

Cheating is a harbit, fucking around is a choice, being decent is a self decision

QuizSavvy:
No std
No heartbreak
No transport fare
No emotional drama
No school fees money
No family problem money
No human hair money
No clothes money

Masturbation is cheaper and healthier than keeping a girlfriend

Just make sure you don't marry if you think you have a point

Oyinlomobambam:
To cheat on your wife outside the country or masturbate which one will you pick?

There is no need for this question, men will always cheat, how bad it is, is what I can't explain

lazeal:
most of the things said about masturbating is just pure myth...

If u don't masturbate for 3 weeks or have sex in that time frame, the kind hard on and hornyness, even if u have been doing so for 10 years like the bros u quoted, that will embarrass you eh

For men, you are expected to expel whatever you have, keeping it that long is a burden to you

Jaqenhghar:
You won't understand.

Because you have not explained

stevmatt15:
So you mean they should be having sex with them 24 hours abi?

You said so not me

iLegendd:
Alright.

That's a good one

Kenplay:
Can a cronic masturbator still be able to impregnant a woman?
Has there been any reported case of a man not being able to impregnant a lady due to his lifestyle of masturbation which has diminish his sperm count?
I will love to hear your input and opinion.

The problem with masturbating is that it weakens the nerves around your penis and groins with constant rubbing

But why masturbate when you can actually have a girl friend or lover

Fineboy444:
I have been having sex with prostitutes since the age of 18. Now I'm 21 and I can't stop,the urge just keeps coming. I am just tired,I've tried so many ways to stop but all to no avail. Please you guys should help me. I need durgs that will kill my testeorone. My father is a politician,I always see money and I've slept with so many ladies which I have no emotional connections with. After sleeping with them I will have low self esteem and shame. I will start to regret and hate myself. I like going to ocabique in ph city. I spend close to 50k everyday and I go there like 4 times in a week. The girls there are not helping matters at all. So many fine girls there. Please I seriously need help. Please move this to front page. I am just tired. Please help me. I need to save money.
Please take it to the front page.
cc farano

That means at 21yrs,you don't have any plans like education, trade or business

You are committed to patronising prostitutes

Why not get married since Money is not the problem and Continue with one wife

By the time your house is filled up with children, you will be able to tame your dick

Incase you don't know, your time is going, keep wasting it on women

Why do you think it's our business if you decides to plait it ❓

Respect yourself naw

Stmerc1:
New account created

I shouldn't be posting this because of the type of comments nairalanders post here most especially tagging you a sissy. Notwithstanding, I just have to do so because I really need help.

She's presently 22 and I'm 27, I have dated her for about 4 years which was all through her university days from her first year. We had the best relationship even though we were both from humble backgrounds. We shared everything we had and we were truthful to each other.

The complications: When she was in year 2, she met a guy who she fell in love with, unfortunately, the guy didn't ask her out, she infact asked the guy out by herself, (dat was where my mistake came from, I knew i shud hv sent her out of my life by den but I helped her overcome the lust)

Last year January, I caught her in a romantic chat with a guy which almost cost us the relationship, she was in love again but my extreme love for her pushed me to fight for her to come back again. We resolved and came back stronger after 3 months.

This January, the school released the list of graduating students and her name was excluded. She told me about it and I told her she disappointed me because I told her to meet with someone who could have helped check if her results were good but she was just postponing it. She later termed it that I said she is a disappointment. Although she later found out she failed a course. From that moment, she blocked me off all social media, blocked my numbers and hv never spoken to me since then. I hv reached her sisters, friends and mum, all she tells them is she will call me.

Not to sound too saintly, I wouldn't mention the sacrifices I have made for her throughout her stay in school.

I hv continued to try to reach in 2 weeks interval yet she wouldn't pick my calls.

I have planned all my life, my future with her, this is too shocking and I don't know what to do. Not a goodbye, not a breakup.

I don't want to get provoked after reading your post

Can't you see that she has no feelings for you ❓

Why do you want to commit to a relationship that hasn't gotten you in mind

Pls close that chapter let her go to where she will be dealt with

Don't pray to stuck inside that relationship and if you do, you will be at the receiving end all the time and she will keep on rocking

She no send ohhh

NextD18:
No reasonable and highly educated parents will wanna train their kids in a rough and uneducated state like Anambra.

I think you need brain evaluation

Is the state you are residing not having the same vices

donigspain:
MIRACLES STILL HAPPEN

We've waited for this angel for 24 years and she's finally here. My aunt who got married in 1995 was successfully delivered of a baby girl on June 26, 2019. I've never seen a more patient, understanding and supportive couple. I'm super proud to be an uncle once again.

This miracle is coming two years after they legally adopted two beautiful kids. We all believe these angels brought good fortune to them.

I use this miracle as a point of contact to all expectant couples, may your heart desires be granted this season.

PS:
I don't need arguments about whether it was the husband's or the wife's 'fault'. This gist is not "food is ready" for feminists, misogynists or 'fencists'. Just be happy with the news or move on to other things.

Your last paragraph spoilt the beauty of the good news

Leave feminist alone, they are not after you

Davash222:
You mean Nigerian female friends or girlfriend? Please be specific.

Read your question again and answer it because I can't read any meaningful thing there

nahzyla:
Men who cannot cook and clean and care for kids should not get married either.

Enough of the idiotic double standards.

No you got it wrong if a man can't do that he pays a nanny to do so

But for a woman not to have a source of income and go into marriage

Well, she will have to endure if her husband is not really responsible

Davash222:
I have no business with Nigerian girls. Una wahala too much

And you guys think you are a Saint ❓

Can you leave a life without female friends or girl friend

nlPoster:
All the single ladies ... are becoming homeowners

https://www.nbcnews.com/know-your-value/feature/all-single-ladies-are-becoming-homeowners-ncna935351


https://media2.s-nbcnews.com/j/newscms/2018_46/2644676/house_2_bc9157ea0621085db9296388ea09cdae.fit-1520w.jpg

Being a single lady is not a disease or sickness

In every single mother there is a single father

Davash222:
You're the main reason I think Nigerian girls are stubborn.

I think you really want a mumu Nigeria girl

No way, not even with this generation

HisSexcellency:
quickest and sure way is to always is to be high on sometime. But since cocaine or heroine or dope is scarse around here and also expensive, and as a student i suggest you take weed, its very cheap and available 24/7 if look around. Or you think say all those celebrities both male and female wey dey take am na for fun?
A little alomo will also do the trick and its not addictive also, so enjoy... Cheers, thank me later very important.

You need to boost your self esteem

Ask Google to help you with ideas

EliteDude:
I dont understand, can you rephrase that?

Don't worry, whw you get married you will experience better and get the logic well

SUPERPACK:
Stand your ground they are very stupid. Traditional marriage is done based on bride family choice, church marriage is to be determined by Grooms family. Should they insist, go for court wedding or get another wife.

Your advice is too harsh, just learn to consider other peoples feelings before taking a decision if not you will be stepping on toes steady

Spinojaja26:
please advise me ! the parents and church members of the lady i want to marry are insisting we must not wedd in Catholic churcu my church rather in a Pentecostal church where she belong . if not they will not attend and will not give out their blessing. and this is about to ruin our relationship

This is a very simple issue, in as much as she will end up with you in the Catholic

Alternatively, end the relationship

Any marriage with out both parents blessing hardly work

You can't kill ourself

EliteDude:
Why do petty and non essential issues hamper marriages?

That's why us called marriage, where women feels that they should be given fair hearing and consideration

ONYEKAfra:
Hello friend, one never know the kind of wife he married until situation show up

My wife's elder brother came to stay with me for Job, so I fix him up in where I work as a temporary staff
To my surprise, my wife abandon me, diverted all attention to his brother.
I normally got home around 10 pm everyday and my wife would just go and sleep, my food will be in the kitchen
Sometimes, she will give me food, no water. I will take it my self.

But when his brother came, She start serving him food, provide water in glass and stay with him late in the night, talking and gist till late in the night

When he would be going to work, she wake up and would escort him around 4 am

My surprise, they normally gave her milk from church, she would hid them for me not see and take
But now, her staying with me, she would gave him the milk, the left over bread I normally take, gave him. I never talk
His brother started sleeping in our office in order to reduce expenses, since I normally pay the fare and feed him in office, since he just start

Today as I am going to work, my wife quickly woke up, prepare rice and put in cooler, that I should gave to his brother,
Then I ask why she was doing that. She said to reduce expenses on me
I reply No, I do not carry rice because since i married her for almost years, she never gave rice to work. why should I carry rice to her brother
She said I am jealous

Kindly advice me in handling the issue

She is just being selfish

With time your brother will get prepared to get accommodation for him or you do that for him and subsequently he will Continue to pay the rent

His exit from the house will prove to you if your wife will have time for you or not

EliteDude:
Wow...didn't you see any sign that your wife might not be comfortable with your daughter before marriage?

That alone won't even stop him from marrying her if she is not comfortable with his daughter

If she Can't cope she can as well leave and her mother will come in

Mrperfecto:
I have 3 wonderful children 9,2, 5 months. My first daughter is from my previous relationship. I recently changed her school to an expensive one 50k more than her old school. My son still attending the old school which is a good school with expensive fees too. My wife is not happy and accused me of loving my daughter more than her kids. I love my children equally and told her I don’t see the point of changing his school Now , he is only 2 in primary one and has promised to change him to the new school when he is in primary one. She has been acting funny and treats my daughter like her worst enemy , which I reported the matter to her mother. She supported my wife and said I should change his school for peace to reign, I was shocked I taught she would talk to my wife and makes her understanding instead she sided her. Anyways I still stick to my decision of not changing his school and my wife is still mad. Is it worth it to move him school ? I hope I’m not wrong with my decision ?

In as much as your son is still in KG he can be closer home because your daughter who is nine years will soon enter secondary school and your son will be left alone there

Where I will blame you is if you don't buy for three of them anytime you are buying for all

Tell your wife to take it easy over the matter of your first daughter because you can as well still keep in touch with her mother and she won't do anything

She should be concerned about uniting the children and stop looking for faults

Biodun556:
some parents especially mothers now adays used different methods to prevent their adult children especilally male child from getting married. Some even use spiritual methods claiming they suffered to raise them and the man or woman must allow them to enjoy before getting married.

Is this appropriate?

How can it be appropriate

Is the son a push over ❓

Charisec:
It's WRONG to impregnate a lady outside WEDLOCK or get yourself impregnated via sexual intercourse outside WEDLOCK.

I mean we are not even to have sex outside marriage, talk less impregnate anyone.

It's WORSE to make a marriage decision based on that wrong!

You cannot build a future on a mistake!

Except you decide in yourself that this lady is actually who you want as a wife and she also decides same.

Then the decision is beyond the mistake, the mistake just revealed the decision you would have made.

I hope you get the twist.

But it's real foolishness to marry someone you have no deep emotions for, someone you have not proven his or her character, someone you would never respect or honour, someone who has no spiritual strength nor mental fervency, ALL BECAUSE YOU ARE PREGNANT FOR HIM OR YOU IMPREGNATED HER.

You can't build life on MISTAKES.

My one cent!

Nature made it that only a man determines if there will be marriage or not

But the women keep getting pregnant to trap a man

It doesn't work that way ladies, pls take note

Pregnancy does not guarantee marriage

What assures marriage is the willingness and read ness of a man

Once a man is not prepared, forget it

SenorFax:
My fiancee and I are having some issues about staying over at her place and I don't want it to sound absord.

We are both running our MSc together in different universities and states. She stays with her parents and I've already met them to make my intentions known.

Whenever she visits, she spends up to 1-2weeks depending on when she is busy or free in school.
I've went to see her parents but didn't stay over the first time. The second time I spent a night and came back the second day.

Now having a discussion with my uncle I was told it's not cool or advisable to visit your in-laws and sleeping over or spending days as a guy plus the fact that your fiancée stays under the same roof.

Is it a cool idea or not?

I need open minds of experienced nairalanders pls.

As a future inlaw, you have to raise your head high before you floor yourself

Don't frequent them because there is the tendency that you will be asked to pass over the next day

sisisioge:
So you dont believe your uncle? Biko e matter. Get a room in a hotel each time you want to spend days with your chick.

Where us the money to pay hotel bill ❓

Organiccourses:
Op, nothing is bad so far there is understanding, but you tends not to free, besides be ready to be carried out through the window and your corpse will be flogged with matchet (cutlass) handle if you die in in-law house o!! God forbid your death now, but anyone can die anytime

[quote
author=Organiccourses post=87352890]Op, nothing is bad so far there is understanding, but you tends not to free, besides be ready to be carried out through the window and your corpse will be flogged with matchet (cutlass) handle if you die in in-law house o!! God forbid your death now, but anyone can die anytime[/quote]You just made a very stupid comment, since you know that you don't have enough sense, you should have kept quiet naw

SenorFax:
My fiancee and I are having some issues about staying over at her place and I don't want it to sound absord.

We are both running our MSc together in different universities and states. She stays with her parents and I've already met them to make my intentions known.

Whenever she visits, she spends up to 1-2weeks depending on when she is busy or free in school.
I've went to see her parents but didn't stay over the first time. The second time I spent a night and came back the second day.

Now having a discussion with my uncle I was told it's not cool or advisable to visit your in-laws and sleeping over or spending days as a guy plus the fact that your fiancée stays under the same roof.

Is it a cool idea or not?

I need open minds of experienced nairalanders pls.

As a future inlaw, you have to raise your head high before you floor yourself

Don't frequent them because there is the tendency that you will be asked to pass over the next day

sisisioge:
So you dont believe your uncle? Biko e matter. Get a room in a hotel each time you want to spend days with your chick.

Where us the money to pay hotel bill ❓

SenorFax:
My fiancee and I are having some issues about staying over at her place and I don't want it to sound absord.

We are both running our MSc together in different universities and states. She stays with her parents and I've already met them to make my intentions known.

Whenever she visits, she spends up to 1-2weeks depending on when she is busy or free in school.
I've went to see her parents but didn't stay over the first time. The second time I spent a night and came back the second day.

Now having a discussion with my uncle I was told it's not cool or advisable to visit your in-laws and sleeping over or spending days as a guy plus the fact that your fiancée stays under the same roof.

Is it a cool idea or not?

I need open minds of experienced nairalanders pls.

As a future inlaw, you have to raise your head high before you floor yourself

Don't frequent them because there is the tendency that you will be asked to pass over the next day