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Renderhelp:
@Renderhelp

I am an Aussie married to a Nigerian man. He was a poor immigrant when we met. After we got married, he helped manage my Ranch. I must say, he's a hardworking bloke and a little Aussie battler.

I always wanted kids but he was never interested. He said the world was too wicked for innocent kids and I agreed.

He always sends a huge part of our income to his family in Nigeria especially his late brother's wife. I asked him why he does that and he said its part of the Nigerian culture.

One day, I was going through our bank statement and I thought to look up his brother's wife's profile on Facebook. I was shocked to see she had a few month old baby as her husband died years ago. I kept scrolling and I saw the wedding photos of she and my husband.

When I asked my husband, he apologises and explained to me about the culture of men inheriting their late brother's wife. I told him he was murking around, but I looked it up online and it was true!

I asked if he was the father of the baby and he agreed. He thought the woman was on pills. He said he had to perform his 'duty' to her if not she will report to the village chief and they will have him flogged at the square.

He suggested we bring the baby to Australia to stay with us. We are trying to process that and I'm thrilled about it.

I reckon this culture is bizarre and Nigerians are living in the dark ages. I am a true blue and I haven't seen or heard anything so ridiculous. I hope your parts become civilized soon enough.

TA!

You are being used

He doesn't want you to have a child for him because the world is harsh and he pregnanted her and wants to deceive you to bring the child over

Now for how long will you be childless

ARE you meant to be taking care of another man's child and another woman's husband ❓

At old age who will be there for you ❓

I suggest you become pregnant and have even if its one child of your own because, he us definitely going to keep the other woman and still keep you for extortion

Use your head

Why not be very close to her and see if she can help you with some of the money to solve your problem

Just be respecting yourself and respect her too and she will be assisting you

Don't expose her to your parents you will jam your head and her your parents head

What for ❓

We will stop eating cow meat, that's all

Looking at him, you will know that he is deranged

Charles1888:
I had to create a new account for this

I don't know how to get through to my wife anymore, of which the fault is mine, when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age, I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but something important that i have to acquire made me marry all of a sudden and she was the only one available, don't get me wrong, I loved her then, her peaceful and humble soul but for some reason I simply can't understand I felt she wasn't enough, but I was wrong, she was perfect, the best I can ever wish for and more, she is everything,

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person.

After saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room, I have begged and begged and I don't want to involve third party cos I obviously caused this, when she got pregnant, she didn't tell me till I saw the strip, when I asked why she said she forgot, and we had plans to celebrate when she takes in, I was sad that day, I begged and asked to tell me anything she wants and I'll do it, I'll make it up to her,,she said she wants nothing that she is fine, I love her, she is my baby, we use to be gist buddies, I missed that and I want it back.

I don't know what to do anymore, it's my fault I know that and I'm sorry I ever said that cos it hurt her deeply, I told her to tell me more evil things so that we will be even, she said she can't that she loves me, we are drifting apart, I can feel it,

Pls help me folks, I came here becos I want anonymous advise, what else can I do to make the hurt go away?

Am glad you recognise that you caused it

Just humble yourself and respect her more

Now that she is pregnant, get some chocolate, ice cream, roasted chicken, shawarma, pizza and lots of things for her to be eating once you can afford it

Give her a treat and pampere her as much as you can

When a woman is not talking, she is twice as dangerous as when she is talking and speaking out

Your care and show of love will calm her down over time because she is deeply hurt

Bring peace to your home especially now that a baby in on the way, she needs to be in the best state of mind

Lastly control your words on her, women don't like hearing harsh words from men, but they can say the worst thing with their mouth to a man and your ability to endure it is what makes you a man

Eight children, that means he has been forcing himself on her for sex that made her birth that number of children

Even as an okada rider 2/3 children is enough

How could she breast feed that child when she has exhausted all she has

That means that she has been a moving corpse

Designer123:
I am currently in 400L in a social science course. I'm thinking of going to Germany or Italy after my degree to study Computer science from 100L. Please i need advice.

You have a good plan, finish your present course, make sure you serve before going to Germany to study computer

They will see more of it in as much as they are not doing anything to reduce suffering

What a tragidy, rip Little angel

daddytime:
God forbid....

Why would you allow her to defeat you dead and alive...

Lol, this your mouth

heendrix:
eyah RIP to the daughter

Ipob mothers really need to get this stubborness off them

Why can't you read and understand the story before giving a rip

It's in their blood, afonja, even if its mixed blood, they will still have the heart to transact their skull mining business

Squillaci:
Yea, I am depressed.

Speak out naw, it may be halfway solved

igwedubai2:
The calaber supposed to the capital of naija. Tru or false

It was the first capital of Nigeria

Jman06:
Fruits are good but some are not to be taken with some drugs. Is it too hard to stop eating your fruit until you're done with your medication?

Nice one from the man of honor!

Buy your drugs from registered pharmacies and gain the additional free drug and health information services from a pharmacist. Buying from pharmacies also guarantees you're buying the original and intact drug molecule and not fake and substandard drugs.

You'll also be guided on proper dosing, dosing interval and dose duration. The benefit of having a pharmacist attend to your drug needs are innumerable!

Stop patronizing quacks!!!!

You are senseless for telling me to stop patronising quack, have you ever seen me patronising one

Since those nuisance won't stop hanging on a train, they already know that they are on a mission to death

Most times those hanging ate the area boys whom their families are done with

There is nothing wrong in lending money to a friend

The only place I have issue with that is, if you don't return the money back, don't come back for another one, very simple

I will never cooperate

Anybody of age above, 30yrs must be taking either two of these drugs mentioned

In that case orange family has more harmful effects when on medication

After we will still be advised to take fruits

icebird25:
Na Toto this one come share for politics

Why are you so uncort ❓

They are killing themselves for a man that is still alive, this people brain is not well positioned

Lagbaja01:
You don't even know me! I'll score you 39.9%

I don't care if you score me zero %, I don't give a dam about it

After facing panel ❓,

should I say that he is guilty or what ❓

bizhop01:
99% sex only

Whatever

Towerty:
Good day NL fam. I need your help to get my fashion business back.

I started this business about 4 years ago sewing for clients and running a fashion school which had been good. I had a fairly large number of clients which takes care of the business expenses and meeting up with some other minor demands.

We needed space and organisation which prompted me to move into a 2 bedroom apartment of which the difference in rent is small. Most of our clients , over 95% came from online ads and referrals.

As such we had no fear that it will be business as usual since we do not operate with passers by patronising Us.

Since we moved into our new place in same location., since January, business has been dead speaking on a soft term.

We run adverts even better than before , every month is a more sad story. No patronage at all. The school is practically on hold right now as no one is enrolling for our programs.

We have been keeping hope alive but it seems not worthwhile. In 3 months to come , we hope to renew our rent. And as we speak , not even a tenth is available as savings.

Please help me with suggestions on how to revive this business. Thank you.

P.s: Expenses did not increase at all. We didn't employ new staff.

Mods, pls push this to front page to get the much needed responses. Thanks

Sorry for the situation of your business

Since you noticed that it started falling since you moved to a new apartment

Pls bear in mind thsy dome buildings have been used or manipulated to make a residence to live in their and their income will be disappearing or going out to renew the oat of that building

You may not know until you leave there with pollybag.

Pls make research

No matter how and what a woman looks like, a man is dying for her attention

Why was he rescued naw ❓, he would have been left to die

Lagbaja01:
What's funny?

Despite you are naughty, you are just simple like a gentle man

Lagbaja01:
Now you are very eccentric!

Lol

RexTramadol1:
Company or merchandise, I have none




But na the little advise I get I been give them so





The man dey good mood, e for employ a few if they asked him for job ( and are qualified)

To fly an air plane ❓

Lagbaja01:
You are Bn eccentric

I know that your brain is not working perfectly but it doesn't classify you a nuisance yet

RTSC2:
So buhari could not give them a jet to use among the three he uses?

When they are not fulani herdsmen