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blackangel0403:
Hi guys, I i need your sincere advice pls.

My sister is a divorcee with two kids she is solely responsible for. Life has not been fair with her.

Finally, God brought a cute man who is based in UK her way, the man is willing to marry her and take her to the states, he has come to see our parents and also took her to see his, they have agreed to tie the nut in December this year.

The guy is currently in Nigeria and has been begging my sister to get pregnant for him, my sister knows for sure he will marry her once she is pregnant but doesn’t want to so that pregnancy doesn’t stop her from meeting other guys pending when he comes to pay her dowry. Note, they met in the club but the man still overlooked it and still proposed marriage to her.

Sincerely speaking, she wants to settle down with him but her problem is that she doesn’t want to get pregnant and stay alone all by herself pending when the man will take her and the kids to the uk, she wants to take in when she has moved to the uk, but then she is scared she might loose him before then as they are already having misunderstandings been that my sister likes hanging out with friends and going clubbing which doesn’t go well with the guy.

Now the guy is having double mind on if he can go ahead with the marriage or not, I have adviced her to take in for the man and by dec her dowry will be paid but she is adamant, pls what is the best option for her in this situation?


Take in for this guy now he is in Nigeria and secure him or wait till December and risk loosing him, note he is a very cute guy and every girls dream, my sister also is tired of life and wants to settle down, if she takes in now, by dec her pregnancy will be 3 months, she is also bothered abt wat people will say on why she took in befor she was married to the guy, my parents also especially my dad will frown at it but dey don’t know that life has not fair with her and she needs a man to call her own. Should she careless abt my parents and what people will say and take in or wait and do the proper marriage before she takes in?

She is 35 years old with two kids, no other suitor insight too.

There is no hurry in love

She has been dealt with once by her husband, she is scared of another man

Why is the guy attaching conditions to their propose marriage

Why forcing her to be pregnant then the bride price will be paid December

Why not him, marry her if he claims he loves her and get accommodation for her if she doesn't want to stay with his family

What if this guy pregnant her and never came back to finalise their marriage plans, who will you blame ❓

Pls leave her to follow her heart because she is the one bearing the pains

Don't trust any man abroad, your sister is wise here and I don't want you guys to force her into his biding

She goes to clubing because she is lonely and doesn't want to allow depression gets into her, if the guy doesn't want it that way, he should marry her and give her a home, let's see if she will continue clubing

She doesn't really trust that man despite they are in love, she wants to be very sure of the whole thing before giving in

She who wears the shoes knows where it pains

That's a very expensive surgery, wishing her speedy recovery

Busy001:
A man reported lost one of his eyes yesterday, 6th of September, 2019 in Ekpoma in Edo state When a man named Dr Ken whom he lent some amount of money after pierced his eye he asked the named Dr Ken , a trado-medical practitioner to pay him his money.

This is man’s inhumanity to man; said the source that spoke with News9naija on eye witness account. He stated that the man is whose eye was pierced is a peace loving man.

He is currently responding to treatment.

https://www.news9naija.com.ng/2019/09/07/mans-eyes-gouged-out-for-asking-for-his-money-in-edo/

Pls work on your English grammar, this is not a typo error but wrong English words arrangements

niaralandtopuser:
how can I be in his shoes when I don't take bribe to fix match?
if you put siasa incharge of our security agencies, he will just make bribe an official thing

Forget about what he dies, legal or illegal.
His mother's life and safety is at stake

niaralandtopuser:
Hahaha
Nigeria is working. The rich should feel it.
Siasia please pay the old woman ransom with the bribe you took to fix match

Stop it naw, do you wish to be in his shoes ❓

tyup:
RIP to the dead

Why not form the habit of reading before RIPing

Nigerians are fault finders

May his soul rest in peace

roaringlamb01:
Lol. they did nothing through out... Don't see them when I leave for work, and return to see them glued to big brother. super annoying stuff. Ha! She's learnt o, when food started finishing (esp. since we don't eat in the afternoon since we are both at work). Na the maid I pity pass, washing more plates and serving their food.

That's why women should be involved in family spending so that they will know how it feels

healthserve:
The woman in this one died a long time ago.


Tell me this one hasnt killed like fifty people before

Why are you reasoning like this ❓

Onoroyiza:
Abi. But the male patients won't quickly like to be discharged

Lol, he can stay as long as he wishes, it's his bill that will be increasing

roaringlamb01:
Thanks for explaining, I see your angle better now. But mehn, it is difficult either way, its Nigeria and tradition. It would still come down to me (the man). Inlaws are sensitive but one should be strong from the get go, I think! Funny enough, my wife says they have been asking if my parents have left, they haven't even spent two weeks.

I will soon test them, I want to see if they will ask them to come back.

I get your points, these guys don't want to understand that the economy is hard and they contribute nothing at home

Even to sweep or clean the house, you have to even remind them to wash your car

Seat your wife down and talk to her that the economy is too hard to keep people you have to feed

If she is not cooperating, let her contribute a larger percentage of what it cost to run your home and let's see how far she goes

You don't expect the police to arrest aad man when nothing will come out of it

He is a potential threat quite alright but if you can't afford to keep him in the reprimanded home, just ask the hospital to do the needful and sign the papers for your full approval

lilmonarch:
u wouldn't think the same if he were your son/brother. The man is a good man being taken advantage of. I mean, why would a loving wife allow this old man stand for 6 4kin hours while she sleeps and probably snoring on top sef

You won't understand not until you live with a woman as married couples

stupidity:
quick recovery ke?


I ain’t getting any better if she happens to be nursing me. I go spend days for bed observing that yansh.

That's a good one provided you know that the more you stay on bed the more the bill

roaringlamb01:
Sent them away like how exactly? They went back to their home, they have a home, yh? I couldn't leave that responsibility to her.

You may not understand what I mean by the bolded, but I will explain

You see inlaws are one of the most sensitive family to deal with, they would say you personally chase them out of your house and on the long run, it might affect the relationship with both families, remember you have kids and they have to relate with them.

But assuming you asked your wife to do that herself, they will assume that she doesn't want them in her house and for me it's OK that way

lilmonarch:
all I can see in the picture is a domesticated slave doing his mistress' bidding.

If that will guarantee him peace, in his marital life

roaringlamb01:
Hey people,
I will cut to the chase.

I stay in a 4 bed room with my wife and two sons (twins). I live a quiet life and like it that way free to preying eyes, but recently my wife asked of her two brothers could come visiting, as they had never been to our place in Lagos.

I didn't like it, because I didnt like the extra mouths to feed, esp. now that things are hard everywhere, but her parents began to put pressure on her, and manipulate her with comments, like "you don't want to see your siblings" and so forth.

I wasn't also comfortable with two boys just sleeping and waking up in my house. But I obliged to teach her a lesson.

When they came, they did nothing but sell, eat and watch movies all through. They didn't greet, and were still in bed with i went to work, and watched big brother when I came back. I thought it was for 2wks, after it is a visitation, right?!

Wrong!!!

2wks soon became 5wks, at which point, food usually planned for a month was gone in weeks, add to the inconvenience.

My wife was happy, so I didn't mind. But something interesting happened, she said they want to stay for 2 more months. Hell no! I asked her to tell them, they had till the weekend, that I was expecting visitors of my own.

By the time, her parents heard, they said why couldn't they stay, even with my visitors.

It, then, dawned on me that, this wasn't a visitation. They wanted to abandon them here with me or something. It was very inconsiderate, to say I should feed myself, my wife, the twins, her brothers and 2 extra guests. Am I dangote?!

Of course, I have sent them away, and it won't happen again. She already knows.

Has anyone experienced this before?! How did you handle it?

Next time don't send them away like that, talk to your wife to find a way and do that herself

I'm as much as the economy is hard, feeding people who are idle is like creating more problems for them

Mylover259:
So I just met this guy 2 years ago and so far, it’s been a good relationship. Could it be better? Definitely, I say this because he doesn't know how to kiss me deeply without leaving lots of his saliva in my mouth which I usually have to swallow because I don't want to hurt his pride by going to spit right after he kisses me.
I've talked to him about it though jokingly. He says it’s because he's usually so turned on when we kiss deeply that he doesn't have control over how much he salivates.
Do I leave a small bowl at the head of the bed whenever we want to get it on? Or do I say Adieu to this man. I don't know what to do as I have my own saliva and don't need extra.


[url=toris.club/2019/09/06/check-out-this-hot-curvy-nigerian-lady-in-leggings-tight-jeans-photos/]MY BOYFRIEND LEAVE FOUNTAIN OF SALIVA IN MY MOUTH WHENEVER HE KISSES ME[/url]

Tell him out rightly that you don't like it, even if his refusal will lead to break up, let it be

IamPlato:
I Was At A Vigil yesterday where A fine Lady left Church To Go Fvck a Prick...

I Was Sitting Outside after Playing Drums For Two Of My Guys Who Were Guest Ministers... Was Just De Relaxin My Head On The Wall When This Dude Came Around The Church Roamin like A Lion then Called Her Number And She Came Out to Meet Him, she Was Dancing Outside As Somebody Was Singing and From Her Dancing She Will Be Good at Riding A Prick.


She Was Dancing Some Distance From Me; I Wanted To Call Her Close But I Wanted To watch What They Were Going To Do.

Ladies And Gents, it Was 2:30am, she Noticed I Had Eyes On Her Waist And She Continued dancing But Not Long He Said Something To Her she Went In And Carried her Back Then Came Out and Followed Him while They Held Hands.


She Even Had The Guts to Continually Say Amen To A Prayer As She Walked away, when The Went Far I Noticed The Guy Put His hand On Her Waist... I Then Knew Somebody Was Getting Fvcked tonight.


A Girl Can Choose Prick Over Our Heavenly Father

Some one went to church to praise God and another person came and decive hers to follow him because they have already agreed to the arrangement.

Why not fault the guy rather than your question ❓

Kastrom:
Please, I need someone suggest how I can control baldness caused by masturbation. Your opinions are highly welcome.

Stop it let's see if your hair growth will recover, if you think it's the cause. Because as far as medical is concern, they are not related

It could be your family gene working

Mazigabriel:
Waitress
air hostess
bankers
marketers
hotelers
secretary
lecturers
Musicians
choirist and ursher of church
singers and actresses

The same thing with the men in that same profession

If men don't go after women, there won't be need for her to cheat

They understands themselves more than we do

HannahHitler:
So you meet this cute man, prince charming.
Bastardly Rich but he opens up to you that he can never get John Thomas up?

Would you marry him?

For the men would you let your sister do this if you were aware?

PS: this is in reference to the abortion thread on FP

If two agrees, anything can work out

If she accepts his marriage despite his challenge, he already knows that with time some one must perform tgat role for him

An erectile dyfused man knows he can't pregnant his woman, so they already know that they will have to find a way out to get her pregnanted

Once they can agree with themselves, no one will ever know

Raltrending:
PS: This got sent to a relationship Community on Instagram, Your Comments/Advice will be Relayed.

My post is very sensitive so please I will love you to delete any foolish comments because I am emotionally already and don’t want to add . I have attached a picture of my boyfriend, one of those guys is my boyfriend,I have dated him for 2 years, he takes care of me, pays my school fees and rent does everything for me that a Normal guy does for a women but I just realized today that he lied to me, and still lying to me.

My boyfriend told me that he works in the bank , every morning he will dress up on suit and go to work, come back in the evening. Sometimes I want to visit him in his office but he will say he is a contract staff and he is in marketing and hardly in the office, I believe him for 2 years of my life . Even when he proposed I accepted, not until yesterday my friend sent me this picture and one of the guys packing dustbin happen to be him,I refused to believe it, I had to zoom the picture, she actually sent me up to 3 but I don’t want to send you that because it reviled his face to avoid embarrassment.

My own boyfriend a dust bin packer , Jesus like he sits on top of dirt and pack it , Jesus and still comes to finger me and touch me. I felt really irritated and disgusted. Is it the same money he uses to take care of me,why did he lie? He is too cute and intelligent for this , I was embarrassed as my friends laughed at me , called me wife of a dust bin packer.

I cried my eyes out, even when he called never asked him anything but I want to end the relationship. Give him back his ring , but my heart is beating . What do I do ? I can’t marry a dust bin packer , never.

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Even if he is a mortuary attendant, it does not matter

What matters here is the he is caring

There are some men out there that a doing good office job yet as stingy as hyena

If he can afford to feed himself and pay your school fees, he is such a responsible man

Those your friends making mockery of him, should be cut off so that you will appreciate this gift of a guy in your life

But if you insist on dropping the relationship, it's another good opportunity for him to meet someone who will appreciate him more because you don't appreciate him

Those people packing dustbin are humans and it must be packed by humans no matter how mechanised it will be

Alternatively, get a job for him and relieve yourself of this ungrateful attitude of not being satisfied by his profession

Every man with his own taste and choices of woman

The way you guys have your desired kind of women, the women too have their own desires.

That's why you see ladies accepting some relationships request from men and rejecting some

Fat or slim, they are all good looking and desired by different men

Hamachi:
Hi everyone pls I have a tough question to ask the ladies here, especially the single ones. Cos I have discovered that a lot of women don’t even know the major reason why God created them to be a woman. So my question is, what can you offer a man in a relationship other than sex. Cos this days all I see in women are women flaunting their sexuality, especially their seductive sexy body for men to admire them

It depends on what you want from her and the impression you created for her

The more you demand for sex from a woman, the more you make her less valuable to you.

Learn to impact your self to a woman and you will discover the potentials in her

mumumugu:
Sex workers use body parts to meet the needs of their customers, how is that different from those using parts like brains, hands, legs etc to satisfy the needs of others?

Just ask yourself if there is any sense in your question ❓

Souqwaqif:
Good evening all,I and my wife are married,after a very long courtship.our first issue is just about 3years and I don't want her to emulate certain type of dressing from my wife is fond with of recent.after series of correction my wife would not change from dressing like a harlot to a married woman.parental intervention has not yielded anything.in fact recent discussion with the father on the way forward made her infuriated against me that I reported her to her father.while I reside elsewhere due to work and she off campus I called recently to ask how they are doing and she rained insult on me,I then cut the phone on her.Am thinking of dissolving the whole thing because she is always fond of not taking instructions from me for her own good and that of our little girl.Pls what step will be right for me.Only mature advise is appreciated.Thanks.

Women reactions are tied to so many things ranging from emotions to stress they under go

If this attitude of hers wasn't in her before her birthing her child, find out from her what brought about it

If you are really too far from her, then consider way out to be close to her

If she can't obey you or her parents, then she must have turned to be a bad girl

Just let her know that you can't continue coping with her disrespect and ill manners, including her dress code, be bold to tell her you need a break out of the relationship and also go to the family to inform them, be serious about it and let's see if she will feel the impact or be remorseful

As for your little daughter, don't worry about her, she can only wear indecent cloths if it's bought for her

She is in the right profession where her appearance will make the male patients get quick recovery

IceColdVeins:
Dear NLDs,

I have had sexual encounters with about 20 different ladies since I squarmed as a sperm till this moment that I type... but I have only made about half of them to reach the peak of pleasure while others never did no matter how hard I tried..My rod size and shape exhibit brilliance and I can last within 15mins-1 hr of intercouse in a round depending on my stress level at that moment.
Its not like I owe any lady orgasm but I'm a bit worried cos my current gf cannot reach orgasm irregardless of how deep and long the pre-intimacy/penetration is (she never did with any other person based on her claims though), I have pounded every cell in her honeypot but all to no avails. This always gets me bamboozled as I cannot even imagine how it feels to have intercouse and never ease off at the peak of it, please I need insights to this. She always assures me that she gets satisfied afterwards whenever we discuss it and always tells me no to worry that I should just do my thing as the problem is with her and not me...but at some point, the whole ecstacy thingy just feels like a one-sided shii. Y'all dig?

To the men: Has anyone had this problem with his partner(s)? kindly give insights.

To the ladies: Y'all know yourselves better....please whats the way around this?

Regards to all.

The truth is not every woman has orgasm and that doesn't mean she can't be pregnant

Some women who falls into these category, fake orgasm just to give you false impression

But I prefer when they are real than faking it

One of the ways out is
More of romance and less sex, cuddling helps to prepares their body quicker

At times they tend to have orgasm when they are the one having the urge for sex on initiating sex

When you rush them for love making, they go of balance and it won't help them get the orgasm

Take it very easy and slowly, that's one of the ways to put them in the proper mood and it helps them to enjoy sex

Ask her how she wants it not how you think it should be

Such women are not easy to take to bed because they have low libido and sex doesn't come often to their minds

Keeping her in a happy mood always helps to turn her on

Lastly, they are the most faithful person you can be with because, it takes a man with full patience to make her feel like a woman

Am talking from a woman perspective

He would be denied, no body wants to be identified with an idiot beast