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Caleb4show:
Am a Yoruba guy buh I wish to marry Igbo girl

Go ahead if it pleases you, you are sure of an igbo lady faithfulness and loyalty, couple with commitment to the marriage

They hardly get married and mess around

Unlike the ofe mmanu that will be married and still keep men because they are not really sure if she will be the only wife

They are always having a back up incase the man decides to bring in another woman

Their men too are not helping matters, they will keep women in bariga, mushin and Agege, shuttling them as if their life depends on it

When old age comes he will become stranded because non of those women will want to take care of him because he was a multipurpose man for so many women

KingAzubuike:
In terms of everything including food, Igbo traditional wedding beats Yoruba weddings hands down.

The yorubas apart from the educated ones, the one's I know will pregnant a lady, and that's is it, she becomes his wife, marriage rights or no marriage rights

In Igbo land we discourage such

For every depression, their is an underlying case or causes

Takle it or throw it away

Don't fight it, fighting it, is what is affecting you

Get an alternative to whatever is the cause of the depression

MiseryHimself:
I am curious, why did you say this, ma.

Thanks for the question

If you can look very well, in marriage, women run the home even if its the man or woman that is the bread winner

Children are given birth by women despite the men pregnanting them, but those children are more to their mum than dad because she understands them and always around with them

In a normal African family, the wife's family frequent their house more than the man's family

A man seeks for a wife to marry, marry her and she takes over the home, women are resilience and multi tasking more that men, especially in home front

It's because marriage belongs to women, it's their own domen

They understand marriage more than men

Kendumazy:
Rest in peace to him. Wetin him like, Na him kill am. Sensible husband family! Not every victims are opportuned to encounter such reasonable family.

They family knows that he is a chronic womaniser

That's natural to occur, assuming she is a man, that's the beginning of bald hair

Just go on low cut and stop putting relaxer, the hair will grow back naturally but on a slow speed, she can be using wig for the period of hair recovery

Any little careless stone on ground will scatter everything

That's the end of okada there

Team work

Christopherrrr:
Hello Nairalanders, greetings. My name is Christopher (pseudonym) from the Eastern part of the country, Imo State to be precise. I'm a man in his early 30's. I have an active account here but I had to sign-up for another account for this thread.
Please pardon my grammatical errors and blunders. MOD please help move to FP.

Few months back, I fell in love with a pretty lady with a beautiful soul. She is 28. Though we are running a long distance relationship but the current in the communication link can power Kanji Dam. Lol!! We can be on calls for hours since the very day I met her. There is a fair share of the feelings, affections, respect and regard for each other. It's not one-sided. Though we have been opportune to be together thrice since the past 10months we met. I have had plans to go about engagement and marriage arrangements this coming festive period though I haven't made this known to her.

She gives me joy, she gives me happiness, she prays for me, she blesses me. There is a part of me she unraveled that I never believed existed. Above all, she gives me peace of mind.

Fast forward to last month, I invited her to a family event. I introduced her to my family as my girlfriend. Instantly everyone fell in love with her. My mum was allover her and she was indeed up and doing. She didn't disappoint me. Not pretence, she has a good home training.

When she left same day after the event, my mum proclaimed her love for her. She said, "Olee ebe isi choota udi nwa nke a?" (Where did you find this kinda girl from?). This made me drop a tear of joy thereafter because I've always prayed for such from her any day I introduce a lady to her. This also happens to be my first time.

Fast forward again to 2weeks later, my dad requested I confirm her community and kindred properly because we happen to come from the same LGA. I didn't even know they have started making inquiries for me even before I asked them to. I confirmed from her and informed my dad. Only for them (my parents) to break the news to me days later that we can't marry from their kindred because they are regarded as Out-Casts (Osu-Cast System). Right now, I can't contend my heartbreak. I'm so devastated and confused.

This has been a long-term tradition that has been for centuries that I don't think it's in my capabilities to do away with it or do otherwise.

My problem now is how do I break the news to her for a breakup because we can't continue like this.

I have never ceased to love her less since the very day I learnt of this. In fact, she gives me reasons to love, cherish and adore her every single day. I still do that to the brim and don't have regrets. Quote me, her type is rare. I love this girl with every breath I take. I just cry myself to sleep every night after our long calls.

Please advise a brother because I'm in a deep state of dilemma.

This is a true love relationship based on all your explanations

These are my advices

The absence of love in a relationship is like a soup with out salt despite the presence of meat, stock fish, dry fish and so

You are the one that might lose because, a man needs a woman that will guarantee him if his happiness and joy in marriage

If you marry her you won't be the fist or last

Assuming she is not from your place, how would you know that they are out cast probably while she is pregnant or what

Yes you can always get another lady, but will you be lucky to have someone similar to her

You won't be the first or last to marry an outcast so why can't you let you parents know that she is your happiness

OK let's assume she based in US, and the same ocean of love is waving between the teo of you and in one of your chats with her, she invites your parents and you for one month vacation, you guys visit and came back, now you inform them that you want to marry her, won't they give you automatic ticket

Well, the person involve is you, let them know that you truely loves her and your heart is with her

Then if you know that you can't marry her for that same reason, wait until you see her one on one then tell her what you have for her, the earlier the better

But before then think and ask yourself, if you can cope with it❓

Don't come back when it's late and tell us had I known, by then you will have to deal with it for life

I realised that people that are treated like this, nature luck normal smile on them and make them president

TRADEMARK:
I am depressed, I am tired of everything going on in my life. I will try to leave some details to remain anonymous. I graduated from the University a decade ago ,and I have been going through a whole lot to survive and have headway but so far nothing has worked for me. I have been too strong but I am drowning and I cannot help it anymore. l have no one to support me and even though I plan to relocate to Lagos to start all over , I am scared of being homeless and becoming a destitute. I need someone to talk to. I think I am jinxed . I am 32 years old , I have a Law Degree, Got called to bar and have an ACCA Certificate in International Financial Reporting. Anyone that can help me should call me before I finally lose it. I need a Job , a fresh start, a new life. I have locked myself up in the room for days and I have been contemplating too many things and ending it all is still an option that keeps creeping into my mind. Please call me and help me. I might not be able to express everything here. DEPRESSED SOUL 08023538598

Pls I beg you in the name of God, don't do what you will regret even when you go below six feet

Start a teaching job if possible, save little money from there, ask for a relation or friends in lagos to accommodate you as you wish to relocate

If you are lucky to get one, be obedient to whoever that harbours you

Join another teaching and save money while searching for any kind of job both on line and off line

Look for girls who are working and be humble with her for a smooth relationship

Your Humility with her can take you to places

It's better to be stranded in lagos than else where

Keep praying for God to grant you your heart desires

TroubleMaker47:
WILL BUHARI OBEY THE COURT ORDER?!

That's another thing

For those who understand, marriage is about the inner heart not beauty

Let me see who these Fulani's will blame

Vincent88:
Good morning everybody. I feel lost without my wife, she had a fourth miscarriage after 2 years of marriage and her family has accused me to be a ritualist that I am eating the babies which I know nothing about and they have decided to take her away from me.

I haven't finished grieving for my elder brother who passed away 3 weeks ago, leaving his 4 children for us and now she is gone.

Please she is also in this platform beg her for me to come back to me, because I love her so much and I cant live without her please.

Waooo, pls go to the family and clear yourself that you are innocent of all accusations on her

Check your sperms count and see if your sperm counts are still strong enough to form babies because miscarriage occurs if the fertilisation is weak or poor

When she comes back, both of you have to practice close relationship, especially from you to give her peace of mind

As for your late brother's family, you can get a rented apartment for his wife so that your wife will be comfortable in her own house

Go to prayers together and have one heart

I appreciate the way you cried out, don't let ego pin you down

It depends on the kind of work you are doing there besides, if you can manage it instead of staying idle, forget about condition or no condition

Their profit determines you guys welfare package there

subtlemee:
Why are they treating him like celebrity?

That might be his last outing of freedom

24kmagic:
And men are made for who?

Am a woman, I have defended the women folks

You are a man defend your folks

JONNYSPUTE:
. That's not the kind of responsibility he's talking about.What he meant is accepting and admitting mistakes and corrections when and where its necessary.

You guys feel that we don't admit mistakes, that's how we see you guys too

Your ego doesn't allow you guys accept simple faults

You just want to detect and we obey

Even the most stupid girl in a remote village knows how to manipulate a stubborn man to her advantage

KingWarri:
The true summary of everything is....

We live in a men's world

That's why women will always be 2nd grade...

First grade or second grade

You live in men's world but women make the world go round

Nesso:
Always blaming every other thing except urselves. u women hv zero accountability and don't take responsibility for anything

Women are made for men, taking care of you guys and your children are enough responsibilities

You guys made women to complain, all their complaints are centered on you guys attitude towards them

serosa:
Pls how many times do couples I mean married couples have sex in a week or even a month.


Pls only for matured people.
I will love to know how many times a couple should go downtown in a week or month.

As many times as the urge comes up

Marriage is sweet if you are with the right person

slowpoison1:
I have been having irregular erections even when i'm not thinking or doing anything sexual. What could be the cause

Stop masturnating if you does and reduce your sugar intake

Adamumd:
My girlfriend is so convinced that sex is painful and she cannot endure the pains, ve tried to convince her but she ll refuse and even when she tries to belive me, next thing she is shivering again and scared. I love her and I don't want to cheat on her.

If you love her because she is a virgin, keep trying

Your monikar says you are a child of doom, I want to tell you that you were born complete but you made yourself what you are

You are the architect of your own mis fortune

You made valid points but those men that believes that they are mightier than themselves will not agree

Any man who can follow this instruction will remain happy in his marriage and will be loved by his family

Being stubborn to women in marriage is like being stubborn to your lecturer, you will never graduate because of that course

Renderhelp:
Help @Renderhelp,

I am a single mother with 2 kids. I divorced my husband few years ago.

I stay in Egbeda axis of Lagos and getting an apartment here as an unmarried woman is very difficult.

Since I moved into this apartment I have not had peace, I feel more like a slave than a tenant.

My Landlord makes my kids and I go to his church, we are not allowed to miss any church service or go to another church. He once removed my former church sticker from my door.

We are not allowed to wear trousers, sleeveless, jeweleries or hair extensions in his compound. If we break his rules he would call us witches and threaten to evict us.

We have to sweep the compound and clean his cars every morning.

We share a meter with the Landlord so we have to split the bills. This man always tell me the amount to pay without showing me the bill teller, I usually pay 8k and above monthly!

He doesn't let us in or out of his compound after 9pm. He has made us sleep out twice because of this.

We are the only tenants in his compound. I paid 2 years rent in advance and I have only spent 3 months in this compound. I might turn into a mad woman if I keep on staying here. How can I get back my rent and move?

You did not tell us what brought about you being connected or subjected to this kind of control

Two years is enough for you to start preparing to pack our

Stop all the nonsense thing he subjected you to and stand your ground

Worst case he will ask you to pack out after expiration