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geronimoedeh1:
My fiance came. The first day she prepared dishes no issue. She was happy doing it. The second time i formed feminist and joined her in the kitchen she was surprised. The 3rd time I didn't join up and her face frowned and she started showing attitude. The fourth time i joined again and she started sending me errands. She even asked me to help her remove the pot frm d cooker because its too hot.. imagine. When there were kitchen towels every where. I asked her to use one, she started showing attitude again. I learnt my lesson immediately.

The outcome of your visits to the kitchen was the major reason you went there

But then it doesn't make you less a man if you continue to help her or not

saintneo:
2years and a few months. Nevertheless, I was really tempted when we had our baby and I was working in another city.

How did I do it?
I always plead for the Holy Spirit to reside in me and pursue lustful spirits away.

You tried, some men will fall into it, even deeply that it will affect the entire family

BRATISLAVA:
ok. But wt r ur own responsibilities?

Just to give commands and orders at home, which woman will tolerate that from him, lol

puresaint:
That Patient part is very important....


I know how me and my wife started but now we understand each other very well.


Women are beautiful creature!!!

Thanks for this

You took time to understand that women need to be studied.
some men, because of their pride and ego, wants to impose themselves on women and when she realises it, that's when

naijacentric:
tell ur women folks to stop pushing their husbands out there at least its ur fellow women who also accept them outside so u guys should talk to each other

the equation will not balance

A man will always want to go out, so don't think its we women that pushes them out.

NaijaRoyalty:
I won't help her wash plate or change baby diapers

Thats her responsibility.

But you did the job of pregnanting her to have the baby, any way wait until you marry

Marriage is where experience teaches people like you

MiVida:
You do all this n beyond, she'll still cheat.

So what's the essence?

Cheating is different from attitudes

Cheating is a choice she made for reasons best known to her and attitude is an in born thing

ednut1:
Must we marry

It's optional ohhh

NaijaRoyalty:
Women should face what's facing them .

House chores is their duty.

There you go, tell your wife that house chores is her duty and live to regret it

It's men like you tgat women uses to play "koso"

You know koso is played on a hard surface so that it can capsize very well, but she will play you on a soft surface like rug so that by the time she is done with you, you will be empty

glink2015:
You shld no that this is our own local English....

Pardon me. I no go linguistics class

Lol

NaijaTushboy:
Even though i know him i won't give a damn,after all he isn't ma relative.NONSENSE

It's not a must to comment

glink2015:
It's not compulsory to marry...
No woman , no cry...You can ask the married man close to you for the interpretation...

Stay single and live a peaceful life ...
But marry ladies and face your challenges....

Which English is marry ladies and face your challenge ❓

Hobbsandshaw:
My concern really is my boys.I want the best for them

Time for pretense has gone

Face the reality with courage and boldness but nit with aggressive means

Take every one to a trusted doctor and rerun the whole test

Get to know the level she is, and ask the doctor to advise you if you need to take preventive drugs or go ahead with skin to skin

She is capable of infecting those kids if any harsh decision is taken on her

If possible, stop at this two kids and plan for them

May anger is that she is stubborn and clueless

First of all inform her parents and watch their reactions

She is very canny and secretive

Which one is mistakenly cut off the kidney ❓

This is pure carelessness

His dress code and appearance is not different from those people he is harassing

CapedBaldy:
I honestly need help. I try to suppress my anger but I always find myself reacting aggressively when provoked. when I'm reacting aggressively because of my anger I feel in my mind that I'm overreacting but then it's already too late and I can't stop myself. I like being alone and minding my business but there's always something that winds up triggering me. I don't know if this makes any sense because I don't really know how to explain how I feel.

Anger is what everyone must experience, even the most stupid person must experience it

In your own case, it depends on your triggering factor

Stay away from. People or anything that triggers or capable of triggering you

At the same time, learn to accept those things that triggers you as they are part of life

Just walk away if possible

When one is angry, the person you are angry for doesn't feel the pains but you feel the pains of anger

OSITA2love:

I am about to go and do the introduction into my fiancé's family but just find out that she has been chatting with her ex( who is already married for long) they have been calling each other for some time now and she have exposed our relationship to him.
They started reminding each other those good times they spend together and the guy keep on calling her love baby sweetheart and the guy told her that she would like to be served his favorite food that she is given me

Worse she told him that I'm not good at all when it comes to eat the apple.
Can a wife to be can act in such way?
But in spite of all this, she has not rebuked him but enjoying it and never been straight to him to stop him
I have catched her many times from one guy to another( all are her ex) never rebuke them but just keeping quiet. but I keep on forgiven; hoping that she will change . But this time, my cups is full.
Should I continue with this? My fellow brother

If you are sincere with what you just said, she isn't ready for marriage yet, she wants to get marry for the sake and not to be committed to it

Am sorry I have to say so

Once a woman keep having pep talk with an ex in her present relationship, ot really means that you are not really her guy but she has to just hook up

You can't be deeply in love and still do pep talk with your ex the heart will be divided, a guy can still do that and still love her woman because it's in them to have one and still keep another

udoka2013:
19000 highest grade. Imported. Agbara.

That should be local rice

You did not tell us what you are doing of present

You didn't mention if you are in school or not

Living with your parents, is simply to guide you from the preys of bad guys, you are yet to be experienced enough to handle men on your own, you living alone will expose you to danger. Any man that doesn't appreciate you living with you parents is not having you for keep but for chop and go

Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

You did not tell us what you are doing of present

You didn't mention if you are in school or not

Living with your parents, is simply to guide you from the preys of bad guys, you are yet to be experienced enough to handle men on your own, you living alone will expose you to danger. Any man that doesn't appreciate you living with you parents is not having you for keep but for chop and go

NwanyiOkpa:
Hello,

I am having a difficult time as a colleague of keeps harassing me sexually. He tries touching me and sometimes takes a picture of my ass without my consent and sends the picture to via whatsapp.

I am really pissed off and i feel like reporting. But my boss is also a womanizer and i am scared what the outcome might be. I live in the company's provided accommodation and as bad as it is, i am the only lady and female staff of the organization and hence, i am only female sharing accommodation with the rest of them. Although i have my own room but the rooms are kind of close to each other and this colleague keeps handing around my room.

I am getting really scared as i don't know what to do. I am new to the job and the youngest among them all.

Please advise me.

Be yourself, you are matured to make a choice of what you want and what you don't want

Be discipline and be respectful to every one but don't allow anyone of them to be your lover, you might not have a good end

Make your friends outside from them so that the level of jealous will be controlled

They are all hanging on you because they want to know who will be the lucky chap

Then bear in mind that your boss is also a womaniser and he too may be interested in you

That's the area you will have a tough challenge and decision to make

Left for me, I will advise you keep of any love affairs among you Co tenants

Kcee14:
I am a girl of 26 years from Delta state. I have a guy I have been dating for close to 3years now and he is from mbaise. My guy told me that he is coming for introduction and I told my parents about it and they said over their dead body will they allow me marry from mbaise. Please,is anything wrong with Mbaise? Are there ladies here that are married to mbaise men and living happily. Please, I am really sad now. I need advice and answers

They use to say

"if you see snake and see an mbaise person, kill the mbaise person before killing the snake"

Well people from there are canny and not straight forward, am sorry no insult intended

But then not all of them are like that

You should be able to explain to your self if your man is straight forward or canny

If he is really a good person or he is always playing smart on you

Put love aside and reassess him if he is not having any of the above traits

Though love covers everything but consider when the love that covers the faults are no longer there, can you cope ❓

Why is she beating her chest about it

Every other mother does that

If a mother doesn't do that, who will ❓

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him.then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her i should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back , she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work , she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

The truth is that your husband had sex with her and pregnanted her

You said your husband is a respectable man, the sense that directs a man's dick is different with the one that makes them do decent things.

Let your family decide but don't allow him to marry her and bring her yo uour home

She can have the bany if the family decide but it will remind him of his senseless act and also remind your sister of her stupidity

Kehinderichard:
Earlier today at Ikeja Along, men of the Lagos State task force pursued this danfo driver till it got stuck on a rail track while trying to manoeuvre and escape. It took several minutes before the vehicle was finally lifted off rail track.

Thank God no train was approaching

Hmmm, well whomsoever tgat abandoned her there must have bushed to watch how she would be rescued

Better than killing an innocent child to run away from responsibilities

I don't blame the guy that pregnant her but the mother tgat went through pains and still left her child

Mutemenot:
Guy man has concluded plans to come home for Christmas but doesn't want to spend money for his overstay and flight .

I dedicate this FTC to seun, he has finally come to front page rescue. Threads making front pages are now meaningful unlike b4..

Not true

How can he come home for Christmas in September, how much does he have that will carry him that far ❓

He is just tired of enslaving himself and deem it wise to go back home, simple

It was a wise decision

Tantaliteweb2:
Dear Nairalanders,
I am tired of being single as a disabled. I have all it takes to take care of a girlfriend but know is accepting my proposal. I am 25years I am tired of being single .

There is a woman for every man

Don't be in a hurry to get settled

Start looking for women whom you feel will understand your status and be willing to accept you and love you with a pure and genuine heart

No matter how much you think you have that it takes to care for a woman, she has a greater task to accomplish

You will definitely get one and when you do,
be nice,
remove pride and ego,
be loving and caring,
be humane and protect her
be a good gentleman

You and her will definitely rock your marriage

AJIBOLA840:
that's why they say you should pray before getting married. shameless and selfish woman

Stop it naw, why the abuse, he didn't say you should abuse her

Do you really know what transpired ❓

MiseryHimself:
Ha, wish it for my entire family kwa Bia, wetin I do you?

You asked after my family, I said they are doing good and instead of you to glorify God, your reply was

"I have a sneaky suspicion that they are not"

Then I said, wish it for your entire family

So if its good or bad, so it be for you

MiseryHimself:
I have a sneaky suspicion that they are not.

Wish it for your entire family

MiseryHimself:
I check people's profile once in a while to know the kind of persons they are lol.

Nah, you don't want to change your moniker because of a wretch who has no ulterior motives towards you.

How is your hubby, your sons, and daughters?

They are doing good

MiseryHimself:
So your argument is based on the fact that women are home-builders and the home is life, permit me to call it that.

Thank you for your response lol. You must be a really good wife and mom to your husband and 17 year old who is going to get an android phone from his good mama on his 17th birthday lol. However, while I agree with your statement, I partially agree with the reasons you gave lol.

Lol,

You are monitoring my contributions and post abi ❓

I will change my moniker, lol