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quivah:
this is murder!!


why is the mother the only specimen?

The charm was meant to work for her and her alone since its a family business

Why should a married man allow his mother to seat in the front seat and the wife at the back seat

What kind of topics will they be discussing

I don't even know if to belive you or not, you seems to have answer to every questions thrown to you

I wander the kind of help you are seeking for

Don't you have family and friends you have helped before?

Don't your wife have her own siblings she can go and cry out to

How come you keep such money at home, what happens to your bank
Can't you request for loan from your place of work or cooperative

Don't you have neighbours in your street or areas you can get 2000 each from them.

Your church, can't they be of help or don't you worship there
Hmmm

Just sort yourself out my brother.
The people here in this forum are more of students, they equally need help if not more

Sorry for both lost

Go to his former place of work, meet his friends that knows you and your family , request for his profile file, tell them that you are his son and you wish to process his benefit but want to know who he indicated as his next of kin

There you will see where it was indicated that it's your mother that is her next of kin, inform them that she is late and you have the certificate with you

Get your dad ID card that bears his names. No matter what the ID card is, its surely a form of an ID. Get his marriage certificate and wedding pictures if any.

Get your mum ID, your dad death certificate and your mum death certificate and burial picture if you have and famy pictures where you appeared severally

Go to court federal High Court and swore an affidavit with those items

Couple all and take to the company , its now left for them to acknowledge it or do the needful

Earthbound:
Whilst growing up, I had heard once or twice about sons not on speaking terms with their fathers. To me, there was no greater absurdity. I loved my dad. He was my role model. I remember on graduation day back in high school when each of the graduating student was beamed on a large projector with what our aspirations were and who our role model was as well. I remember being the only one who put my father up as a role model. Let me chip this in real quick; My father is the spare the rod, spoil the child type of person. I was flogged up till my very early twenties with a strong leather belt. I was a stubborn child but he only made it worse. Once, he permanently damaged my left eye on something as fickle as borrowing a classmate's notebook to copy missed notes at home. He never for once said he was sorry. In a saner country, I could have easily sent him to prison.

My father distanced us from his maternal side of the family. My grandmother and my father's step sister gave my mom the hardest of times, some of which I witnessed when I was much younger. They seemed to believe my mom *jazzed my dad and that's why he wouldn't pick a second wife. They hated my mom with passion and I really didn't understand why. Fast forward to a early last year, I was away from home when I received a call from my mom saying that my dad had a daughter by another woman before they had me. She was a result of my dad cheating on my mom while they were in a relationship. My father named her after my own mother as a kind of apology. Here comes the weird part. My dad refused to send this child to school despite all of my mother's pleas. Whenever the girl called on the phone, my dad would tell her to ask her mother who her real father is and then cut off the phone. I grew up into my mid twenties thinking I was my father's first child and also hated my now dead grandmother not knowing she only had my step sister in mind while she acted the way she did.

I was privileged to enjoy some of the best education money can buy, same as my siblings but my father's daughter was under schooled and married early so as to have someone cater for her needs. She had the exact opposite of the life I had growing up. Her mother's family came to see her as an outcast. I feel like most of my life has been a lie. My step sister has two little boys. I can't believe my father never had the balls to talk to me, his first son about it. Even till now, he's never called me to explain himself. She calls me every now and then asking for assistance and in truth, I really can't. I feel so terrible for her. It's almost like she has no family. Our relationship is very awkward to say the least.

Lest I forget, my mom arranged the reunion (which I was absent from) because my dad thought she was the reason things became bad (financially) for us. He felt maybe she might have told her life's story to someone who played out a Nollywood script and jazzed his finances. This Easter, she came visiting again with her kids and I was around. We met for the first time and we exchange numbers. After her visit, she called to tell me my dad ignores her calls. It is for this reason that my contempt has grown. I have my own shortcomings as a son but I was basically lied to my whole life and my father never stepped forward to clear the air. When I try to bring it up, he brushes it right under the carpet.



Parents, be honest with your offspring. The littlest things can ruin whatever relationship you have with them. My dad is from a largely polygamous family. He's got step brothers and sisters on both sides of his parents but no siblings of the same parents. His family is terribly dysfunctional and I prided myself all my life that my dad didn't go the same path. Little did I know, I was wrong.

It's very painful when things are done with deceit and secrecy

As for your dad, don't expect him to come and explain an unexplainable situations to you.
Pride might be his major reason for that, so forget it, plan well and move on

As for your step sister, it's quite unfortunate that she has been deprived and abandoned, she might be living a life of regrets with the kind of father she has
She got married to find succour not that she was ripped for it

She sees you as her sibling and pls do your best within your reach, don't forget, her always call her to give her encouragement and joy of life.
Try to bring her close to the rest members of the family apart from your dad

Your dad way of life shouldn't affect you or your feelings for him rather learn from his mistakes and plan your own life and family to suit you

Ekez:
Cause i'll never underestimate the power of a woman

Lol

Slurity:
Some men are not human when angry, my own father once did something very similar to me, giving me marks with razor blade over a missing #50 that I don't even steal. They later found the money after over a month

You are quite correct

JuanDeDios:
Why are you called frozen?

It's my choice of name

donbachi:
Spending my last 3k home and abroad buying soup things.to meet empty gas cylinder.

Hahaha
Craziest and most embarrassing moment

If they deport him
Where and how do they want him to start from

Ikology:
Hope you understand these drivers have families? They have life to live. let us not be judgmental

Peace mass transit, has never placed priority on their passengers

They employ all sort of people as drivers just to increase their fleet of cars on the road

They don't have any thing like careful and professional drivers

They show take a lead or learn from God is good transport company (GIGM)

Peace mass transit, has never placed priority on their passengers

They employ all sort of people as drivers just to increase their fleet of cars on the road

They don't have any thing like careful and professional drivers

They show take a lead or learn from God is good transport company (GIGM)

Mumu science student, even the hospital bill will definitely be more than the bet of 5000

Caring0:
Thanks dear. Honestly you are correct I do that younger girls because I myself is pretty young, just 23 though, most older ladies are quite rude to us younger guys because they feel like we are not matured enough and only want to play games with them which is not true most times, I approached an older lady of recent she is 27, has a child, no longer with the baby daddy but she is insecure around me because she feels I will leave her for a younger girl so she doesn't want to date. It's really frustrating sometimes, I really need a partner whom I can enjoy sex together with and also communicate with and share ideas, rub minds and do things together, I'm quite sapiosexual though, I want to be with someone now because I'm not a flirt so I want to settle down atleast within the next 3 years maximum.

Keep searching you will definitely get one and when that happens try to keep her and don't loose her

Homeboiy:
Any idea on how to overcome it

Just arrange the following items as you make your trip

Vicks lemon or baba blue, chewing gum, bitter cola, sachet of chealsea or schnapps
Once you sense it coming put any of this in your mouth it will suppress it till your body system rejects it

MajorJeffery:
This is not true. Some men are never aware of the pregnancies and the abortions.

Once a woman misses her period she informs the guy who did it

A woman can't be pregnant and be very happy to remove the pregnancy that was not the purpose of her pregnancy

It's only a situation where the guy rejects it or deny it that it may end up into abortion

Mike come and finish what you started oooh

lathrowinger:
This mumu people will leave their state and come to destroy another's man land. In the name of developing

But your kins men were also mentioned or are you blind that you didn't see there names

SEONaijaExpert:
She got married at 10, mistake no. 1


She gave birth to 7 children to the first poor husband, mistake no. 2

She married the second one even after seeing how he's not interested in taking care of the 7 children she had went ahead to pour another 4 children. Mistake no. 3

It's obvious it's not the poor men he married but her life is already filled with mistakes.

She needs to go for rehab asap. Something is wrong with her.

No need for rehabilitation

She should suffer what she brought upon herself, the mistake have been made

Both the woman and the two men are probably not sound upstairs

So at the end of everything now who is she answerable to among the two men

The issue now is that they have created future problems for this combine children

This is even the best way to go about a thief

If he gets killed by my dog, I will inform and invite the police to my house carry the corpse to police station

I will search his pocket take his phone number and make a call through the numbers I think will be useful to him

If I succeed in getting a family member I will tell hiy the owner of this phone had an accident and we are taking him to police station then ask him to come to the police station which I will mention the name

The police will hand over the corpse to the family member after briefing them what happened

Come to think of it

The injury inflicted on her is more than the missing 3,000

"The money was seen where it was kept"

So that means she didn't steal the money

Even if she did, would he does so to his own biological daughter.


This is one of the problems of abject poverty

They are not the real thief
The person that bought it with such low amount is the real thief

ChiefAzubuike:
That woman is very shameless. How can you do conductor for a man who will still locate the nearest beer palor or brothel after the days work?

Madam you just hustled in vain.

For that woman to indulge herself in such act, the man must have misbehaved

Either by always complaining that there is no money or there are no passengers

Don't be surprised that after the days job, there must be a certain amount both of them would have agreed to be set aside for the husband

newsynews:
Naija babes will date him as long has he has Money pierced in his pockets.

So you think
Who will be happy staying with a man that looks horrible, that means there are scarcity of men within that area?

That is it
He have to die for that lady to be married

Her God and her late parents have done the needful

Congratulations

Well I think your mindset is playing game with you and you are the lead character

Pregnancies are easier to carry and have less risk before the age of 40yrs

If I may say, you are the one attracting all these issues to yourself

My advice, get pregnant now and let there be peace at home and in your marriage

Even if you don't trust the marriage or his family, have the child and care for the child you are a carer woman you can do it alone

You are the one to benefit from it because if the family chases you out of which I know they won't do so, go to court and the child will be given to you automatically

Remove your ego and reconcile with your mother in law, you can't be happy with the entire family if you don't make peace with her

Don't let anyone reconcile both of you, do it your self by inviting her over to your place

She is worried that her son's first marriage didn't yield any fruit and the second marriage its showing same sign. If you are the one will you be happy?

The onus lyes in your hand.
You are the one to bring happiness or sadness into your marriage

If you read very well I did not mention your husband here
I can't see where he is being faulted

So he is seating on the fence but bear in mind if it gets worst he will side his family

No man wants his mother to be insulted by his wife, most times they get confused on who to stand or support among the two females

The same way they will cluster around you as their father

For every abortion done, father and mother shares the judgment before god

alexistaiwo:
Police will disrupt the process

Lol, Mike have lined up of problems

His issues with Amaka

His issues with Ruth

His issues with Sandra

His issues with Jack

His issues with Thomas and police

Only one person.

Sandra should please forgive him and save him from all this wahala

tommykiwi:
His advisers did not advice him well, he should just continue his transport business rather than politics.

Yea
He just came out from the blues and want to contest for an election and hope to win

Anyway, his choice