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edoman2016:
Hello nairalander,
I need advice on how to tell a friend to stop coming with his girlfriend to my apartment to have sex. This friend of mine, we went to the same university and know each other from there. He is based in Akwa Ibom and into palm oil business. When he comes to Lagos for supply to stores, he resides at his parents' house which is very close to where my apartment is.

However, when he wants to have sex with a girl in Lagos, he brings her to my apartment because he knows I am not yet married. Rather than sleeping with the girl in his parents house. I am tired of it and I don't like it but I don't know how to tell him so that it won't end our friendship. He is quite an intelligent and ambitious man.

What do you think I should do about it?

Why are you scared of losing him?

Tell him in a very polite manner that you are not comfortable with him bringing his girlfriends to bang in your bed

The way and manner he sees it shouldn't be a concern to you

He is into oil palm, the money he is making, is he not supposed to go to a guest house and have his privacy

Do you know that he is soiling your bed and such brings badluck

You can't please everyone if you try to do that then you are shooting yourself in the leg

Despite his disabilities, he still went on and have a certificate
Meanwhile other people who have complete leg and hand are too lazy to achieve success

ritylove:
I am a very gregarious or rather should i say a social individual,i keep alot of company but my actual real friends circle is pretty small,i actually never bought this male bestie of a thing from the onset because i felt it was thrash and irrelevant to me, i was satisfied with my girlfriends around,but during my 100 level in the university there was this particular guy i met then i was still a fresher i never knew much about the school he helped me alot with my clearance,getting a place to stay,showing me around school with alot of stuffs too numerous to mention here.

As time goes on suprisingly we started getting very close much more closer than i ever expected he was very nice and caring to me,sometimes he acts like my dad he is the only male friend i have who dares scold me in my wrong doings as time goes on before i could even realize it he was the closest to me among all my friends he was always there for me when i needed someone even when i dont he was there. We became so close i started confiding in him alot,i even told him stuffs i cant tell my mum we got so close he knows almost everything about me,everyone av dated,whom am dating,my breakups,my sex life,my kind of guy,my attitude towards dating,how i reason, even before saying something he has an idea of what am about to say,this guy knows my girlcode to the freaking core there is hardly anything i can hide from him,he has being of great assistance to me always forcing me to read my books and forget social medias,the truth is that he is the major reason for my drastic improvement academically, i was always at the receiving end,there is hardly anything i do for him yet he stayed i realized i needed him more than he needed me.


it all started few days ago as usual we just left from an eatery store heading back home he decided to drop by my place to charge his pc which he was using for his finals project work since there area had light issues,fast forward to when we got home there it goes we were talking as usual then all of a sudden he started saying stuffs how he feels about me all this while but only kept it to himself after hearing him speak for almost 3hours i was totally confused i didnt say anything i just starred at him the whole time till he finished ,noticing my silience he then asked me what i had to say about what i just heared,i had no idea on what to say i was totally confused i have never seen him this serious my entire life,in an attempt to escape the moment and look on his face i told him to give me sometime to dissolve all what i have heard after which he left.

Now am put in one of the most difficult situations i have ever being he is a very nice person,one of the nicest guys i have met yet he treats me better than anyone else, he treats me better than anyone am dating words can hardly explain i like him alot but i dont think i love or have any feelings or so for him this a guy who waited almost 4yrs to ask me out,a guy who knows me better than all my friends,i feel this guy knows too much and am scared he might use that against me one way or the other after all he has done for me i feel i owe him more, i cant look him in the eyes and tell him that i dont love him,i dont want to hurt his feelings and i dont want to loose him either cux he is my bestfriend i dont want to look like the bad person in front of everyone else but pleasing him here means displeasing myself i dont know what to do anymore cux i dont want to hurt anyones feeling, have being avoiding his calls and text cux i dont know what to say please i need a sincere and modest advice here what can i do in this situation i dont want anyones feelings getting hurt.

All this I don't want, I don't want as an excuse is a childish thinking

Your picture of this guy according to your explanation is a wonderful person

If you were a virgin then keep to it but if you are not a virgin, why acting as if he is about to break a vow you made

From the look of things, he deserves you more than any other man you have dated at least he impacted your life and improve your education while others just came and left you without any tangible benefit to you

If you give love a chance it will develop with time
Try not to loose because you might regret and by then he would have been with a lady that knows his worth

You will have to be careful with the way you will go about it to avoid issues

He is stranded and frustrated and he is looking for where to stay until he sorts himself out, but financially you are not yet stable to keep him

Tell him your girl friend is having accommodation issues and by next week she will be putting up with you pending when she will get a good accommodation and you will like to have your privacy when she is around

If you do this, he won't blame you for his exit because the reason given is acceptable by any matured man

That's the end of the case
He killed his father and also killed himself.

Police won't even go far in the investigation because both of them have gone and police can't see bribe in this one

splmosixx:
Baba God please answer my call o.....

Meanwhile I am desperately in need of job..abeg make someone help me oo... Msc statistics

You read an interesting course, God will provide a Job for you in Jesus name, Amen

Women, you are supposed to know that bringing fort a child is not a child play
From conception to delivering is a very sensitive stage in a woman life
Be grateful for which ever gender God gives you
Don't birth a child to impress your husband
If by tomorrow anything happens to you, he must marry another woman and those kids will definitely suffer in the hands of their step mother
Be wise your life no get duplicate

That's just the beginning

This are the things their mum goes through at home with them
Thank God you are experiencing it.

Good one from the governor

How are we sure that even the pregnancy of those twins belongs to the man

That shows that his intentions are not for the interest of his people

He drilled the borehole to gain favour from his people and has to distroy it because he was not favoured in the election

That means he is not a good person

This is my local government
That hospital have been neglected for years
Thank God for this present administration
All this while what you will see there are bungalows now we have an edifice to be proud of by God's grace there will be constant supply of drugs there

NairalandFAYOSE:
pardon my blunders.
I was aware she has a baby before we met but still continued the relationship because the baby is with the father. she told me it was a mistake and the guy's family doesn't support their relationship. so they went their different ways while the guy kept the baby.

when we started, I found out she's humble, hardworking and she's everything I ever wanted in a woman. so we got married 4 years ago and have a 3 year old son and 2 beautiful twins (just 3 months old).

now the problem started when she went to church and her ex brought her 7 years old daughter unannounced. that he's married now and can't continue taking Care of the girl.
she called me from church and told me. immediately I told her not to bring a child thats not mine to me. she now took the baby to her mom and came home to meet me with my kids.
she has been begging me since to allow the baby in our home because the mother gave her 3 days to come and take her baby from her.

nairalanders pls I need your advice on this. those it make sense that I take the baby while the father is out there enjoying his life.

Am. Glad you said you are aware she has a daughter before marring her

Pls pls accept that child inn and embrace her as your daughter

That child will be more useful to your own biological children than any house help

Let them grow together you never can tell what the future have for that child

Children are better off with their mothers than they are with their fathers

Make your home happy by accepting that child, believe me you will never regret it

Accepting that child will make your wife happy and everyone will be happy in that house, please

daveson07:
This might sounds insane to many people but that's the pure truth,,my family life is at the brink(divorced but not yet legal)

as am typing this, i'm in deep confusion and pain.
It started some years back, my wife started going to this church (name withheld) that one of her friends invited her to join, at first i really don't care cause women(or girls)of nowadays can't be controlled cause of this equality bull.shit.

Now it's affecting me and i can't cope again,Monday to Sunday now it's one programme after anoder,,night vigil,special prayers and all.

Sometimes I eat late in the night,she would'nt return on time to prepare dinner,no time to have normal and enjoyable s€x with my spouse,she is always busy with church activities

I've complained several times and she will always promise to change,all to no avail,i even asked her never to attend dat church again,next ting i know their pastor was at mah door step begging me to retract my decision that evriting will change..(noting changes,it's even worse)

So,since i can't make her to desist from goin to the said church,i actually commot her from my house,since dat church is affecting her business also,she does'nt have time for shop again..

The main reason i wrote all dat sermon is dat,was i wrong in anyway? Cause i'm feeling guilty rite now and dats wots causing d pain in mah heart

ignore all typo and just try to get my point,,,PLEASE HELP A BRODER AM REALLY CONFUSED...tnx in advance

Something is wrong some where
Funny as it may be, she is the only one that have the problem and unless she opens up to you, it will continue till eternity

Now that you have separated from her inform her family and keep watching things from a distance

You did not mention kids, I assumed she is yet to have babies or yet to be pregnant, it could be one if the reasons she is committed to church activities hoping that one day her prayers will be answered

Meanwhile until she opens up no one has a clue to it

Or may be she has been brainwashed by the so called church

If the wife can take a loan of that huge amount for her husband

How come they leave in Lekki and how do they pay their rent, is it that when the rent expires they collect loan to pay for it

Why not relocate to a lesser area of rent payment and use the excess to sort themselves out

What kind of job a boy of 11yrs old is doing or learning in a workshop

No man deserves to die for any being

Be it for a man or woman
Be it for love or friendship
Be it for business or pleasure

You don't just give up in life just like that, once you are dead others feel the pain

If you pack out for those things you mentioned as reason
Be prepared and make up your mind that you won't go back to them for any help
Those things you mentioned shows that you what freedom
Freedom is good but it comes with a price

Are you ready for it?

Habaa Mike why the delay naw

You have trapped people like me to be checking for your updates

tellwisdom:
Na this half plot of house wey look like dental clinic Dem dey celebrate??

Is idiots like you that brings disgrace to their parents

You have low life that's why you have lost focus in making progress in life

topherchris819:
Am sorry for the delay. if you don't see my updates on time it's either am busy, out of battery or data. So do bear with me, always got something coming.

We no get choice, you have already placed us to keep looking forward to your updates

I like the way you are silent on our comments
Keep the story coming we are trapped already

How can you withdraw such amount of money without excort
Hmmm

Whatever is her reason for this barbaric act doesn't hold water

This is an act of wickedness and nothing else

She will live with it and it will hunt her till the end of her life

Whatever is her reason for this barbaric act doesn't hold water

This is an act of wickedness and nothing else

This is good news, now that Ruth is pregnant
Let me see if Mike will learn to take life easy

For all I care, Ruth did not take in to trap mike
It just happened and am glad Mike was the one that broke her virginity

Eketem:
Very sad mentality, so before the time to struggle and claim paternity the child should eat stones abi?

That child is more comfortable than Mike in life now

Correctgist:
A makeup artist in the last stages of cancer is making recovery and she’s been documenting her experience in the last few months.
Buntricia Bastian became an internet sensation a few months back after her plea to have her ashes returned to Nigeria when she passes on hit headlines.
The Instagram post shared on the 3rd of June read:
It is with deep sorrow and much regret that I must say goodbye to all. My lungs are gone and my heart is only working at 30%. I for the first time have ran out of words to say other than I love you and I already miss you. IF I could put all the love that I feel right this minute from the people that I have already said my goodbyes to I would live to be 150 years. Nigeria my husband is bringing my ashes home so welcome him”.



More below:
https://zenithnaija.com/testimony-she-went-from-planning-her-own-funeral-to-making-a-miraculous-recovery/

Your faith will heal you and God will keep you alive to praise his name

Correctgist:
A makeup artist in the last stages of cancer is making recovery and she’s been documenting her experience in the last few months.
Buntricia Bastian became an internet sensation a few months back after her plea to have her ashes returned to Nigeria when she passes on hit headlines.
The Instagram post shared on the 3rd of June read:
It is with deep sorrow and much regret that I must say goodbye to all. My lungs are gone and my heart is only working at 30%. I for the first time have ran out of words to say other than I love you and I already miss you. IF I could put all the love that I feel right this minute from the people that I have already said my goodbyes to I would live to be 150 years. Nigeria my husband is bringing my ashes home so welcome him”.



More below:
https://zenithnaija.com/testimony-she-went-from-planning-her-own-funeral-to-making-a-miraculous-recovery/

Your faith heal you and God will keep you alive to praise his name

Eketem:
Very sad mentality, so before the time to struggle and claim paternity the child should eat stones abi?

You don't have to use insultive words to explain an issue

I am entitled to my own opinion likewise you

Respect people with their ways of expression it cost you nothing better still don't contribute to my opinion

Eketem:
Like I said the women are adults and responsible for their stupidity.

Whenever Amaka calls and he goes he could as well go with pampers or wipes.

As for the rest of your retarded rant na you get your head.

He has energy to be fighting up and down even killing in some cases but he cannot fight for his right to his son.. I hear you

When it's time for the struggle and claim of paternity
He will appear but now is not the time yet

praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

For you to be against abortion, you are saving two lives
Are you prepared now to father a child, bring up a family with its ups and down
What exactly is your reason why you don't want her to abort the pregnancy, that is the same reason you never wanted to use condom
If both of you loves yourselves keep the pregnancy and start a family way
The best person to talk to is her mother
She has the solution to whatever decision you all will take