₦airaland Forum

PapaNnamdi:
Where is the Vaseline??

bintab:
If you have any opinion or insight about this topic,please reply with solutions ,advise and ways we can prevent the killings of our sisters in the land they sojourn for greener pastures.I will surely appreciates it  as it will help in  the discussion of the problem at the Nigerian nurses associations new york, chicago and various organizations of Nigerian associations in USA.I write because no child deserves to see her or his mother or father in handcuffs or mourn the death of one parent by the hands of of the other.I write because i am aware that several women are at  breaking points and a lots of men are at loosing it.We are in our 20s,30s,40, and 50s,highly educated,work laboriously to meet the needs of our families and  yet very much afraid to speak of the unjust treatment of our spouses.In the past 3 years over a dozen of our Nigerian women who were nurses were brutally murdered by their spouses,some in the presence of their beloved children.some cases have been ruled on others are pending in various courts across the nation. I begin to wonder what are the justification to murder another if we truly profess love.

Samuelgr8:
Dear Mrs Jzhane,

This one is about my friend o. Please help me advice her cos I have been talking to her but she has refused to listen. I don’t know if she is under a spell or she is just so desperate.

Ajoke met Dany in 2012. At that time,he was separating from his wife when they met. Dany has a four year old son from his wife. He and my friend Ajoke started dating. A year later,Dany proposed to Ajoke. Everyone was very happy. Ajoke was 37 years at that time,yes a late bloomer. But the issue was that,even with the engagement,Dany had not yet finalized his divorce with his wife.

I mean,they have done introduction and Ajoke wears an engagement ring but the divorce is not finalized. The reason,very flimsy: Dany says he does not want the divorce to affect his son!Can you imagine that? So he and Ajoke were like that until Ajoke even moved into his house cos her parents refused for the wedding to take place cos the man had not yet divorced his wife. On top of that,this man was cheating on Ajoke with several girls. She didn’t believe it until she read his text messages. That was after three years of living with this man as a fiancee not a wife o.

This made her......more


https://livelystones.com.ng/my-friend-is-stuck-with-a-man-who-is-deceiving-herplease-help/

Djbond:
She's been at the hospital since last night. They said we should go for another scan. We slept there together. Does it mean it's time for her to give birth

Madlov3:
Hi! For the sake of anonymity, i decided to use this new account.

I met this girl last December, but we officially started dating in January, I love her and I think she loves me too.Everything is going so well and all things been equal, i may pop the question next year December.
The problem started when I told her to come spend last weekend with me and honestly I regretted that.

After going to pick her on friday evening, i told her there’s isn’t food at home and that i was thinking of cooking spaghetti.
Getting home, it occurred to me that i have never tasted her food so I decided to let her do the cooking.(NB:I cook! like am a very good cook) so after some minutes in the kitchen, she signaled me to come eat but damn!the food was a colossal disaster! It was so overcooked and tasteless. I was not happy that evening and I complained about it.
The next day was a Saturday! She prepared yam and veggies but that was another disaster, the yam was salty and the veggies were also so overcooked. They were no longer greenies but brown.

Another thing i also noticed about her is is throughout our 3 days together, she was always moody! I really don’t think it’s because of the food disaster because my complain lasted for just some minutes.Am still trying to figure out why someone will choose to be moody and sad for no tangible reason.
Last weekend with her was a depressing one for me and right now, am seriously rethinking popping the Question next year because i don’t want to be an unhappy married man.
I really don’t know what to do

Beke2020:
Move on with your life, he has made a choice of whom he will spend his life with.
He has his choice and he has made it.
Look around you will get someone to share love and happiness with.


Bankole and I were first best friends from school. It was such an amazing relationship. It was the happiest I was ever. We kissed when he came to see me in my hostel one day and that was how we began to date. Bankole,a basket ball player and myself, a football player had our lives set before us.

We got signed on professional clubs after school and we got too busy,we couldn't keep up with our busy schedules. Our career was going very well. Eventually,we broke up. Not formally but the constant distance made it difficult and we drifted apart. I don't think we actually believed we we over but it was normal for athletes to have people around and date either casually or otherwise.

We kept in touch once in a while so I knew Bankole was in a relationship with an actress. I felt jealous every time I saw pictures of them on social media but I tried to put it behind me. When Banokole told me they were engaged,I pretended to be happy for him but I was so down with hurt and....more




https://livelystones.com.ng/i-feel-so-horrible-that-i-am-in-love-with-my-soul-mate/
Move on with your life, you will get someone that you will find love with.
He has made his choice of who to spend his life with and that's his choice.

Soldierbwoys:
Good evening nairalanders, we had sex last March 2week 2018 because i found out i had scabies so i didn't want to infect her , after that she traveled since then we don't communicate much, she called me today that she's back and she's pregnant for me
NOTE : we had sex 2nd week of March
NOTE: She said she's been seeing her periods that she checked through a test tube
Is this possible?? I'm so bleeped up and confused.

Ibrahim505:
The rising incidence of suicides among those in southeast is pathetic! Too much frustration and depression among Igbo community.
Let the government be proactive in preventing such occurrence by improving the living condition of the poor.

eagleeye3:
What da hell is wrong with Mike Why admit to Sandra that he killed the guy? Now two people for sure knows that he killed a guy, Thomas and Sandra. This will give both leverage over Mike.








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I siddon look

Soakaway:
I'm typing this with tears filled eyes. I'm 200 Level student of an higher institution located in the south eastern part of Nigeria. I gained admission around August / September 2016 but i couldn't resume same time with my mates because of some financial problems with was later sorted out and I had to resume half way of the semester with almost all quiz already done and just a week to exam. I did all i could do to make sure i avoid carry over but unfortunately for me I had 3 carryovers in my first semester year one and 4 carry overs in my year one second semester.
My 200 level exam came and i could only register one carryover out of the carry over i had in my year one first semester and I did (still hoping it comes out good).
Our 200 first semester results level results was released two days ago and i went to check mine today to my utmost surprise i had 4 carryovers out of 7 of our departmental courses which was released, i couldn't believe what i saw even though i did all i could do to make sure I don't miss quiz or assignments. I wasn't always in school to mark my attendance because of my financial situation to transport my self to school every day and i can't tell someone to mark my attendance for me cos the lecturers are fond of calling each and everyone names one after the other to make sure no one is trying to helping anybody.

I don't want to bore you guys with a long story, as I'm typing to you right now i got
1 outstanding carry over in my year one first semu
1 outstanding carry over in my year one second semester and
4 carry overs in my 200 level first semester

Our 2nd semester exam is starting on Monday and I'm doing everything within my power to make sure i don't disappoint my self one more time.
I can't just imagine the pain my parents are going to feel if they should know what I'm going through right now, I'm dying inside of me.
Please i got two years left, i noticed how good nairalanders are with assisting people with good advices that's the reason I'm tabling my troubles before you guys.

Please i need help with what i can do to graduate same time with my mates, i know it's impossible to make first class and almost impossible to make 2.1 all i need right now is to come out at the same time with my mates with a 2.2 degree.

Forgive my typos please.

Please i can't tolerate insults cos i might end up killing myself this is really killing me.
God bless you all

helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

alexistaiwo:
What is so special about Mike if I may ask

The power of knacking

sureboykris:
Greetings everyone. My name is Kris and I reside in Anambra.
There's this growing trend which is affecting myself and my family - Early morning preachers.
These people have made my life a living hell.
Sometimes as early as 4:30am these people wake you up with loudspeakers.
Problem is that sometimes I get back late and sleep late and barely have enough hours to sleep before starting a new day. Sometimes my baby keeps us awake till the early hours of the morning and just when we're about to catch some sleep, they arrive.. Sometimes 3 different groups preach at the same time.
I now have frequent headaches and have developed some form of early morning anxiety (i dread the noise of the megaphone).
Please what do I do? Is this a matter for the police(as I feel they're disturbing public peace) or do I just see a doctor to help me cope with my sleep problems.
Your advice will be appreciated. Thanks

correctbae:
This is a bad karma! A slay queen who sleeps around with married men just got served with her meal, according to a tweet her dad cheats on her mum and it is causing their marriage as they set to divorce after 17yrs.

Tweet below:

My friend broke down yesterday because her father is cheating on her mother and they are now getting a divorce. They have been married for 17 years. My friend has been sleeping with married men for as long as I can remember. My friends karma is real.

See Also: See Adorable Pictures Of Slaying Grandmother And Her Twin Sister : https://correct.com.ng/twitter-user-shares-adorable-pictures-of-his-slaying-grandmother-and-her-twin/

Egobetafor9ja:
Dear Nairalanders today was a sad day a very sad day for me and my family ,Airtel Sim registration partners went on a sacking spree in Lagos an most part of Nigeria following the decision of the telecom operator to change the rules of the game midway with their partners. In a bid to expand the network , the Indian owned firm lured unsuspecting Nigerian business men and women in Lagos and other parts of the country with a profit story which they never intended to keep. The partners were mandated to open 5-10 Airtel express shops in Key locations for sim registration and to promote the brand in addition to 20- 30 mini shops, employing hundreds of people in the process, most of the parners invested more than 20 million in the process.

After withholding commission payout to our employers for almost 4 months which affected some of the welfare packages earlier promised. the telecoms firm wrote our employers a letter in the middle of June and backdated implementation to march informing the partners of a shift in goal post midway into the partnership.

Some of the partners who were expecting a pay out of between 5-7 million payment in commission for the period suddenly got 4000 to 250,00 commission pay out and cried foul play . On Monday partners in Lagos began a massive sack of employees in the Airtel shops, while others are preparing to take legal actions, some are already in talks with Globacom and MTN for partnership re-branding of their assets some of which are in located in key locations.

I was employed in February this year and received my sack letter today. I could not blame my Madam, she has been good to us and we saw how she has been labouring to pay us our salaries while waiting for Airtel . She showed us all the documents and how Airtel tricked her and her husband into making huge investments only to renege midway.

As we go home without work we pray that Airtel and their partners will resolve thier differences so that we can return to work and support our families ,but if them no wan settle Abeg Glo and Mtn I dey here o

God Bless my hussle

Stricker321:
Please for those married out there, how do you cope with sexual pressure?

So much temptation to cheat.

The pressure is just too much.

Mrbolt565:
I've tried alot of phone browsers. But none can match the google chrome! Its fast and fluid! I absolutely love it!

Rachelsblog:
A fresh Drama is currently building up Twitter, This morning. A Lady named Annie has cried out to her page, calling out her ex boyfriend Ifeanyi Amadi who has threatened to Release Her Nude Because she broke up With him...

Now, According to her story, She broke up with him Yesterday morning cos she saw the relationship was leading no where..

Butin return he refused accepting the break up, rather he threatened to release her nude photos, She said he actually released some on Whatsapp, And told her his next bus stop will be twitter, Thats why she's now crying out..

Read her post below!


Gossip From Ebiwali---
http://www.ebiwalisgossip.com/2018/07/lady-cry-out-after-her-ex-boyfriend.html

helppppp:
Hi everyone, I have to narrate my ordeal to you all. I'm really suffering here and I'm very sad at present. No one knows this cuz I'm always jovial. Seriously I suffer a lot!

I can't even recall when I started watching porn but this week will make a complete 2 years that I have been masturbating. I felt this kind of regret when it was a year too. Please help me, I don't want it to persist again. I don't want to continue with it.

It's even got to a stage that I get aroused to anything exposure about the female. Merely looking at boobs at times, I'd have to control myself. I can't even stand a TV soft sexual act, I'd definitely be aroused. I'm hating on myself!

Before, when I engage in this act, I used to last long a little time but nowadays, I can't even stay two seconds. All I need to hear is the voice of the porn star and I'm done. I know that means I've already developed premature ejaculation (PE) .. Another one I notice nowadays is that I don't get the full control of my joystick as before, it's still standing but I feel it's lost some strength. I feel I have developed erection dysfunction (ED) also and I have never had sex before. I don't my future wife to be depressed about me!


I'm gonna be 21 in August, I don't want this thing to remain with me please help.. I have already lost enough with it. My final year result was pure rubbish, I was only lucky to make a 2.1 cuz i had had good results already in the past. Lots of times I have also contemptlated suicide or harming myself in a way to end this but I won't do that ever.

Even being in my early twenties, I'm far from being broke but I've never had a girlfriend. Just help me please!

onyekabe:
There is this my brother, he has never been married. But now he said he has seen a woman he wants to marry.

But the problem is that his family members are not in support of the marriage because the woman is a divorcee with 3 kids under the age of 10. The kids live with the woman.

The question is, is it wise for this man to marry this woman and take responsibility of the kids because the woman says her kids must be with her.

Japhet04:
I noticed the symptoms of Vitiligo on my lips around August last year..At first it was just a small patch but subsequently it began to spread to other parts of my lip and also outside the lower lip.

I get questions everyday asking me why my lips is like that... Some assume I got burnt by acid or fire... I'm a very confident guy so I don't really allow the insults and tantrums get to me..at least I try to hide it as much as I can.. But of recent it is becoming too much and I've told myself that if the spreading continues I would have no other option than to end my life because I cannot imagine living a life of stigma, pity and neglect.. I really can't

I have met severally with dermatologists and have bought several creams and drugs but all to no avail.. The spreading did not still stop.. Not to talk of repigmenting.

This has affected my social life in many ways, I can't boldly walk up to strangers anymore because I always have this feeling that they are looking at my lips.. I no longer have female friends and I'm always withdrawn inside my shell because of it... My self esteem is down to zero. The mere thought that I will live with this forever and it will never stop spreading has made me suicidal.

I got a camouflage tattoo but it wasn't effective upon all the pain I passed through.. Now the substance I use to cope with it is hair dye which I apply before going for my law classes in the morning ... I still wonder how I will be able to practice law with this kind of lips.

Please nairalanders help me with any advice that might be helpful to save a brother.

madridguy:
Take him to the hospital.

ClassRep001:
After all the money you made through drug and other fraudulent business all you could get your mom is this second hand tokunbo under 500k trash,, really?

Shame on you young man

Neofingerz:
So there's this issue argued over and over again bout receiving or asking for change when you drop your offering........ probably because you don't have much on you, like you have to transport home and you don't have change but you are keen on giving offering.

I just want to know your sincere thoughts on this please let's interact here and know something....i personally thinks it's not a bad thing but let's talk happy Sunday and happy New month to y'all

ChangeIsCostant:
A notorious armed robber with one hand along with his accomplice got more than they bargained for after they were caught by angry villagers in Obeledu area of Anaocha local government Area, Anambra State. The suspects believed to have been terrorizing the community before their capture - were said to have been nabbed while trying to snatch a motorcycle from one man at gunpoint.

They were chased by the villagers and caught as the youths decided to make an example out of them by beating them mercilessly.

They were later handed over to Special Anti Robbery Squad, SARS.

Source; https://www.nationalhelm.co/2018/06/notorious-armed-robber-with-one-hand-caught-in-anambra-state-photos.html