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Road2Success:
Hello nairalanders,

Please I will want you all to read this. though I am not a good writer. I rented an apartment somewhere on the Lagos island. We are just 4 in the compound. When I parked into my apartment my wife came with a pregnancy but we lost the baby when she gave birth to the boy. The following year she got pregnant again, The baby also died the day she gave birth. I am not a religious person but my wife is closer to God. She has been telling me about this compound but I just don't have any reason to think or suspect anything.

Lemme tell you in my compound if one of us is working the others will lose there job. I have no reason to be suspecting anything untill I heard that one of the tenants is owning our landlord 2 years rent and our landlord didn't raise voice. In this Lagos that I know landlord don't joke with house rent. Our landlord don't bother us for rent. Sometimes I will be the one sending the house rent to him without him even asking.

I also heard that was the same thing that happened to previous occupants. They lived there without paying for many years and the landlord didnt disturb them.

I won't say our live is better in this house. We are just struggling to survive. Currently I am the only one working while others don't have a job. I am beginning to doubt if our landlord is truly a generous man as we do called him, since he don't bother us for rent.

My wife have lost two pregnancy in this house. I have been jobless many times in this house. I honestly need people opinion on this matter.

Is this house diabolic or the landlord is just a generous man

Moderators please help me move this to front page

Pls just pack out to prevent more losses and delay in life

EFULEFU1:
This girl I have been toasting for about a month now gave me a surprise video call today
She told me she was tipsy and that she needs sex
Then I said I would be going over then
But she said no, I shouldn't go

I called her back and she hanged up

Is she inviting me for sex or not?

Thanks

I think she only express her feelings to you and that doesn't mean that you should do the job

Give her time to invite you properly or accept your own invitation if you invite her

Cutehector:
still build the guest house too... Hotel can still be fully booked and people will come to yours. Your services can even be better than theirs and they might prefer lodging in your own than theirs.

He may not make sales unless their own rooms are booked

Beside there will be a good sort of price competition and the club owner will reduce his price to frustrate his business and will still build more hotel rooms which will be more than enough for any one to move to the other person's own

The competition will be very high and I doubt if he is ready for that

blockgeek69:
I bought two parcels of land in two different locations last year, I am already building commercial flats on one of them, the one at the heart of town. I am almost done with the building.

But I need advice on the second one which is just on the outskirts of town, I initially wanted to build a personal residential house on the second one, but last month i traveled only to discover that the man sharing fence with me has built a night club and bar on his 4 plot of land. you know night clubs and noise na. After discovering that I decided not to build a personal house there anymore as I personally don't like noise.

For almost one month now, i have been brainstorming what kind of building or business can be established on that land that is sharing fence with a club. Till now i can't think of anything tangible. Please help me guys, the best advice will win something from me (maybe a monetary alert), no joke.

I know this is not the right section but I posted it here for better visibility.

Modified: I forgot to add that the Club owner is already building a hotel (aka guess house there as well). The land he has there is quite big to contain a bar, club and hotel.

Honestly, with the noise that will be coming out from there, it's something like event center or recreational event parks that can be there

Alternatively, you can discuss with the other man to buy your plot and if the price he will be offering is ok, you dispose it and look for a serene environment to build your personal house

You can't raise children where hostels are suited

Haynnie:
Clearing the bill should not be a problem for me as far I'm the one that called for the date. When a split bill can come in is when we agreed to go out on a casual eat out trying new food or stuff (not a date) then is alright. If she calls for a date she should respectfully pay for everything as courtesy demands it.

The pic might not follow what I wrote (is just a meme) but I'm to know if this opinion is far from what alpha males preach as building masculinity?

Any man that split bills with a woman is finished

He should just pay the bills or don't talk about an outing that will create bills

Lucasusoro24:
I don’t know if this is the right place to post this,please mod help to push to the right section



Today is making it exactly one week and four days since my junior brother has been in cell

I was in church last two sundays when I got a call to come to the station immediately that my brother has killed people,I ran out of the church and got to the station,on reaching there,that’s when I heard the whole story that my brother drove the car of one of his clients(my brother works in a car wash) and hit three people

They were severely injured but not dead,they three people he hit were family members coming back from church(the mother,the son and the daughter),they boy’s two thighs bones have been broken,while the mother’s leg is broken,the daughter just sustained a broken nose. Not only did he jam these people but he has also destroyed a bike,the bike he jammed was what even reduced the speed of d car,if not those people would have been day

I paid 52k for X-ray and gave 35k for drugs,the hospital bill was paid by the family of the affected

And everyday I go there to give atleast 1500 for them to use and feed,they are responding well to treatment

As it is now,they have been moved to a bone doctor and the man is charging 400k to treat and join back their bones but I begged till he came down to 250k

I gave him advance of 40k and 2k for hot drink.Police are asking for 100k to bail my brother,the owner of the bike is requesting for a new one,not even talking about the car he damaged

I’ve been mentally,physically and emotionally down

I’ve told my brother he will remain in cell till I’m done running around to attend to these damages he has caused,it’s really difficult for me



Modified:please I would appreciate any financial or legal support,this is getting bigger than me

The bone doctor says he won’t collect 250k again,that he’s collecting 400k,that the boy’s bone is badly damaged and it will take the grace of God to heal well

Please nairalanders help me

So sorry about that

Thanks be to God that no life was lost but those broken bones nedds urgent attention

Your brother is alive but in cell and if the police doesn't get their demands, he may be charge to court and sentence to prison

The car owner is there thinking of how to salvage his car

At this point, you need family members as you alone can't handle this issue

1Battery:
Ever since we have been growing as kids and now into adults we have known no peace because of my sister,she has been a torn to everyones flesh we don't know peace because of this lady,
Her marriage couldn't last because of her attitude, can you imagine it lasted for a year the husband can't afford to take her back because of her way world life style she attacks the man with any available weapon around, the man couldn't take it anymore he had to throw her things out of the house.
Since then she has been in our house fighting every one ,the other time she wanted to fight my mom telling her that if time is not taking she will be in the hospital treating her self ,
Plus so many other things,
Most times I just wish I never had a sister this lady her has caused us so much troubles in life , at every small thing she blows the families secret to everyones ear and the worst part she is a single mother of two boys.
We are just tired of her on a serious note ,I have decided to get her arrested and sent to prison if she continues.

I don't know if this is what having a sister means. in my next life I don't wish to have any
I will commit murder if her nonsense continues .

If you commit murder because of her, the problem has not been solved

Its not easy living with a trouble maker like her

From the look of things, she is frustrated and could be a dangerous person to be with

I think you need to report her to the police once she starts her madness
The police will arrest her and threaten to charge her to court by the time she pleads, she will be made to write an undertaking

Meanwhile, she is supposed to be living in her own rented apartment instead of being a nuisance to everyone

Worst case you pack out of the house instead of committing suicide because of her

I only pity your mum who is going through emotional stress seeing her daughter with such attitude

Kokomazter:
Feelings happened and its motivating me

I love that, go ahead if you think you are bold enough and have the courage

Dey play

Onulum:
She confessed that it was when we had some issues. The guy steeped in and took advantage of the situation

. I took her to my our church alter and asked her to confess that I'll forgive her. Gbam! She cheated with the guy during the period we had the quarrel ( between ending of December and January) and weren't talking with each other.

I've been so devastated. I truly love my wife but she betrayed the love

Now these are questions in my head begging for answers:

1. What if I didn't see that text?
2. Can she ever change genuinely ?
3. Can I ever trust her again?
4. Can any marriage truly survive cheating?


While I haven't sent her away is because of my 3 years old son and time to process everything and take a decision.

I really love this woman and don't think I deserve this.

We got married in 2019, she was 21 while I was 31. So we'll be 25 and 35, respectively this year.

Sorry about that pls
May God give you wisdom to tackle this issue and I hope she puts a stop to it

Kokomazter:
Good day everyone
I want advice from the house pls a 30yr old guy falling for my boss the G.M who is in her 50s
How do I kill it or advance

Whats motivating you to start falling for her

Is it that you don't have discipline or you can't caution yourself

[quote author=IyaTola post=120780378][/quote]I think you are fighting yourself

You have to start solving your problems one by one

Start dating, that will prepare you to handle other sensitive issues with you

drimzsmoke:
From my own personal observation,it shortens the duration of courtship drastically and makes people marry early

Yes

drimzsmoke:

My brother has been married now for over 4years,a big white wedding(I was not in attendance though)
He practised celibacy before marriage(masturbation excluded)....the other guy(my friend's younger brother) also had a white wedding and also practised celibacy cause he was the youth "pastor" of his church....I think when women decide to practise no sex before marriage more,it's going to push young men to marry early...
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free!!!

That's nice

For a woman to practice no sex before marriage, that will be lovely
But she must be a strong person because guys will still keep disturbing her for relationship

That's why people stay away from deeper life girls whom they believe their religious beliefs stand have no shaking

drimzsmoke:
Lolz....you're wrong on all count....he's the 3rd,1st male to be married in the family.Ma,I'm not married jare,stop whining me....a very close friend of mine got married late last year,his younger brother has been married since 2020

MODIFY: Ma,on the average,I think educated yoruba men or people who live in Lagos do marry early

I hope you are not talking about those that pregnants a woman and calls it marriage

When i say marriage, I mean those who go through the proper rites of marriage

Lamanii22:
I was think bout that too… the ultrasound can only detect the number of the baby in the belly and how the baby is doing…

Yea

It will detect a heart bit

drimzsmoke:
My younger brother got married at 28

That was a good one, probably he is among the last in the family, meaning that you guys who are his seniors must have positioned the entire family well

What age did you get married

WantsandMore:
AGD is helpful as an ultrasonographic marker that can determine fetal gender in the first trimester, especially after 12 wks.

ok

Akin1212:
What age is set for marriage exactly?

I think male from 30yrs
Female from 25yrs

Though I can be corrected

Journalistonwhe:
I am curious to know if it can work because I have this Lady I want to go into a serious relationship with but she is from my Mum's Kindred(ununna). Can I marry from my Mum's kindred. Please I need clarification most especially Igbo people.
Thank You.

If you guys are not related by blood, yes you can marry her

But I will advise you discuss her with your mum and she will do the findings for you

Ideservebetter:
I understand that most parents want the best for their children but at the same time, they should understand certain things that are beyond one's control.

My parents, relatives even family friends won't stop troubling me about marriage. I can't have healthy conversations with my people without them bringing up the marriage topic and worse off in a controversial manner. They always accuse me of being too selective and other talks like that, making me feel awful.

I desire to get married someday even though I don't see it as a "do or die" thing. I've been in relationships that didn't work out and I'm being blamed for it or asked why I didn't just manage. My God!

I've been thinking of how to get away from all these talk, maybe leaving home or changing my line. I really don't know what to do.
I'm someone people know as happy and bubbly outside but when I'm with my people, it's the complete opposite, minimal joy because they won't stop stressing me. For now, I've stopped attending family events since they'll be gathered there and I don't want anyone messing with my mental health.

I'm fed up, I need advice from matured minds please.

The issue here is, what age are you

Are you set for marriage

Do you have anything doing that generates income for you

Seat your parents down and discuss with them about this issue and how you want them to give you time to sort yourself

Berrityga:
you can detect it sir. I'm not playing please. Her husband has been throwing lowkey party celebrating the pregnancy. I'm scared right now. I feel the husband might hurt me if he knows I'm the real father of the child. Cause his so desperate for a make child. On the other hand I don't trust the lady I feel she used me to get what she wanted.

Dey play

KeyEndurance:
i have this friend of my who like visiting my house every blessed day. before that things are moving well whenever he visited he must demand for food and i usually makes him happy by given him his need, but now every body knows how Nigeria is, since last week this my friend never stop coming to my house and am the kind of guy thats struggling to survive and he Is Coming To my House to add His Problem To My Own Again. The Things Is Disturbing my Mind But I Dont know What To Tell Him to Stop coming For Now

Stop giving him those things that attracts him to your house and whenever he comes, just tell him that you are going out, keep doing so to him

Berrityga:
So its been more than a year I met this beautiful woman, she is married with two kids females both above 10 years old. Her and her husband have been looking for a male child for many years now but the woman haven't taken in. So how it started!! I go to her house to work (home service) she is very pretty and welcoming, she is the kinda woman I want to settle down with, hard working and she is a great cook. She was very nice to me and also I was very trying to fill in the void of a male child for her so she liked me alot. I started sending her launch to her working place, surprising her with gifts once in a while, I think thats where I got her, on this faithful day I was in her place about to run up with work when her husband went out, I called her to let her know I'm done she said I should wait for her. Omo! When she walked in from the gate I couldn't take my eyes off her sexiness. To cut the long story short I summoned courage and held her and kissed her I thought I will receive a slap and warning never to come back to her house again. But I didn't thats how we had a quickie and I know she loved it cause that weekend after church she drove and came and picked me up we went to a hotel and i made love to her like she was a 16 year old girl. Fast forward a couple of months we continue having this sexcapades once in a while, sometimes quickie after I'm done with work and her husband isn't around. Now yesterday I noticed her body has changed and I asked her if she is pregnant she said yes that she is 3months pregnant and its a male child. I'm very sure the child is mine but she hasn't said anything. What should I do guys. What if this child come out looking exactly like me??

This is just a fake and cooked story formed by you

Three months pregnant cant even detect if a male or female child

Dey play

Oboh662:
Adnin do not push this to the front page

I've posted some weeks ago about my wife family wanted us to take over her late sister twins children she left behind, I have refused because I am not financially buoyant and it has caused a lot of problems between my wife and I even her family thinks that I am heartless for refusing to help these orphans.
Few weeks ago my wife junior called to say that my mother in law was sick and she want my wife to visit her and I have agreed for her to visit. She left for a week and when she returned back she said that her mother is seriously sick and she want her and the twins to moved in until she recovered. I've told her she can go back to her village and comes back while her mother recover and she refused saying it will be better for her to moved in with us because the environment is better than in the village.
I immediately knew that her mother is actually not sick and they had both plan for her mother to move in so she can leave the twins with us. I refused and I've told her I have no problem for her to go and stay in the village with her mother until she recover.she said no and she reported to her mother saying I don't want her to come in my house and she called me crying saying that I refused her daughter to take care of her and if she dies the blame will be on me . I just don't understand why my wife and her people want me to carry the responsibility that doesn't belong me. The children father is alive they don't want to bother him he is roaming free while they are on my neck to take these babies knowing full well that I am not financially buoyant and she alone won't be able to handle 3 babies at the same which mean she will also needs a helper maybe one of her younger one might have to come and stay with us to help her with the babies she will also become my responsibility.
I want them to leave me alone and focus on the children father and I just don't know what to do so they can leave me alone. I am sick and tired of this situations it has started to stress me..what do I do to stop them ?

I think you have to stand on your ground, if actually you are the one that pays the rent of where you are living

She is free to rent an apartment for them if she wants them to come to the city

Just assist them in any way you can so that your mother inlaw can get good treatment and feeding to

They need your help this time more than before

Ficklemind:
Good evening, please how do I politely tell my married ex to stop bringing back our past memories?

My ex and I separated on good terms, he is AS likewise myself so we had to go on our separate ways. It over 6 years that we separated but we still talk once in a while. I don’t have any feelings for him anymore but I don’t know about him and I don’t have any intention of seeing him either though we are far away from each other.

I don’t want to block him and I don’t want to offend him ,but when I take a picture with a random male friend and I upload it on my status ,he tells me he is jealous that the guy is an idiot for holding me or touching me. Asking for my recent pictures and sending me my old pictures that I don’t even remember existed.

This guy is married with a child. How to I politely tell him to stop all this because I don’t feel comfortable with them.

He still have feelings for you and wish it will reignite

No matter what your tells him, he will never stop bringing back memories

Just ignore his comments especially on your postures, when he is tired he will delete everything

Dont reply all his post, ignore them and let him understand that it's actually over between you guys

advanceDNA:
I don say make u no vex naaa

My dear, i am very cool with you and I no vex at all

Thanks

advanceDNA:
My Body dey hot?? Lol...
U too no vex..

Ok naw, no let anything make you sad
Every problem get solution

That's why we call it experience

In as much as I don't support what she did, there must be a reason for engaging in extra chat

Try and find out why

advanceDNA:
What u wrote that is wrong is saying a full grown cheating adult is not at fault for her actions ....and her husband should be looking for what he did to make her cheat and fix her....... if ur husband cheats on u woman and tell u its ur fault .....u no go say sense no dey hin head

No vex,
I see say your body dey hot

Handle that matter anyway that will make you happy

advanceDNA:
I ddnt conclude....its what u said..and i notice it alot on this forum.... u said the man should be looking for wat he did wrong as if women are not greedy for multiple penis like men are greedy..
.as if women dont go back to the exes that use to fvck them , which has nothing to do with what their husband did or ddnt do

Men cheat becos they greedy...No discipline yo control lust and their penis that need less than a micro second to stand erect... ..

...if a person hops from one pvssy to another b4 marriage with no discipline, a ring on ur finger or marriage certificate will not reset the greed appetite u have been used to....thats why men cheat.....and its the same for women.... u women just like to hide and pretend u only fvck because men make u do it...

See ..we all lust...both men and women...its what u do with it that makes u responsible or a dirty human being with no boundries or control...

saying someone made u do irresponsible and expect the person shoukd fix u..is the highest form of witchcraft and manipulation ive ever heard

Dey play,

I don't see what I wrote that was a wrong sentence

Honestly if you can't cope, send her home and get another one

Once you remove a dog at home and bring in a pusy cat, you still have a domestic animal as a pet

advanceDNA:
I dont know if its just me....but why do u women like painting a picture that ur infidelity is always because ur man made u do it....that he must be doing something wrong and the man should be calm to investigate how its his fault and fix the cheating woman... u guys dont know how this explantion sounds...

U even backed it up with an excuse..."women go through alot of challenges from the opposite sex" ....
I dont get...how do u push the dirty cheating action of married women on the men that admire them? Its irritatingly ridiculous...you are justifying cheating and i bet u cant tell this to your own brother or son......

Ok you have concluded

Tell me one good reason why men cheats

xjxibozrge:
"500kvA"? Wow😯

Sorry I mean 5kvA

Zikonna:
I need serious advice. I grew up an only child, raised by a single mum. My dad abandoned us as when I was a kid and few years later he died in an accident. My mum is the most important person in my life and I love and respect her. She is also a very religious woman and raised me so.

I am settled and ready to get married and I have met the woman I am sure is the one for me. My mum has met her once and although she had her reservations she wasn't opposed to it. But yesterday while going through my fiance's whatsapp status(bacause she has her number), she came across the picture below and because of it, she is now opposed to the marriage. According to her, she can't let her only child get married to a girl that wears bum shorts in public. She says "this sort of dressing is from the devil"

I have tried to explain to her that my girl isn't like that and she only wears clothes like that once in a while. My mum is still adamant. She wants me to end our relationship and find a "responsible woman"

I am currently torn between my mum and the woman I have decided to spend the rest of my life with. I am afraid that if I disobey my mother's instructions, it would lead to serious circumstances as she is also my spiritual mother.

I do not know what to do. Look at the picture below. I really don't see anything wrong. I cropped her face to maintain anonymity.

Probably she never liked her, i think you need to invite her over to spend some time with you while your mum will observe her more

She could have a good character which your mum is yet to observe

She could have a bad attitude your mum will observe with in hours

Dressing to an extent can still describe who a person is