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Anal55:
Nairalanders how do you tackle this kind of problem especially when it has to do with family and property
My nephew is dragging right with me over our family house his father was my elder brother and the first born in our family we where five in number 2 boys and 3 girls although my female siblings are married .
My parents left us with a family house as the where now late so my brother lives in the landlord palour which was a self con apartment when he was alive although his relationship with his wife didn't work out as the woman wasn't married by my brother but she had kids for him now after my brother death I moved to the apartment as and started living there although I did a little renovation on it and others .
Until I have to travel all in the hustle although I was still in Nigeria but I moved to the northern part of Nigeria only to receive calls from my neighbors that my nephew has break into my apartment and do some retouching in my own house
Note there was never a time I ask them to live the compound or anything infact this is a family house as everyone has a room why must it be that my own.
I need advice as am very very pissed off
I brought this here for wiser contribution
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The thing is that this boy am talking about went to HK only to pick money from it as I heard only to come to break into my own apartment if he thinks he needs a room there are many there it's is literally insulting

You have two options

Involve senior family members, sell the house and share the money into two and give the family of your senior brother their own half and the whole drama will end

Second option, share the property to the witness of the family and take one part and give them the other party

But the best is first option

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

You
Your brother and your girlfriend

All of you are too premature to stand marriage and it's problem

Besides, that joke starting from your brother by saying he will be sending her on errands is a total insult

For you to respond by saying that you choose your brother over her shows that you are not even matured to start a family and you don't even know that a woman can make you reveal what you have on mind

And for your girlfriend to say all what she said, means that whatever you guys want be ready to collect more troubles from her if you guys makes her miserable

There are things that you can't use as joke's when it comes to family and marriage matters

ebubeson:
A former friend of mine told me long time ago, how a guy slept with his former babe when she came to drop wedding invitation card.

If you like, keep enjoying yourselves and keep enjoying your cheating. It is a free world...

She wanted it in the first place
If not she would have rejected it

oloyede252:
I am a 34 year old man. I have been with my wife for
nine years - married for the last five. When I married her,
she had very traditonal values. We had a lot in common -
both somewhat shy, both non drinkers and non smokers -
very respectful - spiritual rather than religious ,ethically
proper and commited to one another. We've always been
very honest with each other as well. Our physical
intimate life started off rather pedestrian - very
unadventurous but slowly grew as we did into something
wilder and special - however we remained monogamous.
One time my wife got very jealous when I told her I had
visited a strip club with friends and was very hurt by it. I
promised her I would not go to one again. This was
about three years ago.
My wife has since had some revelations and has
changed. Long story short - she suggested to me that we
consider an "open marriage". Apparently at work a fellow
she was attracted to hit on her and she was flattered, so
much so that it brought forth an idea she said she'd had
on her mind for about a year now ... the idea that society
puts too much emphasis on sex and that if we can have
our needs met by someone else other than our partner
that we should go ahead and do it. She said she would
have no problem with me being with other women if I felt
it was right.
I CANNOT sleep or eat. I am in agony. I love her so much
and respect what she has to say but this hit me like a ton
of bricks. I have no interest in being with anyone other
than my wife EVER. I told her I would consider it and try
and be a litle more evolved in my thinking but I don't
think i can. The thought of my wife being with another
man makes me ill.
My wife argues I am being possesive and territorial. She
is being great about this , by the way, she is simply
expressing her feelings and being honest with me - and
given the situaltion I couldn't ask for more. My wife is
prone to quite analytical and is a real thinker and we
have considered this is just a phase she's going through.
But what if it isn't?
I want her to be happy and I don't want to supress her in
any way. But I don't think I could deal with her being
with other guys.
Please help - thank you in advance.

Am glad she opened up

You can't change her mind but you can do things that will make her to have a rethink of her thoughts

Seat her down and both if you should discuss that ideas of her and what lead to such thinking

Her response will indicate either that you are not caring and providing for her or you are caring and providing but she feels you need assistance

If you have not been taking her to places for outing, then it's time you start doing that

Well let me stop here

Senioreddy:
Good afternoon.
How's been your day?
Yes I am AA. Talking about out growing it, when will that be for a grown man?

Anything after 50/60
But am not a Medical Doctor
Am a victim too

tobore4u:
pls help me.

Send your account details

Handsomejok:
Thanks

Welcome

dre11:
https://dailytrust.com/woman-quits-marriage-marries-daughters-boyfriend-in-kano/

If she is happy with her new husband that means probably she wasnt happy with her former husband

People should be allowed to follow their heart

jeromestarks:
He's staying with me ooo.

Then you are too simple for him
Change your attitude so that he too will have sense

benjackugo:
Actress Rosy Meurer Pounds Yam For Her Husband, Says She Will Learn Anything To Please Him (Photos)



https://www.instagram.com/reel/CnzOcdBo5wn/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

That shows that she is ready for marriage
Well, she is married to a man who have what she wants in a man

So she must protect her marriage and her man

Handsomejok:
We had a lot issues in the past we separated and later reconciled but every slightl mistake she will remind me about what I have done to her and our daughter she has said that when our daughter grows up she will tells her everything. I am not happy with her anymore because I have apologised to her from the bottom of my heart and I expected us to start afresh again but she is still dwelling in the past and I don't know how to make her forget about the past so we can enjoy our marriage. What should I do to change her mind so she will be in love me again and stop seeing me as a monster that caused her so much pain in the past?

Trust and love is like a sticker, once removed from where it was initially pasted, it will not stick well again

I think she is no longer free with you base on the paste experience and she will keep using that to fight you because she doesn't know when next you will deal with her

So, my advice is stop all naughty behavior and treat her nicely, at first she will doubt your genuineness

But if you keep doing good, she will accept that you are now responding to change and if you continue with a good behavior and it will erase partially and a new life will begin

You alone knows what you do that she doesn't like and such behavior brings out the madness in her

The moment you change your attitude she too will change

But if you continue with that same thing that caused the problem

She too have made up her mind long ago that it's either its working out or not

She doesn't care

jeromestarks:
See me see something ooo.
I pulled over at a filling station last week (Monday to be precise) with my nephew in the car. I needed to buy PMS which cost 10k but I didn't have enough cash with me so I asked my nephew to borrow me which he did without hesitation.
We headed home happily with no single problem.

On Saturday, I gave him 70k to buy some items he will take to school since he's going back to campus next month. He thanked me and my babe was really happy for him. They both rejoiced and thanked me. I was glad I could give him such amount ( there is this joy that comes with giving someone/ helping someone. Especially when it's a relation).

To my greatest surprise, this boy met me this evening and asked for his 10k. As in, the one he borrowed me for fuel.
In his words " Uncle, you have not given me the 10k you borrowed to buy fuel"

I don't even know what to say.

Abeg, people in the house, what should I do?
If you were me, what would you do?

nlfpmod

I will ignore his calls and messages until he gets back to his senses

Stmiceel:
Parents of the world help me!

Honestly you guys are creating future problems

Just stop all that and use baby cream like pears or alternatively use Shea butter (ori)

Senioreddy:
Dear Nlanders please I need your advice especially the medical professionals.

Since the beginning of the dry season, I've been battling with malaria and typhoid month on month. There's hardly a month I don't go to the clinic and after conducting a test they'll tell me it's malaria and typhoid.

Please what do I do as this is becoming worrisome.

Probably you are AA and if that's your genotype, just accept your faith, you will out grow it

A single mosquitoe bite will run you into malaria

So guide yourself

Otunbakayce:
Did you even read at all?
How can I arrest her when I am not the owner of the hospital.

Women are more like snake, calm, slimy and dangerous. A woman can kill her husband and cry blood at his funeral just to gain sympathy and make people pity her. But she will curse the dead man when alone.

The hospital can arrest her if they wish, not for you to arrest her

We have bad people in both men and women

We only pray not to be their victim

Otunbakayce:
I just discovered that my innocent looking assistant perpetrated a massive fraud of #3,860,000 under my watch from the month of May - December 2022.

My new hospital Administrator called me for a private meeting to inform me that I am under remitting and she wouldn't want to work with me anymore. I requested to see her book and I was lost in awe when I saw what was being recorded for my unit as remitted revenue.

I got angry and left to get my book which we compared to the administrators book and discovered that there were some months that this lady didnt remit a penny and when she remits for some months she would remit only about 20-30% of the amount we generated.

I went back to my office after comparing my books with that of the administrators with a promise to arrange receipts and other books for her to see. The administrator apologized to me for her thoughts towards me.

As soon as I got to my office I gave the books to my assistant and told her to arrange all our receipts and keep it on my table. This lady went home with all the books and didnt drop them as instructed.

I resumed work on Monday and she brought the book with incomplete receipts. This lady didnt remit a dime from the month of August to December. She was issuing a forged receipt and putting same in the books for me for monthly checks.

I generated about #5,362,000 and this lady only remitted 1,123,000 and the rest were paid through bank transfers which I am not sure if they were really paid.

Till this moment I can't believe that this lady could pull such heartless and wicked heist.

She has been begging me to help her die the case as it was because of family issue that made her do such.

I have made up my mind that I won't work with her again and its left for the Hospital management to find how to get their money from her.

Women are wicked, please fear them everyday.

Please your advice will be appreciated!
Seen, lalasticlala, justwise. Please front page.

If you say women are wicked because of what she did, men do worst

Now back to the topic, report to the police and let her be charged to court, that's a way of teaching her a lesson and I am sure that the money will come out if she is aware she will be going to jail

kennybabs1980:
My younger brother (half brother) and his wife believes so much in online investments. I called him and advised him seriously against such phantom businesses last year July but he didn't take my advise. His wife even insulted me at a time because of the advise.

At that time he was into a particular one called Kala. He collected money from people to the tune of N9.6million in the name of trying to help them invest in Kala. The investment went under and he is now using family members to pressurize me to assist him especially to secure a loan from a particular coop society I belong to so that he can pay off four of the people he help to invest who are seriously troubling his life with police and thugs.

I am not willing to do this under any condition. I have told him to sell off our late dad's landed property if he can get a buyer but people are offering peanuts and two of our sisters (his own full sibs) are insisting on getting their own share immediately it is sold, one even said she didn't send him on online investment. If he can get buyer for the property, I can help talk to our other siblings but these two, no way!

How can I help this stobborn brother without hurting myself?

A stubborn fly follows the corpse to the grave

Leave him to carry his cross so that he will have sense

The property you are asking him to sell, does it belong to him alone

Don't you have a share in the property

Your step sisters are right by saying that they want their shares Immediately after sales

Leave that your brother to learn the hard way

If you take a loan to sort him out, you will go to jail if you don't pay back the loan

So let him face it and have sense next time

If you sort him out now, be ready to sort him out in other ones because he will always fall back to you with out regards or lessons learnt

Chenult:
How do I reply to the query? Should I apologize or give excuses to why there are so?

Only you know the bleach, chemicals or soap that you are using to wash them to make them clean and in the process it fades away the original beauty

Simply tell them you are sorry and you will be more careful next time

Preciousgirl:
He has been showing the signs but hasn't been able to voice it, but he has finally done the undone via a phone call.

I am not interested

But how do I tell him?

Knowing he is my boss.

Thanks

Just don't reply him if you don't want to date him

No matter the passes he makes to you, just be yourself

Nazgul:
Those are myths, it has nothing to do with reality.

Cocks are territorial in nature. This means that the dominant male would fight of and expel other competitors so as to inherit all the females to himself.

If you have reared local chickens this would be very easy for you to understand. Cos all your males would leave your house for the dominant male and start up their own lineage elsewhere.

This is true

I have hens but just an Agric cock to attend to them

So a cock from far distance jumped fence and chase the lone Agric away

The native cock took over the compound

I have to cage the Agric because the native cock that invaded is a good rapist on those hens[center][/center] and a very active cock, he is ready to kill the Agric

By one month all the five hens are laying eggs and the moment all of them started incubating, I caught the native cock at night while he was sleeping, cut his father's and threw him out of the compound

I cut the feathers so that he doesn't jump into the compound again and that was how I release the Agric so that he too can be free

I was saying to myself that so as it is in humans that no man wants another man around so the cocks don't want any cock to challenge his territory

flourishing247:
I woke up this morning questioning a lot of decisions people make while alive. Why do men hate writing wills?

It saves the family of plenty heartache and turmoil. So much happening around as regards inheritance especially properties.

Some men don't write wills, they also believe that their is a traditional way of sharing things if they die with out a will

EriMma1:
This may sound weird but it's my situation now.

I have been a single and independent lady for a very long time. Though I really looked forward to settling down in my 20s and thirties but because I was the over careful type, I couldn't as I kept being picky due to men's character and behavior.

Fast-forward to my lat 30s, I began to lose interest and started getting more comfortable as a single. The upheavals in today's marriage also got to me. As in the way marriages are packing up, the cheating aspect, abuse and domestic violence in marriages all further affected me and changed my whole perception of the union called marriage. So I unconsciously resolved to remain single as long as I'm happy and independent.

Some of the reasons I also made up my mind.
As a single, Im very much at peace with no one dictating what and when I should do things or get out of bed. I love my bed.
No one is body shaming me when I add on some pounds due to excessive eating and no questions my eating habits as is sometimes the case with some married women. Also running errands when you don't feel up to it just because hubby wants you to do it. Some men can send their wife on errand like craze and me I hate running errands.

No one is disturbing me when I need time alone which could last for hours. I love my space and privacy. So the thought of having to give that up scares the hell out of me.

Now, back to the matter.

Recently, some close spiritual leaders in my denomination have been trying to match make me with a single pastor and that one too is shining teeth that he has seen a jimjim sister. When they now openly mentioned it yesterday with the said man around and he too was nodding and agreeing to the proposal, it dawned on me that these people are not joking. When I got home and i sank into my comfy space and began to fret. I mean... The thought of giving up all that freedom is just so scary. I suddenly discovered that marriage no longer excites me and my inner self was fighting it.
Also, the thought of carrying pregnancy for nine months with all the stress of looking after babies, tending toddlers ( poo poo) and that motherhood life made me sick instantly. The thought of joggling my job with family life gave me the chills. I see how my married mates struggle with this. Huh. Men...

I don't know. I don't feel cool about this cos it makes me feel like I'm about to be put in a cage and everything about me is going to change.

Now, before you talk about me not loving the man, I think I fancy him and can love him cos he looks so much like my ex of years ago. So that is out of the question. He is a happening lovable man but....... I no longer feel excited about marriage. at least, from what played out yesterday.

Do I need any form of therapy cos my family won't hear of it but this is my situation now ooo... Hmmm

The problem here is your mindset

You are the only one to change your perception about life and marriage

Talk to God he alone will put things well for you

All those things and issues you mention are what makes marriage

You can't run away from them but you can control them

Lastly, any man you intend getting married to, you have to lecture him on things you want and things that irritates you

So if he accepts you with that, then you can go ahead

But if he fail to accept you that way, just end it there

birchwood:
[b][/b]I’ve tried spraying insecticide so many times, I even leave my windows shut in this hot weather to keep the insecticide in after days. I don’t know what to do, there’s no standing water anywhere near my windows, it’s becoming unbearable and i might not sleep this night because of them. Please help me with solutions

You can marry change the nets to a tinny net because mosquitoes can still penetrate through the regular net

You add bed net to your bed for sleeping

You stop going out or opening your net especially from 7am because they perch on the door, once you open the net they go in immediately

KeyEndurance:
Thank You So Much For This tremendous words

You are welcome

Lamanii22:
Hello everyone, my daughter turned two already and I’d love to enroll her in a school but my MIL is against such an idea… she was even authoritative about it. I didn’t respond but I just felt it is my decision to make not hers….

I don’t know if 2 years old is too early for school or my MIL may be right…

That's the best age for prenursery and or kg class

breakthrough22:
My son is 5 years old and presently live with her mum .She packed away last week and absconded with my son to her sister place .I find out he have not been going to school .Even his mum doesn't have a source of livelihood .

I thought she packed to her dad house but shame will not allow her do that. Her dad called her yesterday when i went to say hi to my son that I was around to see my son .So,I was asked to go to her sister street to meet my son .

I already got a lawyer to talk to so I can get my son back.The lawyer told me to go to police station to put up statement so that they can call her so she will not run away with my son .The officer in charge at the station told me tonight that I shouldn't have come to the police station and she directed me to the nearest customary court which I will go on Monday. The police woman told me I can't get my son until he is 6 which will be next year May but advised me to go there so they can just serve her a letter to scare her .

I actually read on Google yesterday that if a woman is unfit ,the father will be in custody of the child though they will allow the mum access to the child but i dont know if this can play out since my son is just 5 years old .

My fear is my son will be out of school this term and this is not good for a boy who is innocent .

When you say a woman is unfit, are you referring to being a disable woman, insane or out of job

I think you need to handle this issue with mutual discussion and understanding

What exactly is the problem why she packed out

You never mentioned that

A woman will keep taking her child anywhere she goes because you are free to meet and pregnant another woman

Both of you need to talk things out and if you think you are no longer interested in her that's why you want to have the child

Well I doubt if the court will grant that

KeyEndurance:
Greeting to all of U.
My Father Marry To Woman Which Are My Mother nd the Step Wife. But My Mother Is The First Wife. In Fact My Gave Birth To All Her Children B4 My Dad marry Another Woman. My Mother Is The Bread Winner Of The Family, during xmas will Buy xmas Clothes To All The Children including My Step Mom children. So My Mom died last Year nd The Step Wife Promise during My Mom's burial dat She Will take Care Of Her Children and Never To harm dem which Every One praised Her For dat statement. The Next Two Month After My Mom dead This Woman Turn My youngers One To Slave, so The Information Reached Me at Nasarwa state i called her she refused to pick i travelled to my home town and supplicated her nt to harm or stress dem she agreed wit me. bt nw another information reached me dat she has enable my father to chased my younger sister frm the house. the thing dats paining me is dat, y is it dat she cant call me to report to me if my youngers one provoke her? she enjoy causing problem btwn dem an my father

Your mum died due to over labour and stress of carrying and caring for the whole family

Your step mum is not ready to fit into the vacuum your mum created and she doesn't even wish your siblings well

Your father have no say of his own ever since he married your step mum and he is loyal to her than the rest of you all

You expected your step mum to report issues to you especially on your siblings, look, you mean nothing to her and is best for you to be watching her from distance because the next person she will deal with is your father by the time she is through with your siblings

I suggest you relocate them to where you are to save their lives and future because she has no good plans for them

Since your dad have no say in her to protect his children, you too, when you carry your siblings out of that house, don't pity him when she starts dealing with him

mrrobz:
Iwas living outside of nigeria and I returned back in 2015. I rented a 1 bedroom apartment, in the same compound there was this beautiful girl not my type of woman but she is beautiful tought.
She came to introduced herself and from there we started talking , she uses to come to my place to watch movies. I have dstv, she sometime help me in the kitchen. I noticed that she was coming to me more than I needed her anytime I am home she would come , like I said since she was not my type I took her as a sister.
It happens that one time out of the blue, we had sex, I felt so bad and I apologised to her after. She said it was fine she didn't feel bad about the the sex , she did enjoyed it and she is ready to give me more sex anytime I am ready for it.
I asked her about her boyfriend she said she was happily single and I have told her I will think about that, honestly in the country where I was living before friend on benefits is not unusual and I was into it but I had never imagine that we have ladies in Nigeria who are also into it , her telling me she was ready to give me sex anytime without being in a relationship with her came up as a big shocked to me.
I told her no problem and I had made it clear that I am not her boyfriend and she is not my girlfriend we will be friend on benefits only and no emotional attachment , we will stop the day one of us will find true love which she had agreed.
From 2015 to 2019 we were sleeping together no relationship and I stopped sleeping with her when I met my wife to be, I told her I am in a relationship with someone I love and we have to put an end to it.
I wished her good luck and she wished me the same that was how I put a stop to it. I didn't see her much again until I moved out few months later , I still had her number she also had mine . I could see her on whatsapp changing pictures and status, but I had never chatted her and she didn't chat with me too.
In 2021 my babe traveled out of town, she is studying nursing and out of the blue she (friend on benefit )messaged me on whatsapp asking me how I was doing and we started chatting from there , she told me she was now a youtuber she was having some issue with her laptop if I could let her use mine, I didn't want her to know my new adress but I had to help her because youtube was her source of income , the next morning I sent her my adress around 9am I was off work and expected her to come soon but she came around 7pm with the excuse that she was babysitting her friend child she picked her up late , I said no problem I welcomed her inside.
I gave her my laptop she was in the parlour editing her videos while I was in my room, when I came out the parlour she told me she had seen a photo of me and my babe on my laptop wallpaper she said she was beautiful , I thanked her and went back to the room. I was waiting for her to finshed editing so she can leave because it was getting late but he was still at my house at midnight .
I asked her if she hasn't finished she said no she had few more to go. To cut the long story short we had sex that same night and she has even alow me to have anal sex with her , the sex was wonderful but I still had to remind her I love my babe so much that me and her are only friend on benefit which she agreed.
She said she doesn't mind helping me out while my babe is away and I have agreed t we continued doing it from 2021. Her birthday was last year september I bought her a nice phone for her youtube chanjel even december a laptop for christmas so my own laptop and phone can rest.
My babe and I are getting married on february 25th and I have told the girl on 29th of december that I want to stop having sex with her because my wedding is coming up , and I want to be serious and focus on my wedding and wife to be. She started crying saying that I have wasted her life for 7 years, she had rejected so many men that has come to ask for her hands in marriage because of me . she said she had vowed to do anal sex with the man she loves and she did it with me because she loved me and she expected me to marry her instead of marrying someone else .
I reminded her about the agreement we had we were not into a relationship, I had never promised her marriage she was free to accept those men who came to seek her hands in marriage rejecting them was her own faults it has nothing to do with me , she said no she loved me and were expecting me to love her too. She was so angry at me she cursed me over and over again she said I will never known peace, my marriage will fail and will not hear the cry of a baby in my house which I have rebuked her sent it back to her in 100 folds . But I am still shocked because we were never in a relationship and I had never promised her marriage and I don't know why she cursed me. I know her curses will not work because I didn't make any fake promises to her and I am not the cause of her rejecting men that came to seek for her hand in marriage but I feel bad because this is not the way I expected our friendship to end. I have tried to contact her so we can settle this issue amicably but her number is unreachable and she is not longer staying at her old place and I don't know where she is right now. I don't know what to do and what do you think I should do , advice me please and sorry for the long story

You actually know that you were using her to satisfy yourself all these while and she too have her intentions too

Well that was not a gentle man agreement because practical sex on countless times have been involved

Try to locate her in any way and make peace with her, She will be calm but you have to be patient with her

Meanwhile stop sleeping with her since you are not interested in having her as a wife

Then you can credit her account and from their you become mutual friends and every thing will be a e fine

Yes you made the conditions of the relationship made known to her, but that's for you not for her

EFULEFU1:
There is this beautiful neighbor I am eyeing
I approached her and she said I am not her class.

Now I feel like murdering her.

Please advise me

Go ahead

fyzaila:
I don't know how i can help this situation gaskiya. My sis has been troubled ever since she went through her husband's WhatsApp chat with one particular woman. She told me she has been suspecting her husband who is always with his phone 247 for like 4 months now. She said he is always pressing his phone even till past 12am. When she noticed this she talked to him about it but he told her "it is his phone not hers, everyone should do whatever they like with their phone" she said she even denies him s3x sometimes because of this and also she's nonchalant about cooking and house chores all so that he can change and stop. But he doesn't seem bothered. And they have 2 kids.

So one particular night he slept off and the phone fell off his hand so she took it b4 it locks and went through his chats. She discovers he has been having emotional affairs with a divorced woman. It seems to her the woman was his ex. He is planning on marring her as his 2nd wife. And the woman also has two kids.

She said he hasn't defaulted in his responsibilities to the family. Me personally, i don't know what to do to console her to accept reality. Since our religion permits polygamy.

Nairalanders please what can you say about this situation now.

This man in question is about taking another wife because they must have known each other even before he met his wife

The other woman needs him and she already have two kids so, he doesn't mind going in for her

Let your sister calm down and be humble , he may not marry the second woman after all but may keep in touch with the other woman

A woman can not stop a man from marrying another woman but her good attitude can stop the man from taking another woman

Jones4190:
is the duty of the landlord, water was considered before paying the rent

If the landlord is not living with them and the pumping machine have been working fine before it got spoilt

The tenants should share the money equal parts and include the landlord

If they want to wait for the landlord to repair it alone, they will wait longer especially if the landlord is not living there