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Theyemmie:
So from the beginning the relationship was perfect,he was the best ,normally he's not my type of guy,but he was there for me when I was at a low point in my life,we started as friends, then feelings developed, and he was the absolute best,no guy has ever treated me like that
So he asked for my hand in marriage, normally I am a pessimist, I expect the worst,create different scenarios in my head and how I would react when it happens and stuffs
So when he talked about the marriage stuff , I started thinking about what would go wrong (because he's kind of boring ,not spontaneous and not wild a lil bit),so I started thinking if the marriage would be boring and if I won't get tired of him as he's not my usual type of guy

so I sent a message to someone asking for advice ,then mistakenly he saw it and it turned to yam pepper scatter scatter sha
I begged him ,he really cried that I have been stringing him along ,which is not so,I do love him a lot
I begged him sha and we continued the relationship, but the relationship has changed a lot,he's not even asking for my hand in marriage again
I'm the one pestering him
and when I threaten him with break up ,he begs me not to,that he's just taking his time with me
This issue happened 2yrs ago o,how long is it going to take


I just feel I should break up with him,but can't seem to let him go
Is it some kind of pay back?
And I am not getting any younger

Only him knows what's in his mind since he saw that conversation that changed the whole thing on his head

greatermax77:
I thought this old man once said mentioning OBI's name to him is an insult , so why is he mentioning Obi name everey he goes

That names is the only name that gives him threats

Justbehave:
You ladies will believe anything posted here provided its from a female moniker. Lol. So you can't see it's a lie? He is trying to scam people here.

He has already wished himself what he wants, so it will be granted to him

UniversalAngel:
It's so painful to see my precious baby give up his last breath before my very eyes.
After struggling for hours but yet he couldn't make it.
We tried to get cash for the surgery but all to no avail. Transfer wouldn't go through either and all pleas to the doctors fell on deaf ears.

Hubby is also out of town and I had to do everything on my own running from the hospital to the bank and back to the hospital, driving all through town to look for POS operators with exorbitant charges to withdraw from but nothing.

I gave hubby the news and he was speechless till now so we only have a daughter as our only child with us now.
My Kid Brother barely survived the earthquake in Turkey were he lives but I'm glad he is recuperating in the hospital.


Forgive my long epistle but I just needed somewhere to pour out the contents of my heart since I'm alone with a 3 year old child.

Thank you for reading, My Nairaland Family..


NOW, I REALLY KNOW WHAT PAIN CAUSED BY DEATH FEELS LIKE AND I NEVER WISH IT FOR ANYONE IRRESPECTIVE OF THE CURRENT SITUATION IN THE COUNTRY.

😩😩😩😢

Pls take heart the Lord is your strength and comforter

He will bless you with twins boys and make you happier

May God accept his soul

VoidLife7:
Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion designing immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones supporting the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd support her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤

Let me just keep quiet

I pray God will make a way for her to further her education

BlackAIIDay:
I done waka for my street tired with my old 1k note, nobody done gree sell food for me. I done go back house go sleep

Make sure you eat because hunger is worse than shortage of cash

Eat then pay with old note if they refuse to collect it then they should book you on credit

At least you don chop

[quote author=Hamachi post=120899824][/quote]The company still have the rights what so ever to withdraw any let of sort

Besides they have Sense that her future dress code in the organization is capable of causing havoc and confusion among her peers which will affect productivity

Odewaleadesoye:
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Raw cash especially the new notes

Hier:
In her mind, she be like, all of us can manage together kikiki😂😂😂

Exactly, but it's cunning

Ara21:
Your advice is perfect. Some people are unbelievable, they don't have conscience, I have been in her shoes, ended up parking to another house and encourage her to renew the rent.

Waooo

sync:
Dear Nairalanders,
I’m in a dilemma and need your advice
There’s this friend of mine who out of the blue contacted me last year October asking for a favor to come stay at my place a couple of days since she had an interview in Abuja. I allowed in her without hesitation since I thought it was just going to be a few days. Fortunately, she got the job.

When she got the job in October, she asked me to pls allow her stay for two months before getting her place. My people, it’s been five months already and she’s still not making any moves to get her own place.

The problem really is I am currently jobless. She doesn’t contribute anything to the house. I am responsible for our feeding, gas, electricity, everything! And I do not have money. The little money I have is from my generous elder sister who has been my helper since I lost my job. Weekends she sleeps all through while I clean the house. I also do all the cooking. She doesn’t cook.

I am a light sleeper so I get up at any slight movement. This lady gets up between 3 to 4 times every night to use the restroom thus keeping me awake all through the night. This really has a toll on me. During the day she goes to the restroom between 14 to 16 times. She doesn’t contribute to buy foodstuff but she eats 4 times a day

What have I gotten myself into. Please how do I politely ask her to leave without hurting her feelings and savaging the relationship I use to have with her. I am tired, depressed and jobless!

Honestly just tell her your siblings are coming

Whatever we tell you to tell her now, will be difficult for you because you can't even talk to her

Worriedguy6699:
I know the unemployed have no problem here cause they have all the time on earth.

They look towards evening after work when they have the freedom to rock and still come back to work the next day

Hatrick01:
Please suggest what i could gift her tomorrow being valentine...

Budget:#1200

New notes

kennyz247:
Obi supporters will not like ds development oo...

Iv never seen set of people with daft/dead brain like Obi supporters walahi, imagine wanting a whole nation with more than 200 millions people to sufferer and die of hunger,just because they don't want other politicians from other party to buy votes..

Zukwanu Ike Nwokem

Kimiso:
How do you cope which you have to submit your phone before resuming back to work,i currently worked where i had to submit my phone before resuming and I don't feel comfortable about it what if i had an emergency calls to attend to I think everybody has same experience to share on it here

Just inform your family that it is their policy, they will understand

I think the company wants their workers to be focused on the job they are doing to avoid errors and factory accidents

Saintmary:
You will marry a woman, yet you don't want a woman to advise you about how to relate with her own gender.


Okay

Dont mind him he is still learning, experience will teach him in a practical way

Freethought:
I have been on the same prepaid meter with my landlord since i came to this house 2 years ago, he charge 5k monthly for electricity and I've paid deligently for the past two years.

Last week Saturday he brought an electrician to the house to install the prepaid meter he got for both of us (me and the other tenant). We were not informed about this step until that saturday they brought the meter.

Long story short, we discovered there's a debt of 53k on the meter (estimated bill since he registered for the new meter)

Now, he's asking us to pay the bill ourselves since he collected the meter for us. Mind you, he never for once stopped collecting the 5k.

I want to believe one or two nairalanders have been through something similar to this, that's why I'm here to seek help on how to go about it.

So where has he been paying the 5k to
Or did he actually used your money buy prepaid and now want you to pay for incurred debt that you are not even aware

You guys should dialog with him for a positive result

Fineman2:
Please nobody should call me a simp


We are not of the same tribe, so could that be the reason she changed her mind?

She is the only one that can explain why she guffed

nokia1000:
Woman said to her husband after 5yesrs in marriage: I don't want someone's body to touch when I am sleeping.
They slept that night without touching each other.
Next night the woman left their matrimonial room and started sleeping on her own.
If you were the man, what will you do?

Una don start another hot debate

I will just be reading people's comments because I have nothing to say

Niceguy06:
You're supposed to be sleeping now. Isn't it 10Pm in Nigeria??

Lol, no comment

Niceguy06:
He's taken care of his look to have more options. Women, even if she's married, cannot resist a good looking man . Fact. Doesn't matter if her husband give her the most attention and care in the world

Na so

justFEARLESS:
Hello Guys

I moved to a new apartment early last month, and everything has been fine; a friendly environment, nice amenities and all, but I have only one problem. In our compound, there is a building in front with three and 2-bedroom flats in front of the building my apartment is behind, and it has two rooms and a parlour self-con.

The issue is that the window of my room is directly opposite the window of the bedroom of the people living in the 2-bedroom flat in the building in front. They get a little bit too excited during sex which is like every day and multiple times during the night: yesterday, I entered the house around 9:30 pm, and I noticed they were at it (This one, they didn't even close their window), They were already done before I slept off like 30 mins later, but they woke me up with their weird noise around 1, and it was on like that for like 1 hour, I managed to sleep, but they started again around 4.....

I don't know if they are married(because they don't wear rings or dress like married people), but they are young and live together; alone, but I can't bear this everyday wailing again. So what do you feel is right? If I tell the landlord to correct them, they will still know I am the one that reported because of the proximity of our apartment, and if I try to reason with the guy, it will be somehow awkward because we are yet to really start greeting ourselves sef.

For the record, I am married and blessed with a child, but my family lives in a different city. I moved here because of a program I am running. I will be spending at least 2 weeks here every month. Our landlord doesn't stay in the same compound but stays on the same street.

This one weak me

Icon79:
How does he “inspect” it though? Did he install a meter in there?

#BizarrePeople


O pari

You dey mind am 🙁

crackhouse:
Na wetin my wife dey like be this.

Lol

naptu2:
LASTMA @followlastma




https://twitter.com/followlastma/status/1624663216079925248

Good move

jimmychang:
Children are options?

Explain.

No mater how e bad for woman, so far she done born children she no loose

LoveUdie:
A 42-year-old man of Lusaka, Zambia has been divorced by his wife for constantly checking her private parts after neighbours told him that she was going out with a named businessman.

According to Zambia Observer, Amos Chirwa, a teacher by profession was dragged to Lusaka Boma Court by his wife, Bessie Msisika Chirwa aged 39, a nurse by profession, on grounds that he has been vigorously checking her private parts whenever she comes back home from work especially in the morning after night shifts.

The two have five children together after being married for 13 years 10 months.

Amos was ordered to pay K600 per month for their children’s food and clothes.

Amos cried uncontrollably outside court as he did not want to lose his beautiful wife whom he claimed he loved dearly..
https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/search/label/Marriage?&max-results=7&m=1


(TRIBUNE)

The man no value him life, he wants to die quick

Upset700:
I've been having issues with guys for years now, especially with guys I sleep with.
Whenever I like a guy,or get interested in a guy and then i have sex unintentionally (he wants it but I don't).. After then there's this irritation,I loose interest,I cut the person off.
It's more like he has sold his value to me, like there's no prize.probably he is a great guy but that act alone makes me very uncomfortable.
I know this is usually a guy thing..but I've been struggling with this for years.
I feel men should also stop selling themselves cheap...cus they are women who wouldn't value what they can get easily.

Your case pass me

Go and visit a love and sex therapist

My own no fit handle your own case

jimmychang:
Yeah,that is why I am prepared for anything my dear.I will love my wife and will never make her see any reason to move mad.If later she chooses to due to her own indiscretions and choice I will never beg her.I will let her go and do whatever she wants.Once a woman is gone she is gone.If she later comes back I will never accept her.

Peace is priority mam.Shalom.

Exactly, I love your first paragraph and the last paragraph

jimmychang:
Women don't have options that will keep them,they only have options that want to Bleep them.

Husbands can be stolen by other women
But no man will steal your wife.They will Bleep her and send her back to her husband .Who wants a cheating wife.

That's not the meaning of them having opinions

Women value their children than bleeping