₦airaland Forum

Tesclaros:
My good people, zenith bank did me bad since on friday and i will be closing my account on monday ie tomorrow or overmorrow . I want to know if between wema bank and sterling bank which is the best? Or is there any other bank better than these banks? Thank you

Sterling is ok

You dont need to close Zenith because it has its own protocal and processes

You can just withdraw the last penny there and open another bank account

You account will just go domant

ChildOfDoom:
As a marketer in a popular commercial bank in Nigeria, I have done everything in my power to excel. But Bet9ja keeps retarding my efforts. I managed to hold on since 2021. During this period I paid gradually with my salary the debts I owed at my former teaching job

My dad who gave me this beautiful job, always secretly mediated anytime I gambled with customers money. This gave me time to pay back instamentally. This time around, I am stuck. I just have 24 hours to find a way to squeeze out the 135k I gambled with on Friday

I was expected to pay the clients school fees on the portal created by the school, in collaboration with the bank. She employed my services to help ease the stress of queuing up. Normally she gives between 1k to 3k when I assist her do anything


The only option I have now is to flee to my mum's side and leave everything behind. Except God sends a helper to lend me the money and allow me pay bank installmentally. Tuesday is the day I plan my escape. I will fake a sickness in order not to resume on Monday. Then move on Tuesday once I get my commission pay.

Hmm. Not again God. I feel sober for two days now. I wish there was a way out without hurting anybody. I promise to change

You dont need any advice because you dont want to help yourself

Dey play

Cashsteady:
Bruh everything you said here I once experienced it ..
There is this girl I really liked then ..I asked her out she said yes .we dated, everything was going well ,after sometime I noticed she started changing ,all of a sudden one day she said we should break up ,I was like why ?we didn’t fight or anything..But guess what this girl told me ,she said she really nevrr had any feelings for me from the beginning,she was trying to develop feelings for me but she just can’t I was like wtf ,so all those I love you you have been saying where all lies .tho it was painful to hear I took time to get over her cuz she was someone I really liked and since then we broke up..


This was once someone I really had plans for oo ..Was even planning on suprising her with a new phone then but fortunately God saved me from spending on the wrong person.. I don see better girl now


Women are really unpredictable.that your babe wey Dey give you attitude or chat somehow with you ,Dey another nigga dm begging him to reply her text .. Make op just forget her ,make money and find someone better

Astro999:
Good evening nairaland. I just started dating this beautiful girl. I like her very much, but the problem is she does not call me or text me first! I do the calling and texting and it makes me feel I am the one putting all the effort.

Even when I text her she replies with single words like ok , fine, yes, no. I talked to her about it but there has been no change. What can I do?

Give her time, don't rush her
She is equally studying your kind of person to know if you are desperate or a gentleman

DAMEHLISM:
Hello nairalanders,
please i need your help right now as i'm being worried.

its been 8 months since my wife gave birth, but up till now she has not seen her period, no t even onces.

at a time, we were told that it is normal for a woman to stay up to 6 months without seeing her period after childs birth. But its now 8 months, and she still have not seen it.

i've sort for answers using google, but you kno how google behaves sometimes.

please nairalanders, is this normal, i'm just being afriad right now.

doctors in the house i need your answers please. Thanks

Very normal for a nursing mother
But may come up when she stops breastfeeding

maureensylvia:
Ikegwuru

I have never been this nervous in my life

My heart is skipping as I'm typing this
God abeg ooo u know my favorite

Just relax and stay away from news untill the final results are out

That's exactly what am doing

I can't be nervous and those aspirants are relaxing knowing that it's either this or that person

Non of them have BP, so why should I

treatise:
The guy already has a car(Mazda) but the parts can only be sourced outside of the state where we are working ( it takes days to get parts of the car hence, the desire to buy a car which parts are readily available-in this case, Toyota corolla)

Let him follow his heart

treatise:
Good day People,
One of my team members sought my opinion in light of the subject and he expects my response tomorrow being Monday. This guy has a Mazda series car (performing well) but the parts are seldom found in our location and the may be parked for a week just because of as little as oil seal; he has decided to get a corolla car which parts are quite common here.

The used corolla costs between 2.7 and 3m naira but the Mazda can't get up to 800k. He is now thinking of using the 2.7m to get a piece of land and start a 3- bedroom flat whilst he continues using the Mazda.

I wouldn't know the answer I should give him tomorrow and he sees me as a matured man with wisdom.

Please advise.

Thank you.

I think car is a luxury and having a building project from start to finish is more useful as one day you will need to have yoor own shelter

I suggest he starts planning on getting a land and start something there that gradual he will complete it if he is not in a hurry

He can as well sell the car and add to the building project

A car is not a must but a house or shelter is a must, by the time he is done with the building project, he will decide which car he wants and start saving toward it to avoid buying a car that is cheap but parts are not available

Having a car makes you to spend more to put it on the road

Having a shelter saves you from become a permanent tenant and saves more money from rent

RTID:
My younger cousin got 6million as an inheritance from his late mother last year

When he told me about it, I adviced him to use one million and go back to school cause he dropped out in his final year,
clear he’s results and go for youth service so he proudly say he’s a graduate

Then use one 1m to buy a plot of land that will appreciate over time

Put the remaining 4m on fixed deposit, since he’s not so business oriented and enjoy the interest

While at youth service, he should survive with his 33k allowance like others and plan on what business he has intrest in after NYSC

Well, I didn’t know that my advice fell on deaf ears , because in less than 1 week

Oga bought a car, not just any type of car but a highlander for 4.5m

I think he used about 500k for refurbishments of the car (fixing it to he’s taste)

He also moved from he’s one room self contain apartment to a nicely furnished 3 bedroom

He became a big boy and got a lot of attention from the opposit gender

Within four months he’s car had a gear box issue which costed over 500k

Other issues came up that he had to sell the keep 1.9m

From that 1.9m, he didn’t lower he’s standard o

He continued enjoying he’s fresh boy status

Now, the money is remaining 200k

He called this morning to ask I give him business ideas and claimed he wants to be serious with life this time.😀😀

Please what business can he start with 200k cause my own advise has finished.

Stop advicing him, let him advise himself

Florence2021:
All I can say right now is that I am tired and fed up.

Sometimes life is fair while sometimes it is not.

I am frustrated right now and I think all I could do is to write them out... Maybe the more I write the more I will be relieved.

Actually money isn't my problem... Not that I'm rich but I'm a bit comfortable.

I am just always bored and not feeling useful enough.

I feel rejected and remorse once I'm not useful.

You need to go into a relationship

Maybe having a partner is all you need to calm your nerves down

vybzkartel:
So I was invited by my ex to her matrimonial home
Her husband wasn't there
He introduced me to her 2 kids
To my dismay
The first one looks exactly like me

Background: The current husband snatched her from me

Can I claim the child after a positive DNA?

Until the DNA is done

But will you marry her if her husband rejects her when it becomes a positive DNA

Heathrow44:
A newly married Nigerian woman has gone online to seek help from her dilemma of having to choose between her husband and ex-boyfriend.

She disclosed that she got married last month, and her ex has only recently returned to her life after being abusive during the relationship and leaving her when she fell pregnant


She said;

"I need serious help... I got married last month to the man of my dreams, he is my long term friend. We reconnected and things worked out for us. We got married last December because he's not based in Nigeria, he's bases In the US,
he's a very good man, he loves me immensely, he provides for me, I never lacked anything since we met, he makes sure I'm good. He knows my family and accepted us the way we are he is caring, he is simply perfect. The issue is I don't love him that much. I do pity him because sometimes I show it to him but I can't do anything about it.
I still have deep feelings for my ex who maltreated me so bad, abused me and showed me how bad love could be. After everything he has put me through I still love and have serious feelings for him. My ex got me pregnant a few times and whenever I inform him, he would ignore me after asking me to get rid of it. I lost my self esteem, he never cared about my feelings then. My well-being meant nothing to him. He cheated on me countless times and made me look like a fool. I saw hell while we were together.
The issue is after all he has done my heart still beats for him, a lot more than for the man I married. Recently my ex reached out and told me he had intentions of marrying me. He also said getting married to my husband in such short time meant I was cheating, I had never cheated on him for good 4years we were together I met my husband when he had started ignoring me because I told him I was pregnant.
He abandoned me for months then came back when I had already met my husband and we have fixed date for our wedding .I'm just so shattered I don't know how to control my feelings over my ex I even messaged him yesterday but seriously I don't like what's going on now I just need help and advice. My ex is handsome, fair, tall and rich, my husband is handsome, dark, richer than my ex but he's not very tall. Asides that, he is he's a sweet man, I really want someone to help me please, I need advice.

You have a bigger problem that is more than the challenge you are facing

I bet you that the only reason your mind is still going back towards your ex is because of the way he makes love to you and get you satisfied

Now that you are married and lacks nothing, talk with your husband how best to handle you, teach him or show him how you want it to be

Respect your man and your marriage so that the devil will not deceive you and bring you out from paradise that you area now

Leave your ex and forget about him now, he is now a past

Always be with your husband so that your mind will be occupied with him and there won't be room for nonsense about your ex

Human23:
My name is Mary.
I am four months pregnant and I got abandoned by my boyfriend. I told him about it when I was three weeks gone and he said he doesn't want to be part of it. When it was time to register for antenatal I told him again and even sent him pictures of the registration. But this time he blocked me on all social media and also blocked my number. I got my friends to reach out to him and he said the same thing. Few days back I got my friend to remind me again on how far I've gone and how hard it has been having to face this pregnancy alone, but still he repeated and said " I am not a party to it".
To the cause of this pregnancy I lost my job.
I live alone and recently my Younger brother came to join me because he needed to complete his fashion training in Abuja .

I have been trying to get a job ever since I lost my previous one but to no avail.. now I'm scared. I made up my mind to have my baby and gradually I've been making plans to prepare me for the future. But I'm scared. Being a single mother at 25 is not what I planned for myself and I sincerely wish to be with a partner. As stupid as it may sound I wish I could find love and the thought of knowing that having this child might scare people away from me is what breaks my heart. I'm stuck at the whole thought of getting a job, having a baby, and finding love again.

Biko I need your advice please.

Since you have gone this far,
You were determined to keep the pregnancy and you have long ago prepared for the tight corner you put yourself in

I blame you for everything that that have happened to you

So be strong and learn from your mistakes

If it gets to the stage you can't handle, go to any nearest orphanage home and register yourself

They will advise you on how to carry your pregnancy to full term and may take care of your antenatal and after birth

After that you will start reasoning with your brain

As for your boyfriend, I don't have anything to say about him because he already made his stand clear from day one of that pregnancy

AyemafugeILAJE:
The last time I entered anything serious relationship was in my mid 20s. Now I'm in my mid thirties should I fall in love?....a corper gal in her mid 20s, from imo state is giving me a serious green light, though based in Kaduna, Should I give her green light or should I just chop her the way I've been chopping others since my mid 20s? Confused
I need advice before I go fall yakata in love. Thanks

Dey play

Afamed:
He only goes to Agulu when election is around the corner. He will abandon them to their faiths again after Saturday.

Zukwanu Ike

yumyogo:
Hello Nairalanders,

I'm need some form of advice.. It's not been easy talking about my personal experiences and i might not write on this platform anymore.

Words are not even enough to express all that I've been through, all you've been reading is only a simpler version of all that has happened but it's fine.

I used to think I could do it by myself.. raise my boys alone but right now I guess I lack the emotional backing to do so. I'm Lonely, I have no one to talk to .. no family friends to visit or hang out with asides my own family.

Days back my son was crying and all he was saying is "Daddy... Daddy..." it made me feel bad. He needs his Dad too and so does my unborn kid too.

While some would say "Cheating isn't enough to leave my home" I agree.. I've always forgiven him but it's unending. On two occasions he's infected me and claimed it wasn't him. I don't want to keep forgiving till he gets me infected with HIV.

Why am I writing now? I'm actually very Lonely, being a single mum isn't fun. I don't know how to go about this.. I'm not as strong as I had thought. I'm only 25 and it feels like my life is over already... How do I get over this, I need to be strong for my kids but it's not working. Are there activities I could engage in to help me get over this stage at least till I'm able to stand alone?

P.S: I called him so his son could talk to him but he was in a hotel with another woman (I'm not guessing)

No one can change his life style until he is tired of chasing women

You have to be strong for your son

Still allow him to visit your son

Some men don't see any crime in cheating, to them its for fun

You are still young at age to experience life and love bitterness

It you guys can reconcile for the sake of your son, then think about it

If you think you want to move on with your life, then you have to move on

lavylilly:
Who are the we? How many of you people? I recall getting a job few year ago at Oniru, after a week, I just told them. I am quiting. You wake up by 3:30am, on the road by 4:45am and when you get in 3rd mainland bridge you will meet traffic st 5:45am, where the hell are y'all going? Did you even sleep at home? Truth is the well paying are mostly on the Island. Give me 300k Island with accommodation, I would not take because
1. The water is bad (it looks rusting from phase 1 down to some part in Ajah?
2. Foods are expensive
3. Accommodation is expensive

Your first sentence said, who are the we

My response is, we know ourselves

Vyvyanvyvy:
Hello guys , I am a 36 years old single mother of four my son will be 15 in aug, first daughter 10 in october, my third 5 and youngest 3 by june. I have separated from my husband because he didn't want my son to come and lives with us , I have been taking care of them singlehandedly for 3 years. I have been friend with this man a widower who is 57 years and a father of 2 children, he is asking for my hand in marriage, to be honest I don't want to be married again, all i want is to focus on raising my kids because I have been through a lot in my previous marriage and I don't want another marriage wahala. He ask for my hand in marriage I rejected him and I had explained to him why I don't want to marry again I told him what my ex did , he said he is a mature man he will love me and my children and he will never hate them or ask them to leave his house . I told him I have to think about it and I will get back to him ASAP . But I am still scared to accept his proposal because I don't want history to repeat itself and he is still on my neck he want me to accept his proposal. I am confuse Please advice me is it a wise choice for me to get married again after everything I have been through in the past?

You can still be in a deep relationship with him till you make up your mind

Dont let him force you to accept his offer

Are you very convinced that it's for real and not to add more to your love life problem

What about your ex, how are you sure he is not coming back for you, since there was no form of divorce but just separation

In all just follow your heart

Solanaa:
Okay sir

Ma'am

SugarGirl44:
Fool…but you can condemn other states.
Even animals deserve a better clinic than this pigsty.

You are an unfortunate being
No wonder you are useless

lavylilly:
I cannot do this. Your life expectancy would be reduced by 80%.

Hahaha

My dear we are already use to it

That's part of what makes it Lagos

Bustling and bubbling

spyder880:
Thank you bro.

computer0810:
😂😂😂 na ppl like una go dey condemn better developmental projects for another state......look at what u r celebrating

If he doesn't do such to develop his state, guys will just ve wailing for nothing

I should come and kill myself for politicians that their family's are settled abroad

Let them do whatever they can do to develop their state before living

I don't trust any politicians at all @ all

Digitron:
Na only bed dey the hospital?

Chai

Better than being empty

The most important thing is that the structure is there another regime will follow up

Starz825:
Wow....

People really see things differently

I think he was trying to say he defends his wife if anyone try to disrespect her without making enquiries about what happened

Not sure if thats what he meant

But read it again let's see if it's the same thing

MichaelSokoto:
5am too late!

Exactly
I don't want to tell him that people go to work by 4am because of traffic

Get to. Office by 5.30am and continue sleeping till 7am when others have arrived to resume work

Starz825:
He is married

I read that and also read where he said he harrasses his wife

That's why i am asking him if he wants to stay alone

ewa20buredi100:
I have a neighbour who resides in Benin city, works as a Physics teacher in a private school and earns 60k as salary, plus extra 55k as a private lesson tutor.

She was recently given a job offer, after applying, in one Microfinance bank in Trade fair, Lagos state. The Microfinance bank has its headquarter in Europe.
The pay is 76k for the first 6 months. After which there will be an upward review to 96k.


Problem is she doesn't know which one to choose, as she is tired of teaching and life in Benin. And wants to experience Lagos life.

I wanted to tell her of the life, stress and traffic in Lagos. But had to withdraw, because I haven't been in Lagos for years now. So chances are that i may tell her what is not true.

And secondly, she has no accommodation in Lagos, but wants to go stay with a friend.

I do not know what to tell her.

Your suggestion highly needed.

Thank you.

She is already tired of teaching and she doesn't mind relocating to another state to get another job

I think she should be allowed to move to Lagos, she cam also be opportuned to search for more jobs while on the new job

In the issue of traffic, no one will understand Lagos traffic untill you experience it

That's when you will understand why people leave home by 5am to get to work

Kokorokomaster1:
I told my girlfriend that I hope that she love me for who i am, and not because of my money or what I'm going to give to her, that if the reseen why she is in love with me is because of what I'm going to give to her, that the relationship is not going to work, seen that day she started to behave somehow telling me that she is upset with me because of what I told her, that if I love I would've not told her that, that I changed everything, please what should I do, should I beg her that I'm sorry, or should I live her

I think you lack experience and not yet mature for relationships

You need to work on yourself before you can start handling a woman that you have a relationship with

funkmrflexx:
When I was younger, I was to be very calm and cool headed and when someone talks to me or even slaps me I won't respond.
Now as I grow older (I'm almost 30 and married) I find myself being more intolerant to people. If someone disrespect me or especially my wife I won't even ask what happened, fight don start.
Me that used to be peaceful, now I don't take nonsense from anybody no matter who you are

You want to stay alone abi?
Dey play

Justananonymous:
Good morning Nairalanders.
For the sake of anonymity, I created a new account.
I'll shorten my story and ignore some part for the sake of not reading lengthy words.
Please i need your advice.

I'm 22years old (a guy), will be 23 in a few weeks.
I am a victim of sexual abuse, I felt my parent didn't do enough and I wasn't even able to associate well with my parents to telling them what happened.. especially my dad(well, I spoke out and we sorted it out) I got attached to my mom because we stayed mostly with her because my dad was transferred but whenever he comes back maybe for a visit or we visit him, he beats my mom till he got her eyes damaged now she uses glasses and facing the issue of cataracts. Sometimes I would ask my mom why she's still with him though.. But it's well.
I have never got to like my father, he never gives opportunity for one to speak up or be yourself and they tend to over control.
He has done well in the aspect of sponsoring my education but that doesn't still make me like him.
I'm in the university 300level, I'll be graduating next year. Most of the breaks, I don't like going home because it's never fun at all and they are only concerned about the words of people, which I don't care about..
Well, I've tried to like my father but I can't..
Then my mom uses this statement that really gets to me and annoys me “you will also have children and your children will bla bla, will you be happy”.. Most times I'm often repelled to listen to her and not create a scene.
Fast forward to this election break, they've been calling me to ask me to come home, to come help my parents and do this and that I said "NO" and my mom called and said a whole lot.. I have a sister and Aunty at home .. Well, I'm safe where I am..

Am I wrong in any way?

They want you to come home, but you feel happier in school

Just let them know that you will be safe throughout this election period

Meaning that you have to guard and guide yourself this period

Who is this guy even supporting in this presidential election

Omihanifa:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/entertainment/nollywood/582702-police-arrest-actress-yetunde-akilapa-for-burglary-a-seventh-time.html

Am beginning to suspect that a curse is placed somewhere around her

Its no longer ordinarily