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[quote author=wwwkaycom post=120483929]She is my cousin, I called her aunty because she's older than me. She is a very beautiful woman even now that she is close to 50. She got married first in 1999, she and her first husband have two kids together, the man died after a brief sickness in 2005.
She waited for 10 years and remarried to a divorced man in 2015, the man died 4 years later in 2019 after being sick for just 9 days.
Now more than 3 years after, she has another suitor but aunty said she isn't marrying again and would stay single for the rest of her life.
People in my area always believe such incidences has deep spiritual causes.
Is it true that she could be under a spiritual spell?
What can she do about it?[/quote]Since she has gotten two from bad experiences

Let her keep a lover while facing her children

Because if she marry's now, she may not be able to have children considering her age and I don't know how relevant she will be with that family especially if she happens to experience the third one with her man

Hatrick01:
i am afraid of loosing my main girl

Ok naw, just respect her

Hatrick01:
My girlfriend have an identical twin sister.

Its hard for one to detect one from the other,except me that have been with her for many days.

It happened that i started developing feelings for her sister and wish that i can have the both of them.

But i know its impossible.

I dont know what to do now, anytime i visits her, if i set my eyes on the other one, i will feel like playing with her like i do with her sister (romantic play).

Pls, how do i tackle this challenge?

if you think you are capable, go on
There is no harm in trial

Sirchiboy:
Good evening my brothers and sisters. I am a family man with a wife and a daughter and I need a small fairly used car that is easy to maintain. A car that has fuel economy,whose parts are available and affordable in order to ease family mobility as my wife's workplace is quite a distance from the house. Also, the stress of my wife carrying my child to work via buses n keke breaks my heart. Although we are looking at corrola, heard it fits my criteria so well. Pls, I need your advice on that too. My budget is 450k to 500k. GOD bless us all.

Honestly you will regret any car you buy with that budget and the level of your salary

To maintain a car,
Fuel a car
Service and repair a car
Keeping your car up to date, your salary should be as from 100k

Any thing less you will be drained

Cars are more expensive to maintain than running a home

But the choice is yours

omaira:
My luck too good… if e no good, I for no notice say I no Dey make progress when she dey with me na.

I think you need enough time to watch the situation before you conclude

Meanwhile take a break from the relationship and try again then you conclude

Coincidence can't happen twice

LittleBigDick:
I got raped by a female co-worker yesterday being Friday. We went out for drinks after work just as co-workers and all was fine. We were having an ok time, then suddenly I started feeling bleeped. Like super drunk in a way I'd never felt before. I only had 3 drinks so there's no way. There's no fucking way . I think this bitch drugged me?
I vaguely remember her pushing me into her car. I just woke up naked, in what I guess was her house with this bitch asleep next to me too. I got my clothes and quietly left. I still feel really bleeped, dizzy and nauseous. Few minutes outside her house I hop onboard an uber going to my house . I didn't want this. I didn't ask for this. Wtf do I do? I'm going to have to see her at work on Monday. Wtf do I do?

When you see her tell her congratulations

For her to handle you with out your notice

Freshtruth:
There is a girl i met 2 years ago she is very attractive we re just friends she is in the university 200level , she came to my house to ask for help to pay her school fees i said no problem the money she is looking for is 25k, i brought the money to her and show her i told we should lolo and i will give her the money she refuse and shed crocodie tears and walk out of my house. Funny enough she had boyfriends opon boyfriend the blood sucker is now pregnant we saw 3wks and we talk i dash her 5k when she was lamenting to me the guy that got her pregnant ran away.

Let her deal with it

BenedictAbajue:
Thanks

You are welcome

folak48:
Thanks sis, does it mean we have to live with it as a woman? To me it makes me look like settling for less which gives me no dignity.

My dear sister
Now you know why women cling to their children when they experience things that breaks their heart

freddie009:
Lol, he better not complain, that's the sacrifice he has to pay. Nothing is free anywhere.

Exactly

Jewman4you:
Ok, if it's turkey, how many turkey do you think I can do at a time?

Is your choice to determine if it's for commercial or private

Mine is for private use especially for Christmas

In your own case, people buy turkeys for festivals

You can still add chicken

But I will still suggest you try all of them and decide on what to settle for base on your experience in all

BenedictAbajue:
I'm already thinking of reading the whole biology textbook from sss1
Nigeria getting better: Isn't this like gambling on the future?

I like your spirit, keep it up

freddie009:
Life is a transaction sis, he wants money, and she needs a man. If she were in her late twenties with that American status she wouldn't marry just any man.

I love what you said because you and I understands your guys plans

The big question now is, will he be able to cope with her incase she wants to be the Boss, remember she is highly placed than him

What if she is so stingy that he can't have access to her money which is the motivating factor in this case

Lastly, let him not complain that she is not obedient and submissive

Jewman4you:
Greetings Agriclanders
I'm planning to start a poultry farm in my compound. The size of the poultry will be 35ft by 17 ft on both sides. That is averagely 55 square metres in my compound. The size of the land is 50f by 100ft. I was able to build one storey building when things where good in the compound. I have neighbours on both sides of my compound, though the place is still a developing area in portharcourt. The building only occupied one third of the compound, so i still have enough space the occupy poultry house. Now the challenge is, is it possible to do poultry in the compound without having issues with poultry smell that will disturb me and my neighbours. And what is the best way of going about it. I plan to do an average of 150 to 200 birds at a time and sell of every six week. Please I need advice. Thanks

Its going to be a good venture

But the problem of foul poo smell will occur if you have Broilers

The poo round the clock and it use to be wet

Do more of turkey, I love rearing them in my compound, they have good chances of survival and eat normal

Then you are can add Noilers but they eat well too

The worst is Broilers, they eat steady and poo steady but you will like the progress of their growth but be ready to be sweeping their poo every morning

BenedictAbajue:
I've written jamb last year and I scored 299 but I'm being pressured to write another and choose medicine instead?
My senior sis just graduated from unizik as a doctor and now she feels I should also do medicine.
I'm also afraid I might not find job in Electronics and Computer Engineering
I'm not very good in biology so I dont think I'll reach that score again
What do I do?

I think you can still do another Jamb, you can put medicine or pharmacy

The issue of biology could be because you have not really put your interest in it

But in all, the course you choose is still OK, Nigeria may get better

But medical gives you more advantage

ggenius77:
Good morning house, my aged aunt about 73 years old woman is displaying these following symptoms
Lost of memory
Hallucinations and easily got irritated or hurt.
She doesn't smoke or drink, she had ever be diagnosed with diabetes type 2 and mild BP but both situation are very ok now due to medication. Psych Doc in the house should pls recommend me some remedy/ medication for her dementia and hallucinations.
Thanks
She can recognize people but sometimes he called me with my elder brother name instead of my name. Wt medication should I put her on plz!
She still knew when to take her bath and wash her clothing. But She forgot herself so much. I need ur help

It has a medical name but I can't really pronounce it well

But bear in mind that she is aging

Onepointfiveodds:
Hi, please i need someone matured here to talk to about my marriage, someone with a listening ear and also mayb an ability to give good advice. I do not want to talk to any family member and can't afford a counsellor.

I really need help with my marriage. I'm losing my mind

This is a faceless forum where problems are shared and solutions are shared too

I think you should let it out here and you will get ideas or solutions as there is nothing you will say here that people have not passed through

sonssyo:
Good evening fans,
Please as salary wan drop,I want to acquire my first property of the year.
I have fridge but need to plan myself based on the economic reality.
I want to buy for food storage,eg tomatoes

Please advise any of this two that is better!@anhi,@homemaker your input is highly appreciated

If you must go for Hisense product make sure you go to the nearest fouani stores near you and buy peace of mind

Google fouani

hidden19:
Hello Nairalander for some years now I had issues with a loan on my bank account which made me unable to save money in my account let just say I have been unable to pay it back , I later end up saving the money in my wife account
To my greatest surprise she always keep monitoring me and so obsessed because I save money in her account and requesting me how I spend money
Even up till the little 5k I am doing well as a father and a family man but I am getting tired please advise and no insults this would be appreciated

There is nothing to advice you on so far the money is in her account, she will still be monitoring you

You can open an account for any of your child then be saving there

But make haste and clear the loan you took so that you can run your own account

Hatrick01:
I regret doing all i ve done to make this girl happy.

I thought doing that will make her respect not knowing that the reverse is the case.

Imagine, just bcause i ve been playing with this girl for long, she no longer respects me again.

She now walks out of me while i am still talking, and i hates that which she already knew.
I told her that i will slap her one day but she told me that me and her know that i coulnt lay my hands on a defenceless girl.

If i get angry and decide not to give her attention again, she will burst into tears (which i now believes its fake) and my heart will be filled with pity.
I would then forgive her.

But tomorrow she will still repeat thesame thing.

Pls, how do i make her respect me once agan cuz its obvious i ve lost my self esteem.

What are you still doing with her

Keep her where she belongs and your respect will be with you

Ilamina:


Marry an igbo man
And you don't give him a son

Igbo girls are suffering men

If it's one way, igbo women sacrifices for the black man
Is to make sure, she bears a son for an igbo man

There is nothing like that pls so that you don't put panic on those females who wishes to marry an Ibo man

Every tribe and family desires to have a male child

Men knows that they are the ones that have the male chromosomes which determines male child

So no woman should be held responsible for giving birth to females

Besides all these are man made cultures to suit them but not God

God gives you what he desires for you

Gben5:
I have a townhouse with three bedrooms. My office occupies one of the bedrooms, but six months ago, my boyfriend of two years moved in. To protect his five-year-old son and also two elder daughters, our plans to get married have been delayed.

He came to me to tell me that his ex can no longer afford her apartment due to the drastic rent increase and is preparing to leave Accra and relocate to her parent's home. According to my boyfriend, he doesn't want to stay far away from his children and doesn't want to keep his children away from their mother.

He is proposing that they move in temporarily with us. This will mean I give up my office, or he moves in with his ex to help out financially, and both of those options will destroy our bond. What do I do?

How are you even sure this guy have plans with you

Tumbuleke:
A friend studying in UK was matched with a Nigerian lady that has been in the United states for a long time. He has been struggling without residency or a job witg sponsorship in UK.

He confided in me that the lady they match make him with is not his spec, also her age is the bigger factor discouraging him.

Should he damn the consequences, settle with this lady and build love afterwards or just go on with his life and see what fate have in store for him (remember, that’s giving in certainty for uncertainty)……

My people, meat don land

He is going in for her because of her foreign status not for love sake
So let him decide what he wants

folak48:
I have caught my husband several times cheating on me, either he saves his concubines' phone numbers with a male name or he doesn't save but constantly chats with them even while I sleep beside him.

I would like to know if it's a common thing with men to crave for another woman and accept my fate.

Men have made up their mind to cheat

Nature too made it easier for them to cheat by making their mind run down to their dick whenever they see a woman that is their speck

So, we just have to manage them with such because you can't stop a man from cheating unless he has a conscience that will stop him from cheating

Vincenzomum:
I am not a Nigerian and I am married to a Nigerian Igbo , we have 4 children 3together and we are based in Italy . Our children can speak my native language very well and hubby hasn't bothered to teach our kids Igbo , he is jalous when he see our children speaking my language with my famiy in africa they can speak fluently and he is angry and want me to stop speaking my language to our children and he said we should speak to them in Italian and english only and I disagree with him telling him the children are still young and it is not too late for him to start teaching them Igbo , he refused and he still wants me to stop speaking my language with them. My 4 years old told me her dad had told her if i am on the phone with my family in africa if I pass over the phone to her she should refuse to speak with them. I asked him why he is looking for trouble where there is none it is not my fault he hasn't teach them his language , he said I should do what he says else he won't be happy with me. What do I have to do in this situation?

This is not a matter of obeying his instructions

Keep speaking your language to them

You are not the one to teach then his language

He failed in that area,
If he has taught you his language you would have saved him the stress of teaching them his language

Just don't argue with him but continue your way

Even nature made children to learn their mother language quicker than their father language

Besides, for them to learn your language is an added advantage to them in future

Mayowa112:
there this my ex babe
although we had a messy break up but she still giving green light like she chats me up to check up on me time to time

when we were dating our sex live was crazy
she is the only girl I have se× with that take up to 1hr non stop without any man power or drink
we once had se× in the pool countless doggie

she someone that likes having se× and she doesn't like slow sex she likes tatatata as in very fast sex ....she spoilt me a lot cause I have never heard a girl saying baby spank me fuxk me hard
fuxk like you hate me lol it was some kind of crazy stuff

but we broke due to her anger issues she the hot jealous type so I had stay away from her make she no kill me

but some for some weeks now we have been talking romantically like she said she miss me that she wants to see me

in conclusion she said we should see and I agreed cause I kinda of miss her too
but do you think I should go ahead and see her
I know we might have sex
should I

You actually came out from frying pan and wants to go back to fire

What if she becomes pregnant and insist you must marry her

With those her crazy behavior

Can you cope ?

Whettodo:
I have been working with a factory for 5 months now,
I want to change to a dispatch rider's job there's not much if a difference in the pay..

Factory pays 34k dispatch rider pays 40k salary
10k for bike maintenance,fuel and data..

The factory job comes with the regular stress of the job at times stress is crazy most times it's normal

I don't have prior experience with a motorcycle.
I deliver foods customer's can cancel and i pay for the food from my salary

Restaurant is new max of five deliveries in a day,have to be online for at least 15 hours a day..

At times there might be no orders in a day sit around
all day or stay at home get ur order pick it up and deliver... You still get paid if you have no orders
Get paid 25k two times a month

Should I stay with my factory job or become a dispatch rider for jumia or an ordinary delivery company

Ordinary company means more work but I'm cool with that..

You are a youth just follow what your mind is

Every job comes with experience

I will advice you go for dispatch rider

brightest5050:
Meaning they have good record keeping system I won't be surprised if there daughter's are still in their father's home and single.

Bride price Is very important under native law and custom but customs and laws change with time as they are made for man and not man for custom. Outrageous Bride price cost should be reduced but payment of Bride price should not be eradicated

The main issue here is the crazy marriage list not the bride price

To me, bride prize is the main commitment and can't be ruled out

But that long crazy list is what is scaring men

princeemmma:
Imagine just going to ask for a girl hand in marriage, and you are given a huge pile of list

In a situation whereby the father, the mother, all other family members who see it as a way to lick from the portion in front of them

Even when i got married, i made it clear to my inlaws that i wasn't planning a huge marriage, just medium marriage, they wrote a long list, i did not argue, i went to the market and got a little i could afford.

Why is it really compulsory having a huge list like this, are they selling there daughter

In a certain state in the East I don't want to mention the name so that I don't add to their problems

If you are given a list and you don't complete, you must complete it before burial because you will start afresh by that time before they can allow you to go ahead with the burial

I wish people will be allowed to come with what they have and what they can afford to bring when marriage ceremony is done, instead of this lengthy list

Tumbuleke:
Hello House,

Please, I need advise on how to console and encourage a friend of mine here in naija that heard the news of the death of her newly wedded husband who returned to the US after the wedding ceremony.

The husband lived in the US for so many years, he had a good woman/wife with two children. I don’t know if they were legally married or he settled with the lady and had kids with her for papers during his early years in the US.

Now, after years of being divorced or separated from the lady, I think a calabar US based woman according to him, he then met my friend at an occasion while he came to naija. He pick interest in her and proposed marriage, after like one or two years of communication over the phone. They got wedded seven months ago, and he flew back to the states. Communication continued via phone, until there was a break in communication, my friend here in naija tried to reach him but to no avail, until she called one of his US friend who went and confirmed that her husband was about entering his car packed on a hilly road, he forgot the handbrake wasn’t activated, and the car rolled with him to a tree…he had some fractures and rushed to the hospital. At a point, he was recuperating, although couldn’t speak to my friend on phone.Due to his extreme condition, I think the first wife came but shut every communication. So literally my friend was left in the dark until she heard that he had passed away.

His burial will be in the states, and his family here told my friend that they will come for discussion after the burial, probably for his properties which was gotten in both his name and wife’s name(my friend). Before his demise, he had told her how terrible most of his clans are, and how she should try to avoid them and keep things secret from them

How do I encourage her at this time and also the impending battle with her late husband’s family

I don't want to believe these

Does it mean that both inlaws don't relate with each others family

Does it mean that in the marriage there was no family members of the wife

So how come her husband family is not carrying her along with the burial plans

If the family doesn't recognize her then the marriage was not recognized

She should bear her loses

Justbehave:
Trash. Who told you that ancestral house can be sold and the money shared? Stop making input on the areas you are not conversant with.

Is because you don't have sense that's why you are in my page

If you have sense you would have asked the op of the house is in the village and if he actually wrote that it was an ancestral house of which he did not mention it

You are not cultured that's why you are so stupid to attack my comment

You are an idiot that's why you didn't notice the second option

Ndubuisipaul1:
I and my brother are Just too close. you will not understand

I appreciate the fact that you love your brother

But you have to guard it
Not every one is happy about your unity

In some United homes, they become not too united after all of them got married

One of the reasons are from different people who came into the family with their own different ways of reasoning