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GorillaApp:
I was once a marriage counselor for the youths in my church ..

Thank you.

I always like your balanced and objective analysis with a touch of human kindness

Ohhh dear
You made my day with this post

I appreciate you always

Creamypie:
let's wait for Elders sir

The elders are speechless

That guy no normal

The lady no get plans for herself too

Both of them na error

GorillaApp:
I have always watched frozen70 advice. Sincere and very balanced position.
Like she posited, it's character not beauty that makes a good woman. Ask your self, which of them gives you absolute peace of mind? Avoid troublesome, stubborn women

Ask yourself again, which of them gives you maximum respect and listens to you.
Lastly, avoid lazy women.
If you have any elderly aunt, visit her with these ladies. Dem go help you detect something's.
Good luck dude

Chai
You will get credit as a premarriage counselor

You helped me to adviced him more in areas I couldn't mention

Thumbs up for you

Santinho:
I hardly quote people on nairaland but your submission drew my attention. Nice input 👍

Thanks dear, I appreciate you

Ishilove:
Oh hell no

Is alright naw

Aklee4994:
Well said 👏🙌

Na so

HellVictorinho7:
mourning is not suicide , sapa can kill.

They are next to each other

Sapa happens to everyone
Go close to God and question him

He knows everything around you

Solanaa:
Hi guys, Please recommend a hair cream one can use to soften their hair.

My hair is very thick and strong and sometimes very rough looking and as well difficult to comb.

I'd really appreciate it, IF an expert can help recommend some good hair cream product. Thanks.

If you are a guy, there is absolutely nothing you can do to soften the hair because it's hereditary

Just keep an average low cut

But for ladies that they can apply relaxer on it, but it will still be hard

Munamoqel:
they are very brilliant people to have pass the board exams without having attended a real Nursing school. They should be re trained properly. They know say na asset that why they didn't stop them for working after indictments.

Honestly

HellVictorinho7:
my brother has acute skin problems, no job, no sim ,no phone, no food, no comfort, my dad depends on financial assistance, am trying my best to survive ,not enough to save them. I have to expect death.

So when you die now, has that solved any problems

When you die, how would you be buried when you know their won't be money to buy coffin

What about your family that you will put through pains

Then you that is their hope will now die for the ones that are going through hard times

Death is not an option

sacajawea:
Do you get toasted by men Daily, just like unmarried ladies

Like do y'all get women attention Daily

Well I can say that they get admired and admirers steady and especially from their counterparts of the same age range

Those who choose to be discipline resist such

But it's a temptation for those who did not find love with their partners

All the same, discipline is the key to resist such moves and with fear of God for those who have conscience

Kokorokomaster1:
This girl accepted to date me in the condition that we will not have sex but we can have only romance and kiss, I accepted now we are dating, but I usually sub her I give her money sometimes to repair her phone and other things, but now I do not have money like that because of the situation of this country, I promise her that I'm going to sub her,but right now there's no money than after some days if I didn't sub she will start to act some how, she no longer tell me that she love me and she will stop calling me onless if I call, please help me, is she a play girl

Dey play
Your mumu button came with extra battery

CoronaVirusRelo:
Try with a man.

You might be gay without knowing

Funny you

Fedrick100:
When we started dating at 2021 , I thought she was an Angel in human form, she was a virgin then and i was the one that disflowered her. This guy can do anything to make sure I’m okay, i don’t really know she hid her through character because of the benefits she’s getting when i wasn’t broke


Then 2022 August period when things become difficult for me her attitude changed all of a sudden, she Became selfish and Toxic, Even when I was broke throughout last year, i still celebrated her birthday got her gifts. Fast forward to this February that was my birthday, she couldn’t get a gift for me even when she had the money.

This morning i was telling her how she has been acting since I become broke and how selfish she has become,all of a sudden she told me she’s no longer interested in the relationship

Count yourself lucky and move on with your life

LadyRosa2:
Sister, abeg make money and leave what naija men thinks.While at it earn to make even more when you're married, because na women wey get money get mouth o for marriage.

Its just few naija men that doesn't fear rich girls. Yes! Its fear and many are dealing with low self worth with women like that.Contrary to what they spill here, majority of them prefer leeches to a highly intelligent well paid independent woman.

You are absolutely right

Women are making money nowadays and they are being recognized by their efforts and contributions in the family and are appreciated by men who value such women

Britishcoins:
Wow thanks, this is more than a motherly advice to me

You are welcome dear

abimcdssi:
You think a vindictive, tribal bigot who is probably close to 60 or above is capable of change? Why anyone would choose to marry into a family that was cold to them is beyond me. The MIL never liked the lady.

Yes I agree
But with special arrangements, devil can see Jesus
"so they say"

Britishcoins:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders, I am in confused state of mind right now... I am in my early 30. I am not super rich but I am financially comfortable, at least living in my own apartment and having a business that give me atleast 600k monthly.
I am equally the first son and my parents are late, so I am like the head of the family to my younger ones...
Age is no longer at my side and I have no reason why I am still single.. But there is a problem.
I have plenty female admires.. Even some which was suggested for me through families and friends.. But only 2 of them I will talk abt now

Let me call one of them Judith and the other one IFEOMA.
Judith is from from the same local government with me.. I knew her when she was still in secondary school and I was apprentice then... I don't even know what was called love then.. We only greet like brother and sisters because we are in far away north then.
I have relocated to another state and she too is now undergraduate, studying nursing at uni zik Awka. I normally call her because I was in good term with her mother.. She feel in love with me. But my own fear is that I am not sure if she will understand the language of hardship. She was only Dauther and last born, the family is average comfortable.
The only thing she always rely most is her beauty... She is so beautiful no wonder she just won a beauty queen competition, the sun newspaper even carry the news.. But her beauty is not what attracted me..
Last December I visited her parent with just one of my uncle and they welcomed us very well..
Another issue is that she still have abt 4 years to finish her education.. And I don't want to waste more than 2 years ahead.


Now let me talk abt IFEOMA. She is from Nsukka, very far from my local government.
She is living with her sister here in the same state I am staying...
She is 25 and years and Judith is 22 years.
She is NCE holder.. Based on my findings so far she is good in business and came from a poor family too.. She is equally a virgin, I am very sure of it..
She not too beautiful but have showed her love to me... The problem is that I have no feelings for her.. But I love her hard working..
I am planning to invite Judith to spend some weeks with me to understand her characters.

Pls I don't know how to write more..
Which one should I marry?

The issue I can understand here is that

You have not dated any one of them and that's why you are having indecision on who to get married too

Your focus is more on a woman who will hustle in trade than an educated woman who will have her own career

Distance is not an issue when love is involve

Education and its timing is not an obstacle when when love is involve

I think you need time to study these people and spend times with them on their visits to understand better who among the two ticks your box

But remember beauty doesn't make a woman a good wife but character does in a lot of ways

Good luck

Stephen2324:
Dear men
Please explain to us why ladies who are responsible, hardworking, earns her pay, who pays her bills and not asking for urgent 2k are still single?
Open discussion

Men do get scared of independent women

Though just few of them are bold enough to be close to such women

Being an independent woman makes you a strong woman

But some men may fear that she may not be submissive

I think what the men should be looking out for in a woman, should be some one who will be supportive and caring

Norah199:
My mother inlaw lives in the East. My mother lives in the same town with us. And I never said my mother inlaw was giving attitude. Read to understand pls

I think you and your wife will have to discuss on how best to reconcile your mum, with her mum and her too

All these drama is falling on you because you have to love them all equally

When your wife agrees to the reconciliation, invite your mum a day and invite your mother in law the next day

Seat the three of them down and let them know that you love them all and you want them to show love and respect to themselves if they all truly wants your happiness as you too wants their happiness

When you are done talking, let your wife move close to your mum and hug her and tell her that she loves her and wants her to see her as her daughter

That, if she has does anything wrong that she should say it so that she will apologize
Am sure your mum have no good reason to what made her hate her, your mum will embraze her as a daughter and the will reconcile

Then you guys will leave the seating room and ask the two mothers to reconcile themselves

By the time you come back, they will make peace with themselves and unity and love will reign in the mist of three of them

From there, they will be communicating steady with each other on phone

Then your wife will make it a point of duty to show love to your mum and always visit her and spend time with her so that they can bond well

Your wife doesn't need to argue or challenge your mum because she is her mother in law, your mum is getting old and she has the tendencies of having a feeling that your wife is talking you away from her, you are the only thing that makes her happy and gives her reason to be happy so just see it that way

Your wife needs to understand that, you are the only person your mum have and she should rather draw herself closer to mum than thinking of taking you a distance from mum

Your mother in law is just there to protect the interest of her daughter and nothing else

Both women should be communicating with themselves steadly and visit each other if possible to create a good bonding

Lastly, you are trying to provide for them as you have stated
Just keep it up its not easy as all of them wants your attention and care

frozen70:
Hello
Where can I get a roper pls i live in Lagos

Y4all:
Kindly drop your location so i could give you the address of a depot closest to you

Hello
Where can I get a softner pls,
I live in Lagos

Rexxie234:
Meehn!!!
This female neighbor is letting me go crazy with her curves. Any time she sees me she would always raise her shirts up to unveil her butt.

Even just now she did it but this time more directly, she saw me coming and quickly she went inside to wear a black tight, omo the moment i say this!!!

Please guys what should i do, she has a bf.

Na man you be, do your work

LarochelE:
I don't know what I've done wrong. When I met my woman in 2020,she had a child. She told me the whole story behind the boy and her ex. We started dating nonetheless, even though the story she told later prove to be false. But I loved her and the boy respected me and follow my lead.

However, things started going really bad since last year. Sex becomes an heavy duty. About two months ago, she told me we should put a brake to sex and focus on raising her child if I truly love her. Why will I keep spending but then you let me realize I can't access your vagina? And you don't want me to find sex elsewhere. Despite all my begging for sex everytime she always refuse. I told her best friend about this and she told me to be patience with her. But I'm tired. All my earnings, I used most to take care of her, and we've not even married yet

This morning, she told she wants to change the school her son is attending and gave me the bills. But because she Just next my house and denied me sex, I was angry.

Now, she blocked me for voicing out. I have called to beg, she isn't hearing any of it.

I'm just confused at this point

Dey play
No use your brain

simondavid:
I need advice I sent little money to my fiancee family friend for health issue. Due to she was calling my line unstoppable when I picked her call she was begging for help which I did now I never knew she was planing to set me up so that I won't marry my woman. Later she called me to tell me that she will like to come to Lagos when I heard that I told her if you want to come to Lagos you should come when my wife is around. She recorded some path of the conversation then went further to show it to my woman elder sister and also sent it to my fiancee in other to stop the marriage. For over 4 months I have been begging my fiancee to forgive me that I don't have anything to do with the lady and am sorry when I sent the money I suppose to tell her but I didn't cos I forgot and I didn't take it as something serious that's why I never bothered myself to inform you but am sorry.she still doesn't want to forgive me so that we can reconcile.
Friend what should I do pls no insult pls
Pls friend

Take a break, every thing will sort itself over time

Preciousgirl:
My husband is bent on bringing into our home a househelp, but knowing how uncontrolled men can be, I prefer a guy, but he insists a girl. I have told him if he does, I leave the house and he is unrepentant still
I am feeling so uncomfortable

You can tell him to allow you bring from your side

Its the duty of a woman to be the one to bring house help to avoid stories

So how come he wants to handle that aspect

Who is using him to force such on your home

NEWBIN:
When a lady acts childish before a man, does that mean she is interested in him?

You are the one calling it childish

Dey pay

Freshtruth:
I was passing by the backyard when I heard shower noise I spy through the Small window and I saw how standing her breast was since then i have been peeping at her more often these days have not been my self , am in love with my neighbor but the issue is she has a boyfriend but I still want to shoot my shot because she is my missing rib.

Pls I want to start buying her gifts is that a good move what did you think guys

Dey play, for another man's garden

letstalksense:
I have this lady I'm looking forward to get married to. We met like 3 months now. We are both from Christian background and we both love God.
I'm not asking her for sex and anything of such. I'm Just looking for a good woman I can settle down with.
We get into deep talk and she told me how she has sex with just 2 guys all her life. And that was after her ex broke her heart.
But promised she has repeat from that. And don't have any sexual engagement with those 2 guys anymore.
Then I told her I still love her despite her action.

BUT I told her she has to delete the contacts of those 2 guys she had sex with and the ex. So she won't have anything doing with them again. But she refused and told me, I didn't trust her. That she is just in friendship with them and have nothing doing with any of them.

Now, my fear is, will she be cheating or have anything doing with those guys if I eventually got married to her?
This is already already bring misunderstanding between the both of us.

I hate cheating and don't cheat either. So I don't like any situation that may bring these exs into our relationship.

But she is not letting them go. Claiming they have been helping her one way and the other, encouraging her in business (she is hard working though). She told me, she got nothing sexual with any of them anymore and will never do. That she has repeated from such. They are just friends now. That I should have to trust her.

Please I don't know if I should trust her truly or I should quit the relationship?

Please what can you advise me? Please mature advise. Thanks

I think you still need enough time to be with her for you to be very very sure that they won't be having anything in future

Afonjashapmouth:
I have been dragging my feet to send in my post for a while, but let me just go straight to my problem. I met this guy on Facebook, and we have been chatting and calling each other for three months now. Although we do not chat or talk at night as we are both married, we are just taking time off from our relationship to cool off. We talked about everything and at some point shared so many naughty details and images. It was on saturday and i wanted to have a little chat with him before going out as my husband was already out to quickly get some stuff done. I could hear a phone vibration with every message i sent to my facebook friend, and this got me looking until i found the phone my husband was using to message and talk to me as another guy. How he manipulated his voice, i still have no idea. He hasn't said anything, but i have been slowly withdrawing our chat time. Should i just open up to him and beg? I am scared to death, and he is almost noticing that i can't stand him for too long. His mood is stable too and this added to my fear because i don't know his plans.

As seen on https://deepsecretsroom.com/index.php/2023/02/16/my-husband-set-me-up/

You can block him on that particular chat ans adjust your ways

If he confront you let him know what you feel like before engaging with such gist

If he doesn't ask you don't bring it up

Peachcakes81:
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iduzebaba:
Pls leaders and professional here , kindly help me criticise this 4 bedroom bungalow house plan that I intend to work on.

I will appreciate all the criticism.

The whole bedrooms have just one window except the one bed room on the right side of the plan

That means the rest three bedrooms will not have a good ventilation and crossing of air


I think you can redesign the plans
Put the remaining three bedrooms on the four edges of the building so that each rooms will nmhave two windows

Then take the last bedroom to the back as visitor's room which will be just a room with toilet

But you can still go ahead with your plans if it's your choice