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Niceguy06:
I'm not saying Men have more options. What I was saying is men should try to have options. Be good looking, have nice body, tall and watch how your options rise. That's the only way to keep women. Thinking you need to be a responsible, caring, compassionate, and God fearing man to keep a woman interest doesn't work. Take care of your look and watch your option rise

Ok
If that is the case, what and who is he taking care of his look for
Of course women naw

koyeni:
I'm sorry sir ..these doesn't work again

Ok naw, use the format that works best

Niceguy06:
Stop misleading men. Women ain't drama queen. They know what they're doing. Women convinced themselves into believing they truly love a man, when in the real sense, they don't even love. When a woman show you drama, show her the door once she's done displaying. Advise like yours don't work. Because that's what a woman believe Will keep them in a relationship, but it's not true. As a Man, do not care about what she does. And once she shows you she's ready to leave, let her leave.

Am glad you said women knows what they are doing

But since they know what they are doing and still do things that will confuse a man, is that not drama

Men too have their own but highly coded and they code it because they don't want to see her drama when she finds out

jimmychang:
Women are drama queens and bla bla bla.That is why women will never take responsibility even if they are at fault.I won't marry a partner who is emotionally immature.If you can't state the reason why you are angry or mad at me or why you start doing certain thing and you expect me to figure it out and win you over when I don't know what the Bleep I did wrong then you are not ready to be married to me.I am big on communication.

Someone makes you angry you sulk,I make you angry unintentionally,you sulk.Women are adults too.If I don't get a woman that can communicate and communication brings peace .

I want peace,I wanna leave longer than my father and grand father man.If she isn't giving me peace well I move.

Peace is very important to everyone, at times, circumstances will make you to be the one to bring peace to the table

Remember the best and worst side of any human beings are after marriage is done not before marriage, so pray you get the one you can handle

Niceguy06:
Women will always find a way to mislead men about what they truly want. See how you've successfully confused OP about female nature and what they want. It's simple. A woman doing what the OP wife is doing is ready to leave the relationship, and what I'll do in that case isn't to seek peace, I'll leave, before she does. More reasons I tell men to work on their look. If you're good looking, you'll easily find another woman to replace her. I don't seek for peace in issues like this, I simply find an alternative. Men, have options in all you do. Never you place your eggs in one basket

You made me laugh that I sort of manipulated the Op with my mention

The Op said he is confused amd doesn't want her to leave, do you want me to tell the Op to forget about her, will I feel her vacuum for him

A man doesn't need to look good to get a woman, there are more women in the world than men, so you can always get another woman

But will you keep changing women when they start their drama or you will learn how to humble one that you have when her drama starts

A woman can still be under your roof and play out, still returns back to your roof and you will never know
what if you are lucky she speaks out that she wants to leave, what you will do is to find away to bring her back before she finally leaves, especially when children are involve
Unless you are already tired with the marriage, the you pray for her to leave quicker

Lastly you said men have options
Look women have more options because the option a man have is still another woman

If you sell your dog and buy a cat, you are still staying with a domestic animal as a pet

jimmychang:
This move will end in complete failure and his wife will hate him more.

Women and rethink after they tasted another gbola or start having an emotional affair

Were you told she tasted another Gbola or you want to keep condemning women

If any man doesn't want his wife to look out he should do his job properly

The move will not end in complete failure because you are not a woman and you don't know what makes a woman have a second thoughts when issues like this comes up

Why do you think some men gives women their Mumu button, is because they value peace of mind

When you have your own wife, use her play gamble, that's when she will show you that women are drama queens

leisuretym:
Go and soak Garri with chilled ice water , don’t walk in the sun for now cos you I’ll just go Gaga if you do, Chai , I’ll be praying for you.

🤦‍♀️

leisuretym:
Where did you buy your weed today? You changed supplier? Hmmm I’m sure they mixed this one you took today.

Lol, na both of us they weed am naw
You are the supplier

GeorgWashinton:
My marriage has suddenly been plagued by sadness and sorrow.

I'm married for ten years now and my marriage has yielded us two beautiful kids. But my wife has just suddenly changed. She doesn't cook for me and the kids any more. She comes back from work late sometimes by 9pm. She picks calls at odd hours and sometimes doesn't let me hear or understand the conversation. I complained but she said I was insecure and that nothing is wrong.

Few weeks ago I found a love letter she wrote but undated and nameless. She said she wrote it for me. I was heartbroken because I know for a fact that it was not for me.

My wife is threatening to divorce me citing that I'm maltreating her which was purely a lie and a false pretext to leave me.

I love my wife and wouldn't want her to leave me, how do I build back my home to how it was? I seriously need my wife by my side and the peace restored.

Well you have to calm down at this point and be ready take it very calm with her

Just keep loving her and assist her at home and where needed

She will notice the improvement in you and that may bring her mind back home

Wake the kids and prepare them for school before leaving and ask her what she is preparing for their lunch

Get things that you are not use to bringing home, hand it over to her and tell her that is for she and the kids, even is she is coming home by 10pm, hand it over to her

This valentine, ask her to pick a place she wants you guys to visit with the children and ask her what time is good for the outing

Keep doing good and loving and definitely she will have a rethink

I purposely don't want to ask you what you did to her or why the sudden change in her
There is no smoke with out fire

Women are drama queens

Fahvvy:
Hahahhahah ...
As expected ...
You're indeed the average woman ...

Tis well with you ma ...

Its well with you

advanceDNA:
he never said they are good friends....they just met...how did u come up with the time she spent on him as a reason to steal his money

You are the one mentioning stealing not me

The guy did not take caution so what do you expect, you and I knows that she will not return that money

Fahvvy:
I didn't even need to look at the name of the moniker to know that this statement is coming from a woman ...

Guys follow this advice at your own peril!!

With the kind of entitled and broke women we have littered all over the place, it will take the grace of God to even own a fridge after you get married ...

Money that could be used for more productive venture will be used to pacifier the broke and entitled fellow who knows nothing but how to make incessant demands and complain ...

And even the ones that are somewhat well to do still have the whole "my money my money, his money my money" mentality, so don't even think it ...

And please don't come to my mention and tell me 'there are still good women out there', cause EVERY WOMAN on the earth still wants to be taken care of by a man she's bleeping with

And you talked about the economy up there, is there anything about the economy that mysteriously changes because a man has gotten married?!! ...

Once the kids starts coming, do you expect the man to neglect the kids welfare to build a house?

Whilst I advice early marriage, men please understand that there are some things that needs to be in place and things that will be expected of you as a man once you get married ...

Its obvious you have comprehensive problems

The writer said build house before marriage

I said rather, marry and build house together

Which is better for you

Zincfingers:
Okay
Thank you for your contribution

Thanks dear

advanceDNA:
When did she spend on him?? Did u even read the matter or u just jump into conclusion like u always do

You that read and comprehend
Show me where I said that she spent on him

Or you just read another post and add it to my mention

Zincfingers:
My girlfriend has a sister( not blood related but an older family friend) with whom she shares an apartment.

This sister has a boyfriend who has been subtly hitting on my girlfriend.
Few days ago, the guy finally made a bold move and invited my girlfriend for lunch .
My girlfriend asked if she could go that the guy was probably planning a surprise proposal and probably needed her to execute it.
I found this ludicrous tho but I allowed her to go so she could satisfy are curiosity.
It was at a public place .

However, the dude spent the whole time convincing my girlfriend not to inform her sister/room mate about their meeting.
My girlfriend recorded their conversation.

I told my girlfriend to inform her sister about the issue without delay and she promised to do so.
However, my girlfriend called me last night and was giving me a million and one reasons why she didn't inform her sister like we both agreed.
She said she didn't want to make her sister sad and she would tell her sometime next week when the mood is right .

I was very mad at her for going against our agreement .
I asked if she was hiding anything and she said no.

We were supposed to see today but I cancelled the plan and I told her clearly that we would only talk after she has done the right thing which is informing her sister about the scheming of the clown she calls boyfriend.

I don't give 2 fvcks about the sister and the guy tho. I'm just trying to proactively save my own relationship.

Kindly drop your 2cents please!

In the cause of saving your relationship, you may loose it

Why dud you ever consent to her going out to meet him in the first place.
What do you expect it to be

Secondly, pls don't encourage or force her to tell her sister anything, the outcome will be worst than what the two of you is acting which mad you to cancel your date with her

I think you should stop her from any form of communications and even greetings with that guy

She should cut it off to prove that she us loyal to you

Its always risky to permit your girl friend to honor an invite with the opposite sex, anything can develop

You can think about it and you guys should continue your ways

As for the other lady, let her be the one to catch her man by herself

If she is not matured to study that guy, that's her business not your babe business

BunbleBee:
Very true especially the food items you mentioned.

That's the most important thing to consider when settling down

Source of cheap raw food is as important as electricity

ValeeLove:
Is there?

The only thing there is that, the family source of income is just one sided and the burden on the man maybe too heavy and it can weigh him down

Being a house wife is more stressful and strenuous than being a working class woman

olasaad:
There is no way you can leave Island for Mainland. There is decorum in the Island than Mainland most especially those Mainland agbero.

And when raising a family, Ssland is far better than Mainland.

Well I was considering his income and the future economic factor

When you talk of Agbero, they are every where both island and mainland

Mandela5:
I met this girl November last year, she's based here in Lagos but she's a student of uniben, we're just friends.

To cut long the long story short. Two weeks ago, she pleaded with me to help her with ₦8,000 for school stuff. Since it was for school related stuff I decided to send her the money. In the process of sending her the money, I mistakenly entered ₦80,000 instead of ₦8,000.

At first I didn't notice, until one of my suppliers delivered goods for me that day and based on agreement I was to pay him ₦140,000 as soon as he delivered my goods. As I was trying to do transfer to him, it was telling me insufficient funds, I opened my bank app then I noticed I mistakenly sent ₦80,000 to this girl.
I called her instantly and told her to send me back ₦72,000 that I need to pay my supplier, she sent only ₦50,000 and she said her account is student account that the maximum amount to make transfer a day is ₦50,000. Then I told her to send me the balance first thing the next morning. But ever since two weeks ago, it has been one story to another.

With her character, I don't think i can help women again. She's making me regrets helping her. I'm really angry with her, she couldn't even tell me she saw alert of ₦80,000 until I called her some hours later. How do I collect my money from her?

Just be calm about it, I know it's not easy but it's a 50/50 thing

In her mind she will say, what about the times she spent with you

Just keep watching her

If she sends it, good and if she doesn't send it, honestly you have to endure it

But one day she will apologize and hope you forget about it then believe you guys are still in the same relationship

That's when you will tell her that her attitude made her loose the most caring man in her life

That word will make her regret what she did and don't ever near her again

propsad3:
Before you think about marriage, think about how you can buy a Land and build your house. You can do it irrespective of your income.

I think it should be, once you get married start planning to own your own house by buying a land and start building

If you wait until you buy a land, build it before getting married, with the present economy, you may finish building your house and get married late

How do you now train your children with old age

Geonigga:
Good afternoon to you all. I'm base in Abuja with my girl friend. We are about to settle down but the problem is that both of us have As as genotype. I so much love her and I don't think if I can let her go. I want to know if there is any known hospital in Abuja that do prenatal genetic test for unborn baby to avoid giving birth to a baby with SS.

Dey play 🙄

BunbleBee:
Hello Lagosians!

So I work somewhere within Adeola Odeku, VI, Lagos and I'm considering getting an apartment. My budget is 700k for total package.

I have explored getting a self contained apartment on the mainland especially within Yaba (Ebute Metta, Alagomeji, Adekunle, Sabo) but good houses within this budget are scarce these selected areas. The available ones tend to be around Onike, Akoka which will increase my commute time.

Recently, I have been checking some available self cons ( kinda BQ) within Lekki (Ikate, Agungi) and they seem to fall with my budget.

So guys in terms of cost of transportation and commute time, which do you think would be better to consider.

Plenty thanks as you respond.

I think if you are single, stay on the island

Over time before you get married you will understand the cost of living in both areas

But for me, food items and cheap markets are good on the mainland

That's why i said if you are single but if you are married stay on the mainland

akpunda86:
Hi fellas ,I came from a family of 6 boys and 1 girl,m dad when we were small had the opportunity of sending all of us outside d country but he said No,we all should establish then if u wanna go ,you go at adult age,HE SAID ONE THING ILL NEVER FORGET WHAT WILL I TELL PEOPLE WHEN THEY ASK OF MY KIDS,
WELL,some of my brother's are there,while some are here,and I must not lie I can not lose my contacts here cos of USA.atleast I have a turn over of 25-30 million every year after taxation.I have a gud business contact and travelling outside I'll lose my business contacts.
Issue now My sister secured a visa for my wife and she planning taking the kids which I said No,she can go with the girls while we visit during the holidays Im staying here with the boys,They need to learn the Nigeria way Yes,Naija might be hard but full of opportunities.

Sorry ,I'm asking if i go to USA what am I gonna be going.
Home sweet home I'll stay till Nigeria departs.

My wife no gree me rest,her visa in my vault ,as they are doing the kids papers but my house is on 🔥,For me I'm not intrested.

If you are not interested or not going, let them go, stay home and salvage the situation

One day you won't regret it

fergie001:
Bayo Onanuga

As e dey pain them
E dey sweet us 🎶 🎶 🎶

ify2016:
See the circular below.


God bless Lagos State Government,God bless Federal Republic of Nigeria.

This will not be enough because they will still fault it

Best is to follow up with a SOLID TRUNK BARRIERS to the height that trailers will not be able to pass through

With this, you don't need to Station LASTMA to monitor any truck movement on any bridge

Bestcreamreview:
Thank you so much for this!!

Thanks sis

Bestcreamreview:
Good morning guys, please I need honest opinions. I am a female, currently 23 years old. I studied one of the 4 year-courses at the faculty of basic medical sciences in a federal university and graduated with a strong 2:1 (4.3 CGPA). I started NYSC in June last year and I'll be done by May/June this year. Now I'm confused about what to do after service.

I've always wanted to study medicine and spending my service year in a reputable teaching hospital has increased my love for the profession. I would like to go back to school to study medicine via direct entry but my friends and relatives think it's a bad idea, some suggested I get a job after service and try to settle down (i.e get married and start a family), my parents suggested I get a Masters degree, a job and then a husband. Everyone around me thinks going back to study medicine would be a waste of time but I'm worried about feeling unfulfilled or unhappy with my decision in the future. I've read stories about women who gave up on their dreams to settle down or pursue other career options that are less stressful and time consuming and some end up regretting their decision while others say it's the best decision they ever made.

My parents are ready to support me financially if I choose the direct entry option over the one they want but they are worried I may not be able to start a family early, starting a family in my early or mid twenties is very important to them. I'm also worried about being a financial burden to them after service, currently, I have about two jobs I do in addition to NYSC, I haven't asked my parents for a kobo since I graduated, I worked at a lab for over six months before NYSC. I've tasted financial freedom and it's refreshing, I fear that I may not be able to work while in med school because it is stressful and time consuming.

What would you advise me to do? You don't have to tell me exactly what to do, just share your honest opinion about the situation. Thank you

I think you should further your education and go for medicine

Marriage is not automatic, what if you waited all these long to get a suitor and they don't come, you would have waited for nothing yet you didn't go for medicine

You can still be in medical school and get engaged and still round up your studies and still become pregnant before your service

Just follow your heart its your life not their's

LittleBigDick:
My worst fear came true. My ex came crawling back after I started getting serious with another girl.
We broke up 7 months ago. We'd been together since uni. I'm 25, she's 23. She said she needed some space and wasn't sure we would work out long term. I tried to fight her on it for two weeks but eventually gave her the breakup and went ghost mode
First couple of months were rough but I applied myself at the gym and other things and when I was feeling better about my physique made a Bumble account just to gain some self-esteem back and also take my mind off her. Met this girl about 2 months ago and we've been fwb since then. We Bleep every week and recently we've been talking about making things serious. I confess I'm starting to become infatuated with this girl, and she's already head over heels for me.
The problem is that I still love my ex, way more than this new girl. She reached out today saying she regrets breaking up with me, she was depressed and got some therapy and realized I'm all she wants. She says she went on a few dates but "didn't have sex or even kiss any of them." She said I could check her phone if I want to. Obviously she could have just deleted any proof but I'm inclined to believe her considering she was very prudish when we were together and also I was the one that disvirgined her
The problem is I don't know whether I stick to this new babe or accept my ex back

Hmmm
If you can handle both, it's up to you

It will give you the opportunity you need to know who among the two will be of great partner with you

But am very sure you have 50% chances of considering your ex because you already know her more than the current one

The choice is yours

EFULEFU1:
I visited them
The next morning, my brothers wife came to bath in my washroom and used my toothbrush to brush her teeth and blew me a kiss.

Should I tell my brother?

Both of you, make una dey play
You are own your own

OGReporters:
Nigerian Man Becomes His Nursery School Teacher’s Lecturer … caption “It’s a Small World,” Cute Photos Surface
A Nigerian man who was a student of his teacher when he was in nursery school three is now a lecturer. Anucha Wisdom, a university lecturer, instructs at the Faculty of Education at Abia State University in Uturu.

Anucha said in a widely shared Facebook post that he was unaware that Aunty Ijeoma, his nursery school instructor, had enrolled at ABSU.
Anucha claimed that when he entered his class, he was shocked to learn that Aunty Ijeoma was enrolled in it.

Read more here:

https://opzygist.com.ng/gossips-and-news/nigerian-man-becomes-lecturer-to-his-nursery-school-teacher-they-met-in-class-pictures/

Waooo, she will never have any carry over through out in that school

Svinx:
My husband and I have been trying to conceive for a while now and no result. I have my own issues which I am trying to treat, but as it is, my husband's case is untreatable. I have brought up the suggestion of adoption, but he doesn't want it. Can someone help with the process of adopting a child in Nigeria? if you have adopted before, can you share your experience? I need to know so I can go back to him with facts praying he would agree this time.

Thank you

For a genuine purpose, go to several orphanage homes and make your enquiries and they will direct you on how to start the processing

There is nothing free about it as you will need to make some documents and they are charges attached to it

If you guys want to adopt as a couple, your husband presence is needed

But you have to keep talking with your husband and of he is adamant about it, then involve people that are close to him and people he respects

There is one orphanage home in Palm Grove, you can start with that if you resides in Lagos

Zupay:
My cousin's son has been a source of disturbance to me for the past 2 weeks.

The background story.

My cousin got pregnant with him when she was 19 but the father who then in his mid 20s denied the pregnancy in the presence of both families and went on to claim the reason he gave her money to procure an abortion was because he was only one of the guys sleeping with my cousin at the time (which was a blatant lie) and it was his own contribution.

My Uncle and Aunt (my cousin's parents) had to accept the guy's denial and solely took care of my cousin's pregnancy. Her son was born in 2007 and bears my Uncle's name, he was taken care of by his grandparents, uncles and aunts as his mother went back to school and graduated. My cousin got a better paying job in 2015 and moved out of their family house with her son, who is presently in S.S.2.

The biological father resurfaced sometime last year in May, starting to make claims and all. He went directly to the boy's school to introduce himself and starting meeting the boy, buying him things without my cousin's knowledge until the man showed up at my uncle's house with some of his relatives but my uncle didn't receive them.

The boy was becoming rude to his mother, talking back at her, telling her he would push for a change in his surname to that of his biological father, became cold to his grandparents etc To cut long story, he moved to his father's house in August of last year and resumed school from there. My cousin (his mother) was seriously sick in October of last year, this boy never bothered to call on his mother despite knowing of her illness and he has a phone he uses freely.

My cousin (his mother) relocated to the UK early this January, on a skilled worker visa as she works in a children' home and have made up her mind to refocus on getting married and having other kids. Her son has been calling her, which she has never picked also sending her long stories of how his father's wife have been maltreating him even in the presence of his father and the father would say nothing. Pleading with the mother to bring him over to the UK to live with her (her visa allows her to bring her son to the UK easily since he is under 18) but my cousin have not been replying him and this boy has been disturbing me to talk his mother on his behalf as I am very close to my cousin.

I have spoken to my cousin severally and she insisted she has washed off her hands where her son is concerned, that she doesn't want him around her as she needs to live singly and have a relationship that would lead to marriage, that she really wants to settle down.

I have told the boy to concentrate on finishing secondary school but he seems obsessed with wanting to relocate to the UK though my other cousin (his mother's younger brother) has confirmed that the boy is having it rough living with the father, his wife and other children.

I believe his mother has a right to have a new lease of life.

This boy is always messaging me asking for updates, I don't know what else to tell him!

His father created the problem his mother have been managing with the mother's family

He was so stupid to allow his dad to frustrate his life

I think she has to ask his father to do a DNA test at least to be sure he is biological father

Convince the boy to finish his secondary school at least let him have a foundational certificate

Lastly, I stand with his mother not to bring him over there, he is no longer the child she use to know, he is now a naughty boy

I agree with the mother that she wants a life of her own and she wants to settle down for marriage, so she should be allowed to find her own home
When the time comes she will know how to assist him

Now for you, just tell him that she has blocked your line and she has warned you never to call her again

Thats the only way you can be free from his disturbance on you, but if you are ready to carry that child along, out of pity, you can take over as his father and mother

But don't come here to give any complain about him as you will be his target one day