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TheBTCinvestor:
Okay thanks..but she's feeling bad

She needs to cooperate with you, for you to have a successful restart

Continue to love her and make her feel at home

She may be thinking you are no longer finding her attractive

So assure her that you will be fine and that doesn't stop you form putting her through romance

TheBTCinvestor:
Recently iv noticed that I have no sexual feelings towards my wife who has a baby for me and its giving me concerns. I love her and she loves me too. Even if she's naked.. I Don't get erections. Iv tried Vega 100 and Viagra and even Jekonmo bitters and its still the same...It comes hard but when I penetrate to have sex it falls..Its been very frustrating. It wasn't like this when we were dating.

But I noticed when I see other girls my erection comes up. What shud I do?

Discuss this issue with her and both of you will sort it out together
Just be calm

Lovilla:
I find pleasure in sucking my man tiny nipple..


Although he hates it, i keep insisting on doing that....

How do i stop it pls...

I Dont want to get him angry anymore.




Dominique nlfpmod

Is there any fluid coming out that made you to be addicted

Because am still wondering

Elkidz:
Please I need a good advice on this issue from matured minds.

A friend of mine called me yesterday and was seriously crying that she wants her daughter that just got married to come back.

REASON:
Last year, her daughter of 21 years got married. From the look of things, the marriage was contracted on falsehood.
The man( daughter's hubby) was introduced to the girl by another woman. The young man and his mother presented themselves as very good people. The young man claimed to have money and working in Abuja as "interior decorator" . He made the girl believed that he has money where's he was borrowing to do the the marriage rites.
After the first stage of the traditional rites, he lied to the girl that bank seized his money because someone from abroad sent more than the approved amount (ie. millions) into his account. The girl had to use the little money she received as salary to sort out certain things.

To cut the long story short, marriage was scheduled, on the eve of the wedding (the bridal shower night) , the young man beat the girl blue and black to the embarrassment of everyone present including his own friends, that was how the bridal shower ended with the poor girl crying all throughout the night. This is just because of flimsy excuse, to make matters worst, the girl was some weeks old pregnant which he's aware of.
To worsen the situation, after marriage, the man left the lady in the village with the parents, two days after marriage he travelled for a job, while the girl is left alone in the village without any pocket money and without any job since she's stopped the job she was doing before marriage. She's just Living at the mercy of the guy's parents with the mother treating her like trash.

Please Mod kindly push to the front page, I need matured advice.

And her parents are alive and left her there like that or is she an orphan

FOOTSOLDIER2:
Great advice, thank you.

Thanks dear

Lovilla:
My boyfriend just ended our 6months old relationship.

Saying that he have found someone better than me.

Men are truly heartbreakers.

Girls, dont be decieved when men tell you that he ir really different from the other guys,
They are all thesame.

He just want to use you.
He just want to get what is inbetween your legs.

Men are evil !!!

Still cant believe that after using me day and night, after promising me heaven and earth, he left me for another girl like me.

Men are wicked!!!

Sorry about that
Learn from that and move on

Dont be too cheap and don't be too desperate

Work on yourself and accept relationships from your levels and don't expect much from them

KeyEndurance:
Am A Kind Of Man That Enjoy Been In Relationship but To My Greatest Surprised my girlfriend Had Shocked Me Today.
There Was A Girl I Toasted ending Of 2016 we Enjoyed Our Been Together So Much To The extend That i Engaged Her January 2017 I Bought Her A Ring To Avoid Being disturb By Some street Boys, she Was Been Disturbing me To Marry Her Ever Since Then As If Marriage is Simple Thing That You Can Do with Ordinary Paper. I Told Her To Endure for Me till 2020 (everybody Knew How 2020 was bad) so i Did Not do Anything. And The Love We Have For Other Is So much nice to The Extend That We Cant do Without Seeing others every Day. She Do Complained To Me That Her Parent were Disturbing Her To Marry, but I Cant come And Rush My Self Because I Have No Money. To Short The Story this Girl Return my Ring this Morning with Tears That Am Wasting her Time without Showing Sign Of Marrying Her, i Wonder How She Want me to Show Her Sign.
I Can Never Trust Women Again In My Life because Of what She Did to me today

You are actually the one that tricked her to believe you want her for yourself

But you know vividly that you are not set for marriage

You need to ask her to forgive you because you gave her a false hope

Aluma32:
Nairalanders, I'm new and need genuine advise here. I married my wife for over 7 years and she hasn't been able to conceive. After many medical trials like IVF and operations no positive result. She had suggested we go for a surrogate mother and has even brought a young girl of about 22 years to do that for us. My concern which I told her is that the little baby will need constant feeding in the surrogate mother's womb and so I will from time to time bleep the girl to feed my unborn child which my wife refuse. What should I do? Or I should leave my unborn baby to starve in that girl's womb? The baby may end up lacking certain traits if not well fed. Please advise and no insult please.

You need to be lectured about surrogacy and I think you don't have any idea about i

Besides it normally goes through other processes and which involves a legal process so that she doesn't come back tomorrow for her child

Besides, once pregnancy have occurred, the child develops with or without the man, so far the mother is healthy enough to carry the pregnancy

But is the surrogate mother really aware of the deal considering her age

Incognito21:
I don’t know if this is the right section for this, Won’t bore with long details, but ever since i stopped hustling, and going legal, life has been difficult, I have been feeling what every Nigerians feels every day, country frustration, how I spend with legal money now, is different on how I spend yahoo money and honestly I love yahoo money, imagine waking up to 5k$ in the morning, sometimes 100, 500, 300, 200, 50$ gift cards from diff clients, then doing some conversion to naira, most of my money was invested, and you know, you can only ball with yahoo money and not the hard earned money, I don’t ball anymore, use to buy slippers of 50k shoe of 65k up, I don’t even experience power outages cause it’s gen 24/7 even when the lights is on, I command respect cause I bribe way in, imagine now I won’t even on generator cause of fuel price, not that the money is not there but I don’t have yahoo money again, let me not bore you with details…. But i definitely miss yahoo money… and I’m seriously thinking of going back to it…..

Any hard earned money gives you the senses to spend it well and plan your spending

FOOTSOLDIER2:
Nairalanders, please one of my male friends urgently needs your piece of advice.

I have a friend that is currently staying with me, I've observed over and over any time I invite different babes to my house that this guy is always being too caring and bringing up unnecessary gists with my babes, thereby diverting their attention away from me.

What exactly could this mean? Has or does anyone else have this kind of friends? How do you deal with them since you are only trying to be diplomatic enough with them, hence the attitude is so annoying and simping ontop your own babe oh.

Please I will appreciate a lot and eager to learn from the masters. Thanks.


Nlfpmod, Mynd44, lalasticlala, seun. Please help my friend

Since you don't know his intensions, advice him to get elsewhere and stay that you want to settle down

He won't know that his unnecessary closeness to uoir babes is the main reason for you to ask him to get an accommodation

JackDaAlienz:
I work in antenatal clinic as receptionist and I'm very good friends with the guy that does ultrasound scan.
There is this woman that usually comes for check ups. But she is not pregnant
I chat with her whenever we see
Today she visited as usual
I overheard ultrasound guy telling the woman that the only way she can ever get pregnant is by looking for sperm donor since her husband sperm quality is very poor.
She complained that the husband doesn't believe his sperm is weak and instead blame her for not conciving.
She said he refuse to follow her to fertility clinic to check his sperm quality.
I saw the woman feeling bad and distressed we chat again this time collected her number.

The thing is that I want to talk to her if she can allow me bleep her and impregnate her for a price.
Is it ethically right or am I committing a crime?

Dey play

ctex4real:
Hello everyone, I never knew I could be in this situation even though I read other people's stories here.
I would appreciate the advice from experienced married people here pls.
I am married with 2 kids.
My wife and I work in the UK and although I earn twice as much as her, she supports bills in the house. We contribute towards the mortgage together as well.
We do not have a joint account, however, we pledged that we would inform the other party whenever money is being sent back home as courtesy.
Due to her level of support, I agreed to send money to her parents whenever I send to mine. Her mum is based in the US but not really financially buoyant (still not as bad as my retired dad in Nigeria)
However, I realised that she wants such fund split 50-50 between our families. This has caused problems in the past. Hence, I resorted to sending money secretly to my parents who are usually cash strapped.
NOW THE ISSUE
Wife caught me on one occasion sending money to my parents without her knowledge. She asks me and I denied initially but later admitted and apologized, tried to make up in some way.
To find out if I had been sending money severally in the past without her knowledge, she plays a mind game by telling me that her co-wife (my brother's wife) who had just come into the UK with my brother told her (my wife) that my mum secretly advised her (my brother's wife) to be sending money very well back home(to my parents) like I do and that she should not let my wife know about it. By this, my wife alleges that I have been sending money back home.
I denied I ever used to send money secretly, insisting that that episode was the first and last. She agrees and lets it slide.
3mths down the line, I ask my mum if she ever said anything like that and my mum's voice broke down, she denied it with her life and was was really disappointed that my wife could lie against her.
I have pleaded with my mum to keep mum about the issue and I have full trust she will.
I feel really hurt and cannot understand why my wife would go to the extent of lying against my own mum. I want to confront her and express my profound disappointment.
My wife has also sent money to her mum without telling me and although I found out 2mths ago, I have not mentioned it just waiting for the right time.
I always wanted to be open/honest but my wife being inconsiderate by demanding 50-50 was what pushed me to send money secretly.
She denies ever being against sending money to my parents.
What would you advise me to do please? No insults and matured comments only please.
MODs please send to FP pls!

You have to confront and challenge your wife

Then forgive her and ask mum to forgive her

That will throw caution to her

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

Challenges and bad choice

AnayoDivine:
Okay, well I feel bad turning out too good because my siblings are going to go through hell

Dont be surprise if they are the one to resist and fight for their freedom

First child always passes through your type of situation
But you see those following them

They are the ones that have crazy ways of sorting themselves

AnayoDivine:
Thank you so much, I'm already working towards it, I really appreciate all the smart advice compared to what I've seen others receive

Thanks dear
Dont mind them
Talk is cheap

Ngozey:
No 😭😭 but my life is completely shattered without her i don't really want to have her custody , i just wish she could give me visitations right even if it is once a year I will be so happy

Ok but no matter how bad you think your life is

Try and engage yourself with something meaningful and then from there you can afford to transport yourself to see your child

Ngozey:
Mum is late and dad doesn't care

But do you have a means of feeding and providing for that child assuming you take over the child

Ngozey:
Hello guys please help me out , my siser husband brother impregnated me 😢😭 i gve birth in october2020, i have only breastfed her👩‍👦 😔😟🙁😥 for 6 months before my sister sent me back to the village without my baby 😢😭😢😭, I have been in the villa since april 2021 and i havnt seen my baby again because my doesn't want me to visit them. I missed her so much i dont even know what she looks like now , i really want her back and i strongly believe my sister is suffering her because she always use to refer her as a bad luck 😭😭😭. I missed her so much and I desperately want her back. 😩 what should I do to have my baby back please help me out 😭😭😭🙏

Where are your parents in this home video

AnayoDivine:
My parents always restrict me from many things which I feel is because they want the best for me but at the same time this is SERIOUSLY AFFECTING ME. My social life is 0. I don't have friends, I don't leave the house to visit people or stroll around. I don't know the way to anywhere just to school. They are caging me, and I'm not exposed to anything. I don't want this to continue because it might make me become easily peer pressured.
I talked to them about work because I'm done with secondary school and my Dad refused. I am just at home and I don't have any means of earning or catering for myself. Thats the major reason I want to start exploring, to look for jobs and earn money, I am tired of constantly borrowing airtime and I'm currently owing Airtel #1000. At least if you want to keep me caged provide me with little airtime and data to keep me entertained. I'm gradually loosing my mind and it hurts seeing my mates having some things and I'm stuck at home. This is what causes young kids to start doing various dirty acts at home and when they eventually come outside they'll become too weak and would be easily manipulated. My Aunt isn't in support of their parental method at all as she says it's not right and I wouldn't gain anything from it.
Please I need help and advice and if you have anything I can be doing with my phone to atleast pay up for my airtime loan and start taking care of myself small small, I'll appreciate. I don't want to eventually get used to them and become a burden. I want to provide for my parents and be independent.

The only way out is to seat for Jamb
Pass your exams and get set to be admitted in school

That's where your freedom to be who you want to be will start

But use your senses

Obakoolex:
No be this guy dey flaunt another woman just of recent?

Honestly I was just thinking the same thing
I read that and I was wondering if he walk freely despite the case on his head over the wife's death

Hardlife:
You didn’t see where I wrote I’m looking for anyone selling at give away price too?

I wish you good luck and that's why i said that you can get them as second hand where they sell such

Hardlife:
Godday sir, I only need a bed and a fan. These two are the most expensive above my savings. I can try to get anything else I need. Yes I used to gamble but I have long stopped and moved on with my life. I have made a lot of progress since then. I’m still trying my best. I have spent so much. I’m trying to minimize budget. I’m a student graduating this year.

Rome was not built in a day, you can start with the smallest size of foam in the market

Get a hand fan, made locally to fan yourself incase you are sweating

But you can put net on the door and windows, then you can manage yourself while sleeping under mosquito net

You can also look for where the sell second hand household items in your area

Just try and stop the act of begging its not a good way to start as a man

Dreal1247:
What is the meaning of this statement? We need further explanation.

They want people who still have the old notes to bring them to the banks

But don't accept old notes for anything or business transactions

[quote author= post=120529694]A Female Friend, Just Draw The Attention of On His Official Whatsapp Chat, About This Sudden Appearance Of This Unknown Stuff on Her Body.

Doctor's And Health Expert In the house, what Type Of Disease Is This?

What Is The Best Solution To Cure It?

Your Comment Is Highly Appreciate.

See Graphic Photos As Obtained By Below:[/quote]Is normal just use antibiotics and either it melt away or gets to pouse stage

The more you put your fingers the more it multiplies

Mayowa112:
fuel scarcity no POS to dispense funds
I was going to work today i should have collected money yesterday I felt I will get it in the morning behold I went to like 10 POS centre before I could get 4k this morning

main topic
what is Lagos state trying to do
what is this structure meant for pls

Its not peculiar to Lagos alone

Meektunz:
I just want to know how to harden my heart and do it cos her family have been very people, I've tried talking to them severally about her but she seems not to be able to solve anything. Besides right now all that matters to me is ending this marriage.

Dey play

NBAjunior:
Hello everyone Good morning I have an issue and I need your thoughts on this...
Have been dating this beautiful girl for 5 months now the relationship has been good except for the fact that she is not always available for us to see
I stay alone in a nicely furnished self contain while she stays with her parents her parents are very strict so she always has limited time outside of the house.
This has been our issue ever since and it's been bothering me so I decided to end things with her yesterday she has been begging me with calls and text messages that I shouldn't give up on her..,,
She will be gaining admission into a state school and will be resuming maybe before the end of this year I don't think I can wait that long she wants me to be patient with her
After so many pleas I told her I will think about it I love her a lot but her not being available for us to see is really eating me up tho she always does her best to come by whenever she got the opportunity
What do you think guys? What would you do if you are in my position??

P:S am the one that disflowered her

You have to cultivate the habit of being patience especially on relationships

You disflowered her despite her not easily available and now you want to drop her

Why and who did you actually disflowered her for

This is how some guys derails a young girls life and she will conclude that's how men are

By the time she will be free and loose then you go back to her, don't expect her to remain the same person you dropped because she must have learnt so many nonsense

Fkj2021:
Good day everyone. I will make this as short as possible.

A friend of mine got married January 2022 and he has been having issues from his wife every single day.

The wife was working but stopped working August 2022. While she was working, the husband paid for every bill at home, all the lady does was to send money to her family and get herself clothes.

Before I forget, the woman added 300k during the marriage ceremony but this has led. To alot of issues because the woman asks for this money every single day.

Back to the story, when the woman stopped her work due to issues that the company had, the husband continued providing for the family including his brother and brother in-law who came to stay with them due to the work they started learning.

Due to the fact that funds were not coming as it should due to the situation of the country, the woman started making comments of the man not been wealthy and this has led to issues of disrespect from the wife.

The man is a jealous type according to him but his wife always have suitors online and offline whom she keeps and always say that incase she break up with the husband.

The husband is a good friend of mine and he asked for my advice. Please what advice do. I give to him?

Marriage comes lots of problems

Both premeditated problems and unexpected problems

The man can not kill himself, let her get another job and take care of her needs

As for the man, let him just ignore her with her attitude till it gets to a point where he can not cope, then he can return her back to her parents so that they will have absolute peace

Things are hard and we have to manage ourselves

If they can't handle themselves well now
When children starts coming, what will they do

Excober08:
Can you relate to this? Do you have any experience lIke this?

Last year, someone i got to know on FB called me, sounding frantic. He said he needed N200k to solve an urgent problem. He promised to pay back within 60 days-two months max.

Against my better judgment and prior personal resolution not to borrow money to people anymore, I gave him the money. Two months passed and I didn’t hear a word from. Three, four, five, six, seven, eight, and nine months passed, and still no words, no calls. So I called him. What about the money, I asked.

He responded” Oga, why are you putting me under pressure? This is small money for you. I will give it to you when I have it”. He dropped the call apparently peeved that I had the audacity to call him. He didn’t call back and I didn’t, either.

Fast forward to Wednesday last week. The guy started blowing up my phone. He called me so many times in minutes. I picked thinking he was going to ask for my account details for payment, but he had a new request- his children school fees had not been fully paid and now, the school was threatening to send them home. Also, the children have no food to eat. Hearing that I was touched and asked him what he needed. He said Just N100k. I was angry with the use of’just’ but still wanted to know how I could help because of the children.

I sent him N50k and sent him a text to inform him. He didn’t replied and didn’t call. I concluded he may not have received because of the delays being witnessed in online transactions. After 3 days I called him and asked if he had seen the money. It was then he said” thanks for the other day sir”. He saw the money but he couldn’t call me to acknowledge or say thank you. He waited for me to call. He is an ingrate and I have shut the door against him.

Have you had such an experience?

You never see any thing
Dey play
Na you go loose last last

frozen70:
I think she needs a break, so you will help her by taking her to her parents so that she can have enough time for her game

Then, I know that her parents will come to beg for her

Tell them that you will get back to them

Keep posting them so that she will decide either to follow the guy or come back to her senses

As for your children let them start school wherever she is

Some people must have sense bye force

By the time her family and your family gather together on her matters, she will humble herself

Jennyclay:
All your post is always about your wife.

Shey na only you Waka come?

Continue!

Dont blame him
He never knew that marriage have some challenges

Now they are coming up and he is feeling it negatively

Marriage is for those who are prepared for nonsense

Afodot0022:
Good day nairalanders. Its good to meet the family again and happy new year. I know majority of people here will be familiar with my story base on my previous trends. If you are unaware, you can go to my previous trends to get better perspective. Family, another one don happen again o. You all know i told you that i caught my wife cheating with a guy some times ago. I forgave her and gave her a second chance, but it seems that word that a cheat will always be a cheat is damn true. After all the issues that have happened between myself and i, another issue of unfaithfulness was unraveled today. I noticed my wife was chatting with someone on whatsapp and when i got closer to her, she became uncomfortable and this made me to request for her phone to know whatsup. I noticed there is this guy she was chatting with and in that chat, it was obvious that she deleted the previous conversation she had with the guy. In holding the phone, a chat from this guy entered and reads... PLS MAKE SURE YOU DELETE THIS CHAT O. I DON'T WANT WAHALA. When i saw this chat, i was shocked and also marvelled that what could make the guy send such message to my wife if they have not been have something in common. I acted as if it was my wife that was chatting and start wining the guy to know better. The guy was saying things that look like she has something to do with my wife. One of the chat was that, he knows that he is safe cos he is sure he is always in a safe hand with her. I was angry and furious when i saw all this. I asked her what was going on between the both but you know women, she denied and started crying that there is nothing going on between she and the guy. But my people is it possible for a guy to send such kinda message to a married woman if there is nothing attached. Pls am just tired of this woman called my wife cos i decided to give her a second chance because of my two daughters but it seems she is just ready to use her own hand to destroy her marriage. Even though there is nothing going on with the both, how do i believe her this time with the previous experience have had with her. How will a married woman be so stupid and foolish and never learnt from her mistake. Pls i know you guys will abuse and insult me for accepting her back but honestly i am also regretting aswell and am ready to send her back to her family. I have had enough of all of this. God marriage is not easy atall.

I think she needs a break, so you will help her by taking her to her parents so that she can have enough time for her game

Then, I know that her parents will come to beg for her

Tell them that you will get back to them

Keep posting them so that she will decide either to follow the guy or come back to her senses

As for your children let them start school wherever she is

Some people must have sense bye force

By the time her family and your family gather together on her matters, she will humble herself

DMerciful:
News casters are different from interviewers like Seun Okinbaloye.

My best are Seun Okinbaloye and Rufai Oseni.

You see that Seun
He can pull the devil out of the pit all in the name of asking questions