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edoairways:
I doubt you heard a voice rather you thought of your family before making an attempt.

He did heard the voice, every one has the ability to hear that voice through the grace of God

johnmba:
Fellow NL . Am bringing this issue to seek advice.

I come from a family of 7, we are all graduates except the first son who is into business. The second son is very very rich,he works with a big multinational company.

When we were growing up he hardly play with us the younger ones but he was close to the first son. But he totally changed after he got married 15years ago. Though our parents did not initially support his marriage because of the girls background (her father died and the mum went back to her house with the daughter) and her character too. My brother got angry and said nobody should visit him or ask him for money. He used to help us in school.

Later my parents accepted and gave their support but since then my brothers attitude towards us really changed. Each time I visit him , he does not give me money in the presence of the wife. Also he usually give me money to go and eat outside because she hardly cook(maybe cos of the initial rejection)

The way he talks to the first son is degrading and he hardly pick our calls. The first son business is not moving at all but he does not care though he has given him money and car some years back and they don't talk to each other again. On several occasions people have told the third son why his brother refused to help his family. They said he helps people alot in the multinational company and he is a very nice guy.

Please what do we do? I don't want this separation to continue till death.. Our children are watching and I want us to relate as brothers and sisters.

Nb.
Nobody is calling him to ask for money. Am an engineer but works in a hospital. All we want is that brotherly love. Since I finished school I have not asked him for money likewise some of my siblings.

How do we bring him back

This is a very difficult task

The rest of you should be more united, let him stand alone

You people can choose to start being close with the wife if you guys can

Some men will marry and chose to be more closer to the wife than the rest of the family,
Situations like this is not healthy for both him and you guys

If not corrected now, his children and the rest of you guys children may not know what it feels to relate as cousins

MrHistorian:
Happy birthday to her.

And to quickly educate the OP (original poster), she didn't avert the Ebola virus singlehandedly. She did it with a team of medical personnels. I wonder why she gets most (if not all) of the credit.

Because it took her life

amuwo1980:
You must be a child or got ur head on the clouds

Just exactly the way you are

Legionx:
You know a school environment where all the girls prefer to walk half naked in bum shorts showing their legs, thighs and leaving nothing to imagination.

I'm trying to keep my focus but it's not easy. Lots of girls say I'm handsome and too serious... Those words make me think I can get a girl without stress

But

I'm trying to achieve my goals but the sexual urge sometimes makes my head dizzy....

I'm not broke, I got a medium size gen, TV, GOtv and all that... Which is probably why the ladies are showing interest...

How can I forge ahead when all I see is ass, laps and thighs whenever I step out...

You want to be distracted so continue

Your final results will be the reward of being a serious student or a student that came to escort serious student

You can't even handle and tame your self in a school environment

Women never deal with you before

He is a stupid man.

sinaj:
All these children sef

Parents should do better abeg

What exactly do you think the parents should do

This boy was brought up in the same home with his siblings yet he chose to be a disgrace

The parents are even ashamed of him

I don't think he still stays with his parents

Fear women

Am just short of words

How much are these children making a day to just die like fowl because of poverty

Rip little angels

She doesn't deserve you and you do t deserve premature death

Packout and rent another apartment for yourself let her continue to fight herself

Thielngr:
My wife is frustrating my life I don't just know what to do.. I feel like killing myself just to end this marriage, staying with her is like living with Satan...

Everyday trouble for 10yrs now..I am tired...she has refused to work or do anything, she doesn't respect or regard me, she goes out and comes back at will without telling me where and why

She is always insulting me while looking for a fight with either bottle, hammer or the kitchen knife of which I have endured all these years because of our children, her pastor told me 8yrs ago that she will change but she is becoming more aggressive which has prompted me to cry out.

What should I do? I need urgent advice

Your report is about provoking me

You endured all this stupid act of her for what reason

If she kills you, that's the end

It's not easy to pull out of marriage but when threat of life is involved, it becomes easier

You don't even need to report her to her parents, just leave that home for her and pack the things you think you will need and relocate else where and start living there

Be there, just let the landlord know that you are no longer living there and not responsible for the rent

If her family ask you how come you didn't inform them, tell them you have endured enough and you are fed up and you are not interested in her and the marriage again

If she wants to go with the child or children let her go with them, just pay their school fees to the school directly

She is not contributing anything to the family and she is not supportive

Who stays with a wolf at home

Nooo, this is insult upon injury, I don't care to know your own fault but then she is not working yet she is behaving like a tyrant, just because you want to be a gentleman

Law of survival is you first

Arrival is guaranteed but am not sure of departure

This is not necessary

This is one of the places you will do weac exam and pass with good grades

Pls don't ask me how

If you know, you will understand

Big for nothing, just few minutes stupidity has cost you your freedom

He really meant it, you can see that he hanged himself in the place where passer byes will see him quickly

This life, some people are passing what they can't say

RPirez:
Rubbish! Foolish Africans trying everything to be westernized.

That airline has to be a 9ja one cuz pets aren't allowed in a regular passenger cabin. You wonder why 9ja is what it is. Breaking flying rules like e no concern dem. Fools!

Not true, pets are allowed and must be quarantined at the airport before departure and quarantined at the arrival airport on same health card given to dogs with their names written on it

You have to get the dog's ticket too as you get for yourself

Then you move them in a recommended dog cage where he stays comfortable, when not in your arms

All these involves money

So she actually bought a ticket for her dog, a first class ticket ❓

Is alright

She has had enough from the beast

When you push a woman to the wall she will face you

Simple

TVTKOKO:
From Pepsi to coke to lacasera and even to taking powerhorse drinks.

She's over 50 yrs of age and I've talked and talked but she just won't stop. If she doesn't take in the morning she'll take at night. Sometimes she take mornings and night too like it's a medication.

I'm really worried about the health implications for her but she seem not to care.

Pls what can i do? Or if there's anything i can give her that neutralizes the effect.

Pls help push this to the audience

She must be taking it because she gets tired easily and need to gather strength which most carbornated drink does especially cola

But at the same time, she is breeding diabetes in her blood stream which will definitely affect her vision and overall health

I have an aunt over 50urs that does same, and she says she gets tired and whenever she takes it, she gets strength to carry on

She was so addicted to it that I went to the family doctor and complained to him to caution her but she keeps saying it won't affect her

Then one day she feel terribly sick and it affected her vision, her vision was blued, her eyes are open but she can't see the exact person that visits her I the hospital

Her sugar levels was triggered, hense the poor vision

She was referred to an optician while she was on adminission and gradually her sight was restored, now she cam see but she has to use glasses to operate on her phone and read things

Her eye drugs are extremely expensive and now she takes diabetes drugs which are expensive too

She still takes coke but like two time a week or there about

I'm your mums case, liase with your doctor and any day she goes to the hospital let the doctor do sugar test on her and if her sugar levels is high, he will use the opportunity to counsel her before it will be too late

You can also take her for early morning FBS test to see the level of sugar in her blood

Then if she is over stressing herself, you guys have to help her reduce her stress, stress makes women get fatigue easily just because they are struggling to keep the family when the men can't really help

Alphafeezay:
If this case is delayed then the Government or Powerful people have their hands in this matter....


Evans and Wadume comes to my mind

The guy is a lone ranger and no no body is partnering with him

eni4real:
What if the side-chick is hiding her true nature too??

Once a woman knows that you came to her for comfort from your harsh home, she gives you what you are seeking for unless she is also naughty

Women are good care givers but most times the devil uses them

If this my brother had come home he would have safe by now ❗❗

Mrcashman87:
I am not new to Nairaland but I have to use this account for my story . I have met her in 2009 she was calm , doesn’t talk much but easily get angry and I also noticed that she wasn’t a good cook but was good in other things ( chores) , it didn’t stopped me from loving her, I didn’t tell any of my people even though I have sisters that are good cook but I decided to take her to catering school to learn how to cook which she went for lessons to practice.

We got married in 2013 , she got pregnant that same month and she became so lazy that I will go to work and come back to found the house very messy with everything’s all over the places , dirty dishes and not dinner yet, and I have to take over cleaning and cooking dinner for us. She claimed she could not longer clean the house , she is tired and need to rest so I have decided to get a house help for her , a small 14 years old, this girl was hard working , very obedient but to my wife she is evil , every single day I comes back from work , this girl is always in tears my wife will beat the hell out of her to the extent of giving her black eye , if I confront her she will start accusing me of sleeping with the girl which is not true, I can never stoop so low to sleep with an underage girl. I have nieces of similar ages what I wouldn’t want another person to do to my nieces and wouldn’t do to another person daughter.

One time I came back from work to found the girl in a pool of blood , that my wife hit her with a wooden chair and she had a deep cut on her head , I got angry with my wife even her reasons didn’t make sense to me , all because she asked the poor girl to warmed up the baby milk and she mistakenly left it for too long , the milk was too hot to give to the crying baby so she got angry at her and hit her . I have told my wife she shouldn’t act like that no matter what and here come again you are sleeping with her and that’s why u are siding with her , we had an heated argument that I have left the house to cool down , I came back after 5 hours and next morning I have send for my brother to take the girl back to her parents , I have given her money 30k to manage that was how the girl left the house.

When our first child was 6 months , we found out she was 2 months pregnant she cried that the baby is too small , she can’t keep the pregnancy , I have begged her to keep that everything will be alright . Our twins were born a girl and boy , having 3 children under 2 wasn’t easy for us and I have to go to work while she staying with the kids all alone and she was depressed , I have decided to bring in a house help 15 years old boy , the same thing repeated again , she was maltreated him the same thing she did with the girl , that boy didn’t even stays with us for 2 months , he run away . I came back to found her crying that the boy has slapped her and run away, I was angry for what he did even swear if I catch him , he will regret the day he was born but the other way I knew that boy did it for self defence .

After the boy left I said no more e help , she will have to manage alone because I couldn’t help her anymore , but my house become dirty that I wouldn’t even want to bring in visitors because of the state of the house , dirty plates can stay in the sink for 3 -4 days , laundry she has a washing machine but she couldn’t bother to do , cooking we eats take away every single night , imagine I comes back home 9pm due to my job and Lagos traffic , at that time I’m even exhausted but I have to started cleaning , one time I got pissed with her that she didn’t wash the eldest daughter school uniform and all her uniform 5 sets of uniform were dirty and she had no clean one to put on in the morning , I have to wash them at 10pm and for her she didn’t see anything wrong with that.

When the twins were 1 years she told me she is tired of staying at home that she wanted to go to work , I have told her to wait at least for them to be a year and 6 months to start school before she can pursue her career but she disagreed with me, so I gave her money for business , she opened a shop . We had an agreement that she should be closing down her shop at 7pm so she could be home with the kids and take care of the house , she was ok and I got a elderly woman as a help , she doesn’t lives with us , she comes at 6 am and closes at 8pm and I also brought 2 of my nieces 18 and 11 to the house. Every since she started working she has never get home on time , sometimes she stays until 10pm , if I talk she get angry and will start raining insults on me , we haven’t make love in a long time , she always complains of being tired , her stomach is paining her etc etc. I have decided to leave her alone and not bother her about sex anymore , and it doesn’t bother too. She acts as im a nobody to her. So it happened in July I came back home to found my niece 11 years old with a deep cut and blood on her eyebrows and my wife did it just because the girl broke a plate so she hit the girl with the broken plate , first all I had to rush her to the hospital and she had 11 stitches and went back home, all I wanted to sit with her and to talk sense with her but she wasn’t even interested all she could do was shouting at me , accusing me of sleeping with both my nieces and the elderly house help , was so angry that I have beaten her badly which I later regretted and apologise to her.

That was the first time I have lay my hand on her something I vow not to do to the woman I love but she pushed me so bad and I have been remorseful but she refuse to forgive me . It’s now 4 months we don’t talk , we don’t sleep in the same room , she just do her own and come home anytime she pleases. I just don’t know what to do anymore , I love my wife and children but her attitudes isn’t right. We have 3 beautiful children 5and twins are 4. Sometime i want to divorce her but when I think about my children I just don’t feel like going ahead with divorce but I’m also a human and can’t stop living like this .

Please my brothers and sisters help me with your advices

I don't intend to insult your wife, she is just being stubborn and wicked, she has no remorse and won't change unless you apply a drastic measure

You have tried so much for her and you can't come and kill yourself

Just get a side chick and be happy with your self but inform that you are married but can't find happiness at home

If along the line you find more happiness with your side chick, settle down with her.

Some women can snuff life out of aan delebrately


I don't care how people will react to my post, but your happiness is my concern

Sultty:
Nina won't like this, but I swear this guy no get taste

He is not after beauty but what she has to offer

Being a doctor that she is, shows that she is talented and intelligent

Hope777:
Always thought securing a future is always about working hard today and reaping the benefits tomorrow, however I am a now convinced that this is only an ideal case and your future is not in your hands like people say. There are external factors that interfere with our future.

I have basically been a hardworking person right from school, working hard to ensure my parents are proud and giving my best in any way I can. Unfortunately it seems like I am not destined for the great future I have always dreamt about.

I noticed early this year that I have a condition that makes me impotent. I can get erections while laying down but lose it while standing/sitting (I wouldn't mind if it will always remain this way but I hear it only gets worse) I visited several specialist doctors and it appears they barely understand this condition and end up saying it is psychological.

I have done my research for a long time now from global writings and forum and discovered I have a venous leak: this is a condition where the veins in the male genital drains blood faster than the inflow of blood through the arteries making normal erection impossible. This may be caused by an accident/damage to the veins.

There have been times where I have had traumas to my genital but I never thought this will be an issue and didn't even notice this condition because I haven't been sexually active.

Now from my research there is no cure to this condition and it only gets worse (meaning even erection when laying down may go eventually).

I have been depressed and sucidal; I feel like there's no point to my life if I can have such a damaging condition. Not being able to have sex isn't the problem, however the pyschological trauma this gives me about my future is the problem. I am still very young!! Will I ever get a wife? The thought of not being normal kills me!

I wonder what I did to deserve this, I am sad, depressed and sucidal. Why does God allow bad things happen to people? I feel I am running mad because I cannot stop thinking about this. I just want to sleep and not wake up, or discover this is a dream if I do.

Pls don't kill yourself for mere psychological issues

Have you being dating girls and having sex

Have you been masturbating regularly

Have you been taking sex enhanced drugs for the game

Have you had you Sperm count checked for morphology, morbidity and the speed of the head sperms

Do you get turned on when you come across a woman you admire

Do you mingle with ladies or you just like to be indoors

Pls answer this then we can move to the next stage of clearing your mind of what your thinking is

Ijawwomaninoyo:
Accept simple corrections, this is not Pidgin English.
The two words mean different things.

I still don't care about it

kobosmart:
olodo are you still talking?

Learn to take to correction, na strong head na e make your life no good

I still don't care about it

AgentNairaland:
Who talk say they should give am second chance

Na one beast wey be him supporter

KingAzubuike:
Temper justice with mercy. Give this young man another chance at life.

Just because those he killed deserves death, abi ❓

Ijawwomaninoyo:
Wander means to roam about aimlessly.
They are two different words entirely.

As if I care, even when we use pigin English to communicate

kobosmart:
I don die oooooooooooooo

WONDER
/ˈwʌndə/
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noun
1.
a feeling of amazement and admiration, caused by something beautiful, remarkable, or unfamiliar.
"he observed the intricacy of the ironwork with the wonder of a child"


WANDER
/ˈwɒndə/
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verb
1.
walk or move in a leisurely or aimless way.
"I wandered through the narrow streets"


olodo

As if I care, even when we use pigin English to communicate