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Hunger is bad, it can push a man to behave silly

Pearl1996:
Nairaland famiy I need help.

Somethings been eating me up. I had sex with my boyfriend some weeks later i started falling so sick I will try to point out all I can remember
*Came down with what I felt was fever was burning hot so hot you just need to come close to feel the heat

*at night I sweat. Not just the usual sweat but one I have to change my clothes two times a nigbt(this happened for like a week)

* I started feeling so cold especially in the morning. Doctor said it was pneumonia + a cough that lasted for three weeks plus.

*and the rashes I ve never have in my whole life spreaded all over my arms and back as well as my breast region.

* I also had serious muscle ache. Serious that my mom had to help me massage it. My neck did hurt too it felt like someone hit me with a blank on my neck

* nodes on my neck, groin, as well as ear.
* I started having blurred vision and sores on my lips like fever blisters

* and then injuries in my mouth, weird ones
* I have oral trush at least thats what I thought them to be. White tongue I have had this before but this onr is different. With slimy white things in my mouth every time

*I also experienced dehydration and dry mouth.
* also had a delayed flow

The symptoms are so much I can't even mention it all. Most of these lasted for about a month +. I still have cold till this day. I shiver most times and its my major fear. And the rashes are still there.

This Is the major problem. The nurse who was handling me said it might be an STD maybe HIV I took plethora of test including HIV after 3 months all came back negative, I was told to wait 6montgs to check for HIv again it was still negativr. During this month I have seen so many doctors, private and government all they do is givr me drugs but I still experience the pneumonia cold( no cough) and occasional mouth sores as well as the rash. My boyfriend now my ex took HIV too it was negative.
Please doctors in the house what can this be. I have read so many threads here on naira land of people who had same experience but some later turned + they might be lying though.

I heard after 6 months and test is still negative then its not it. My question now is. What is wrong with me. I have spent so much on drugs and test. And no doctor is able to say what my problem is. Its making me crazy as I am even scared to shower because of the cold and I can't let people see my body due to rash.

I need help.

It could be a coincidence having sex with your boyfriend and having your health triggered at the same time

Repeat your test after 3 months

Your body could be reacting to his sperm

For the sake that he made good grades, pls @ op post it to waec twitter page, he will be located they have their addresses and contact details

That is it,

She did say she kept them for sex


She needs a man that will take care of her

Women are getting there gradually

I'd the men can stay happily taking turns, no wahala

The most difficult of all you mentioned is taking break from social media

That's what people use when relaxing

He was referred to a hospital in Enugu for a ct scan

So no hospital does that in Abia state as a whole ❓

Too poor

I think he came to steal from the house because I didn't read where the boy confessed thst he was a hire killer and came to kill the man

Beside, higher killers are not looking hungry or weak, they look rugged

Which woman allowed this beast to pregnant her ❓

Taking the child from her mother to kill her was an act of Wickedness

That shows that she was the target and the only reason that accident occurred

Let them go and feast on her corpse

It's only God that can take revenge

giftjoyz:
Someone Help Me Before It Eat Me Up

I firstly lightened my skin around 2015,after many month i stop it after giving me some reaction but i later noticed more skin discolouration,black spot,extremely dry rough skin,eventually i was advised to continue using skin toning

since that years am in dilemma;i must not stop lightening skin or else the reaction will start again,so due to the frequent cream i got stretch mark on my chest,lap,thigh,butt,back and leg

So what make me to look for aid here is one cream that promises stretch-mark-free(bbclear) is actually a total false cos i just notice some mark on my lower butt again

Please dont yab or insult me for lightening my skin it just a mistakes since 2015

PLEASE HELP ME THIS MARK IS EATING ME UP

I can't post the body pictures here cos it too graphical

Pls don't post your face, post those affected areas let's see what your Complaints are

We can only advise based on observations

cassidy1996:
that man na yeye... he might be a deportee, those passports doesn't mean anything to him anymore

That's not true, it's cost him more to get another one than the amount he is supposed to pay her for the service

This thing called love doesn't expire

Even valid till old age, if you don't experience love, you are just not happy

BathingSoap:
Few months ago, i created a thread on front page on how i have lost interest in school and education because of my poor academic performance

https://www.nairaland.com/5253585/help....i-lost-interest-school-pls

Today i just found out that i failed two of my final year papers, thus giving me an extra year, i didn't know at first but as my mom kept pestering me to apply for law school, i had to check the list my school forwarded to Abuja, Garki, for those eligible to apply for law school, and discovered my name was not included.

I was discombobulated because i already made good the due process involved in the application prior to this day, i was advised by colleagues to check my result and lo and behold i failed 2 courses in my second semester yr 5.

I have failed my parents, especially my mom who invested a lot in my schooling, i might not be able to go back to the school for the extra year, i don't even know how to tell my parents, or what to do next, if i had known i would never have attended the uni, rather would have learnt a skill or focused on freelancing but i guess its all too late now.

Stop creating more problems for yourself and your parents

Summon courage and remove shame and go back to school and complete it, it's better than starting a fresh

You are better off learning a skill as a graduate than learning a skill as a drop out

Tell you parents what happened and apologies to them

Na yourself you dey do no be your parents

I love this, if Bayelsans can start dealing with those idiots that terrorise their states, every other thing will take shape

Their boys can still for anything, from secondary school they get innitiated, once they finish secondary school, strait to crime

I don't know who coursed them

setobaba:
Good evening nairalanders

Pls help me, how is the best way to address this or fight back this useless empty head called my Ex.

It's been months we broked up, and after then she went on fucking two of my course mates, thinking they were my friends as retaliation, because we took pictures together. Her excuse for the break up, was she came to my place and met a lady shoe at the door, so she turned back for leave notifying me of the breakup.

We met recently, about two months ago, then she confessed her terrible acts, and started pleading to make things work back, I told her Immediately, what I shared with her was just a thing, not that serious to call it love, that I hold noting against her, and we started getting in tough with each other.

So fast forward to yesterday, I uploaded a picture on whatsapp, showing myself and a lady, only for this my Ex to download the picture and post it on her Instagram page tagging it RIP.

A friend of mine saw it, and immediately call me if am alright, he was shocked and sent me the screenshot.
I don't have her as friend on my Instagram and Facebook because of the kind of nature of being she is on hearing this, I rushed to view her page, and I noticed she has taken it down because a friend have seen it.

I plan to respond to this, as this is not her first time of wishing me death, she once threatened 2 of my Ex via her social handle.

She used to be a very nice person during my tenure in school, so caring and always feeling insucure despite her beauty. but this her anger issue always get me in check till I lose my total interest on her.

Pls I need matured or better still legal advice to address this. I don't want to drag in the mud with a pig.
This is a lady I have her nude on my phone, sent to me herself many months ago, someone said I should reply her post with her nude, others said i shouldn't but handle this legally.

Call her on phone and record a warning message to her

Tell her that next time she type any negative things about you, you will send her nude pictures all over the social media

If she is pained, let her look for another guy, them full every where

sweetnonsense:
@ ifyalways and frozen70g, thanks so much for your contributions... this post is about 4 months old... Accommodation is no longer an issue for me at the moment, I've actually sorted that out... thanks

That's good

Her madness never start that time

The best thing for Ike is to humble himself and enjoy this lady called Mercy

peacettw:
I know someone started a thread on rats which i've done successfully in d past with indocid and good old hunting with sticks and PESTle. Now, i'm having an ongoing battle wit cockroaches. It doesn't matter how clean the home (since this problem has turned me to a neat freak), they still stick around, laying eggs and multiplying. I kinda prefer rats since they re easy on the eyes and big to hunt, but roaches are so damn ugly esp the big ones and can climb ur body when u're sleeping, Yuck!! Pls, anyone, HELP!

There is this powered substance they use to pour on the ground at night before bed time and you the cockroaches stagering in the morning

Alternatively kill any one you see

They have a very flat body, so they can creep in anytime, more especially if your neighbours are not after them just the way you are

Make sure you cover your dustbin so that they won't see food to eat when they come

cheeseballs:
Your advice is very inspiring! Thank you alot....

Thanks dear

Chaclaitmilk:
Her husband is vehemently against having a court marriage with her, They did church marriage and reception but no court,

He keeps refusing and saying he doesn't see the need because he isn't travelling abroad soon and so does not see the importance.

Please what is the usefulness of court marriage for her as a wife and him as the husband? I want to know how to advise her in convincing the husband.

For certain documents processing and official documents, only Court registry marriage is acceptable

At work and even as prove of marriage

Your inlaw doesn't understand the real meaning of it, he felt all he has will be given to your sister incase of any problems

But he is not looking at registration of his marriage which is the o my recognised prove of marriage for official purposes

It may be useful now or in the future

Her husband is just being in secured

Getting accommodation any where is not the issue because you can get accommodation and it will be far from your business and the whole money will go into transportation

What kind of work do you intend doing her in lagos

Look for any relatives who can keep you for a while and you save to get accommodation, even if its one room

Remember, feeding is more difficult too

Fantachapman:
Hello nairalanders,

Ever since our guardians left us, I have been the one taking care of my younger siblings, i was able to set my younger brother in business but our last born is a girl and she has been out of school for too long. She has WAEC, I don't have money to train her through university so if you can advice on any program she can do for one year, so she can get a tertiary qualification I would be grateful. It is not good as she is at home and not doing anything. Men are coming for her hand but she says she wants to get at least one tertiary qualification first.

Please what can someone study that will take one year? Thanks as you answer.

For me, I will suggest she learns hair making

Or even tailoring, which ever she chooses because these are the things she can still do aside even If she is in a tertiary institution

Let her learn one hand work it's going to be useful to her for life

thedio:
I have a four year old son who I cherish so much but their is one bully boy living opposite to my house,the boy is 5yrs old.He always come to my house because I bought bicycle,ball and other toys for my son.
I have no qualm about accommodating this bully boy afterall his presence get my son adrenalin flowing.he always try to show the bully boy somethings especially his riding skill.
The problem is that he can't stay for 30min without fighting and beating my son.The poor boy will cry and report him to me,i will say sorry, call them together and ask them not to fight again.The case keep repeating itself whenever I'm around, one day I got infuriated and told my son to fight him,if he dare beat him again.
This is very wrong,i know,besides my son does not have the strength to fight him but I can't allow this intimidation to continue.should I stop him from coming to my house,mind you his dad is like a friend to me or I should keep telling my boy sorry. The fact is I hate him beating my son.

Sit that bully down and ask him why is he always fighting your son, ask him in the presence of your son

If his reasons are nothing meaningful to you, tell him that when next he beats your son, you will stop him from playing with your son

And be serious about it

You can't be compromising with your son's happiness, if he gets injured in the process, it will indelible in him and the other boy would be free of any harm

Forget about your relationship with his dad, you guys will always stay together if you have common goals

Zainab20198:
I recently found out my husband of 5 years has been cheating on me , he accidentally left his Facebook account open on my laptop and I read everything. He told this girl he loves her and want to spend the rest of his life with her, I confronted him and his side of things is I have been pushing him away to care for our very high needs 2 years old triplets sons and my sons needs constant attention , it’s very tiring working , caring for the kids and keeping the house clean with no house help. I know I have my faults , and all my energy goes into the kids and trying to keep the households running , so there isn’t much left at the end of day. I’m always tired and once the kids are sleeping I’m far to tired to do anything ... like sex. He knows all this yet I’m at fault. I feel heart broken , I try to talk to him and he just blames me , even if I’m in wrong , how is cheating justified by what I have done ? I don’t know what to do ?

Relax my dear, men will always have reasons to cheat

Only the descent ones will want to respect themselves

You are busy with your twins and boys gives more problems at home than girls

Just try and reserve little energy for him when they demand

Sex is like food to men, that is where nature death with them

He can't leave you for another woman but he can tell another woman that he is tired of your marriage with him, do you know why ❓

Just to keep her and keep using her and she too will be expecting him to marry her, until she realises that he is not breaking up with you then she pulls out

Don't just get borethed about his flirt, that's men for you

Vyolet:
There's this question i have been meaning to ask, just to sample the opinion of a few people, mostly men.

Men, how do you feel when your wife tells you that another man hits on her at her work place or at a random place like parties, eatery, mall or just anywhere she visits.

As we know that Marriage is a sacred one filled with lots of compromises, and due to that fact, each party just get extra careful of their actions or utterances as you just may never know what will hurt your partner.

Every woman must be admired, single or married

The ability to handle men is what makes her the complete woman that she is

Just do your best and take care of her she too will understand that you are trying in your own capacity

But not doing anything @ all is where your fear will come to reality

Plead:


Personally I’ve never fancied the idea. Myself and my brothers live with this ideology even in marriage and we ain’t sad about that.


Now ...general question



Does it make sense to give a working class woman monthly upkeep or whatever that stuff is called ? Upkeep should only come into the equation if your partner is a housewife or so....and doesn’t work



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Wether she is working or not, making more money than you or not, women likes money just the way you guys likes sex

Give a woman money, her best will come out, give a man sex, he will humble himself for a woman

Kelvin30286063:
My wife and I got married almost a year ago. Last November. Before that we dated for about 6 years before we got married and we were always very happy. We do everything together and everything was just perfect.
Now after our marriage, the first 5 months was blissful until she started expecting pregnancy. At first she was not worried, neither was I.

I have actually never been worried cuz I know it's definitely early and we have all the time in the world (she's only 25)
Now she's going into a state of depression. Every month she will be so expectant that she will start looking out for all pregnancy symptoms as if her life depends on it. Then once she sees her menstrual cycle, she comes very depressed and sad.
I hate to see her sad. Infact it gives me so much pain when I see her sitting alone looking so moody and unhappy and I have tried so many times to speak to her, convince her that she needs to be patient. Though she always lighten up whenever I do but that happiness is only short lived cuz as soon as she see her MP again, the sad face comes bad.

On the pregnancy front, we've done some tests are different hospitals and they told us that we are both medically okay. The doctors advice we take things slow and not worry about it but she's not listening to any of that.
The most annoying part is nobody is pressuring her. My parents are very understanding people and they have not even mentioned it at all since we got married. So what the heck is wrong with her!
I understand that over the years, she must have noticed my obsession with babies and she's really eager to make me happy but at this point, I'm ready to give that up as long as she is happy.

She just saw her menstrual cycle today, she's been moody all day and that mood is gradually killing me.
I think I'll just stay away from her for some months so I can get my woman back. At least she will be happy if she's not expecting any positive result at the end of the month.

What do you guys think I can do to make her take her mind off this pregnancy ish?

Every woman desires to be a mother, but it's not something you can get by force by force

The woman body must be at its optimum level for pregnancy to occur

Her state of mind must be OK for pregnancy to occur

Her hormones must be stable for pregnancy to occur

But the way she is taking it, she is already distorting her body program

Her mind and brain are playing tricks on her because she is nursing fear

Just let her know that, she is pushing you out of your way by her behaviour anything her PM comes

I know you have calmed her down so many times, invite her mum to talk to her or she can be tricked home to visit her mum

She is in the best position to ca her down since she is not getting your message

Keep loving her and you guys can be on one day off one day on, it's another way of trying since you are not bent on picking any preferred gender

cheeseballs:
Hello guys! I need your advice on this issue that has been giving me sleepless night for more than a year now. Am a youth below 25yrs.
2016 I dropped out of the polytechnic because I never knew why I was there in the first place. All my life,I follow strict orders from my parents about what I do and how I live my life. The saying has always been "you are the first son,so u must become an engineer". I remember vividly when I wanted to pass over into ss1,I told my father I was going for art. He frowned totally at it and took me to a lecture for counseling. I gave them my reason that "I have always tried my best at maths and am never good at it",even my teachers knows I was very good at Art related subjects. I always top the class in drawings that my work once made it into the art studio. But the lecturer told me that I can still meet up in the future,that am lazy and it's not hard. So I later wrote jamb and barely made it. But my parents worked my way into part-time study auchi poly. Man.... It wasn't funny at all. Everything was purely mathematics. And my parents wasn't the rich type who can afford to always send me money for blocking. I tried all my best,read all night,went for extra tutoring. But I can't still understand simple theories. My GP dropped so bad that I just gave up in 2016. When I dropped out,I was just roaming the street from bet9ta to a random barber shop to gist. Everyone saw me as worthless even my family members. My father made arrangements for me to go and learn mechanic,but after two weeks I stopped. I just knew that wasn't for me. He then asked me to go back to school,I told him that I can't because I have gone too far into science and even if I have to go back to school,I will have to start all over again. Even at that, iam very lost in life because I threw all my drive for art in the thrash many years ago to pursue science. Am just like in the middle of the dessert. 2017 I told him I wanted to do business,with the mind set that I might soon be independent and maybe discover myself/passion then. They didn't support it with their heart at all. I went to learn how to repair mobile phone,after learning my father asked me to go and learn all over again for he is not satisfied. I got angry and left home from a friend's advice to go and work at bet9ja at another state. After two months,I came back home with about 100k and I sent it to that friend of mine who advised me to go and work at bet9ja cos he stays at Lagos and he said he can send me phone accessories at wholesale price so that I can start phone business at small scale. But scammed me. My family judged me for more than a month,cos I was always at home helpless and indoors with regret. So I decided to use the little I had to start a road side repair shop close to my street,but it wasn't paying off after about three months. I had the inspiration to start a YouTube channel,but I never had a camera neither did I know what the channel would be about.... I just had three options about what the channel would be about. Fitness (because am huge and a little bit muscular,comedy(because people always say am funny),short films (because have got alot of stories to tell). So December 2018,i started doing odd jobs. Which my parents didn't support, instead they keep pressuring me to get back to school while I keep telling them I want to do business and need capital to start. 2019 two of my junior sisters got into the university. January 2019 i got a job at a company that pays me less than 20k. The job wasn't easy at all. I always cry when am alone and thinking about where I am in life. After five months,I saved about 95k. Used 55k to apply for Keke for hired purchase at a company,but they said the one left has been driven for two weeks,and I said I would manage it. After a week I noticed it had fault and decided to return it so that the company can give me another one,but my father opposed it that I should return it and ask for a refund,that he and my mother will raise money and borrow money from his relative to buy me a Keke. My parents made sure they borrowed all the refunded money from me and never payed back to me. I was just stranded again for about a month before the Keke was bought. My father's relative gave us the money,but to be paid back with interest. To my surprise my parents said I will also pay them every week,with all sorts of rules that follows it,like telling me "when to leave,when to come back, where to go and where not to go". No matter what I pass through in a week would not stop them from collecting that week's money,rather it would be added to the next. Even when I had an accident due to I wasn't perfect at driving. They never told me sorry,nor asked if I was injured. I spent alot of money putting the Keke into order,and didn't go-to work for about three days,and they still collected that week's money. Depression has eaten so deep into my life. I remember 2017 when I attempted suicide,but woke up at an hospital. All I pray to God now is that I don't want to live long but he should grant me the power to leave a great mark on Earth. Now my father needs 150k to get back a bus he was driving on hired purchase from a company he's driving it for so that it can become his,he's now looking helpless and looking for who to borrow him. The thing is that I have about 100k I have saved and plan on using to buy a camera so that I can buy a camera for me to start YouTube,for I have it deep in my heart and am always telling my friends how I will soon start a YouTube channel. So should I give up this dream and give the money to my father or should I buy the camera and gradually save to give to him cos he has a deadline of December? Please guys I need your advice.
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In as much as I love children to respect their parents, your parents derailed you from your future plans and since then, you have lost balance and you are making efforts to gain yourself

Am glad you have developed the habit of savings

Pls forget about your dad's predicament, face your own predicament

Sort yourself because even if you are down, no body will raise you up except God

You have become a laughing stock in your family just because you lost your balance

Don't look at their direction, get your direction by yourself and use your savings to start something before you will be tagged tgat you brought mis fortune to others because you are the first born

Very soon, your time will expire in that house, that's when this advice would have been useful

edoairways:
Really! .

Yes, it's your guardian angel voice, it's his duty to watch over you

Zico5:
Various visa categories just to milk the masses dry again. We live in a country where masses are at the mercy of government we voted to change our lives. They have introduced different programs which at the end of the day did not have any meaningful effect. I wonder what our sins are to deserve this kind of government.

The visa here is referred to foreigners not Nigerians

You don't need a Nigeria visa in your Nigeria passport

That was too harsh from zlatan, he has always been a tout

Let him continue his stupidity