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contumely2:
I am a man in late 20's.
I grew up in lack. I suffered so much growing up. In fact, at a point the court had to eject us and threw our properties on the streets for inability to pay rent.

School fees were paid in instalments. Not like the fees were much even. But the funds were never there.


God has blessed me reasonably in the past few years. I made a lot of sacrifices too, denying myself pleasure, delaying gratification etc.

Lately, I noticed that I have been extravagant. Some of the extravagance is masked as charity to people.

I hardly say no requests and I empathise and pity people a lot.

If I lend money to 10 persons, only 3 will pay back.

I also buy some things on impulse; without planning. I regret some of these purchases later.

HOW DO I STAY motivated so as to save more to invest because the future is uncertain. And money is not always there?

I also understand that those we help may abandon us in time of need.

I don't want to learn the hard way.

Kindly share your experiences with grace to grass; or with people you helped in times of plenty.

Or your regrets with finances especially early in life.

Thanks!

Thank God you are coming out of lack you have been through, but it will be a bad thing if you take yourself back to it

Law of survival is you first

As you have sympathy on people, bear in mind that you will be the one to bear yours when it comes

Plan by saving and acquiring things once the opportunity comes

Be discipline with money and spending

Don't be borrowing any how, when you can use part of it to aquire plot of land or even half plot and start erecting a structure there

Once you start this, you will have a place the money should be going, that's what money is really meant for

Don't allow people with lack of vision to be your friends, they lack future prospects

Even for 1kobo, I won't buy or eat it

kobosmart:
No wonder you can't spell wonder

It can be spelt in any form just the way we have Favor and favour

kobosmart:
still no picture of baby
Them don use am do jazz

Just the same way you used you own do jazz, no wander you don't have any

CANDYDADDY:
Davido sleeping or staying by your side doesn't mean the fvcker will not make another babymama in few months to come,you can only enjoy your very cheap popularity till you become isolated and shunned like his other babymama

Who released you without giving you your drugs ❓

Be it medical or diabolical, something went wrong some where

But don't be surprise he drop a relationship and pick another even when he knows someone some where was affected

"What the fowl will not eat, it uses his leg to scatter it"

atarapa:
oga did my at abj why am still in lag.

He played you, go and make your research

Teaorcoffee:
My friend's Passport was stolen last week.. Is there a way it can be retrieved??

It can be retrieved in any passport office of your choice, get a copy of the data page, swear an affidavits and make police report with it and go for application of lost passport

atarapa:
The only way is for you to go to immigration office in Abuja by airport road. But before going to abj, kindly go to the nearest immigration office for enquiry.

It can be retrieved in any passport office of your choice, get a copy of the data page, swear an affidavits and make police report with it and go for application of lost passport

Marriage comes with great care and affection
Love and happiness
Smiles and happiness
Peace of mind

Once you are not getting these and you are seeing the negative signs, just walk out alive

HacheNoire:
Rubbish!

Two years of your life wasted

Husband you could have used for money rituals or poisoned so you inherit all his wealth.


This generation are too dull and Godly.

I will look forward to seeing you hooking up to a lady that will do to you what you just suggested to her

This is exactly how you deceived your stupid fellowers and they died as a sacrifice for you and your stupidity

Now you have officially announced how you sacrifice your mum for the same thing

It's time for you to sacrifice yourself

The brain doesn't want to know if you are broken or not

The dick has no business with your financial status, to rise or go flaccid

Just talk to yourself and discipline your mind

That's all

slimmy24:
Just wondering what you guys think of babes living in the same house with their boyfys?

Is it ok?? orrrrrrrrrr,

The only big deal is that she is the one Loosing

You did not state your age or if you have any health challenges

Anyway, relax and fonit the way it comes, once you start taking enhancing drugs, you will have to rely on it for life

If your girl friend is a sex machine, look for your match

If you are the one the one that is the machine, take it slow, no one gets award for lasting longer

Badboibipo:
Why is it that Nigerian girls are so desperate for relationships? If you open twitter or Facebook it's always about them looking for men every damm day. Boys are always fuckingggg them and yet they still want more? Why are Nigerian girls so useless? I see them finish I swear....very cheap losers

Their hormones are at its pick, just the way you guys are desperate to have them

Ariza:
Okay, I sympathize!

Good of you

Blacky001:
Hello house
Plz I need ur opinion on dis, av been dating dis guy for over two years now bt few months ago he proposed to me bt I find out he is still seeing another lady........pls Wat shld I do am confused

Don't be confused, if you have accepted his proposal, focus on how to plan the marriage

Leave him let him have his way now

When he starts buying baby items and pampers

He will be indoors to help you baby sit and reduce keeping women out side which helps him to save money

merit1988:
I got married as a young virgin...probably didnt understand what love was all about then....I've never really felt love or being loved in my marriage..coupled with some other marriage issues..I wear the shoes and I know where it hurts...all I need is advices on how to build my love life and not yabs pls...it's very hurtful

You have not even explain what you want us to advise you on

skultrick:
I hear alot about deeper life girls, how they can be very religious and all that. So, I've seen one am ready to go any length to be with her. And I want to ask if anyone here has been in a relationship with a Deeper Life girl, and how did it go?

It shouldn't be a problem, just abstinence

Ariza:
I will honour you with a reponse. The deal is the woman missed the husband because of the responsibilities he shouldered while he was alive. Is that what the fate of a man should be? just a burden bearer? Why can't be missed for other reasons aside what he offers?

What woman watches her own son drop out of school and then blame it on the death of her husband? Whatever happens to changing his school if the one he attends is too expensive for her. If that woman was financially independent when her husband was alive, things wouldn't have been so bad for her.

You won't understand, let's sympathise with her over his demise

Be it on financial responsibility or emotional, the lost of a partner is painful

SUPOL:
Gentle man, konji for kee u inside that BB House

Self discipline is the secret and he respects his wife and marriage

Ariza:
I don't know why, but my pity for her dropped by 50% when I got to 'my landlord gave us quit notice' ' your son is out of school' part. Woman what have you been doing with your life when your husband was alive? Probably a housewife!. So a woman can't take care of a child herself?



That said, please never belittle the opinion or words of your boyfriend's or fiancé's mother. They matter a lot, make peace with them and be sure you are accepted before you say YES. A woman can influence a Nation against or in support of you. Be wise!

What do you mean by what has she been doing ❓

Some thing the both of them are doing is now left for her, what do you expect, even if she is working

From your statement, it shows that you have not gotten any experience

Jayslicky:


While she is there bitter, wasting her energy and directing her frustration on the poor innocent wedding dress, her ex-husband is chilling and flexing with his new woman.

Women are empty without marriage.

Is that what your mother told you ❓

HacheNoire:
A son amd daughter?

What's the difference?

Is one human while the others are animals?

You see where you got it wrong

He celebrated his two daughters equally and gives them the attention they desire from him.

Even in a married home, having a different sex of child gives greater joy be it boy or girl

He has never discriminated the genders of his children

But am telling you that having another child who is a male child gives him greater joy

If you understands it differently then that's your own opinion

Rekhina:
Davido better name him .....CHINEDU


I love dat name

Just open your heart to an ibo and love can click just because you love that name and you will have to name your child that beautiful name with beautiful meaning

HacheNoire:
Why is he so happy as if he just birthing a kid for the first time.


This should be a norm to him already

You should understand that he already had two daughters, so having a son is a greater joy for him

BOOOMNAIJA:
Small boy dey worry this one...ur olosho wife born pikin, next thing na to immediately get drunk...when a kid controls too much wealth, this is the kind of stupidity he effortlessly displays.

Say whatever you want to say, he is miles ahead of you

OgogoroFreak:
He will be moving to the next chick now... He's done with Chioma.

Woman wey don born no dey sweet again.

Hey

Stop it naw, is that what your mother told you ❓

obainojazz:


The only safe way is to not go at all..

Don't be surprise that with Jamb 160 cut off mark, you can study medicine and surgery there

What's the essence of this picture now ❓