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A rail way line from lagos to onitsha would have been the best

Government will make fortune during festival time and every other times

Charleys:
I have this aunt who used to flog me, give me all sorts of punishment when I was a child.

Most of my childhood worst childhood memories are tied to her.
But she thought me lots of things, like self discipline, patience etc.

I was always with her when my mum was working.

Fast forward to now....
She has two kids (boy & a girl) very stubborn.

She doesn't want me to do the same thing she used to do to me. Is it fair at all.

Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing...

If I was the one hell would have broken loose that day but while I was talking to them I noticed she was protecting them. I kept quiet.

Secondly when I tell them to do something they do not do it, that will be the right time to flog them.. but my aunty boldly told me not to touch her children.

I believe deep inside me I'm trying to pay her for the evil she use to do to me but I'm not aware of it.

Or am I being too harsh on them... Her kids.
Why doesn't she want me to also flog her children. My mum never had problem with her if I did something wrong. So why is she having problems with me now that her kids are doing things wrong.

I believe my generation have been cheated, children dont learn anymore in school. in fact she secretly told her children not to greet me. (This can never happen if I did this to her).

What should be my next move now. Because I believe there's a cold war going on in the house.

Note we stay at family house when we travel back to the village.

Note it's out of disrespect that makes me think this way.

To me the truth is that, you want to retaliate not disciplining her children

Just leave those kids before you create family enemity with her

If you can't join her to pamper her kids then don't discipline them

The kids will start running away fro you soon and your visit will no longer be needed

LONGPREEK:
sorry, please can u enlighten me on the implication of that. i am not too vast with all these traditional stuff

Well am not too grounded in it, just that no one places a coffin in a water grave

Even places like Bayelsa where you get water just 2fits, they place blocks in the grave, lay planks on it and place the coffin on the blocks then concrete the slab, in this case, the wet sands they got out doesn't go back because they don't want it to get wet.

On top of heavy school fees, stressful studies and lack of job after the educational drill, then parents won't witness their wards graduation,
Who gave the school such advice ❓

Ladiesdoctor:
From every indication, the water wasn't drained

It's not done ask your elders, no one does such
How could you be there and a coffin is lowered in a grave full of water at the base ❓

rheether:
Give him some respect. Why bury him in a flooded grave?

I guess they packed the water away because it's not done

dahgifted:
So what ll happen to the danfos! drivers if you eventually curb them all?

Most of them will be in the route that BRT doesn't ply and also inner roads in streets

He doesn't want to reck his family but he was recking someone's daughter

Castrate him, simple

viviangist:


Since Buhari enter Office Am spending 10K on Nepa Bills Instead of my Normal 5k , They no change my Prepaid Box ooooo

I Guess something is Fishy here , My Neighbor dey always remind me to recharge my Box On time ... I Wonder why she get so much interest on that these days.

Her son is a graduate of Electrical Engr , and he sabi illegal connections very well .

Abeg Nairalanders wetin i go do , am planning to remove my fuse this night and check her window to know if the light is showing ...

Please i need more suggestions ....

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Call a nepa guy to look into your meter if there is any looping that's if it analog then if its prepared get a nepa official to check if there is any tamparing from any where and once you detect anything of sort, report to nepa office and they will charge them for illegality

This guy is brilliant, congratulations

They should have tired his balls and drag him in the school field

In the real sense, that's how it should be

That is it, we don't celebrate people until they die as a hero

But truth be told, he took risk

eternityk:
I hope its not ipob carrying revenge on the blessed children of oduduwa

Stop it naw ❗❗❗

What concerns ipobs with petrol tanker

NigeriaIsDoomed:
I only pity the miserable and lazy amajirins in the North cuz in the South we will hustle, travel out and then money home to support our family members back home.
Una go wise las las

I don't have pity for them, they are already used to suffering caused by their so called brother in power

In fact, they adjust easily to hash economy than you and I because they have no plans

Love892:
Good day nairalanders. This story is not about me but a friend of mine who is a guy.

There is this guy who I know who is not financially buoyant but instead of him to look for money he keeps sleeping around. I will be brief with this story.

The man in question has 4 children who he doesnt take care of. The first day I saw them, I was at his place he does electrical works for me. He stepped out to buy something. When the kids came, they asked me for money. I didn't know them and they looked so dirty and you know usual Nigerian story, dont give beggars money anyhow. So I told them I had no idea who they were looking for. When he came back, I told him . He denied knowing any child talkless of children coming to his house. We even joked about parents who turn their kids to beggars and all.

The second time I went to look for him to do a job for me, I saw the children again and they still begged me for money. Then I was curious why it's only that particular house they come and ask for money. So I asked then who they were looking for, and they told me their dad. I was indeed confused and had to ask the neighbours around who the kids are. Imagine kids of 3 yrs, 5 years 7 years and 15 years. When he came I told him his kids came and he hissed.

Now anytime I see his kids, I dont tell him because the last time he shouted at me, that he has heard.

Due to the fact i gave them money when i found out they were his kids, they ask me anytime they see me but unfortunately I stopped. I cant help someone who hates his kids. The few times they came when he was around he drove them away. Whenever I am there, he always drives them saying they are dirty.

First question how do I advise him? He always gets angry when I talk about the kids. He says he cant take care of them because he doesnt want to have anything doing with the mother of the kids. Even if he doesnt have atleast try. If it were only one child, I will say it was a mistake. But you gave birth to the second, third and fourth from same woman. It can't be a mistake.


One day I was talking to one of his numerous girlfriends and she told me that a man doesnt need to take care of the kids because they bear his name. Sorry but I hate poverty mentality. She said it's the work of the mother. I pray she has kids for him so he rejects them in Jesus name.

Then lastly I dont get him. He doesnt give any of his girlfriends money but last time I saw 4 of them fighting for him and he drove 3 out of the 4. Later I heard him begging them and now they are back.

If he had money I will understand. He is in his 40s. I hate people that neglect children and now everything about his presence irritates me because I treat women well. Please how do I advice him and what do the girls see in him? He is in his forties , I am 25 dont want him to take it personal. I want him to be serious with his life.


I might create a separate thread to explain his womanising attitude due to ambiguity.

NB: He goes for EVERY church program.

Just leave him alone, he will never listen to any advice from you

He may be keeping those women because he must have been a good man on the bed and women can keep such men

He is complacent with his way of life and nothing can change him unless he finds himself in a life changing situation, a sort of trauma

As for his reward for being a nuisance it's waiting for him at old age

Nwodosis:
Please also appreciate the guy(s) that has been taking your bills for this long.

Any you. Think she was not offering service for the bill you claimed the guys are paying

donstan18:
The truth remains that no one knows tomorrow.

No matter the kind of situation you find yourself, whether good or bad, just enjoy the moment.

That's wrong you did rather say thank God for everything

OK, since it's related to psychiatric issue, this time around he will remove his balls

Na this toad be gang leader ❓

Kavod:
Make i give you a possible scenerio... You know all this naija bitcoin mining scammers? Them don run the guy street na him use e hand purchase that bitcoin because the luno when i know secure finish. He wants to tripple his money in few hours. GREED

Lol serves him right

Kavod:
Firstly your bank would never return that money and secondly you are not been truthful....

The guy is not really being truthful, all the questions asked he couldn't defend any, that means he is aware of it or he innitiated it

DenreleDave:
As in I don dey on this girl matter since last year oo, I really like am much if I must Confess.
One thing happened yesterday and it Pained me so so so much. One of my neighbor in hostel fell sick early in the day and in the evening after church weekly meeting, I got to meet this babe as she was going back to her hostel and she was on a call and I heard a name that sounds like one of my sick neighbors roommate. She was asking the guy about the sick one (the sick one is her frnd like she claims). She was asking the clinic they took him too and so on, I could sense that she was kinda worried.

Later that night, she still called me again to go find out about the sick guy bcox he is my next neighbor. She still called the roommate to my sick neighbor again asking about his whereabouts and so on.

So later later sha, we dey chat for Facebook. So I was like why are you so worried Cox I cud sense dt she is kinda tensed.

She said
"the guy took care of her when she was sick, he was the one doing the stress for her when she went to clinic and now he is sick and she is stuck here and doesn't know which hospital they took him too"

Now here is my problem;
Most times when things are not really fine with this babe, I used to sense it or have dt kinda feelings dt sumtin is wrong with her. We stay in different hostel so we chat and call. When she was sick, she didn't tell me, I even told her that I av this feelings that she is not feeling fine but she lied and said she is fine. It was her younger sister dt later told me that she was admitted in a clinic. Imagine oo, I even offered to go with her whenever she is going for her injection and she was like no, she can take care of herself.
I couldn't force her but I never knew it was bcox of this guy she was doing this.

Guys, I'm not angry that she cared for a guy that cared for her but lying to me when she wasn't fine annoys me. I feel helpless and angry.

Maybe he who get more bargaining power gets the babe. Most times I av always wanted to help her but she always insist No, she doesn't wana stress me, I'm just a hustling student.

Guys, do u think I shud just end this with her and go my way.. I can't keep enduring this

Leave girls their matter no dey finish, face your study and graduate with good grades, then you will meet the committed ones

This is too dirty for rag day

LearnITsmash:
Daddy's money is talking, I wonder the kind of preeeks she is climbing these days to make the extra cash

She doesn't have to do that, her effort is in her struggling couple with her father's back up is enough to feed her future generations

NwaNimo1:
Make dem freeze am na?

Or make stew and freeze am?

Or 'cann' it for export to another market.

Or chop am!

Please let it not go to waste.

Sunday Rice.......R.I.P!

All what you mentioned are not rocket science

Toks2008:
Lol! See another mistake you keep making...so in your mind I'm single.

The blogger made no sense at all and all I read was an unfounded crinkum crankum.

Whatever, we are all in the same cooky jar

Toks2008:
And you think you are making sense..smh!

People judge other people's lives recklessly...

Know the facts before you judge.

Until you are married, read from now till tomorrow, you can't get the point

I love this post, am glad women have realised that they are responsible for their own happiness

Don't expect any man to guarantee you of your happiness

Love your home and work hard to keep your home going

As for the men, keep eating different kind of soups, at a time you will loose appetite of soup that's when old age will take a toll on them

Meanwhile, the woman would have moved on to get a man that will appreciate her

That's how it works, if you leave her for another woman, she will get another man that will treasure her, by the time you come back to her, her heart already belongs to another man

You will be left with no option than to endure

But for how long ❓

Hedonisco:
You're mad. You should have continued folding your arms and waiting for divine intervention to fix the roads. Lagos has so badly deteriorated under your watch that it is unbelievable.

He doesn't he to be insulted, for whatever

Zhuhilat:
How Do I Deal With This Level Of Disrespect From My Husband

Dear all

I and my husband are just 2years in marriage.

Every time we have issues concerning anything, he is always telling me to pack my things and leave his house or he will say things like you are off no importance to me and you bring me no value and stuff and stuff. But after a while he will apologize and say he doesn’t mean it.

Last month, what caused our fight was because my mum sent some food stuffs to us because she traveled and got them cheaply. He was angry because he felt that was disrespectful. And the argument degenerated to him telling me to leave his house,

i got tired, called his bluff and left the house but everyone advised me to go back and make it work., well except my dad. Mind you, this was the 5th time.

On my return, we talked about it(like we always do) and i thought it was genuine, and i said i was going to give it one more try.

Today, we had an argument because of baby food. I told hime to buy on his way back. I couldn’t go out because the whole road was terribly flooded .

But he didn't buy it, and that lead to an argument. And the next thing he told me was to fuc.k off and leave. Or he is leaving. As a matter of fact, he just left the house now 12:00am.

I am actually tired of it all. and right now, i don't think i have any love left for him or this marriage.
I think he is cheating on me and for some reason i am beginning to look outside and crave attention, love and respect from someone else.

I don't want my child to grow up seeing me treated like this but most importantly , i don't want her to think it is okay to accept being disrespected and under valued like this.

Married people is this one of the challenges in marriage or what?

Why cant we have an argument that doesn’t lead to leave my house, i dont need you, you bring me no value and all

Also we are very very comfortable, i work and he works too.

Emotionally, i am done.

You have to be strong, he wasn't really prepared for his marriage and the challenges are driving him nuts

Since you are working, assist him in getting some stuff at home

If he says you should leave his house, tell him that the door is open for him

When he goes out forget about where he goes, he went out to cool off and which ever methods he uses in doing so is his business not your

When he comes back, serve him food and if he refuses it keep it or microwave it for your next meal

He can never pack your things out with your baby, I swear he can't, the kind of curse that will follow him, will lead him to depression

That's how they behave when they are having complex issues with them selves

With time, he will advise himself, don't beg him ohhh, you deserve better

Just a kid he us Loosing balance, by the time they are up to 3,he will disappear from home or what ❓

Just be focused and look after your child, men these days are bent on pouring their anger on women

Nonsense

My dear, its a pity you find yourself in this situation

Pls don't hide your feelings and don't insult him

Whatever cones to your mind at any given time do it and stand to defend it

That thing he is doing is his exact true colour but he is now adding maltreatment to it

As for his friend, don't give him a welcome smile, put it straight to his face that he is inconveniencing your home and marriage

Stop going errand for his friend especially the serving of food but make sure you don't complain that he mis behave in your pot

As for your husband, you can't leave the home for him, stand your ground, do what you can and leave the rest

If he insults you before his friend, tell him that he is diagracing his family before strangers, which ever way he understands it is not your business and make sure you say it to his hearing and his friend hearing

Whatever they like let them discuss about you, don't let it bulge you, you can't come and kill yourself for them

Just focus on your home in as much as he is the one providing for the family feeding, no wahala

Don't ever get disturbed or bothered about his nasty behaviour, be strong that's why you are a woman

If you can endure Labour pains then you can endure anything on earth

Be happy let them see that you are responsible for your happiness