Afodot0022:
Good day naira landers and happy holiday. I am writing this base on the challenge am having in my marriage. Some of you might have known little about the issue i had previously cos i brought it to the forum.

It happened that my wife was having emotional affairs with another man which i knew through her chat.

Though family and pastor were involved and have tried everything to resolve the issue between us. I have decided to forgive and forget and also give her a second chance even though it was a difficult situation for me, I decided to let go cos of my two daughters and don't want them to share from a broken home.

Now the issue am still having is that my wife has promise to change and be a better person and also promise to cut any emotional tile with the man. But I wasn't confident with that, so i told her to block this guy on all social media and also delete his number so there wont be any communication between them cos i sense if they both keep in touch, they might go back to what they were doing before. She got angry when i told her this and she said she can't block the guy cos they have been friends for many years even before she got married to me.

She started dating the guy last year under my roof and her reason was that i pushed her to do such act cos i wasn't giving her enough attention and love which is totally a lie.

So house, pls just let me know if i did wrong by telling her to block the guy or i over did it. I just felt blocking him will be best for us cos i noticed my wife is not fully detached from this guy emotionally.

Pls if you are in my shoes, what will you do house. If you want to get more insight about what transpired, you can go to my details nairaland.

Pls mod, help me by doing the needful.

John Doe " If you forgive a woman for doing what she knows she is not suppose to be forgiven for, she will repeat it and still blame you for forgiving her".

She sees you as a weak man, hence she doesn't want to delete the number, after all you forgave her. She'll repeat her chat with him, it is just a matter of time. And nothing you'll do about it. Because you are a weak man.

That marriage would have ended a long time ago, at least you would have sent her to her parents.

daboy18:
My 16 years old sister left the house since Christmas eve only to be returned yesterday evening at 11pm , my dad was very angry he promised to deal with her in a way she will never forget throughout her life , my mum said he shouldn't or else they will be war.

When the girl returned my dad asks where she was and she was busy chewing gums and turning her eyes like she was having epepilsy seizure my mum was shouting at him to leave her alone but my dad hit her omg the slapped sound it still haunting me.

It was my first time seeing my dad being a man of the house that he is supposed to be long time ago and I was so proud of him but that didn't last long when my mum slapped my dad back and they started fighting omg .

She beat him up my dad is not strong cus of diabetes she locked him outside saying if I dare to open the door for him she will locked me out too.

I quietly went inside my room crying and I left the house early morning to go and look for my dad he is actually at his elder brother place he says he will not return back.

I feel sorry for him and I have sworn to never marry a woman like my mum she doesn't deserve the titled wife or mother and as for my sister she is cursed for disrespecting dad and the time she will realize her mistakes it will be too late for her.

I wish my dad a long life so I will over pamper him when I become rich, I am only 20 and one day I will make him proud.

I wanted to ignore your story, but reading some of the comments warranted me to say something.
It seems to me that you are a wise 20rs old boy.

First thing, don't get involve in your parents quarrels and don't take sides, the only thing you can to is to separate them if they become physical with each other.

Your father is still in the marriage. If he want to divorce your mother he would have done it a long time ago. So, he remains in the marriage because he benefits if not much at least a little from the union.

You mother is a bad woman, thank God you know. Whenever you become independent and live on your own. Don't let your mum visit your girlfriend or wife, she will ruin the marriage.

Your mother may be cheating on your father as well, because a woman that disrespects her husband often time is because she cheats and don't regard him.

As for your sister, time is never fair to women, as she grows older, she'll realise her mistakes and also as often she will dispise your mother as well.

Lastly, be careful with your live.

Raspberries:
Nairaland redpillers and their oversabi nature sef!

Anyone can cheat... Repentant hoe or not... Just find someone who's decent...

Most beta males... Don't they still cheat on their wives with girls young enough to be their daughters?

Most of these man no longer woo their wives! They allow the spark to die... With their bald heads and potbellies...

Be romantic...

Bitch, stfu.

Women get pregnant for irresponsible alpha males, become baby mammas. They find beta males to marry, give them the responsibilities of the failed alpha males. In other to be seen like good people, They( beta males) shoulder the responsibilities. Pay bills, rents and the rest.

Their wives Bleep them from time to time to make them( beta males) feel like men, even bare children for them.

Meanwhile they are still fucking the alpha males on a down-low, because most times they have good dicks or can perform well ( why not, they are jobless).

After few years they( baby mammas) file for divorce, take everything beta males got. Go back to their useless irresponsible " alpha males".

Then the beta males are left stranded and depressed, on the verge of suicide.

Don't ever become " Captain-Save- A-Hoe"

Leave all baby mammas alone. Unless a case of widow, but try to know why her husband died, get the info from outside source.

A simple story of irresponsible alpha males and his two bitches.

Nova1982:
Hi niaralanders,

I've been experiencing this for a while now but now I'm tired and sick of it.

Please is there any medication I can get for it?

How long?
Painful or painless?
Difficulty talking or eating?

Some Igbo politicians and their "hallelujah boys " behavior.

Stupidity at the highest other.

Yorubas and their too much talking.

No wonder IBB said " when I hear the Yorubas are about to go rioting or fight , I go to sleep.".

Boneless chickens...

InsideLife2022:
I have been an active member on this forum for the past eight years. I just created this account to bring this issue to limelight. Good evening gentlemen and ladies. I got married in late 2020. God being merciful, we are blessed with a baby of 5 months. My wife has been giving me attitudes of recent. I have tried to find out what the problem has been, she is not saying anything tangible. I am being confused and depressed. I have been begging her to come back to join me after delivery. She keeps traumazing me emotionally. She just told me our marriage is over. She couldn't say what the problem is.

She has not been taking care of the baby. She was medically advised to stop breastfeeding our baby permanently. Is not that she breastfeeds our baby. My mother in-law and sisters in-law have been complaining about her lack of motherly treats.

They told me she doesn't even know how to take care of the baby. They cannot allow my child to be in her custody because she can't take care of the baby as a mother. She has fought her mother for asking her to leave her house to join her husband. Every member of her family has been asking her what the problem is. She keeps telling them to come and marry me that it's over between us.

I haven't told any of my family members or my friends of what is going on in my marriage. I am a kind of person that do not like involving a third party in my new marriage of lest than two years.

Her family has never supported her actions. Her mom and her siblings have been asking me to come take my wife and baby. But, my wife is not ready to join me. It has been a serious issues in her family house each time they push her to go meet her husband.

Her family has ask me to come with some soldiers or the police to come carry my baby and leave her since she claims she is no longer interested in any marriage. I have been trying my best to make sure my wife never lacked anything during her pregnancy and even after delivery.

My in-laws have been very supportive and good to me. I know they have never and will not support her for her wrong actions and behaviors. My challenge is, my baby is just 5 months and I don't want to take the baby to my parents because of the questions people around will be asking. I don't want to be seen as someone who is separated from his wife. I hate divorce with passion. My wife does not have any concrete reason why she decides to stay off our marriage.

Her family is fully in support of my next actions of going to take my baby. Now, the question is this; is it advisable to keep the baby with me while I employ a nanny to raise the baby with me?

Please and please I need mature and sensible advise.

Cc: RoyalRoy

I want this thread to be moved to the right and appropriate section. Thank you!

Right now Bro. Forget what people say, will say and not say...Do what is right for your baby. If taking your child to your mom will be perfect for your 5months child, please for goodness sake, do it.

As for your wife, any woman who is able to give up on her child, should not be seen around you. She is heartless.
Finalize the divorce asap, and move on with your life. Her tagging along directly or indirectly will ruin your chance of success and taking care of your child.

Take care

So who is the person that 34 lawyers including Professor went to defend?
Naija, the story don dey get k-leg

Notyourtype:
Hello Guys,

Is it even possible to have up to six kids without having a male child?

I have a friend, who wanted to have only 4 kids. He's now counting six and will count more because he has refused to have a male child.

When the wife gave birth to the fifth child, then my friend was very anxious to having a male child. But as soon as the news got to him that his wife gave birth to another female child, he send a message to his wife at the hospital not to come to his house with the child. He said his wife has a curse on her, that is why she refused to give birth to a male child. We had to beg him before he allowed his wife home.

The issure now is that his wife just gave birth to the sixth child again today, and another female child. He his just very confused right now.

He just told me now that people says the fault his not from her wife but rather on his side. And he want me to help him on what the problem is.

Pls nlanders, what do you think is the problem, and how can he give birth to a male child?

Tell your friend that he is a fool. The woman should be the one sending him out of the house.

I can understand infertility, which I don't condone. But gender of a child is 100% determined by the male sex chromosomes not the female.


Female sex Xsome Male sex Xsome
XX. XY

Male or female child
The woman can only give X.

Male or female child
The man can give X or Y.

If he gives X, the woman only give X.
Making it Female (XX)
If the man gives Y, the woman can only give X
Making it Male( XY).

So the man should be blamed, I think I'll locate where he stays to beat him to pop for giving the woman only female children ( which to normal people, they would be very proud).

Stupid man

Cassahav:

I am a fortysomething man in a long-term relationship – nearly 20 years – and have two children. For the past 10 years my partner has been having short-term lovers. These were clandestine, but more recently she has stopped hiding, called our relationship “open”, and currently has a lover who I do know about. But this “open relationship” can only be one-sided, because she is jealous and suspicious while I am basically not polyamorous. So why stay together? We get on, communicate well (other than the no-go zone of her other love life), rarely argue, are bonded by bringing up our children and are financially tied together.

However, the years of suppressing my emotions – of jealousy, rejection, insecurity, being lied to – have left me broken. Sex (which we still occasionally do have) has become stressed: if I don’t perform enthusiastically, it will justify her seeking other lovers. Also, I am expected to remain sexually attracted to her, which gets more difficult when I know she’s been with someone else recently. We had frank talks when she offered to end her extramarital affairs and be monogamous with me – or plan how we might separate without affecting our children. We were both very upset, as we are very much still in love, and wish the sex side of our relationship wasn’t such a terrible mess.

But it has occurred to me that I am emotionally and sexually broken after this past decade. If I was single again – or my partner was to become monogamous with me again – I don’t think I would be a viable person to be in a relationship with. How do I start to repair myself, inside or outside this relationship?

Any advice would be cool.

At 40+ years . I don't have advice for you.
As they say " a fool at 40, is a fool for ever. No point advising you.

You are lost already.

SDP is about resurfacing.
Tinubu and him.
God punish both of them.

Stargurl20:
Guys, do not lose a good woman just because she unintentionally had a fling with a guy or something. Learn to forgive, forget and move on with her

If she is a good woman, she won't have fling with another guy.

Do not die in their wars.
Na mumu dey die for politicians.

Only if you guys know the opportunities that will arrive in Fintech immediately the mumu leaves office. You'll grab any opportunities that comes with it. Today's banking system is failing, Fintech, digital currency, Blockchain technology are the future. Build your career in it. Learn it with every fiber of your being. So, when they sack you which will be almost impossible ( because you'll be so good). You can start yours.

Simeonee111:
Yahaya Bello

Next president of the federal republic of Nigeria

Let's make bet. If he comes out as APC flagberrer, I dey owe you N10k. Mark my words

CEOs by day, CE Hoes by night. If you believe she became wealthy without sucking a dick. You need your brain checked.
Young ladies, choose the right dick, the sky is the limit.

What make, model and year of car can I get between 1.5m -1.7m.
Tokunbo*

betcliq:
Today one Elderly Man that's in late 80s came to my shop in the morning to patronize me . He was happy with me he bought a bottle of Hot drink and I offered a small bottle of dry Gin in appreciation and a New year gift.
He uttered some words of prayer for me , lastly he told me I'll be great in my business that I will grow in heights . He advised me to be very careful in choosing a girl to marry that I shouldn't pregnant a girl before going to see the parents and pay for bride price that I shouldn't even have sex with her , that a woman I marry will determine if I'll be more successful or encounter challenges in Life . I just dey reason the talk since morning.

This is spiritual I'm From Igbo and I strongly believe in Tradition this got to do with tradition think deep.

What do you guys think about it

True talk.
An elderly man once told me " Do not count yourself a lucky man, until you get married. Your wife can ruin or make you.

Stargurl20:
I haven't cheated on any guy, neither am I married. Moreover, I can never put my egg I a basket. That doesn't me I'm cheating. I'm just trying to safe my self from being disappointed

Not putting my eggs in one basket is a code word for having different dicks in her mouth, not knowing who to swallow.

TOTOnigga:
I know this is not the right section for this but I feel enough people should have their say in this topic, so mods please, just be understanding for we all are nothing but pencils in the hand of the creator...

I'm sure we all know and have heard of legendary Chinese movie actor "Jackie chan" ?
I once read somewhere on the internet where he once said that when he dies, his money and wealth will not go to any of his children that he is going to will everything to charity so that his children can learn to make their own money in life and not be dependent on his, something like that...

I've heard my dad often say something similar too.. He normally tells us of how he trained him self through out his university days without the help of anyone and that we should not depend on his wealth because he might surprise us, that when he dies, he might sell all his properties and look for one Church to give all his money that we should go and work for our own (I know he is indirectly talking to me as the first son).. I'm not saying people like my father or Jackie chan are bad parents but here are my questions

Is it really necessary ? Or is it the right way to teach your children?
If you had a dad like the aforementioned, would you allow such ?

I completely agree with your father.
What characters have you guys shown to prove to him that you are responsible?
If my children don't have discipline and can't buy a bicycle with their own money, for me to respect them...I will never give a kobo to them. You'll go to the best schools and learn the best skills, that's all.
No achievements of your own, no Inheritance.
If you can't make your own money, you'll squander someone else money.

Do this simple experiment...Give a Naija girl money to get something to help in her career or growth... 9/ 10 will squander it. Because it came so easy.. that's life bro.
You don't know the value of a drop of water until you fetch it yourself.

Please do. Solar energy is the future. And for those who invest their money or time in it, will never regret it.

Mumu talk.
Guys, listen. Just package well, get car and a nice room. Don't forget to get small money.
80% of the toasting your car has already done it for you. The remaining, nah nice room. Fvck personality.

adefitim:
Shey na this one you won Dey do for 2022?

You must be a prophet. Good for you.

Fvck her like you hate her.

I said it... The Senate President is the President bitch.
If the president tells him to bring his wife for Bleep.. he'll do it.
The guy has an undescended balls.

If anyone believes that this 9th Assembly led by the Senate president can override the president, you actually need to get your head checked. If the president tells the Senate president to submit his wife for Bleep ...he will do it without a question.
This 9th Senate is the definition of rubber stamp.

Always remember, you will be in their thoughts and prayers when you get killed because of their poor leader.

positivelad:
hello guys

i just discovered that im hiv positive, so i am looking for a hospital where i can get free hiv treatment in riverstate (i heard the government made it free in some hospitals)

does anyone have any idea ? please comment below

New mile 1 clinic ( private clinic)
Bmsh
Upth
Free treatment

As a person in medical field... There is nothing to be worried about. Thank God you know your status, so you can start treatment immediately. You can live a normal life with HIV... The era of being scared or being afraid is over.
With proper and adherence to treatment...The virus will almost be rarely detected in you.
So.
Take your medications when you are suppose to take it.
Eat fruits and vegetables
Exercise and lift weight
Protect yourself from infecting others, sex( use condoms),sharp objects..
Don't share any sharp objects with another person.
Stay with one partner, inform her if you want and go to counseling with her if you wish.
You can impregnate someone without transmitting it to her or have a child with the child 100 % negative...consult the Drs or the health care givers .they will explain everything. Ask any questions no matter how silly...ask..
I know you will live a healthy lifestyle.
Good luck and God bless �

Psoul:
Can you answer this?

Jonny is the fifth child's name