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Very careless statement. He is unable to secure their lives and he thinks they should risk their lives for some paltry sum.

N3TRAL:
If you have passed through a public university in Nigeria and then you think Dr. Ngige isn't making sense , then you should forfeit your degree.

Education in Nigeria is heavily subsidized. Nigeria cannot train you almost free of charge and then you run away to a foreign country when Nigeria lacks sufficient manpower in your field of endeavor. The practice is worse than being unpatriotic. It is wickedness.

Medical doctors spend less than a million naira in tuition in Federal universities to complete their program. In fact, during the NYSC program, most medical students make back the money they spent on their tuition.


Many medical doctors in the foreign countries you wickedly dump Nigeria for spend the first two years of their career paying back student loans. Their salary is high because of the high cost of living in their country which is why they pay an average of 100,000 USD for medical education ( tuition+ others fees).

The government doesn't intend to stop you from migrating. No, they'll be stupid to do that because it's against the tenets of FHRs .
The FG is simply telling you, if Nigeria is the worst country on Earth, go to Canada, US or UK and spend 50,000 USD to acquire medical training and then work for them. If you want to benefit from our subsidy then you must compulsorily serve us for a few couple of years.

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However, the policy of the FG is not good for the long run because medical consultants, experts and specialists will greatly reduce in Nigerian hospitals as there's no embargo placed against them.

What's the need of having many medical doctors who are not really proficient?

The best practice remains improving the welfare of Medical practitioners and enlightening them of their Hippocratic oath to serve their black brothers and sisters.

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God Bless Dr Ngige. He's a patriotic Nigerian!

Typical jealousy of the average Nigerian. Is there any course not subsidized in Nigeria? In it all, government should put themselves together and ensure the basic things needed to work and build a career exist instead of crying foul.

Halcyon123:
How you take run am especially the baked pancake. I go like try am maybe e go make me eat.

I used a YouTube video. Here is the link. He's the one who made the video I used for the bagel as well.

Here is the video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kHj4pRqbuBw

Breakfast for the week:

Oven baked pancakes.
Oatmeal bagel.

Realistt:
Listen, I am a realist and I will always speak the truth whether it favours me or not. I am not claiming to be a saint. Yes, I have my own personal issues of hitting the nail on the head without mincing words whenever I am angry but I am never a violent person and have never been involved in domestic violence.

This doesn't make you a realist. I have no problems with you not talking to her parents nonetheless, it isn't important they reach out to you as well. You get the level of respect or otherwise you give out.

She just didn't go to her parents, there's an underlying cause which in all you wrote, you never mentioned it. You expect everyone to tell you are right without stating what the problem is. Aren't you expecting us to be biased as well and tell you that which you want to hear?

That said, when you resolve your issues, I believe you and your wife needs sit down to discuss how you run your home. Make her understand she can't force you to love/ accept her parents. Let her understand what they do and how you will want to be treated so that you can mend the relationship. That way, you both don't keep going round this circle.

I would suggest you stage your vacation as a means to free yourself off the pressures in bit. An alternative is to get another job and tell them you will be resuming maybe two months from now. Resign from your job to give you enough time to relax before transitioning into your new job.

armyofone:
I have tried eating oat with added food...hard to do.

I eat steel cut or old fashioned by itself.

How do you drink custard/pap? If you can take it with something else, then it is the same.

Breakfast:

Moimoi and steel cut oats.

Can't we do better in the 21st century? Just asking...

Due to my nature, I used to be bothered not just for myself but my family in all. My mom taught us early that "if you ignore them, they will learn to keep quiet". She also taught us that "Jesus who is the Lord is dead almost two centuries and they talk about him, so who are we that people wouldn't talk".

This, my Astoria is that I don't care.

Awakened38:
I'm happy for you , and by the way, no free funds lol. The whole idea is to share our struggles, challenges and experiences associated with being HSP's, as well as our coping mechanism just like you've stated.

Like you rightly stated, you can never fully mask your highly sensitive trait. In fact my goal here, is to help us see that it may not be necessary to mask our HSP trait as that on its own adds stress to the already stressful life of a HSP. That is why knowledge about the trait is very important. You only mask what you consider undesirable and perhaps improper, but high sensitivity is a product of nature - a wonderful gift of nature in fact. You're not responsible for being a HSP, more than you are responsible for being dark or light skinned. The need to mask it is very understandable, as is the need to bleach a darker skin society-speaking, but in both cases, you end up hurting yourself, and yourself is what should matter most to you, not the opinion of others who, by the way, to be honest, are not nearly as bothered by your HSP trait as you assume they are. And I can't tell you from experience that, because HSP's are Empaths by nature, we are valued and adored by most who get to know us closely, but as with anything in nature, Empaths have their not so desirable side. Nature I believe is a double edged sword, and for me, therein lies its beauty. Nature is beautiful because everything in it is complimentary; light and darkness, bitter and sweet, hot and cold, long and short, even life and death. We appreciate the other because we know the other. Life will be meaningless if only the one existed without the other I believe.

So same applies with your highly sensitive nature. Rather than focus on the "downsides", why not see the amazing gifts inherent in this beautiful trait. Yes, I call it beautiful, because I now know better. Learning about higher sensitivity has greatly changed my life. Once upon a time, in fact, for decades, I too felt it was a problem trait; one that needs to be masked, and I did do my best to mask it, but as all HSP's knows too well, it always has a way of showing up itself , because that is who we are, it's our very being; it colours everything we do in life.

HSP's, believe it or not, operate at a different energy field from most. The simple reason is that you operate at a conscious level more of time than most. You take note of details even in seemingly small things that most people around you overlook. You can easily tell that somebody is not happy, is going through some difficulties, that somebody likes or hates you, that somebody isn't genuin, etc. Some HSP's can sense the mood of animals and even plants, I kid you not. If you know, any animal right activist, if you know anyone who won't cage a dog, a bird, or any animal, you probably have seen a HSP. If you know anyone who enjoys tending to flowers and trees, who enjoys being out in nature, he or she is probably a HSP. Please note that I am not implying that non HSP's do not have these abilities or concerns for nature, but it common among HSP's.

Sorry this is already way longer than I intended, so I'll leave it here for now. There's so much to share about the world of HSP's, and I intend to keep sharing here hopefully, and I look forward to other HSP's doing same here as well.

Again, I emphasise, feel free to share your worries, fears, challenges, etc, associated with being HSP, and as a community, we can help validate it, and help you know how we manage similar situations in our own lives. You're not alone, and you're not crazy. In fact, I see HSP's as nature's gift to humanity; no apologies!

If you're wondering if you're a highly sensitive person, you can go to Google and take a questionnaire; I believe there are some. You'll probably answer questions about what you already know about yourself. But trust me, if you're a HSP, you'll know if you're honest enough with yourself.

Wishing you all peace.

I felt in my case, as I grew older and realized there wasn't much I could do because that was my personality, I had to start thinking of how to manage myself better. The books of Tim LaHaye and some other articles helped as well.

I am the life of a small party where I know everyone and they know me well and the ghost in a medium/ large party. I used to avoid parties in all but with time, as I learned to manage things, it got better.

Growing up, many felt I was proud but they never knew I was just avoiding issues. I guess that is the reason why my friends are very very few but very long term.

mcdreeezy:
Sir, so you're saying that the U.S accepts HND for someone that wants to pursue an MSc or PHd?

And is it only for academic purposes? What about jobs? Do they accept HND for employment in the U.S?

As for jobs, it is more about what you know and your experience. Not too much emphasis is placed on what degree you hold.

I am; are we getting some free funds?

In my case, I have learned to mask my melancholic side (which is super sensitive) over the years and those who know that about me are those who are very close to me. Luckily, I have some sanguine traits and this I have learned to explore to mask the greater melancholic part of me but trust me, it can't be fully masked. This is the reason why most of the time, it is those who are very close to me that can hurt me because I feel they know me and do it intentionally. I believe the sanguine trait in me has helped me to be very less sensitive around those not close to me.

I am not referring to the above situation however, I am guessing what you mean is women that are opinionated. For the records, your wife is human and if you expect her to be "the all you say is correct all the time", then the marriage is not healthy.

In my case, if it is an issue that I feel the consequence(s) are bearable, I let her have her way if she insists this is what she thinks we should do. Then if she talks about how the outcome isn't what she expected, I let her know I only allowed it since I knew the consequences are bearable. I would rather think it has helped in many ways because we get to talk more on anything we need to take actions on.

Wetin to see what becomes of Wike.

Wetin be the difference? Buhari did not do well at all and let's see what the new government will do differently.

Because I rarely post myself on the social media as well. It is our relationship and not the world's relationship and there's no need telling everyone of our relationship status.

May their souls rest in perfect peace. It is quite a sad story though.

greatopec:
OP pls don’t be annoyed with him. I appreciate greatly your suggestion and I will definitely try my luck sir

Just read through and you will get all the information you need. Focus on Fall, 2024 admission which opens towards the end of the year. Get every necessary documents in place and if possible, use WES to evaluate your transcripts so that you have more options of universities. Here is the most recent thread on this.:
https://www.nairaland.com/7194807/general-usa-student-visa-enquiries-part

timsucess:
How

Because USA treats HND as same as BSc for academic purposes. All you need to get into a PhD often times is a BSc.

Deprofessional:
You see people with this kind of advice, avoid them at all costs.

Unfortunately, ignorant ones like you are the ones to be avoided. I have a PhD and I know many who has HND and were admitted into PhD programs fully funded. Besides in my case, I have both HND and BSc and both were considered for my admission because my HND gave me the Math requirement I needed for my program. I would have thought someone with a username like yours would act in line with your username alas, you are just an opposite of what you claim you are.

That said, if he avoids me; that is his choice. I only gave him a suggestion that would help him achieve his dreams and here on Nairaland, the information abound.

Skyview01:
HND to fully funded scholarship in the US with an HND?

E ni pe?

Can't count the number of those who have done it and many will still do. Just go to travel section and read up the US Student Visa page. I am no longer active on there but you can get all necessary information needed on there.

Life is no competition. Keep working towards them. If you have passion for learning, with your HND, you should be able to get into a fully funded PhD in America and that will answer your migration quest.

Not necessarily. My previous job offer came in a letter less than 15 lines and the past was good. To say I was shocked was an understatement.

TheNiceGuy:
Yes it's our culture.

However if you meet some of us that doesn't do this, it's not out of disrespect, our Faith doesn't permit.

Every bowing is SOLELY for Allah (God)

You are lost. You can't stand for two things that are antagonizing at the same time.

Dinner:

Beans and dodo.

How much does she earn because it is people of like minds that attracts in this case. If she isn't almost as much, she is just a noise maker.

ibinaboonline:
You no understand sha. No, noise cancelling headsets won't help much. The noise is inside his head. It doesn't go away if, for example, he covers his ears with his hands or a pillow.

Eventually found that out this morning when I read about the condition and you can see that in one of my response.

I do not subscribe to the "Alpha" and "Simp" slogans but in those two cases mentioned, I will agree the men in question are weak. The first one is the most irritating for not been able to defend his daughter. For the other man, I guess he is yet to understand that there is no love without respect. No one has the right to disrespect another and use love as a cover.

Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love.

However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter.

Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most.

I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life.

I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house.

She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?

Walahi, you dey vex me. So you love your new wife to the point you agree your daughter deserves been maltreated? You don't love your wife and vice versa because if you both love each other, you both will love your daughter unconditionally. I have no advice for you other than the love that is making you turn a blind eye to your daughter been maltreated is going to sting you real bad in the long run.

kpakpakpa:
Thank you so much for taking time to research and give me those links my brother.
I will take my time and read everything and if possible take some necessary steps.
God bless you

Amen and you too.
Please, work with your doctor/specialist as well as it would really help you when trying to connect with doctors in the countries you might be getting help from.

kpakpakpa:
Thank you brother, i will also be checking it out myself too.

https://www.hearingloss.org/
https://earcommunity.org/helpful-resources/financial/hearing-aid-financial-assistance/ - This one list various charities that have programs for hearing loss challenges.
https://rnid.org.uk/
https://hearinghealthfoundation.org/
https://www.hearwellcenter.com/blog/think-outside-the-box-with-these-7-hearing-loss-charities/

A way to approach this is to read up on each of these organizations and what kind of help they render. Talk to the specialist managing your situation to give you referral to a doctor in the country where this organizations approach. Once you have a doctor who reviews your file, he or she can talk about the treatment plan and that you approach the NGO with. The doctor could approach the NGO on your behalf as well.

kpakpakpa:
I'm not sure a headset will be of help because i hate anything that has to do with sound. But you can Give me an estimate about the headset pls, let me see what i can do

I guess it might not help truly since my little research on tinnitus states that the sound sometimes is not external. It is still worth trying.

kpakpakpa:
I can't thank you less.
My last question brother, did you you know or have knowledge about such a charity organisation? It seems this problem is above me to solve on my own.

I don't but I pray I have some time to spare at work to search for one or two.