₦airaland Forum

Pounded yam and okra soup.

Let her go see her OB/GYN ASAP. This shouldn't be joked with.

People are living because the working conditions are not favorable thus, creating more medical programs isn't the solution.

Trying to understand your anger. You are not in a relationship with her and you guys already sleeping with each other. What are you angry about?

So many wicked ones are having sleepless nights because they know he means well for the average Nigerians.

Dinner:

Jollof quinoa with blackened salmon fish.

Seagodess:
. we were programmed differently from u guys

We think and act differently.too..the easiest way to get us glued is giving us memories.e.g.making us give u our most treasured treasure which is our virginity.Ask any girl, if she's being sincere she would attest to this..we want u men to be in charge.. don't show us weakness.. it not about money... bang us to submission.. let our legs go weak at the sound of ur voice.. that's what that op has done to that girl.

You have been misled a long way and unfortunately, you are not willing to learn what is right. Please don't marry for sex alone ooo this one you are looking forward to been banged to submission. Remember, it is the name you choose to be addressed as that you will be called.

Seagodess:
you can't sit in your room and assume u know their plans... I insist the op did no wrong... The Best Lady to Marry is a lady you were her first.. iam a lady so I know what iam saying.

We are both sure people marry for reasons best known to them and not necessarily because they were 1st at something. Cos there will always be many 1st in life and marriage goes way beyond sex.

Seagodess:
you can't assume that.. the op is 28 he's no more a kid

I never made any assumption as my statement were never definite on what is going to happen. I just responded to your line of thought on the first guy thing.

2canplay1000:
what's your problem exactly? I came here seeking for advice because she was bleeding as at when I posted... Who told you plans are not on ground to make her my wife if she's willing?

You are the confused lot here. I responded to your thoughts on men training women and here you are acting the good guy. Oga, you no need shalaye oooo.

Seagodess:
there's no need forcing love oga.. my ex wasn't feeling us anymore and he left... no need begging him back..I really wished we got married because he was my first guy and he disflowered me

Which implies same can happen to her thus, there is no reason to support the OP with the point of him been the first means she can't leave him because OP as well can get tired of her.

At the right time, you would have to do some things not necessarily for your benefit but for his sake. I would rather say you should start simple maybe from taking him to church/mosque. Make friends with parents who have kids his age and bring them into your inner circle to the extent you can tolerate. You don't need to do best friends but at least, exchange ideas once in a while when you see and also, encourage your child to socialize.

Seagodess:
you guys were telling him the girl would leave him that was y the op was like fine.. it would be a win win for him. I like guys like the op.hes smart And I can bet you.. that girl will never leave him

Whether or not she leaves him, her choice to make and vice versa. Neither the OP nor her is really ready for marriage and now that they've gotten what each other seeks, it is their choice to either stay or leave.

2canplay1000:
na mumu dey train virgin these days.. you guys don't learn. I did the Best thing any right thinking guy would have done

I don't need to share my story and you here who think because you robbed a teenager of her virginity is wise is the most "MUMU" on earth. That said, I am not sure anyone is asking any guy/man to train a lady because they are dating and he intends marrying her. If you must do, do it for the sake of the person needing that help and make it a help so that you do not look forward to anything in return other than the person's success.

2canplay1000:
the guy said she's going to leave me And I said fine... so what's imature about that... most of you are simps on nairaland

If anyone is a simp, it is you who came on nairaland to announce you had sex with your girlfriend. Learn the meaning of the word and stop using it like someone who can't think things through.

Seagodess:
You guys bashing the op don't have Sense.. it shows you have not learnt anything about marriage,, dating or relationship in this new system of things..a guy met a virgin and disvirgined,, with his write up he's even ready to Marry her and you are here saying he took advantage of her? Iam a lady.. if the guy I first had sex with stayed with me and didn't bleeped up,,do you think I will ever leave him? Giving out your virginity to a guy creates a strong bond that can't be broken.the young girl will have no choice than love the op more than anybody in this world.. And I pray the op stays with her.. virgins are scarce these days..

You don't need to shalaye. If truly it creates a bond, then irrespective of what the guy you gave it to did, you would have forgiven. True love they say keeps no record of wrongdoing. Encourage what is right and I for one am not condemning the lady cos it is her choice but for the guy coming to make announcement, it is because he wants his ego praised although he's admitted he did it for his selfish purpose.

2canplay1000:
some girls at that age already know what they want and I believe she's one. And iam ready to marry her whenever she's ready and if she's willing to stay with me

2canplay1000:
that's why I Bleep her....it a win win for me..we move

You don't have to justify your acts at your age. If you love her enough to marry her, then you should have cherished what she had and wait till then. No need to shalaye, everyone knows you are selfish. Interestingly, you can tell yourself that you are self-centered and irresponsible. Your second post I quoted reminds me that truly, age is just a number and doesn't in any way depict maturity.

Is this why you are making her birth so much children just to make it difficult for another man to marry her? You do not want your children to suffer, you are not financially buoyant, yet you are birthing so much and not improving your wife's status economic wise. How do you want her to cope with the children in that case (I pray it doesn't happen early cos you need to raise your children)?

My advice for you in the least are to:
Stop this incessant childbirth
Have a life insurance for your family
Improve you and your wife's economic capacity.

bukatyne:
It is a Catholic University (Religious) so it is normal that their beliefs bleed into the school operations.

Any parent who doesn’t believe in the school's morals can withdraw their kids.

We can also ask how short skirts and false lashes enhance the students' learning.

Catholic University doesn't imply adults should be manipulated and treated as kids. What is wrong is wrong and they are not the 1st catholic university in the world. Perhaps, they can learn from other Catholic University how decency is achieved.

When our professors can't point on any achievement in their name, they concern themselves with frivolity. It is a big shame on our educational system.

This policy is so bizarre. So we should reactivate our accounts cos of the small monies we have in it, right otherwise, the government will steal it. Emefiele is so confused to say the least.

RaniOpe:
No sir.
It’s been a while, forgotten I even created this thread.
I don’t need an apartment anymore, left the country.

Ok.

Dinner:

Cabbage fufu with okra.

kunkelhanspeter:
Who bleeping care about the sentence calling someone ignorant is not an insult even when you can’t prove him or her wrong profess

It is not my position to educate you. There's so much information out there for you.

RaniOpe:
I'm sending you an email to explain why

A quick one, don't you have any of your schoolmates you can link up with?

Dijita:
What percentage of his income go to fueling an maintaining his generator? What percentage went into car maintenance? what percentage went into children k-12 school fees? The taxes here take care of roads and infrastructures that Nigerians that don't pay taxes pays in other ways.

I am trying to understand your position/why you quoted me. You can read from my post that I was replying to the other party that those in Nigeria and the person abroad he was referring to pay the same rate in taxes.

ednut1:
bros no be you be this in 2019 🤣🤣

Reason why most times, it is easy to conclude that many people (I mean those in Nigeria) against those who seek greener pastures abroad do it from a place of envy.

kunkelhanspeter:
If you are not an useless person you will prove me wrong

You decided to go the way of insult and couldn't string your sentence correctly. That said, there is no need to prove you wrong over because you don't have an idea of what you are saying.

flokii:
@OP You are very okay and sound.. that's the simple truth.
It's better to stay in your country where you have privileges than to travel out and be living as second class or third class citizen.

Some left their well-paying office jobs in Nigeria to go and be packing shlt under guise of "care givers" and be washing toilets all in the name of japa.

How come it is those who pack shit alone you know? You need watch your circle.

flokii:
Most innocent blacks are in jails abroad simply because of their skin colour.. everyone automatically believes that they are guilty including the supposed learned judges and judicial system there.

Too many cons with the japa bullcrap. As they say, experience is the best teacher. It's when they get there that they know wat's up.

Is there a statistics to this or just a way to make yourself feel better than others?

flokii:
I have noticed this trend of the so called "proud to japa" geng opening youtube channels to disturb our peace.. they always have one story or complain to share.

Interesting how you follow them from channel to channel and you complain about those living their lives.

kunkelhanspeter:
As long as you are not an Ivy League graduate you will still live paycheck to paycheck unless you are lucky enough.

Unfortunately, you are as ignorant as your post and I do not think there is/are reasons to debate this.

kunkelhanspeter:
I have the resources to travel to any country of my choice whenever I want but I keep asking myself what am I going there to do now am 32?
When will I start up my own family?
Send my children one of the best schools in the city or town I am living because I know Nigerians abroad don’t send their kids to best school just normal community school over there . Each time I think of that menh traveling will just weak me. I put visa 2016 after paying 150k to the agent I gave up my friend we did the same is in Turkey now no ne difference sha.

You don't have to display this level of ignorance in the public space. It will do you good to read and understand the education system of the West before making comments as this.

Tadadobe:
But not as a bad aa having half of your yearly earnings go into tax. A friend earn $78K having $27k go into tax.

That is about 30% which isn't so different from what people that earn that much in Nigeria pay in taxes. It also includes both your pension contribution and retirement savings and you get back a portion of your taxes paid in tax returns. So, I do not get why you think the person is paying so much in taxes.

benzion72:
If all European and American have ran away from thier challenges instead of facing it and solving their problem where will African be running to.
Most of the challenges we have now they have had them and overcome them. Is it bad leadership they have thier share from monarch to democracy. Is it poverty it is their language they still have it a lot.
If you read a lot and you read economic, history and philosophy and probably sociology you won't see much difference in Nations. Read Self Reliance by Ralph Waldo Emerson you won't fancy traveling

This is 21st century where economic knowledge for growth and development abound however, we have chosen not to grow and keep reciting this funny lyrics you wrote up there.

We have the resources, we don't need a new knowledge on the benefits of industrialization. We are learned in theory but lack understanding (thanks to la cram, la pour, la forget) and we are running backwards faster without telling ourselves the truth.

luminouz:
*Sighs*

Why do you have to be such a SÎMP?

You are the simp here. No one forced him to marry her and he was fully aware of her baggage before committing himself.