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22rockbottom:
I was actually rude about the confrontation. I was angry and below is why I was angry.

Both my in-laws came to our house, though I knew they were coming but I wasn't cool with it because they were with us last year December/January this year then now. My wife knew I wasn't cool with it but she never cares. We were both sleeping on the same bed but weren't talking. We had an issue one night and she went to report me to her parents, but her parents never call me to ask for my side of the story. That made me more angry so I left the house in the middle of the night. Guess what, I was away for 2nights and both my wife and my in-laws were not bother. They didn't even call. That made me more furious. So I spoke to her rudely.

Note: My wife is a sweet soul without the influence of her mother.

I am confused. You said her mom interferes and in the cause of your issue, they chose not to interfere and you left home because of that and expected them to call you. You are contradicting yourself Oga.

One thing I don't understand his how a governor leaves his office to go commission a building. Are projects developed for fanfare or for necessities?

I was confused at first however, reading people's responses made me understand the topic.

I never did have to recite my errands as I was always clear with them.

Some businesses run 365days a year thus, they may not give holidays when you are on duty on that day however, they should pay you for such holidays. My understanding is that on such holidays, those who work either on the day, the day before, or the day after gets 2 times their regular wage for national holidays and 1.5 times their regular wage for state holidays.

Great! It reduces the people's pain.

Dinner:

Beans and dodo.

armyofone:
I will come for the soup. I like eating well made okra soup by itself.

You are welcome.

Dinner:

Creamy tomato soup with catfish and 2 slices of bread.

Dinner from last night:

Wheat flour fufu and vegetables.

adecz:
Your "mashed" potatoes and gravy
appear to have the same consistency.

Mashed potatoes should be stiffer than
this which looks more like pap..

They are not same consistency, maybe the picture seemed that way. The gravy isn't as thick as the mash potato, nonetheless, the mash potato isn't too thick as well as I prefer it creamy and lighter so that my son can eat it too.

Everybody go land the same time. It is difficult to conclude without having the full information as it might be an upgrade.

It is the culture. It is difficult for someone who is highly culturally inclined to adopt in Nigeria because our culture has some shades of superiority complex to them.

Tourist123:
I will be visiting Nigeria for the first time since Japaing 2 years ago, any security tips or economic tips I should know?

Just live your normal life. I am not sure anyone cares you are back, maybe that is my opinion.

Dinner:

Mashed potatoes with gravy.

Or11:
There's something called a warning which is what you could have told her. Try this stunt in a developed world and watch her sue you.

Na lie, she can't sue him cos she's still under probation and most employment is as is.

ahnie:
Gboskii I hail o,abeg give me that eran wey wan fall komot from the plate.

No vex, I don chop am already ooo.

Breakfast for this week:

Oven made pancakes topped with strawberries and banana. Will cut them into rectangular slices to make serving easier. Will fry different types of eggs daily.

Dinner:

Pounded yam and efo riro.

Won ti tun de ooo. If this were true, God himself would have established that no one should use ear rings.

Whether or not you attend a local church, this is part of what the church does. Your choice of church in my opinion should be where your heart feels connected to God.

Maynmann:
You wouldn’t mind “because” lol
What if your wife suddenly start having NEW male friends, gisting and cooking at their homes?

That’s some people reality, did you really read what the OP said?

She can't go cook in their homes, that is not right as it brings disrespect. The lady is OP's girlfriend and not his wife. These are two different things.

Maynmann:
You won’t mind if your wife is doing this for her male friendS?

I wouldn't because we don't have many friends and of late or friends are almost the same.

That said, this is referring to those who are single and may have more friends that are single as well. It is about the discipline and value system you have which guides the kind of friends you keep. I don't roll with "silo silo" people.

Dinner:

Cabbage fufu and vegetable and okro soup.

Maynmann:
Gists that can only be done alone in your house.

We all think and value things differently ooo. Yes, it should happen in either house and we could cook while we gist.

riverbird:
But the truth is that am not even read for the settling down cos as a man there are alot things that needs to be taking care of before thinking about settling down .

Please let her go. Don't waste her time when you know you are not ready.

thesilentman:
i swear the attachment to daughter is too much.Even at times they run house chores together.

Hope you are going to join her in the house chores?

Dinner:

Penne pasta.

Maynmann:
People should not behave in ways that their partner should question their trust.
What you recounter is not actually the type of friendship we are talking about.

Why are you alone with the opposite sex in your house?
What else is going on?

Gists. What else should be going on?

Persephone1:
This right here is what led to the end of 8 years friendship with a guy. You Nigerian guys are so morally declined that you can't maintain a platonic friendship with the opposite gender without you wanting to get intimate or suddenly growing"unexplainable emotions" . You don't trust yourselves with women but somehow you lot are very good at policing what goes in into a woman's veejay and judge women.

Oomoh women dating you lots are really trying

The bold is just so true. I still wonder why people think friendship with the opposite friend is all about sex. I guess to many of our guys, they think sex is a conquest thus, the reason why that is all they process when they see a female.

Maynmann:
You are more like a family friend. Like you said you are visiting their “home”.
The OP said his gf doesn’t mind visiting people houses.

They are single and married friends. I guess my concern is how people date people they can't trust and whose values do not align with theirs. I think these are things that are ironed out right from the beginning of the relationship. However, I find it extreme that someone has issues with another making friends with another gender because s/he feels the person is sleeping around. My simple question to such a person is that whenever they are alone with the opposite sex, does it mean all their brain and hormones can process is just to have sex?

Maynmann:
And what activities do you engage with your female friends, do they visit you at home just you guys only?

They rarely visited; however, I do the visit most times. There are many reasons to visit, and we engage in intellectual discussions.