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nigerian guys and their egos! u guys should stop getting angry because this is true. if u don't have body/mouth odour u probably know someone else that does. don't trivialize this issue because it is serious and it can be reversed. anyone can have body odour if they don't clean up daily. and i like to believe that a few days of proper hygiene can reverse it. u don't have to be rich, just ensure u wash ur armpits, privates, between ur toes and behind ur ears properly when u bathe. and use a deodorant! u dont need perfume, in fact perfume can't prevent body odour.

i've noticed this body odour thing in both guys and girls but most of the time, like 90% is with guys. i think many guys don't bathe daily. but really it's bad, i don't know if it's because we go to boarding schools or kids don't learn good hygiene at home. but many 9ja guys don't bathe daily they just spray perfume. i have several guy friends that have bad body odour and they dress very well and some are even handsome. the body odour is just a big putoff, especially when it is combined with mouth odour.

it's more annoying to me when i see a guy with body and/or mouth odour hugging/kissing his girlfriend. because i know it must be irritating to the girl, i don't know why girls can't make their guy perform the necessary daily hygiene exercises. it seems the person who has it cannot smell it so they need someone close to them to tell them.

i also think 25 is the ideal age. late twenties is not bad but thirties is getting late oh! at thirty you are so close to menopause. if the woman is waiting because she wants to give time to her career i'd say no need to wait till 30. but if she hasn't found a good guy then i guess there's really no right age. in that case it's never too late, and if it turns out she's passed the child-bearing stage she can always adopt. might as well have a happy marriage with adopted kids, than a patch-patch marriage with many biological kids.

eyoniggar:
I am quite sure USA wants to make a big deal out of this.
They never liked us right from the start.

true

to those saying his loneliness points to parental upbringing, i say you are WRONG. these feelings the boy described are very normal for anyone from a strict family who is introverted. i come from an [i]very[/i]loving family, my parents have always supported me and done everything for me and planned everything for me. at the same time they are strict. i'm an introvert and i've at several times in my life felt the way this mutallab boy felt. i think it goes with the personality and with the age. any teenager from a religious family who is keen on doing the right thing would feel lonely at some point. it's not the parents fault. a couple of years ago i went through a period of serious depression and my family is still unaware of it. only my close friends at school knew. mostly i shared my feelings online; for an introvert the internet is a very useful place for sharing thoughts and feelings you find difficult to share with people face-to-face.

I don't know if it is envy, but i've noticed people like to think rich people don't raise their kids well or don't spend time with their kids. that idea is so untrue!

yajebu:
Being a 'housewife' doesn't make you an idle, laid-back  incomeless person. It actually makes you more of a real woman and it also does not mean you have to be 100% dependent on dear hubby! There are 1001 things that can be done from home. Every human being has skills that can be developed. You are there for your kids in the most important years of their lives. You determine your work hours. Sitting down waiting for manna from dear hubby (becos he is wealthy) is  simply being lazy!

I am a proud, comfortable and intellectually sound housewife. I do confectionary supply, I do catering rentals, I sell clothes. I'm currently working on establishing a snail farm and home bakery. I  have my BSc in Accounting and an MBA. I'm a Chartered Accountant and have a paper to go in becoming a Certified Internal Auditor. I keep abreast with developments in my academic calling and if the need arises, I will dust my certificates and hit the roads!!!!

I took the decision to leave paid employment when I realised my kids were imbibing the values of their nanny and not turning out the way I wanted. Of what use is all the money one makes if your kids turn out horrible? I admit it was a tough decision but today, the whole family is the better for it including dear hubby. No more frozen meals everyday . I'm fufilled. No regrets.  The sky is the limit for housewives,  depending on individual desires!

i must commend you, i'm impressed. you sound just like my mother, she's a housewife and a business woman. most of the time she does several businesses too.

but you know not everyone is business-oriented, some people have zero business skills. some people's only skills are related to their profession.

@ EmperorOlu,

your idea sounds good except it looks like something that could lead to apartheid and i don't think nigerians would vote for such a plan. yes, south africa is better off because the whites were in charge. but the blacks were slaves in their own country and even today many of them feel inferior to the whites. i know u r nigerian but u must have missed out on d proud gene. it's not just ibos, most of us would rather be poor freemen than rich slaves.

NO! I don't think his action is reflective of his upbringing in anyway. i don't know why people like to think rich people's kids are worse than poor people's kids.

kvolander:
I think it's 50/50.

From one angle, his financial capability enhanced his international mobility and unnecessary freedom.

On the other hand, he should have let himself out more when he was lonely. This is surely what lonely people pass through most times.
HIS STORY IS JUST AN EXAMPLE OF THE STATEMENT 'AN IDLE MIND IS THE DEVIL'S WORKSHOP'

it's not 50/50 anything. a terrorist doesn't need to be from a wealthy family as there is enough financial backing from the terrorist groups. i don't even buy the story that loneliness led him to this. we are not like white people who do stupid things when they are lonely. when we are lonely we spend and party. the guy had so much money so he could have had lots of friends, plus there are loads of nigerians in london, muslim nigerians too. it makes more sense that a nigerian with so much money would try to buy happiness with money not death.

becomrich;:
I have lived in the north, that why I have been posting make northern majority by removing the yorubas, edo, delta and bayelsa into benin republic. I know how thier mind thinks. 

You would be shock by the number of Mutallab in the north. , more than 100,000 of them. Here is it. It would not cost us anything to  removing the yorubas, edo, delta and bayelsa into benin republic and make the north majority.

Here is an highway in benin republic, there is no sure high in Yorubaland, edo, delta and bayelsa who are in Nigeria. Please people can go to satellite picture and check and if you find one call me liar. This highway takes 6 cars and from the nigeria boundary to cotonue and longer than the badagry expressway, which only take 4 cars. nearly 20 kilometer longer.

this is so funny. have u actually heard of such a thing happening? for half of a country to be sent away to another country and for the other half to occupy the entire space. LOL! so u think the Beninoise would be waiting with open arms to receive us, right? if the rest of nigeria goes to benin, the north wont become a majority, they'll be the only ones. what about sharing the northerners amongst mali, chad and niger. God knows they are pretty much the same anyway. they share the same religion and speak the same language so assimilation shouldn't be too difficult. i understand your asking that they secede and form their own country, it's actually a good idea. makes more sense to suggest that we create a border between north and south and become separate countries. but that the rest of us should pack up and drive into benin  . is this how much they want to lay their hands on the oil in the south?

the boyfriend has probably contacted the virus already so you might as well tell him to his face. they'll be busy fighting each other no one would have time to quarrel with you. i think the guy should sue her or something, this is very wicked. but then, how do you know she didnt already tell the guy; it's possible he also has HIV and they decided they are a good match.

i feel a little sorry for him because of his age. he's too young to throw away his future, and a good education. at the same time, i am angry at him for allowing himself to be used to bring shame to his family & country.

on one hand i feel a 23 year old shouldn't have to spend the rest of his life paying for a crime he committed, and in a foreign jail at that. but when i think of what would have happened if he had succeeded and how being an extremist he would probably do this again if he had the chance, i feel he deserves a life sentence.

i guess it's the parents i feel very sorry for because it's not their fault. anybody can become radicalized, whether rich or poor. it's something parents can only pray against.

becomrich;:
what attack. No war my friend.


We have to look for ways to fund it, share revenue.  While Oil revenue be shared as Derivation is 25%, North Nigeria is 33 %( 16 state) south Nigeria 42% (20 state). while each countries keep its taxes.

i know this is off-topic, but i just had to ask. are you saying we should split the country into 2 , and still fund the northern country? if they are a country why should we fund them when we have issues of our own?

wow, this guy didn't see anything positive. i pray for a good 2010 oh.

sodconfirm:
IT IS SUCH A VERY BAD NEWS THAT IT DID NOT WORK OUT FOR HIM, I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT THE GUY IS NOT silly AND ALSO HE IS NOT A LOW LIFE naughty person AS YOU THINK AND MANY MORE ARE OUT THERE WILLING TO DO IT FREE OF CHARGE, HE LIVES IN THE MOST EXPENSIVE HOUSES IN LONDON, EACH FLAT ON THE STREET COSTS 4 MILLION POUNDS WHICH MEANS HE IS NOT BOKA-HARAM KNOWN TO CONSIST OF ILLITERATES AND LOW-LIFE PEOPLE BUT THEY ARE STAND UP FOR SAME REASON. HAVE YOU EVER TAKEN YOUR TIME TO LISTEN TO THE VIEWS OF THE SO CALLED TERRORIST OR YOU DECIDE TO LIVE ON THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY THE WESTERNS AND THEIR ALLIED MEDIA. THE PEOPLE HE IS TRYING TO FIGHT ENGINEERED THIS ATTACK THAT KILLED 1,400 PALESTINIANS IN THE GAZA STRIP MAINLY WOMEN AND CHILDREN http://www.vtjp.org/background/imagesgaza.php , THOUGH ISREAL CARRIED OUT THE ATTACKS BUT THE DEADLY WEAPONS USED WERE MADE AND SUPPLIED BY U.S, U.S DID NOT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT TILL DATE AND AS YOU KNOW ISREAL IS THE CLOSEST ALLIED TO THE U.S IN THE MIDDLE EAST, RIGHT NOW THERE IS A SHIP IN JORDAN TRYING TO BRING IN FOOD AND MEDICAL AIDS TO THE PALESTINIANS AFFECTED BY THE WAR BUT EGYPT DID NOT ALLOW THEM TO PASS THEIR BODERS DUE TO ISREALI PRESSURE NOT TO ALLOW THOSE ITEMS IN, CAN YOU TELL ME WHY?, WHERE IS THE MERCIFUL U.S NOW?, WHO IS A WAR CRIMINAL/TERRORIST NOW? WHERE IS THE NICE SMILING FACE OF OBAMA NOW?

         ALSO THE MERCILESS DRONE ATTACKS ON CIVILIANS IN AFGHANISTAN, PAKISTAN, IRAQ ,YEMEN AND MANY OTHER COUNTRIES OF THE WORLD, CAN YOU JUST WAKE UP AND DECIDE TO TAKE REVENGE WHEN NOTING HAS BEEN DONE TO YOU OR YOUR MUSLIM BROTHERS?. I AM A CHRISTIAN BUT WHEN I GOT TO HEAR THE OTHER SIDE OF THE STORY, I KNEW THE TRUTH AND LIVED ON IT. HE WHOM YOU SEE AS A TERRORIST IS A HERO TO SOME PEOPLE. FIGHTING BACK BY THESE MEANS IS THE ONLY WAY TO GET THEIR VOICES HEARD AND THE ONLY WAY TO SHOW SUPPORT FOR HIS BROTHERS. HE MEANT ON ATTACKING THE U.S THAT IS WHY HE DID NOT DESIGNATE THE EXPLOSIVE IN AMSTERDAM OR ON AIR UNTIL ABOUT 20 MINS TO LAND IN DETRIOT, HE WANTED TO ATTACK ON U.S SOIL. DO NOT LABEL HIM A TERRORIST BECAUSE THOUSANDS OF AMERICAN TROOPS ARE OUT THERE KILLING CIVILIANS AND CALLING THEM CASUALTIES OF WAR. DAAMMMM IT.

that is so sick! that you would even think terrorism is rational is a shame. so he is not a terrorist if he decides to attack on US soil? would you think it right if some ibo guys were to start blowing up other nigerians because of the biafran war? you obviously have a problem drawing the line between military action and terrorism. many people worldwide condemn US military action in afghanistan and iraq, but to use that to justify terrorism is shallow. don't forget that the arab terrorists even blow up their own citizens, they use their children as bombs. we don't need that in nigeria.

nigerians have already had to put up with a lot of violence in the name of avenging islam. we have loads of problems as it is and don't need to add terrorism to it. if anyone feels the need to identify with their arab brothers we're not saying they shouldn't. next time one of these fanatics decides to take it upon himself to avenge islam, maybe he should FIRST denounce his nigerian citizenship and take up some arab citizenship before going ahead with the terrorist act.

i presume it was this kind of ideology that made the mutallab guy throw away a promising future and embrace terrorism. so i can only hope the relevant authorities are keeping tabs on you.

IbrahimB:
Today was a sad day. Everyday I gain more insight into why Nigeria doesn't work. Why our electricity, our roads, our governments don't work. We hate each other. Yes, that's right: We hate and distrust each other so much that cooperation is impossible. It's like a hopeless marriage that is crying bitterly for a divorce.

Suddenly one man's madness has spiralled into names-calling and diatribes! Too bad.

this man's madness adds another negative image to nigerians collectively, thus, people here have the right to be angry. maybe the name-calling is a little harsh, but i think we would all be happier if this was how muslims responded to provocation.

nigeria is not working because of corruption, not because of hatred. there have been improvements in some states, and i'm certain it's not due to increased love for one another.

lucian2:
I have a dream that one day the children of the high and mighty will so mess up their families` names that  their parents or relations will live in perpetual misery. Then the children of the poor will rise and like the provabial rejected stone, provide succour to teeming disenchanted Nigerians. Last time it was Prof Adeniran`s son in America  and that cost him an ambassadorial post and now it is the Muttalabs. WHAT A SHAME!!!

the children of the poor are not saints, their families have just not made names for them to soil.

lucian2:
I may not agree with you on this. I strongly believe that our strength lies in our diversity. Splitting Nigeria will not solve the problem. People should not dress this vexed issue in the toga of ethnicity or religiosity. It has no ethnic conotaion as there are bad eggs in every ethnic group or religion.

i used to believe in this 'our strength is our diversity' thing, but this issue has got me wondering if we are too diverse for our own good. i believe diversity is normally a great thing, except it would be better if we had to deal with either ethnic or religious diversity but not both. our situation as a nation is more like polarity than diversity. apart from the yorubas, we have a largely christian south  while the north is made up mostly of hausa muslims. in the south, we somehow manage to keep our religious differences in the background and identify more with our ethnic groups. so a yorubas, irregardless of religion, can see themselves as one entity and see ibos as another. this doesn't make us any less muslim or christian. islam has so overshadowed the hausa culture that it's so hard to look through it and see a nigerian from another tribe. we might as well be sharing a country with arabs.

Eziachi:
I don't think any real or true Christian will give a monkey whatever you decide to say or call Christ, as Christ is alive and powerful enough to fight and defend himself against anybody. Vengance is mine says the "Christian Christ".
So a real Christians should not serve any God that he/she will be fighting or defending by killing other people, but rather a God that will do the opposite for him.  
Had the Islamic faith embraced the same principle, there will not be suicide bombing and all the stuff, some of their nutcases says they are doing trying to defend their god.

true!

mafioso:
I think is High Time they Split this Nation Before All These Muslim _{Ba.r.s.t.a.r.d.s} Let The Americans Invade Us

sad as the idea of a split nigeria is, it kinda makes sense now.

@ Topic,

yes i can be a housewife if my job is making it hard to spend time with my kids AND if my husband is wealthy enough to pay me a competitive salary. he has to pay me something comparable to what i would earn if i were working because i wouldn't want to be asking him for money for my personal needs. my primary reason for wanting a career is financial stability, so if my husband can fulfill that need then i don't mind being a housewife.

they are both equally greedy. however, the rich have experience on their side which in turn has given them more opportunities to make more money. the poor, on the other hand, have no experience about money making and fewer opportunities.

Be_Blessed:
Edo names no get better pronounsation for mouth at all and no dey sweet to call. If they manager form dictionary way they go call say na Nigeria Dictionary e no go dey inside, but we fit manager calabar name than edo names cos Edo names names dey overlong and the spelling dey always dey upside down,

chukwudi01:
These Edo names look brutal. Why not spare your future child any future heartbreak and give him/her an English first name? Then you can save one of those 15-letter Edo names to be the middle name. 

no way, i think edo names rock! especially bini names, but i think they are all cool. it's just that people from other parts of the country don't bother to learn how to pronounce the names correctly and so they think it's really hard.

i once used to keep a scale by my bedside and step on it upon rising in the morning, and hundreds of times during the day. i threw it away eventually and now i dont have a scale so i can only check my weight in the gym. i still count calories though, i check the calories in bread, rice, cereals, chicken, pita, frozen vegetables, biscuits, flavoured water, yoghurt, chocolate, chips, basically anything that comes in a pack. i even have a list on my computer of the calories in the unpackaged raw foods i normally buy. i even check the % of carbs, proteins, fibre etc. i spend at least 70% of my time online reading up nutrition, health and fitness articles.

i wish i could channel all that energy into my workouts though. i've pretty much got a handle on my nutrition but i still have to drag myself to the gym. i'd love to be obsessed about exercising.

i eat anywhere from once to five times a day. depends on how energetic i feel; on school days i'm quite active and i eat 4 or 5 meals, mostly healthy. but when i'm on hols (like i am now) i usually don't feel up to cooking so i skip all my meals until midnight when i can't handle the hunger anymore. then i reason it would take me at least 30 mins to cook and i can't wait that long. so i normally would go to the 24hr corner shop on my block to buy snacks and end up eating almost 1000 calories at a go.

i used to buy only canned or microwave foods before, then earlier this year i decided to go healthy and start cooking everything myself. when i'm good, i cook all my meals and i eat really healthy. the problem is most of the time the laziness to cook trumps my hunger. so many times i just sit at my computer or lie in bed with my head pounding and my stomach growling while my kitchen is stocked with healthy meats, grains and vegetables.

i normally try to go to the gym 3 times a week. spend 20-30 mins doing cardio, and 20-30 mins using weight machines. i never feel like i pushed myself hard enough though. i know i should do something more intense with free weights but whenever i peep into the free weights room and see all those really buff guys, and the well toned ladies in sport bra and shorts showing off their well defined abs, i can't summon enough courage to go in. maybe i should also buy myself a set of those kettlebells and start working out at home.

princekevo:
Are you indirectly encouraging poor hygiene?

no i'm not encouraging poor hygiene. there's a naturally acquired kind of immunity; people develop resistance to certain pathogens as a result of exposure to them. someone can grow up in a slum, use dirty public toilets, drink dirty tap/well water, bathe in a dirty river, play/walk in mud, and still become a very healthy adult. whereas, someone who grew up with excellent hygiene can use a dirty toilet once or drink dirty water once and fall really ill. this is simply because he lacks immunity to the pathogens due to his lack of exposure to them.

what happened to dr-patient confidentiality? the dr should be sued, this is so wrong. he had no business telling you about your girlfriend's abortions.

she's also wrong for hiding it from u, but if u love her u should be able to overlook what she did before she met u. it's not like she was cheating on u. afterall, u must have dated other girls before her also.

to those guys saying the girl lived a rough life, i wont be surprised if some of u have made girls abort one or more babies for u. it's no secret that many nigerian girls have to abort multiple pregnancies for one guy, and eventually the guy ends up breaking up with them. u can't say a girl who was faithful to one guy for several years lived a rough life. she simply allowed her guy take advantage of her.

yes, give her an ultimatum. also encourage her to find out her talents/interests/hobbies and go for a related course. she's probably feeling less than capable for the more popular university courses but you have to let her know she is free to study anything.

SapeleGuy:
The Urhobo's are merely trying to establish their pre colonial sovereignty, all ethnicities who want to do this should be allowed to do so.

if any tribe really wants to reestablish their precolonial sovereignty, they'll have to secede and form their own country. that's not something that they can achieve as a state within a country. imagine what it would look like if other tribes were to start clamouring for their own states? the Binis? Itsekiris? they also had established precolonial kingdoms. who would get warri? that would probably cause another crisis. how big and economically viable would each state be if we were to give each tribe a state? i bet even Urhobos would need more than one state because then we would see that there are divisions even among them.

that guy who said we need to scrap all 36 states was right. the rest of the world is thinking globalization but we are thinking division. europeans are bringing down economic and social borders in the interest of development but we're trying to erect borders. of what use is sovereignty in the absence of development?

i was bottle-fed from day 1 and was prone to allergies, asthma, colds.

i was allergic to eggs as a child. i think i outgrew the allergy somewhere along the line but don't know for sure as i didn't start eating eggs till i was 19. then i noticed i have a kind of intolerance to eggs; i can eat a pack of 10 eggs over a period of one month to 6 weeks without any problem. but if i eat eggs for about 3 or more consecutive days then i develop mild symptoms.

also, i noticed last year that i'm sensitive to groundnuts. i get allergic symptoms (oral & ear) everytime i eat boiled groundnuts. as for the roasted groundnuts, i've only noticed symptoms when i ate a lot at once, or ate them quite frequently.

i have an uncle who had severe allergies to red meat, and a cousin who is allergic to fish, eggs and draw soups. i wonder if there is a genetic component to allergies.

redsun:
African children on average,even with all the nightmares mothers face are born healthy and able but in the west,with all the cares and protections almost one in twenty births are in some way deformed or diseased.Yes i agree infant mortality is higher in africa mainly due to complications at birth and poor public hygiene but infant disability is considerably lower for now compare to the west.

People should avoid preserved and imported food,they are not idle for human consumption,especially baby foods.

actually poor hygiene strengthens babies' immune systems.

nice article.

a Breebor/Threnon combination would be great

i think a wealthy man can find love. problem is sometimes wealthy guys want to go for the most popular girls. then it becomes a show of which guy has more money to shower on her. plus, wealthy guys probably move in circles where everyone is thinking of how to make more money.

a wealthy guy with a good attitude would find love eventually, even if his wealth serves as the original attraction. a good-hearted girl, even if she was attracted by a guy's money, would learn to love him truly with time. afterall gold-diggers need love too.

guys need to stop trying to impress with money, don't act poor cos no one wants a poor guy. just don't make money a big issue in a relationship. be generous but don't let girls become financially dependent on you

hevysomtin:
~lwkm u r either the preacher or the preacher's wife! lwkm~ either way u r PREACHING!!!!

i'm not sure i understand

JProspero:
I think the reason Igbo marriages seem to last longer than most other marriages in Nig and the world is because of the bride price and other ceremonies that accompany marriage. When a man remembers the trouble he passed thro to get his wife, he thinks twice before deciding to send her home and marry a new wife. And in Igboland it is increasingly becoming shameful and out-dated for a man to marry two wives or divorce his wife and marry another.

i'd rather have a man choose to stay with me, despite having spent little or nothing to get me, because of love. than have a man stay with me because he has invested so much time and money. i agree with you though that igbo marriages seem to be better than other nigerian ones. i think it's because igbo men respect & treat their wives better than other guys. but then, they probably do that because of the bride prices they paid.

i think we should do away with bride prices, or ask for something other than money that isn't expensive. i heard that there's a yoruba town where they charge according to the girl's level of education. PhD holders attract the highest sum of about 8,000 naira. i think that's very reasonable, except the idea that an educated girl is worth more than the uneducated one isn't good.

la amour:
i just want to find out if she shld go ahead to marry him suppose he takes the rite steps to disslove the trad marriage ladies i want to know if u can marry a guy that has such issues.another thot comes to mind if the other lady refuses to disslove d trad wot dn happens

traditionally, i doubt that the lady has much say in such matters. afterall, men used to simply send their wives packing without any form of alimony or legal divorce proceedings. besides, many nigerian traditions are supportive of polygamy so i guess there's nothing traditionally wrong with marrying one woman after paying the bride price of another.