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n this is wat u call passive agressive at its peak. Tacha, ignorre . E go pain am

Mercy, Uve won already, be a class act by exuding grace.

Mr. King or Mrs Queen, Wehdone

N you are still calling her girlfriend. If you like it, then u shoulda put a ring on it. Omelette ati 2 boiled eggs...ur belle fit be warehouse o

mariga:
Just got back from the Gym this morning and met this!

Fried plantain ✅
Potato chips ✅
Omelette ✅
Boiled eggs ✅
Baked beans ✅
Custard ✅

With a girlfriend like mine, hunger won't kill you!

You're right. Who agrees to stay at the other side of the same town after marriage?

cococandy:
She actually doesn’t feel like she deserves better.
If she did, her actions would show it.

He's busy feeling soooo eligible.

Everybody is saying the wifey should take the guy back. Why cant they see she deserves better?

cococandy:
He’s a joker seriously

Says the same person that says ' She's never had unprotected sex with anyone and she doesn't lie....

cococandy:
And we all laughed and laughed and laughed

Hello, thank you for weighing in on this discourse and taking your time to pass the point I was trying to make in a more manly fashion.

I agree with you that it is rare to see successful Nig men do chores. That was exactly why I specified that taking care of kids esp pre -5 year olds should not really be counted as a chore in the same class as doing dishes. It is also not something that should be left entirely to a woman particularly a career woman. A lot of stuff goes on with househelps and so many people have adopted precautionary measures. I don't really want to go into details but I know people who dont leave their kids alone with maids, who dont leave a driver to pick up kids from the school alone etc.

Personally, I have a maid but am principally responsible for childcare of my kids till like 3 months. I have certain preferences and prefer to oversee that. I wont allow my baby sleep with a nanny and it gets really crazy at that stage. If a husband cannot render assistance with even childcare then in my opinion its not worth it.

I dont sell stuff on instagram. Doubt Im good at selling stuff, even marketing job with bank I no want and I thank God for how far He has brought me but even if I did, does it disqualiy me from receiving help from my better half? I dont think so

raymi:
Bro, I partially agree with you on your take because I feel it is rare (although not impossible) to find a wealthy man CONSISTENTLY doing house chores. I don't think it's out of pride tho (many rich folks are more humble than you think) but because of a busy schedule or other reasons. However, it is also important to make your woman feel loved and not over-burden her.

Also, I don't think it's necessary to be condescending to lady folks here. You can respectfully disagree with someone's opinion. Even if they sell bags, hair etc on IG, it's honest living. Majority of today's big entrepreneurs had mentors and started really small. Even if you're the richest person in the world, you can still be a decent human being and be nice to everyone. The kindness and love you spread around comes back around to you.

Lastly, life is not black and white. Every family is different. In some families, both partners are busy with their jobs & work-life and no party does any house chores consistently. If you tell a woman to know her place because she cooks and cleans for you, she, in turn might take the perspective that you're her slave cos you work your ass off daily while she's at home watching TV and enjoying herself. Women are a gift to men and should be cherished, not subjugated. We need them badly and they fill a vital role. Each party in a relationship or family has an important role which must be fulfilled and that role varies depending on your schedule or your likes. Some men enjoy massaging and cooking for their wives. It doesn't make them lesser men. It's all about compatibility, one's likes, accepting your role and feeling comfortable doing it. To each his own or so they say.

lol, it's the internet. U can be anything u want to be on the internet

Mainsource:
Lmao ..

Will you shut up you this hopeless liar.....are you not nwanneni the boy boy of chief Wilberforce.... since you don cast with your original account for sexuality section now you don run go dey create multiple accounts come food section to dey make empty noise in the midst of babes because dem no sabi you abi.... useless pikin.. ....

If na me, I go run sha. Life is too short to be trapped in an unhappy marriage. I cant stand threats ... U earn 100k and she wants 50k , is that like a monthly amount or a one off. Well, shina ya eyes

pappy2000:
This is alady that I go on my knees when she visit me that I promise to worship her for the rest of my life, I told her I am ready to give her 50k out of my salary'yet she said that is not enough that she wants to open a shop , I am just damn tired her delivery date is April yet last week she told me she went to see a doctor to plead with him to evacuate the pregnancy

Either she was pretending or its pregnancy hormones. Give her a proper talk and postpone the wedding if need be. Who sells a car to buy okada for heaven's sake?

pappy2000:
I really dont want to brak her sister heart because she has spent her money n energy to make this realtionship work but now my wife is just irrational. I told her its a step at a time but she insisit i should do all, she is asking for phone i must her a new set of chair and do proper wedding all at once, she even suggested i should sell my car n buy okada

Why go ahead to marry her when you are planning on a divorce?

pappy2000:
now she is everything i dont like in a delay i am even thinking of commiitting sucide because she conplains that i am not a man . I just cry and cry all day , i have no tears left in my eyes. she is just irratioanl always asking me for money.. she is very unloving , i am planning to ivorce her as soon as i marry her.

The tomato on the jollof rice. So beautiful... can I change my name to darling please?

cococandy:
Spicy goat for my darling. Served with medemede.

What would you remove from this plate?

I don tire to derail thread. Abeg, whatever works for you biko. Rushes to sell hair ati makeup on instagram...afterall na honest work

Iogobenz:
So for this your age you still get mentor and shame no dey catch you to talk am...
Ndi mentor.No go outside and go and look for money,be bragging with your mentor.
I be think say you even get sense,abeg make I stop here.
I've been engaging a slay queen since,no wonder comprehension is so difficult.
I'm sure you also sell hair,perfume and bags too on Instagram.
Na always una hustle be that forming CEO upandan and having mentors left,right and centre.
So your mentor husband dey follow wash plates for house ba?ide ki bu.
Spits!

Is that an Lv bag I see.

First of all, I wasn't quoting you so I'm not sure what you mean about being indirect. I was responding to ornicus and agreeing with him.

I don't care if you are poor or not. U def are not paying my Bill's n I'm too proud to beg a braggart like u.

I never said I'm at the top of my game but I def have female mentors who are at the very top of their game and I'm as certain as can be that their husbands help out.

N stop saying only poor men help their wives. Thats bull and you know it.

Iogobenz:
Madam If you want talk,do so direct.
I know say wealth is relative,but that still doesn't make me poor.
You dey mention women at the top of their game,are you one of them?
See this one ooo.
The women that are there,imagine where their husbands will be.So to solve this problem,they'll just hire help.
If at all you want compete,it should be between you and logobenz.
No tell me say there are women that....you no be person?Or them break your hand?
I know all about powerful Women cos my mom is one so keep your shit to money.
But for the last time,only poor men share chores with their wives.
You can't even have the guts to tell me about chores.No na.

Pretty sure I saw your name on the Forbes list of paupers. Wats so amazing is that wealth is relative. He keeps flaunting wealth which is penury to some others. I dont wanna think its the females he knows. There are female directors of companies, managers with KPMG, PWC, Oil companies....so their husbands watch them kill themselves with chores after working. I laugh in swahili

ornicus:
Shit I’m officially a pauper. Dayuuum.

Las las logo will have to marry one village mgbeke. These Behind chicks you dey look at may not allow their will to be bent like that.

Even then no guarantees. They enter city and tear eye. While oga is out of town all week chasing money, she is in nightclub riding dicks upandan. Happened right in my close in FESTAC.

Yeah and the reason why I kept responding is to stop the shaming of men who do chores esp childcare including religious leaders. There are some stuff I can not ask a maid to do like a newborn should not sleep with a nanny. I'm typically sleep deprived during the 1st three months. Now should my husband not offer a helping hand because he's Bill Gates?

cococandy:


If only they knew how many naija men actually do chores at home.
Certainly not the majority but a significant number do.

They just don’t tell their friends so that they won’t be ridiculed by other men (who probably also do chores too)

You're trying to show off that you are in Amelika and we locals will now be trying to force our husbands to do chores wen our name is not coco baby. Wehdone ma

cococandy:
Starting a work free day with a breakfast mimosa (champagne + OJ) and strawberry waffles.

Wat really got me tired is when u class looking after kids as some hard core chore. Like u didnt play an active role in getting them here. I just cant believe its 2019.

cococandy:


What does America have to do with this conversation?

Even in America there are 100% housewives whose husbands don’t share chores with them. They live 100% traditional (in the true English traditional sense because our traditional African moms were bread winners).

You’re who you are regardless of where you stay.

My days are not numbered biko. N I never said my husband has money. Read carefully again but dont you know any women that work including your lovely sis.

Cheers and best wishes too.

Iogobenz:
A Woman's perspective?
I have 4 sisters.some married,some aren't so I know everything about a woman's perspective.
Also,perspective doesn't change REALITY.
Better tell these single bimbos here the truth.But if what you are saying here about your household is the truth and your husband has money,know that your days are numbered in that house.
This is not America!No let cococandy fool una.
So me providing for you and the kids isn't love language too huh?I wish you were my wife for a day so that we can switch positions and you tell me how it feels.
No man that has gone through the hurdles of becoming a real man share chores with any woman.I still stand by that.
He can help out only when he wants to,not mandatory.
Only poor men do that.Fact!
Women,know your place so that peace can reign in your homes.

Yeah it is but it is not a taboo.

Chukwurah003:
Farting is disgusting

Apology accepted. Cheers

lilbest4:
sorry for the insult, I somehow misinterpreted your post.

I think for hygiene reasons. N possibly for aesthetic reasons. I have a close friend who declined cos they said they didnt want to as they didnt have the child consent at that age. It literally petrifies me to think about it.

lilbest4:
I asked you a simple question why is it such a huge and oppressive deal when no one sees anything wrong with strapping a male child down and mutilating the most sensitive part of his body without his consent?
Is it because a boy is at the receiving end?

Funny guy. Im sure you get my point but prefer to twist it around. Im not looking for a guy. I guess then that Im in the best position to tell you the truth from a woman's perspective. I cook for my hubby daily but I'll be furious if he didnt help out with the kids. It doesnt hurt to help ur spouse. Its actually a love language for some humans called acts of service.

Thread derailed enough. Apologies to my Cooking Champions.

Iogobenz:
Who said anything about you being my spouse?
Jeez!!!na so you dey find man reach?
How much money do I have?I've only got 10k ma na why I say make you introduce me to that your large circle so that I go blow too na.
Then come marry you so that you go dey turn fufu for me morning,afternoon and night.
I hope you know I don't eat eba?so turning fufu for me alone might kill you before your time and I don't eat stale food.Ever fresh
Funny girl.

I actually thought u were intelligent since u were so quick to throw around the idiot word around. Im sure you are unaware of the risks of scarring but the word, mutilation should have given you an insight. Feel free to support it all in the guise of raising chaste females but remember when filling visa forms to the Uk and maybe US, you will be asked to indicate if you have ever supported the act.

lilbest4:
Why is female genital mutilation such a huge and oppressive deal when male circumcision is a celebrated tradition almost all over the world?

Unfortunately, there are people who'll listen to her and believe its the gospel and start harrassing poor wifey on that basis like the Nig woman doesnt have enough ish to contend with.

lilbest4:
lol. Exactly what the idiotic lady wanted, knowing fully well that idiots like you are everywhere. Farting is not a taboo anywhere just that it's a turn off

Sorry, Im not an idiot. Too late to be termed one. Next!

lilbest4:
lol. Exactly what the idiotic lady wanted, knowing fully well that idiots like you are everywhere. Farting is not a taboo anywhere just that it's a turn off

Not interested in introducing you to anyone. Maka Y?

Just bored stiff with you propagating your usual misogynistic messages under the guise of my container no na high sea. N in my opinion u dont count as rich o, so wats the big deal bout being ur spouse that'll sentence me to a lifetime of chores since u say rich men dont do chores. How much money do u have sef?

Iogobenz:
My circle isn't wide enough?
You don't know me
I still re-iterate.
Only men that are poor in Nigeria share chores with their wives.
Please kindly introduce me to that your large circle.
I need me some help too...

Na dem. Always trying to use culture and religion to oppress women. Is it also a crime for a man to fart in the presence of his wife? Now that we have social media n it should be used to condemn stuff like mutilation of female genitals, horrible widowhood practices, and even baby factories - all she's concerned about is to propagate crap. Perhaps to make herself sound like a wifey material par excellence.

Watched a prior video of this same annoying woman insisting husbands be served with 'brekkable' plate. Is it your husband? Every man knows wat works for him and there's no universal formula.

Only poor men u know.....

Speak for yourself bro and those you know. I have a different set of facts and since u seem to be speaking with a certain measure of assurance, permit me to be believe that the problem is that your circle isnt wide enough.

Iogobenz:
I simply said no man that is doing well and fulfilling his obligations do chores.
He can help out when he wishes to,not share chores!
Only poor men clean the house,care for the child and cook in the name of helping wifey.
You can take this to the bank.

N didnt you read where she said her Nig bro in law living in Nig. I guess u are also in every one's pocket and bank account to know those who are rich or not. Mr I too rich

Iogobenz:
Our point has always been Nigeria ma.
Only poor men share or do chores with their wives in Nigeria.
If you want to try,relocate with your husband to Nigeria let me see if he will share chores with you.
Or you no know say n.a. because e dey fear make you no divorce am cone share em properties na why e dey help out?
Or you want just let us know say you dey Yankee?
Only poor men do that shit!
#Spits.
So after working hard to provide I come begin wash plates and all?
In fact all of you are very stupid.

Sounding like you are all that....

Iogobenz:
Maid or nanny is a luxury every where in the world and you know what they say about luxuries.
Our finances have to be the determinant of getting a maid or not.If I can,sure.If Not,she Better take off her heels and talons and get busy.
Let it sink in well.