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My sis, u sef see am....

cococandy:
See entitlement

But you can get pregnant for him. Anyway, I know you are trolling.
You can't be serious. Eleyin gidi gan

Ifyjos:
He doesn’t have his own place yet but soon. How can I go and live with him when he hasn’t paid my pride price yet ?

Cos she loves, knows you deserve more and that u can be better than this. Your sis works in a bank n was in a proper relationship. Don't you want better for yourself? If she's minding her business, will she give money to help with your child's education? May God have mercy on you

Ifyjos:
Yes it is her money and she doesn’t owe me anything, but what can’t she mind her business and let me and my guy be in peace?

I pity you!!! So, what have you been doing to improve yourself?

Ifyjos:
I was 14 when we started dating and very matured , he choose me because he knew I wasn’t childish like my other age mate. Anyways that’s a story from another day , right I’m thinking how to resolve this problem. I want my sister to be happy again

I agree with this. The guy will always have doubts bout her loyalty to loved ones. But the story Kent be true...

Acidosis:
You and your pedophilic boyfriend deserve to be re-arrested. Go and beg for forgiveness and get ready to face the consequence of your actions. You think your chimney drunken-master boyfriend will respect you for what you did to your own blood? Girl, you haven't seen anything.

Here we go again....

Say no to marital rape ie sex without your partner's consent.

bukatyne:

If it doesn't work, she should spike his drink and sleep with him

She should also pray.

Kemi sign your own endorsement and leave her alone. I'm not interested in dressing indecently but this is a clear case of removing the log in your own eyes. Mcheww

Coming from an Angelic Being drives the point even further. @ Marry -ga, disobey her at your own peril...

AngelicBeing:
Hian, if you don't marry these woman cooking good meals for you that is keeping you healthy, l will track you down, submit your details to DSS / EFCC/ FBI / CIA / SECRET SERVICE / ISREAL MOSSAD to ensure that you will not marry any other woman again in Nigeria.

l will send a copy of your BVN to Buhari and CBN to make sure that you can't do banking services nor withdrawal in Nigeria..

I give you till December 31st, 2019 to openly announce your engagement / traditional marriage to the iyawo cooking food for you daily or else l will contact Buhari to initiate your arrest to ASO ROCK for questioning, signed by the President of the Association of those rooting for the woman cooking your food

@ Same ultimatum applies to Prestonn / Chaser and Queen Mariangeles

U need advice for what Even, the Bible says flee from all appearances of evil. U dey hear am? FLEE

calamitous:
Hey guys I need your help regarding this:

My girlfriend and i weren't on talking terms for a while, six months to be precise, but last week she started talking to me all of a sudden and we kinda shared one or two mutual feelings that led, to sex.

But while she was about to leave, I kind of saw some drugs in her bag, when I asked her the purpose of the drugs she replied that they were for infection.

Meanwhile she previously told me that same morning that she needed some money to threat virginal infection. But one occurent led to one another that made me to suspect her only purpose for showing up was to infect me with HIV or some other STDs.

I don't know what to do regarding this issue but I'm planning on dealing with her if i get to find out she infected me with any STD on purpose...

Need advice guys and girls.

Irrespective of what her behavior was, does he sound like someone that deserves respect? N supposing she got no respect, so he drifted to another lady with more respect, why did he end up fighting with the new lady, sotay she lost two teeth? The common factor is the man. He needs to respect himself, his marital vows and other people. Respect begets respect.

Naijaonfire:
Please Madan, what was your behaviour towards your husband while in UAE, did you throw away your respect for your husband and started flexing muscles with him just because the govt of the country gave women a lot of powers and right? From your story, I think u were very stubborn to your husband and may have threaten to take him to the authorities over there. Your husband is only afraid to lose his family and all he has laboured if he takes you there with him because you have known the rights of women in the western world and will use it against him one day. Some of our African women becomes a sorrow/nightmare to their husbands when he out of his sweat, struggle to take his wife over there in abroad because of the love he has for her.

The only husband wey get vision.

GYMNASTIC:
Nne hold your breath and chose to stay alive, in case you are reading the comment here, pls take my comment serious, your husband has not scammed you, Your husband has a vision out side your vision, he want to single handedly handle the marriage to suit his vision, yes it may look as if he is being self centered but trust me he is not, the mistake he made is marrying a woman who has a vision and is not ready to let go of her vision in the name of marriage, He would have just marry a woman that is just hard working but does not have a vision.
If he mix his vision with your own he will not achieve what he really wanted in life.
He really love you so much but he does not know how to explain this or convince you to drop your own vision and allow him achieve his dream as a man and more so non of his explanation will convince you to let go of your vision.
Note am not asking you to be a coward but please send him a sweet text message, then take care of your children and be praying for him not to jam the wall in the pursuance of his vision. remember your own vision will not stand the test of time but his will stand the test of time in future. use your mouth to rebuild your union. do not think he is seeing another woman. if i go on and on the post will be too lengthy. but a word is enough for the wise. Marriage just like life is not a funfair, many people that you see that stays married today are those that let go of their precious vision. if you want to hear more let me know, cos i know how you feel.

Even the fish long pass the plate. Inviting myself this time around...

mariga:
Oha soup and Eba

#Lunching

So why didn't u write all this epistle, which is rather helpful, at first. Instead you started praisin Ibo guys for being all that, without finding out if he's Ibo in the first place.

franchasng:
She should prepare herself for the worst case scenario, brace herself up for a tough ride, forget the hubby for now, focus on things that can improve her financial life like focusing more on her fashion design business.....99.9% of people in the world aren't doing what they wished to do in life, including myself....I wanted to be scientist researching about space travels and writing books....but today, I have moved from being a practicing Engineer to an entrepreneur and part-time writer....so you see?

Life is not fair to anybody....many ladies wished they married at 25yrs at most, but some are 35yrs and counting no hubby, no serious boyfriend to even start with.....


Many graduates felt once they graduate, they start working with Chevron and Shell, but today, they are begging to be employed at Iya-Basira local restaurant, some begging to become tutors for 15,000naira monthly pay and they can't even get it.....


Many guys wished to build their own mansion, have like 5 cars before they marry so their wife can have an easy, luxury wife while their kids live the best of life, but they are 40yrs plus, some 30something years and can't even boast of a girlfriend all because they are unemployed, broke and depressed....so you see


Op saying she never wished to do fashion designing instead that she wished to be working and maybe earning fat salary of her dream or something means she is not ready to face the reality of life....many ladies discovered their fast moving successful business when the going became tough that their hubby couldn't even afford to feed them....some it downed on them when they got divorced or impregnated and denied and they picked up their life and started one mumu business that later turned to a big company.....


Most successful business owners didn't plan to own one, some started their thriving business out of life frustration and today they are enjoying more than those doing paid job.


So in summary, all I am saying is that the op should forget her husband, act like he is dead or divorced....and pick herself up....focus on that fashion designing....believe me, there maybe where her greatness is, I have said my own

Assuming your claims are true, how does this help the Missus?

franchasng:
I am sorry to ask, is your husband a Yoruba man If yes, sorry to tell you that he has another wife somewhere, and probably another set of kids with the other wife.


Before they come after me, Yoruba men are known for marrying one wife and marrying some other secret wives they keep far away....truth is bitter.....


Igbo men will rather have one wife and have plenty mistresses and concubines, but no true Igbo man play with his wife that gave birth to children, including a boy for him....their stupidity don't usually get to that level unless some few Igbo men with mental illness, but I can tell you, it doesn't happen in Igbo land often as in Yoruba land.


Hausa men too seem not to value their families as much as Southern men...to be honest with you, the best men when it comes to treating their family like kings and queens are Igbo men, you can go figure out from Nigerian married women and see.

So op, brace up for the worst, prepare for the worst case scenario.....if your IELTS haven't expired, please hurry immediately and re-apply for express entry, if it is the fund you will pay after you are selected, don't worry.....post it here on Nairaland and ask the mods to push it to front page, maybe we can do a fundraising for you by then.


Like I said and I repeat, prepare for the worst, your husband is a husband from hell fire....what kind of man joke with his children I am tempted to call him demeaning names, but for your sake and to show some respect, I will keep my mouth shut today

Hmmm, she knows shes ovulating and your alarm bells are not ringing. When I was single,
Last thing on my mind was ovulation. Shes looking for sperm donor, so u better direct her to the nearest sperm bank or IVF clinic.

Benclever1:
Hello everyone.

So I met this girl through a mutual friend and we started bonding. Initially, I didn't take the friendship seriously because this lady is a little older than me and I do not see any future between us.

Now, things got more intense between us. She visited me one time, one thing leading to another, we were in bed, about to have sex and then I pulled out the condom but she refused, insisting that she doesn't enjoy sex with condom. I was very surprised to hear that, so I tried to make her see reasons why the condom is very necessary. She adamantly refused. We ended up not having the sex that day.

Just last week she visited again and we spent the night together. We tried to have sex again but the same issue came up again. She insisted I must not used condom. Now this got me upset. During the conversation that ensued, she made it very clear to me that she does not have any STD/STI so I should not be afraid. She however admitted that she was ovulating and that the chances of getting her pregnant was high, but that I should not worry that she'd take care of herself and the pregnancy, if it happens. She said that she would not force me to get involved with the baby if I don't want. However, she made very clear that she's not ready to get married. This got me confused.

I don't want to let my guards down by indulging in unprotected sex with someone I don't trust. I also do not want to hurt her feelings. So I plan to take her for medical tests next week and then we can kick it off from there.

What's your advise for me.

Thank you.

But you vote them in year after year, award chieftaincy titles to the pilferers and knighthood in some churches. So why must she burned?

EmptyCoconutHead:
here for Calabar we nor dey waste time.
just wrap a tire around her neck, spill her body with petrol, get a matches or a lighter and do the needful.
we got zero tolerance to pilferers.
what nonsense

Definitely. He would have won!

@op - it all depends on your combined earnings. Its possible your husband has budgeted that amount whilst making provisions for rent, investment, health care etc. Be open minded bout his feedback to see if there are any cheaper options. Remember that the costs will increase with kids - baby food, diapers, school fees etc. Best of luck

Thank you for your refreshing honesty...

nnamdibig:
No matter how you look at it, 30-35k is not too much for two adults that eats breakfast, lunch and dinner with meat. But know that there is always room for improvement.
Even someone living in states like Benue and Taraba where food stuffs are cheap will just be ok with 30k.

Mind you when we say 30k for food, I'm sure madam is also expected to by toiletries from there too.

Gbammest

MrBrownJay1:
if the wifey is doing her best to manage money-wise and hubby isnt happy about her spending then let him show her exactly how he can manage it himself. its not like wifey is spending more ON PURPOSE is it?! let them both go and do the shopping on a weekend so he can show her.... no big deal here.

how do you think wife feels when she tries her best to spend as little as possible but hubby says she spends too much?

What exactly is she sowing that she will reap. Shes stating facts and the way I see marriage, being open is paramount. Once the guy finds out, shes gonna be top toeing all thru marriage.

Mariangeles:

You are a bitter, unpleasant and unhappy fellow that I am sure of.
When you begin to spread happiness and comfort, then it'll return to you. Otherwise, forget it!
You can't have what you can't give.
What you sow, you reap.
I'm "goody two shoes" abi ? I'm glad you acknowledge that.

You think you have everything about life and health figured out ? YOU'RE IN FOR A SHOCKER!

I agree with you. Being manipulative is my ish...

abelswife:
Aunty, get of my mentions please. F. Off abeg go and cry elsewhere I don't have time for goody two shoes like you. Just f.off. Having a sickness is not a crime, but being manipulative about it is. Just fokoff and stop following me around.

I use it too except I'm cooking ukazi

sassysure:
Can u tell me why men use tomato to cook egwusi soup?

All tomato-eqwusi I have eaten were all prepared by guys. I have seen guys combine stew and egwusi in school too.
Is there a secret embedded there we don't know about
Also some 5 star hotels in Nigeria and big restaurants use tomato.

Na naija we dey. imagine!

akinjojo1234:
Imagine him bringing governors and the first lady to beg his own people to vote him back in. What arrant nonsense

uttered

Awol1:
Could it be this woman is Yaya Bello's sugarmummy true true?

This woman that never altered a letter of the alphabet during her husband's campaign is here campaigning for Yahaya.

Im not supporting her at all. I think she's pretty but wasting her good looks. I also think she's dumb, posting her picture after admitting to such foolery cos the internet never forgets.

J2381:
so you're supporting her?

Badagry? Like those in Dubai, Morrocco n even Ghana get two head?

smartblu:
'Will you travel with me to badagry'. That's my new pick up line.

What a pretty girl. What a waste. n when will peeps realise its not everything u download on social media.

Jonathan I know as per antecedents but wetin carry Buhari enter this matter? After intimidating everyone up to Chief Judge n Sahara Reporters himself, hes now cautioning against intimidation. Nah, we musto intimidate

n the custard too. President of Chop life gang Nairaland branch

PrincewithGod:
Plus the beans.........don't forget the beans.
This guy is really enjoying, but he should get married nah.

wetin u wan talk before

mariga:
Have heard you ma

Didn't eat the Boiled eggs again sef..