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GraGra247:
It happened in 2017 because all the ladies he abused this way many years up until that time decided to keep quiet so he can go ahead and abuse other ladies.

Abi, apc type of change

BlueRayDick:
The lady narrated an ordeal that happened 2017. What a change!

Guy u sound like the perfect husband material and I'm impressed. I think you should explore the medical option to assess if there's any reason why sex is so painful for her. Maybe endometriosis or maybe nothing. Hang in there and be patient with her. You have already noted her frustration with her issues. God bless.

emekagideon:
Yes bro we've spoken a lot over it she wants to please me as well I could remember vividly the day she was so determined to carry on she was literally crying and I was forced to stop cos o can't stand seeing her cry but she was like I shouldn't worry but I just have to

Yen yen yen...sharing chores is see finish. In what land? Apparently you lack the maturity to intervene so keep your advice to upcoming slay kings. Is sharing chores, the cause of his wife's dryness.

kunleweb:
1. She knows shell be rewarded for either bad or good behavior hence she sees no desire to improve performance. This even applies outside the bedroom. Stop rewarding bad behavipr, start placing demands on positive character



2. Sharing chores is see finish. You've reduced to being her first born or younger brother

Awon internet doctors. She's not depressed

kunleweb:
This is clear depression. Find out her stressors,better still she needs to see a psychiatrist to deal with unresolved psychological issues that are draining her energy and causing her to lose interest in pleasurable activities. If you have financial issues, you need to improve and up the game around your home. When the energy in the home is low,it will reflect in the sex life


She needs to speak with a shrink. You need to find her stressors. For starters help her reduce workload at home. Close early, get a house attendant, give gifts to stimulate and jump her internal happy emotions. Take her on vacations. Invest in building positive energy in her and as you build her spirit,soul and emotion up,shell in turn reward you sexually. Don't demand sex cause your a husband or man in this case,but build her up and shell reward you sexually. Its whorish,but this is the sad reality man.



She's clearly unhappy or has unresolved issues,you need to find and fix cause it has formed mental blockages that deprives you of the joy you desire.

Like they say in marriage what affects one,affects both


Missjoy29 DukeofNZ abi I lie?


See there's a how in every woman, you need to find how to drill it out. You need to stimulate desire for you. Dress better,look desirable, perfume,change of clothes,look good and feel good about yourself. The change in the sexual energy in your marriage needs you to work proactively as well.. Dress and feel good make yourself the rock star in town, when your value increases,desire for you increases simultaneously. Work on your finances,build yourself more and better.implement changes to your routine. Act like you don't need sex,in fact reduce demand for it, and when she comes back,regain the power control from her. Do not reveal too much of your emotions during sex like you need her. Have sex with her to make her feel she needs you and is missing a whole lot. You need to turn the table around NY making subtle,smooth and small changes here and there. Start being unpredictable, she can see through your patterns so you no longer demystify her.



To win a woman, you must begin by first mentally fvcking her. When her senses is fcbked out with lusts about you, shell be the one chasing. Bro she has seen you finish o



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What is he's HIV positive, you will still buy him a drink

Dear King Satan,

How does news about crime perpetrated by Nigerians help your economy? Stop Celebrating Vice

KingSatan:
AS LONG AS NIGERIANS KEEP CELEBRATING GRADES AND CERTIFICATES, I DOUBT THERE WOULD BE ANY REMARKABLE PROGRESS IN THE NEXT 60 YEARS.

HOW DOES HIS CERTIFICATE IMPROVE YOUR ECONOMY?

THESE LOTS DON'T EVEN RETURN HOME TO IMPROVE THE COUNTRY'S DILAPIDATED EDUCATIONAL SYSTEM.

THE CERTIFICATE IS JUST FOR THEIR FAMILIES AND FRIENDS.

STOP CELEBRATING MEDIOCRITY.

EDUCATION IN THE 21ST CENTURY SHOULD BE CORPORATIVE AND NOT COMPETITIVE.

Congratulations bro and Gods blessings on your home.

Alternate handle alert

But u owe Nigerians an explanation or maybe not since they were docile enough to give you a second term.

Amen

Austema:
I Love this, God bless You my dear

The most important lesson for the religious leaders is set boundaries. People like Pastor Adeboye dont counsel females without an observer in the room but some of us over stretch our capacity n I call it naivety.

You are gonna visit a widow alone under the concept of evangelism. Even Jesus said go in twos.

My first gynecologist will never examine me without a nurse in the room. Be practical, realize you are first of all flesh and blood n have hormones.

Be honest, realise when you're sexually attracted to someone you shouldn't be and avoid settings that will expose you to acting inappropriately.

Above all, remember why You were called and dont bring shame to the same name, you're meant to protect.

Take some time to educate yourself about statutory rape. For the mere fact that she was under 18, sexual relations at the coercion of a much older male is considered rape. N where u there or how did u sight her on his bed?

Miracle911:
Nigerian women and rape cases....
So you will go to a man's house, have cool bath, eat his food, lay on the same bed with him and you expect nothing to happen
Do these women reason from their Anus??

He's not your Elder brother neither is he your Father!
Man body no be fire wood .

Modify: to those quoting me upandan, m not talking about her own rape case alone,.... I didn't even read her story self

She has a lot to gain. She has satisfied her conscience by saving other potential victims from a possible predator. N if shes married, I cant see her hubby complaining, so wetin concern you?

Berankis:
Woman you no need am! You are married to someone now & have a lot at stake, pls let the past remain buried. You have nothing to gain from this chapter you about to start!!

Then shut it. If you dont have the courtesy to read the op, for chrissakes keep your unsolicited opinions to yourself.

Naija people are forever blaming the victims. Nonsense

Miracle911:
Nigerian women and rape cases....
So you will go to a man's house, have cool bath, eat his food, lay on the same bed with him and you expect nothing to happen
Do these women reason from their Anus??

He's not your Elder brother neither is he your Father!
Man body no be fire wood .

Modify: to those quoting me upandan, m not talking about her own rape case alone,.... I didn't even read her story self

Is it your face me , I face you. They look much more happier than some folks in mansions. Let them be

Army10:
That's looks like a face me, I face you house.

It's your type that force the celebs to put up pictures of things they don't own and then go on to mock them for being fake n u better learn that a happy wife is a happy man.

nairalanduseles:
Lol naija celeb ... look at the cheap leather lounge and outdated curtains......what a joke

My thinking is def not lopsided IJN. N so so sorry my Fanny was never swindled not to mention by several men. Keep with the threads, there must be something to it ure benefiting I can't fathom yet.

FannySwindler1:
Gloriagee. Are you saying you are gullible to have had your fanny swindled by different men?

Having fanny swindled is not about gullibility. You need to Change your orientation and thinking process. I am flabbergasted at your lopsided way of reasoning.

Thanks for your comments anyway.

Just amazed at ur peculiar brand of trolling. Cant think of anyone gullible enough to get their fanny swindled.

FannySwindler1:
Don't know where all these unattractive elements with negative vibes are coming from.

@Gloriagee. At least I am not trolling with your time or data. Why are you all trolling my post? You lots are the real troll... Posting inflammatory and digressive comments.


Or is it a way of offering me your Fannies to Swindle? Why don't you all come clean? Or stay away ftom my post.

Bro, u r good. Must give it to you for your high level trolling.

FannySwindler1:
theButterfly or is it theGutterfly. Whatever you call yourself. Why are you pained? If you are not in the right frame of mind and don't take my post serious, I am afraid, that's not my cup of tea. No one forced you here.


Take your destiny and opinion elsewhere, we don't need it here. Thanks for your myopic comment. Now that you have been noticed. "You are the Real Troll and Attention Seeker".

You could have just read and left the post. Stop following my post if you don't like it.. It's not by force to read or comment. Ok.

Warrisall this? Make up or make down.

Welcome to life...a place where people feel picking out your faults will make them feel better about themselves.

stevebond007:
Out of all the nice pictures, beautiful presented dishes.

All you guys could see was a flaw; in your own eyes?

Wow!

Nigerian universities are a perfect recipe for suicide...they breed frustration in ways that prove experience is not necessarily the best teacher. From the weird rigorous registration to the terrible lecture theatres n the crowning glory- the sadistic lecturers who take out their frustrations on the young. We have to overhaul the system but if u have the means, be like Buhari - school your kids abroad.

Bizarre stuff! who goes to the bro- in -law's house to dress inappropriately... She seems like she knows wat she's doing. Cant tell wat she will gain. Hian

Slimsly100:
Her sister the wife may not read any meaning to it but the young girl sure knows what she's doing.

I remember when I used to go visit my sister during semester breaks. I'll tie my wrapper over my nightwear cos I know it's transparent. I'll intentionally dress like an old woman anytime the hubby is around. And she'll keep asking me why I don't dress like my agemates. I asked her, don't I dress like a young lady when going out? She said yes u do. "All I'm doing is for ur sake" those were my words to her. She took a long look at me, decoded the message and smiled.

I repeat: the girl has ulterior motive.
I never washed my bro in laws clothes even when my sis suggested I told her point blank it's ur responsibility. So for the small madam to offer to do it and in a seductive manner like that, watch out.

In short no need for long talk, caution her after all, it's YOUR HOUSE.

Story for the gods...

lawman88:
Thanks. I have sat her and my wife down this morning and talk to lady concerning the dressing. My wife also said she was highly uncomfortable with her dressing but decided to keep quiet till one day she will send her out. The lady said she don't have other home wears. So my wife will get her some clothes later after church. Thanks

How did you keep sane with all this atrocities. My dear, take your time to heal. You need a healthy body, soul and mind to nurture your kids. If you can, try not to leave negative reports bout him on the net. N I might get roasted for this but when your kids are bout 18, tell them the facts about their dad. Wont want them to be his victims as well if he already sees them as his meal tickets. You dear are one strong woman. Dont feel less like you were not enough. This time around, if all you have narrated is true, then its him n not you. You will be alright in the end, otherwise it's not the end.

Coolesther:
Let me tell you he not only did quarter he did the whole lot, a man who wanted kids so he could be collecting their benefits. He took their money right from when they were babies up until some months ago, my first daughter would be 9 in July so please do the calculations, up till now he is still being chased for Child Maintenance. He left his job all because he didn’t want to pay for his children and ran from England to Scotland, well he is still in the UK and I know the law of the land will definitely catch him soon. As for saying I contributed, to him being who he is that’s a big FAT lie, if you want to talk about a loyal, hardworking, respectful woman you don’t have to look by further. Like I mentioned earlier on my only offence was to LOVE him just was it was supposed to be.

You are saying I contributed up him sleeping with a friend in our house who came on vacation, what about him having an online affair with other nairalander, who he sent to insult and humiliate me both online and offline, or you want to talk about his girlfriend buying my children’s Christmas gifts, pls don’t let me start.

Or I contributed to the fact that he refused paying rent for months and we were kicked out of our home, we had to go stay in a hotel before he abandoned me and my children to go to Uganda to go meet another woman.

Not sure I understand what you mean by "It Is not my opinion'.

A TTCing couple wherein a party is consistently hoarding the cookies typically has unresolved issues which needs to be sorted out rather than procreating.

bukatyne:
It is not my opinion.

The poster is understanding and considerate which is commendable.

@bold: a number of people especially TTCing, a spouse constantly hoarding the cookie or couples where a spouse is in transit would not agree with you.

It's not so much as spoiling them as much as knowing when to draw the line between letting children realise they are individuals as well as growing with an independent can do spirit and not spoiling them by giving In to their every demand.

crackhaus:
That's if you spoil them.

I know you will not agree.

You don't know children now have rights. No time to eat what is not their spec. Mum, I want to throw up...

merahki:
Hello
I was going for cheap breakfast
Akara and pap and milk
Bread and egg and hot cocoa not oats and pancake and cornflakes type -breakfast oo
Baby food? For the man oo cos I forgot that bit
Truly honestly exhausting, and feels like prison