₦airaland Forum

yvesboss:
OP on point

farady:
OP do you realise there are Nigerians earning just that amount whether N60k or N160k married with one or two kids or children. Some even with children in the universities and even still in the process of developing their small plot of land to erect a 2/3 room structure. Don't ask me why, go and have a chat with them and glean some wisdom on how to live life. A life of contentment.

DenreleDave:
U r having brainpain... Change the title.

Hamachi how about we do a remix of Babcock sex tape

ZIMDRILL:
courtship never brings out the true you, because you only see each other for fee hours and all needs and wants of your boy/girlfriend are not your full and sole responsibility


whereas the moment you get married, there is too much expectations from each other then extend families, finally life its throws in stones and boulders, trying to navigate through all that thats when you might realise that your thinking of how marriage is run is based on how you grow up

and how you grow up and now are different times and challenges. what worked for your parents doesnt mean it works for you and wife


with my little experience we fail, to ask and let your partner explain according to them how they think over an issue at hand, instead one enforce his/her way of thinking and solving an issue instead to hear the view of your other half and understand were there are coming from

usually it works in realising that your thinking are different and you can quickly find were you clash and find a solution to the clash and then proceed to find a solution to the problem

Magnoliaa:
Great books. It's all about discussion ... and sharing of bills, roles, etc. Expectations being addressed.

There's one, too - about Energizing Cycle and Crazy Circle.

Marriage is no that hard, a big deal, to me. There's nothing "new" in it that others haven't experienced. And you learn from them. It just demands things bigger than love and feelings. Like compatibility. I recall he wrote about a Christian and a Wiccan breaking up their relationship, because it can not work. And even among two Christians with different upbringing and outlook on spirituality.

zigzagluv:
majority of my friends are married, its not about friend , is girls mentality , have you bother to ask yourself why girls cheat

Dbeautyy:
I will advice every single lady/man or married couple's to read the book titled " Five love languages " and "Things i wish i had known Before We Married" By Gary Chapman there was a particular section dedicated to what you just stated above. For anyone who needs a pdf copy, I can send it to you if you will read it. We are shapened by environment, upbring ing, knowledge, events... And all of these goes a long way to affect us either positively or negative and in turn speaks in the way we relate with our spouse.

crackhaus:
Communication is all what matters...

emmaodet:

Hamachi, our paths as been crossing lately.
Wetin i do u now??

zigzagluv:
they see relationship as an investment , im tired of getting my heart broken

ubunja:
girls talk. You have to know WHERE they talk. They have their own spaces far from the judgy eyes of men where they open their hearts and frustrations.

emmaodet:
Well, it goes both ways.
We mostly focus on women too much why ignoring the big picture.
The truth also is that - Most Men won't marry who they married if they have what it takes to be a man, they would have choosing a better woman than what they have at home.
Only and insane man will choose an ugly, broke, dirty woman when he as the option of picking a beautiful, young, virgin, productive and financially buoyant woman

Martinez39
Pansophist
Ubunja
Franchasng

anslem04:
tell ourselves, really !! what do u take men for GAYs/sissies, nothing makes us feel gud like after sex . no time 4 yeye talk.
It is not really about d dick what women don't love sharing in actual sense is a man's attention. buh lemme spare u my nonsense & ingredient these time. ALOL

a woman wil envy & start rivalry even with her own daughter if she feels her hubby is showing her more attention ...

Theyoungmatron:
The whole post on front-page has men running away from marriage citing silly excuses especially cheating .
They do not want to be served with their own coin

bbeautylik:
I am a Muslim so do not crucify me


The kind of marriage I hate is the so call Muslim marriages, women almost have no say in the marriage... The men can marry as far as four wives and still Bleep outside. Now how will the men feel if the reverse is the case if we women can marry four husbands not minding how one feels. In Islam women are the slaves in marriage. Do not wear this , do not wear that, do not use perfumes so that you won't attract men..... What about the men? Mtcheww

makavelli80:
y do you quote me? U like trouble

cococandy:
You fear heartbreak yet you are afraid of committing to one woman. Whose daughter do you think like heartbreak?

As you are like this, are you coming or are you going?

anslem04:
I like your kind of curosity buh b4 i make some emotionaly annoyin analysis,let me emphatically say i am nt justifyin infidelity for men.
We all knw life is not fair, even nature/creation is not fair ... for a man sex is jus sex , to a woman sex as to mean sumtin she jus as to define it to accept it,that is why rape traumatize dem.
Women are emotional beings, ofcus they do av heart & feel pains more buh these wonderful creatures understand pain d way the strongest of men would never, some men won't even survive menstrual pain not to talk of labour pain ... the way a woman feels wen she see her hubby on top another woman is funnily different from the way a man who caught is wife under another man will feel.
the woman feel cheated emotionally she is less concern abt the sex act, while the man feels cheated bodywise ... what disgust n hurt him d most is anoda dick savourin pussy to be his.... bottom line is nature in to be blamed in all these women don't do ego dey deal in pride.
sex appreciate a man's ego buh same sex depreciates a woman's pride ,sey u see life

sharpwriter:
Lol... I've been laughing hard since at your comment. Reason being that your moniker being "satan" can call another person animal... Then that person must be an animal indeed to have infuriated and disgusted you this much... Your satan sef get little morals... Lolz

hresso:
Signs. You can't hide your true feelings for long.

Godmademan:
1. I feel polygamous. I feel one wife will not do it for me. Just love women. Perhaps my out look will change when someone captures my inner being.

2. Phobia for Heartbreak.

vickydevoka:
I have bleeped so so many married women bcus of their big soft ass. I am scared of kama. B4 person go begin Bleep my Wife.
I still don't knw y married women are easier to Bleep dan single ladies. I even Bleep one today. N the husband can never catch a cheating wife.

anslem04:
Well i guess some of you can't just deal with the message without huntin for d sender.
it doesnt matter if it happens to my grandma, mom or sista sef ... its jus d truth n reality out that no one can do anytin about. if my daughter hubby cheat on her will i kill him n even she divorce him wil i marry my own daughter to safe her frm all men... or what is probability other men she tries won't cheat.

victorian:
I don't have any fears on marriage anymore, because Imma look well, before I leap into it with the man I have chosen.

I will never ever marry blindly or rush blindly into it.


Never I won't!

zigzagluv:
i have left the dating scene since 2012 , i only do friends with benefit because i dont want to hold any girl down with relationship and not marrying and blocking her chance to get married , so i have made of my mind to start a relationship but really scared

Utthaan4:
Surprised with comments here

Mood11:
I was 17 then, after attempting JAMB and didn't get the Post-UTME cut off mark I got a Sales Rep. Job in a Pharmacy...

When first salary came it was N15,000 then. I shared it and gave my aunt whom I lived with N5,000 for Pocket money, bought foodstuffs and toiletries for the house.

Guess what, the Sunday that followed, She legit gave me her lipstick and eye Pencil to do make Up for Church

By the end of the second month, I noticed that even my cousins who were older would seek my consent before going to Watch ball. If I had gone out, my aunt called me to tell me what they intend cooking for Dinner or asked me what I wanted to eat..


Till today, even when I am broke to stupor I will just package myself so that nobody will know I am leaking
I did not only come off Age, I brought Self Respect along..