₦airaland Forum

Eaganguolly:
You get it right

DeeMain:
I agree. And yet sometimes the problem is that the programming is so deep and unconscious that they can't see they are wrong or that it is limiting their relationship or progress as a family. You can't change what you don't know or haven't diagnosed.

It's why I said that consciousness is key to making those changes. The ability to be open and willing to learn and get feedback from others is critical in these things.

If I were to counsel anyone intending to marry, it's the very first thing I will ask them to insist on the must-have quality of their significant other. It's on my own must- have list.

bukatyne:
OH well, people should learn to be observant during courtship.

Also pray and discern.

ireneidiva:
When he has been that way right from time and she decided to marry him, how will he change? If she tolerated it from the beginning, that is how she will continue. How can someone not clean his house in one month and comfortably live inside?

SassyBella:

rexington:
If 160k is not enough to start a family for even 1 million will not be enough, it is never enough, trust me i know people who earn over 700k or more and still borrow. By the way what are u doing with laundry services, buying two cloths every month, DSTV Subscription. Some of these things are not needs but wants.

SassyBella:
If I wooooooose u

Dimples0303:
All these treatments because she's disabled

I need to marry a Nigerian man because you girls are enjoying! So... He'll even cover my father's bills for my father's house

9ja girls are enjoying

Tchange1:
The only answer is Marrying a lost glory as a wife is the greatest fear of any man.

ednut1:
Dem dey talk abroad you dey talk libya Italy cyprus dem no be abroad again. Dubai favours just few people the salary is low but they sometimes get free house to sleep. Such is life.

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Who is at fault

ireneidiva:
You knew he was like that and you married him. So you have to live with it o

yvesboss:
OP on point

farady:
OP do you realise there are Nigerians earning just that amount whether N60k or N160k married with one or two kids or children. Some even with children in the universities and even still in the process of developing their small plot of land to erect a 2/3 room structure. Don't ask me why, go and have a chat with them and glean some wisdom on how to live life. A life of contentment.

DenreleDave:
U r having brainpain... Change the title.

Hamachi how about we do a remix of Babcock sex tape

ZIMDRILL:
courtship never brings out the true you, because you only see each other for fee hours and all needs and wants of your boy/girlfriend are not your full and sole responsibility


whereas the moment you get married, there is too much expectations from each other then extend families, finally life its throws in stones and boulders, trying to navigate through all that thats when you might realise that your thinking of how marriage is run is based on how you grow up

and how you grow up and now are different times and challenges. what worked for your parents doesnt mean it works for you and wife


with my little experience we fail, to ask and let your partner explain according to them how they think over an issue at hand, instead one enforce his/her way of thinking and solving an issue instead to hear the view of your other half and understand were there are coming from

usually it works in realising that your thinking are different and you can quickly find were you clash and find a solution to the clash and then proceed to find a solution to the problem

Magnoliaa:
Great books. It's all about discussion ... and sharing of bills, roles, etc. Expectations being addressed.

There's one, too - about Energizing Cycle and Crazy Circle.

Marriage is no that hard, a big deal, to me. There's nothing "new" in it that others haven't experienced. And you learn from them. It just demands things bigger than love and feelings. Like compatibility. I recall he wrote about a Christian and a Wiccan breaking up their relationship, because it can not work. And even among two Christians with different upbringing and outlook on spirituality.

zigzagluv:
majority of my friends are married, its not about friend , is girls mentality , have you bother to ask yourself why girls cheat

Dbeautyy:
I will advice every single lady/man or married couple's to read the book titled " Five love languages " and "Things i wish i had known Before We Married" By Gary Chapman there was a particular section dedicated to what you just stated above. For anyone who needs a pdf copy, I can send it to you if you will read it. We are shapened by environment, upbring ing, knowledge, events... And all of these goes a long way to affect us either positively or negative and in turn speaks in the way we relate with our spouse.

crackhaus:
Communication is all what matters...

emmaodet:

Hamachi, our paths as been crossing lately.
Wetin i do u now??

zigzagluv:
they see relationship as an investment , im tired of getting my heart broken

ubunja:
girls talk. You have to know WHERE they talk. They have their own spaces far from the judgy eyes of men where they open their hearts and frustrations.

emmaodet:
Well, it goes both ways.
We mostly focus on women too much why ignoring the big picture.
The truth also is that - Most Men won't marry who they married if they have what it takes to be a man, they would have choosing a better woman than what they have at home.
Only and insane man will choose an ugly, broke, dirty woman when he as the option of picking a beautiful, young, virgin, productive and financially buoyant woman

Martinez39
Pansophist
Ubunja
Franchasng

anslem04:
tell ourselves, really !! what do u take men for GAYs/sissies, nothing makes us feel gud like after sex . no time 4 yeye talk.
It is not really about d dick what women don't love sharing in actual sense is a man's attention. buh lemme spare u my nonsense & ingredient these time. ALOL

a woman wil envy & start rivalry even with her own daughter if she feels her hubby is showing her more attention ...

Theyoungmatron:
The whole post on front-page has men running away from marriage citing silly excuses especially cheating .
They do not want to be served with their own coin

bbeautylik:
I am a Muslim so do not crucify me


The kind of marriage I hate is the so call Muslim marriages, women almost have no say in the marriage... The men can marry as far as four wives and still Bleep outside. Now how will the men feel if the reverse is the case if we women can marry four husbands not minding how one feels. In Islam women are the slaves in marriage. Do not wear this , do not wear that, do not use perfumes so that you won't attract men..... What about the men? Mtcheww

makavelli80:
y do you quote me? U like trouble