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Rozross:
You shouldn’t have send the screenshot out there at least to protect the image of the mother of your kids. Do what pleases you, not a supporter of cheats

The owner of the image didn't care about it anyways. If she cares about her image, she will not be cheating.

It happens both ways though. Some married women also reach out to their ex, whether the ex is married or not.

1. They might just marry their current spouse for other reasons aside love. Their ex might actually be their true love.

2. They are currently going through marital problems and they see the ex as someone they can talk to freely. In the process of pouring out their hearts to the ex, Okafor's law will be tested and reconfirmed.

3. Those that just can't let go of whatever they shared with the ex. Most especially if they happen to run into themselves after a long time.

4. Because of marital problems some are going through, they remember their ex and thought they made a mistake to have married their current spouse.

I hope they are still freshly married before the old man discovers this, so that she can be thrown to the street where she belongs empty handed.

Otherwise, she will even collect part of the equity of the man's property and spousal support on top.

Prechgold1180:
Good day members of Nairaland

Please I need your take on this

My close friend is planning on getting married to a prostitute unknowingly

My friend has been away for some time came back last year.
Don’t know how they started the relationship
He introduced her to me last month as the lady he is planning on taking as a wife
The thing is I know this girl very well and she knows me
I have seen her countless times standing out looking for customers in a popular hotel

I know more than three people who have slept with this said girl even me myself I have (ok story for another day)



The thing is I don’t know if it’s nice to tell my friend what I know or I should just mind my business

For some time now she has stopped going to the spot to look for customers

She looks so innocent

You are not a good friend if you are asking us this question.

Another December wife from Nigeria to abroad. This one is even olosho December wife.

The truth is that there are still good Nigerian women living peacefully and lovingly with their husbands in western countries irrespective of their individual financial status and the laws. But on my estimate, the good are about 30pct.

Men, be careful of type of Nigerian women you bring abroad. Stop the practice of December marriages in Nigeria. You just go home in December and you show up with wife in January. You most times marry someone else's wife or marry a monster you don't know with this practice.

Even your regular girlfriend or wife in Nigeria, if you see any element of a red flag that she can turn into a monster in the western world, keep her down in Nigeria.

I know many online women defender will start pouring into this thread to give excuses and even defense for this woman.

Before anyone defend or give excuses for this woman, first think of how you will feel if that man in the Video, Mr. Charles is your blood brother, or uncle, or son.

Her display in this video is enough to understand what that man has been passing through.

I can hear their children in the background of that video.

The man should keep this video and used it against her in court so that she can lose custody of the children. He should also find other avenues to provoke her more so that she can display her madness on more videos. Whoever gets custody of the children get to keep the house.

I hope the man also had a video of her threat to kill him too. That will also be good to argue that she can kill the children out of anger.

Nigerian men in western world should learn about the laws these evils women are taking advantage of. These women learned about the laws and quickly takes its advantage of it.

These laws can be used by men too.

UyaiIncomparabl:
A woman will only weaponize against a man because of one of these. Viz;

* She may not be sexually attracted to you.

* You cheated on her and she caught you, hence the feelings died. Some women don't forgive cheating.

* You have terrible oral and bodily hygiene. Some men can be so nonchalant when it comes to their hygiene.

* She has a low libido or suffers from vaginal dryness, and hormonal imbalance which usually happens after childbirth, or she could even be circumcised.

* She is stressed. If you care about being sexually satisfied and her well-being, take the stress off her. A happy woman will gladly go to the ends of the earth to satisfy you - the man.

* Your sex game isn't just on point. You aren't hitting her centre of gravity. Some men are just a no-go area in bed (2 mins men and co). Look, sex is beyond just humping and jumping on a woman. If your sex game is lit and you satisfy her in other areas, she can never weaponize sex against you. Take it from me.

A woman who loves and is sexually attracted to you will bend her rules for you as long as the aforementioned issues aren't the causative factors.

Women, to avoid issues like this, endeavour to marry men you are SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO. It is very sacrosanct. Never settle.

Good summary. The OP just generalized all marriages must have same problems.

The way the OP is fighting and insulting people that have contrary opinions to hers here shows she was on a mission to advocate for prostitution.

tiswell:
So because he is a 2mins man,he cannot cum in peace

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Where are the team "woke", "oyinbo system is always better", "disciplining a child is child abuse", etc.

MrBrownJay1:

- she has some worries/stress etc in her life at that moment

This is also true. Example if you are a source of the stress or worries, like you serially cheat and she catches you. She can deny you sex for months even though she still loves you.

odinson1:
This is another excuse,if a woman likes you, she'll always want to have sex with you. If you aren't good in the game, she'll teach you.
Women break rules for men they like,and Make rules for men they don't like.
Don't let the lies women say get in your head bro

It's not an excuse. I agree a woman can teach a man she loves how and where to touch her if the man is not the "I holy pass you" type that will later use it against her. But the woman cannot turn a 2 minutes man into a 30 minutes man. She cannot also solve the problem of an impotent man.

And God helps the man that the wife had been with men good in the room in her past life as ex's. That's more trouble for the man.

Even if the woman don't deny the man consistently, she will not be enjoying it and she will see it as a chore.

My point is that good sex can make a woman not into you initially to love or like you more. And bad sex can reduce the attraction your woman has for you.

From bad sex to impotency, at impotency level, no matter how your woman is attracted to you, she will end up hating you around her in bed.

Not in all cases though. In some cases, that might be true. In others, it might not be true.

Another reason can be that the man is not doing a good job on her. Trust me women love good sex. If oga is a 2 minutes man that don't know where to touch at the right time and how to do the work. After sometimes, the wife will not see any enjoyment in the sex with him.

Buzzapper:
in conformity with the tradition of their native village

Interesting tradition.

Rozross:
Kobojunkie please don’t comment on this thread.

why?

miccoy:
Rape should be outside marriage. If there is love, and submissiveness from the wife, there shouldn't be anything like rape.

Any marriage you hear the woman shouting my husband raped me. There were issues before the sexual act. If there is no beating, like someone already said, it's no rape! ( In marriage o).

Abi, make men too dey shout my wife wants to rape anytime we are not in the mood?!?!?

No mind am. This is why I call it woke illusion

Another woke illusion. "My husband raped me. My wife raped me."

Everyone will get sense at last in this world.

@zed7 and Fiscus105, please let's be civil with our point of views. We all know this is a sensitive topic to both males and females but we can discuss and put forward our opinions without insults.

Mindlog:

Can you tolerate and persevere if your wife is cheating on you?

@usmolad, come and answer this truthfully.

Blessedmercy8:
If the man had proposed to you respectfully because he likes the way you're industrious, and then gone ahead to marry you the right way, it would been a thing worth celebrating and emulating but now... He's only upgrading your status because pregnancy happened through reckless sex.!!! Meaning if it didn't happen, you're not worth taking to the altar.

Lets stop celebrating mediocrity. The society is getting more rotten by the day

I agree with you. It's not worth celebrating and emulating.

And @the bolded, in addition to mediocrity, we should stop celebrating bad practices in the name of being "woke".

ZIMDRILL:
the question is who is calling them allegations

is it the man or other women involved ?

those two can use the word to dismis any further questioning

The wife can have more suspicions becoz she lives with man she knows him better than anyone maybe she has seen change in behaviour in him
eg spending more away from home etc

None of here can, really help with hearing the story direct from the wife, she can tell us tge finds that support her reason to think to divorce

True but the fact still remains no one should throw their marriage out just because of allegations or suspicions alone.

If there is allegation or suspicion, the other spouse needs to try to investigate further and get some evidence or confirmation of the allegations or suspicions before throwing their marriage away, because the allegations might not be true.

Beremx:
Why not? Life goes on after a divorce. It’s better to leave than being infected by an unfaithful partner

The question is "based on allegations only"

Should spouse divorce based on allegations only.

Maybe na snake dey chop the money like those snakes that swallow our money in care of our government officials.

efficiencie:
First, Emeka should work with the wife and family of the wife to find the true father of the first child and ensure that he accepts responsibility for his actions.

Second, Emeka should conduct DNA tests for all the children and confirm whether all the other kids are his or not.

Third, Emeka should conduct a family meeting involving the parents of Sade and his own parents to explain the situation to them and ensure that both families are aware of the situation.

Fourth, Emeke needs to go on a retreat to pray, to release pent up emotions and to heal.

Fifth, Emeka should return to wife but be careful with trusting her like he used to. If she could do such an abomination and keep it to herself for 16 years she can do a lot more damage.

I like your logic here. Please permit me to build on that.

That number 2 is very important. So that Emeka can suffer all the heartbreak at once.

As for trusting the woman again. Not possible.

weaseloo:
Only husband and wife are on the application, the children are citizens by birth. The primary applicant is the husband.

For immigrant visa, the primary applicant must be interviewed first before the derivatives. In this case the husband must be interviewed first to establish his qualification for the immigrant visa.

These are their options:

1. The husband can go head to attend the currently scheduled interview, while they change interview date for the wife.

2. They can change interview dates for both of them.

Like I said before, if the files are still with NVC, NVC can reschedule their interview easily. They will just be put them back into the pool of people waiting to be scheduled for the next following month. Just a phone call to NYC is sufficient to make this happen.

There's a way to track their files location online but it's a long process. They should just call NVC that they will like to reschedule interview date. If their files have left NVC, NVC will ask them to contact the embassy.

zed7:
As for men, we have ego and we are providers. We expect to take charge and by nature, we can only take charge over a woman whom we have a higher status than.

Only men without self pride will be looking for a woman who will share bills equally with them. That is the fastest way to lose your self respect.

Thank you.

Ardar:
There's no such thing. It is the husbands insecurity and ego that feeds him the narrative.

Very good. Almost all men, I mean real men have ego. That's the nature of men.

Why is it that it's only when women believe they are successful that challenge men's ego in marriages?

1. Because most career successful women allow it get into their heads and become disrespectful to their husbands if they even get one.

2. Because men tend to lose control of such most successful women, most especially when the woman is more successful or richer.

3. Because no matter how rich or successful a woman is, she still wishes for a more richer or successful man to marry. The problem is that the percentage of that class of men are small in the society. Thus her pool is limited. Also, most men more successful than her have many options of many women running after them too and she might not be their choices in looks etc. Further reasons her pool of men reduces.

4. Because her pool of men reduces, she will find it hard to marry

5. If she eventually manages to get a man to marry, she might not actually marry her "choice" .

Lessons123:
Please I need your mature advice.

My wife denies me of sex regularly and I have to beg for it. When she is in a good mood and I fund her account she would give me for that day and the rest days or weeks is begging for it. Mouth Action has been once since 2 years.

I am a multi millionaire by God's grace and on the way to be a billionaire very soon but chose to be faithful to my wife as I feel there is a spiritual Christian sacred bond with my wealth relating to my marriage been sacred without fornication--hence I would have happily satisfied my self with another woman as I can afford any woman in any currency.

I can't give details on this bond but the truth is I think some women have gone as far as to charm their husband's to make him loose everything financially if he cheats, I am certain of this in my own Marraige, please I won't give details on this further but will summarize that I know I have lost it all at one point because of this and when I remained faithful and prayed to God my wealth came back in multiples.

Please advice me on what to do as I am very starved and feel she knows the bond she set me up hence derives pleasure in starving me severely as I have now resulted to maturation.

Also note from my previous post the business I opened for my wife with over 30m I was shocked to visit the place after renewal of rent worth millions then decided to visit when she said she needed more money and realized the place was empty. I mean she either siphoned the money sold all the goods and has not given any explanation, I could have fainted but comforted my self that at least money is not my problem for now.

I could not believe this story. Most people that can manage good business or jobs to move closer to "becoming a billionaire soon" can make better decisions and will not need advise of online strangers in this situation.

1. Don't sponsor her until you are married to here to avoid story that touches the heart later. Encourage here to start online or distance learning school but be very careful how much you invest into someone not married to you.

2. You can marry her, collect one or two children from her. Then enroll her in online or distance learning school.

3. School certificate sometimes does not translate to education or intelligence. There are many school cert holders more educated or intelligent than many degrees carriers.

IyaTola:
Sweetie, it will end in tears, once a woman gets into school the game changes. Men marry down, women marry up. It's okay she has a skill, save up an open a shop for her to practice what she has learnt.

We have senn countless times on this forum and real life where a man sponsors a lady to school and at the end if the day, the man that trained her is no longer in his class.

Use your tongue and count your teeth.

IyaTola has points here