₦airaland Forum

erifeoluwasimi:
You can say that again
Really I mentioned the word "most of women" not all
Getting married after divorce is usually a wrong way out because most times it ends same way.
Attitude of women with the issue of feminism has affected many homes
Compare statistics of 80's to now

It doesn't change the fact that you sound bias towards women. Look at this comment I am quoting for instance... blaming women and talking about feminism. Are the men all saints and blameless. Please be objective and fair.

How can you compare the 80s to now? There are different variables, therefore the outcome will be different.

Bighead9:
Madam why are you PAINED, I hope you are not another Tonto Dike in disguise?

I don't have pain. Just wondering why the op sounded bias towards women on the topic.

And who is Tonto Dike?

Ephetar:
Thanks... That's what I'm afraid of... I live very comfortable here.. I don't want to regret my decision

Educated Nigerians abroad are not doing such degrading jobs. You can do a master's and take it from there.

For the sake of your unborn children, please go. You cannot compare healthcare, education, roads, basic utilities of both countries.

Op well done. You have succeeded in making the women the antagonists and putting them in a bad light. It is the women that cheated or were impatient in all the cases.

And you have so many women like that around you. Hope you are not cheating on your husband or being impatient. Since the woman is usually the issue.

ogawisdom:
They can only fuc.k around with willing fuk boys in the name of dating but the chances of getting remarried is less than 5%

Is that statistics one you created or based on research that has been done?

From where you stand, it may be 1% but from what I have seen and known, it is way higher.

ogawisdom:
Because they are the bigger loser esp in Africa. A man can easily move on with another sweet 16 by remarrying especially if he has the money but it's not so for a woman. A woman's consolation after a failed marriage is her job if employed, custody of her child if any and the child support money if she will be getting one. The chances of a woman remarrying after a divorce is less than 5% she will remain a single mother for life n loneliness of old age will be waiting for her.

That was before. Women are more open to dating again and remarrying. My friend told me today that she is ready to start dating. She and her husband are separated, not divorced yet. But from all indications, the marriage cannot be resuscitated. People are learning that there is still another chance after a divorce.

cle62000:
I saw this on facebook this morning on Ivy Austine who sent me a friend request, i checked the the persons timelime cause i dont know the person. And it happened that the new husband in question is my colleague at work, when i got to work today saturday i invited him to my office and asked him about what i saw and he told me he wasn't the guy's best man and that he was dating the lady before the guy came in when they had issue and he dated her for a short time and married her and she relocated with her husband to lagos while he lives in benin city (actually he lives in benin city) when the woman left her husband because of issues ( fighting) and that the lady's parents returned bride price paid, then they rekindled their relationship and got to where he married her last week saturday.
I think its a matter one should not jump into conclusion yet. And he said if really he is his best man he should have published his best man pics with him during the wedding.
The former husband's facebook name is Prince Shola as i was told and the facebook name was created around 2am tiday and started sending friend request to all the new husband's friends

Now the real story is coming out. If this is true, it is a case of an aggrieved husband not telling the whole story but only telling half truth. Who knows what really went down that made her leave.

Guys on nairaland love to hate women. So any story that puts women in a bad light gives them joy

Nyamiri:
Guy, they are coming for your head. They would tear you to pieces.

Naah. There's no need. He just has a twisted and unintelligent view about women. He will outgrow it.

pussyAvenger:
of course! But there's this thing in gender relations that is not right and men must push against it or spend the rest of their lives trying to conform to standards that are impossible for anyone short of a god to meet

Well, i will leave you to keep pushing and fighting while i enjoy my life maximally.

Good luck with it

pussyAvenger:
and when a man becomes aware of your shenanigans, you'd hear things like, 'he's immature'

men have bigger and greater things to offer humanity but a woman becomes useless, confused and frustrated if her missiles of manipulation fail to meet target

Reference: Tonto&Churchill(2019),lmalma publishers, 5th ed

You don't need to get defensive or try to "cuss" out ladies to make yourself feel better. Every gender is important and useful and they also have their flaws.

It is actually counterproductive and a waste of time to engage in a gender war.

DukeofNZ:
See as you talkam with boldness. If I whoz you eslap naw dem go say alpha male like me dey wicked. Na pity I just pity you now.

Whoz yourself so you can think clearly. And take your "alpha wickedness" where it is useful

pussyAvenger:
more intelligent or more manipulative?

well, men are learning your tricks, una go soon quench

You even need intelligence to manipulate well. And if you say guys are still learning the tricks, then you have said it all that ladies are one step ahead

balosammy:
thanks man

Woman*

You will just be beating someone's child. Someone that they probably don't beat at home again because she is an adult. You are proudly beating her and saying it.

Please allow him continue being a man. He is man enough to straff and impregnate. Let him take responsibility too. From his peanuts, allow him cater for them.

If you start taking his responsibility, he will have another baby for you to take care of. I don't even know why you are worried you are not the "impregnator" and neither are you his father. The good news should be for your dad

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Both gender are not equal.

Yeah. Women are more intelligent than men

bigcee:
I have a broda just like u. He is always very sad, hatred, malice, anger. Very difficult to please. He can keep malice with u for 10yrs just bcuz of little misunderstanding. If u disagree with him, he avoids u and never communicate with u again. He likes to be treated like a king and he treats u like trash. I can go on & on...I just tire 4 the guy.

I know someone like this too. What they need is prayers for God to intervene because nobody can help their situation. He can keep malice forever...gets offended and feels insulted easily.

He has a very hard heart and can hardly keep a babe. If his babe complains about his behaviour, he keeps malice with her till she is frustrated.

People like that could die from wickedness, evils and hardness of heart.

Hmmm... you have already said the issue and that you cannot handle it. Abeg flee from what will give you headache later

The first wrong step is overthinking and overanalyzing it

Shugavee:
Ofcourse he has to pay her,, u put her on ur flyer n u think it’s just gonna slide,,

He doesn't have to put her on his poster. And he does not even need to mention her name on stage to use her as a joke. But everyone will know who he is talking about. The police cannot arrest him for that.

Emaprince:
The deceit is the problem.

The thing is most girls already have some one knacking them, so they tell their suitors "no sex before marriage" to depict themselves as good girls with good morals who can go for months without sex..when some of them can barely go 2weeks in celibacy. Then the man will be starving himself thinking he has a gold trophy to clinch on the night of his wedding day, not knowing that one street urchin have been rough handling and digging his wife to be.... Even fukced her a day or week before the wedding. This is Naija, it happens often.

If its me, I will be suspicious and doubtful of the girls honesty the moment she start pretending like she can go long days without sex. I have seen a lot.

Aside the fact that those type of girls are deceptive, how does a man date a girl that someone else is sleeping with and not know? Except the guy is not discerning, he should suspect. Besides a lot of guys that meet such girls are actually having their karma served cold to them because of what they too have done (if they trll themselves the truth)

oboy81:
Wow!
You Seem to have a Good Life of Nairaland

I wish i knew what that means

Mk93:
wanted to say something but might just end up spoiling your beautiful story

Nothing can spoil it. It already happened

OkaNaUbe:
In your voice, "Why is she so vain?"

Fortunately, it is not our business.

Having passwords and being too touchy about your phone already creates suspicion. If you have something on your phone that your spouse cannot see, that is already a problem.

MiddleSpot:
If I tear you hot slap

Are you the police?

Body count police.

mixta140:
The game was balanced , barca took their chances and Liverpool didn't. Except messi's free kick nothing was special about barca game yesterday to me

The special thing there was that Barcelona scored 3 and Liverpool didn't score. Isn't that special enough?

highcollide:
Foolish opinion. It is actually Barcelona that is overhyped without messi. Take away messi what you have is alaves.


Liverpool have lost just one league match this season, they have more points in their league than Barcelona have at la liga. They haven't lost at home in 2 years....


Yesterday, the match was 50:50...Liverpool had more possession, more shots more than Barcelona...Messi was the difference. If messi was injured or salah and mane buried their chances, would you be typing this nonsense today?

Seun should do something so that nairalanders can be able to delete foolish threads by themselves.

It cannot be 50/50 if Barcelona scored 3 and Liverpool scored nothing no matter how good they played. Football is about results.

Barcelona has Messi, Liverpool has Salah, Mané, etc. There is no disadvantaged team. They are both at the Champions League semi finals. That already says a lot

GoTV:
The greatest footballer who ever lived. Lionel Messi

Better than Pelé?

hisexcellency34:
Only Arsenal can beat Barca easily. If Arsenal can win the Europa League,it will definitely win the Champions League next season

Delusion

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
The man should divorce her. I know she'll accuse d devil who's chilling in hell

P.s Husbands should b sexy and romantic pls, marriage doesn't mean everything should be monotonous. Spice ur marriage up, do crazy shiis together.

Some people will cheat regardless of what their spouses do. If you like decorate the bed with roses every other day and do kangaroo style, monkey or antelope, a cheat will cheat