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James, Peter and John, I think

stubbornman:
HOW IS THAT RAPE

Statutory rape

Abudu2000:
Since when has BuRMa boy gotta say in Nigeria music industry, this guy was so overhyped, he has zero talent and his music is only enjoyed by drug addicts. I am trying my best to like him but I just can't play his mixtape for 3mins, if I do then I won't sleep..

Mtcheeew

As in!!!

I was wondering why people kept saying he should have been artist of the year last year.

Only once in the whole 6yrs? Ahhh!! You didn't go to Command. You don't have to offend to get flogged. The bad eggs always spoil the good ones. One person must put everybody into trouble

Biglittlelois:
Stir up distrust, moment of weakness, very good coming from a guy, so is it safe to say women or a wife can kiss another man cos it is a moment of weakness, then she shouldn't tell her man or husband cos it can bring distrust

Cheating is not only when sex is involved, it can be in any form, in this case he kissed her, willingly at a point, that is blatant cheating,

He didn't initiate the kiss. She took him unawares and though he allowed it for a while, he put a stop to it.

Most guys cannot even go back from that point. They must do o.

Op abeg don't be setting yourself up by yourself. You should have stayed in your own hotel. Not everyone respects the sanctity of marriage

husbandsnatcha:
Handsome dude ........ More veets to ur armpits

This is by far the mildest savage comment

Biglittlelois:
It's so weird for a guy to post his picture online like some ladies, but then, it's your choice, I have to say, your hand is short for a guy, I don't want to imagine what that means.....

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Smh for you. I thought it was shoe size

A thief complaining about what he stole in the first place.

SageMK:
This post sickens me. I feel so sorry for your wife.



Take a look at the mirror.
Pot calling kettle black. STFU.



Your wife is the victim here mođafucker!
You have no right to feel pain and cry foul. Ídiot.



You are a dog.
And she is a bìtch.
By God's grace, you'll both go back to your vomit.
You deserve each other so don't fúcking quit on her!

Damn.

You are not even remorseful that you cheated on your wife. You don't even care about her so please confess everything to her and give her a divorce. That way you be free to hook up with that whòre. A perfect match for you.

You are angry

spongeisback:
Would you mind if it's a picture of white Jesus on the wall? Christianity isn't the only religion in Nigeria. IDGAF about whatever is planted as long as my meal is prepared in a clean and safe environment

Ok

crackhaus:
Number, you can't provide and you're mentioning popular celebs and using that as your proof that many (as in, many) divorced ladies are remarried.
Something that is not yet on the high side in developed societies, it's in Nigeria you are confidently typing MANY.

Do you know what an outlier is?
That you even know one or two personally is not an accurate representation of many.

Was it via snooping you found out that there are MANY divorced women who are remarried, or you know them because they are friends and family, or its only the celebrities you are actually using to make your claim?

Don't bother answering anymore, you've shown you are just kidding yourself.

All your rants doesn't change the fact that single ladies remarry. If you don't know that it is happening, then you should research and find out for yourself since you are very interested in the statistics instead of asking me for a number.

I will bother to answer if i feel like it

crackhaus:
You must know them personally, give us a number please.

Go out on the street, ask around and count for yourself

crackhaus:
How is it that it's always you ladies that keep seeing divorced women getting remarried everyday?

Where is it happening?
In Nollywood, or in the streets with everyday women?

Give us an exact number of the women you know personally that have divorced and remarried, not celebrities but the average divorced Nigerian woman next door.

You are actually waiting for me to give you an exact figure. How will you verify it? So I just start counting and then, send you a report? . I am coming.

If you go through the thread, you will see where i mentioned popular celebs not to even mention others.

Oga rest. There are many remarried ladies. The fact that you refuse to acknowledge or see them is not really my problem. But it doesn't change the glaring evidence. Maybe you should start snooping. That neighbour of yours may be married to her 2nd husband.

spongeisback:
Freedom of religion is only for Christians and Muslims but our own traditional religions are demonized. It wouldn't be a problem if he was "caught" with a cross or prayer beads.

So you won't mind eating in the shop if it is a restaurant even if you know he planted a charm there.

LilMissFavvy:
Clarion chukwurah the actress, remarried about 6 times, to men of great fortune, not small Bleep boys like some people are saying here. Learn to change your mentality. There is nothing bad about a single guy marrying a divorced lady, if he finds peace with her, and especially if she was not the cause for her marriage falling apart. I have seen divorced women who remarried. I guess because the OP is married, then she feels every woman with failed marriage is to be blamed. Also, when couple's fall apart in their marriage, they can tell lies, trade blames, etc. How is the OP sure that the lady cheated? If she cheated, what could have caused it? Was her husband an angel? In my own observations I feel that many nija women even tolerate all kinds of bullshit, so that they can stay married, especially, for the love of their kids. I don't believe women are to blame in this.

Besides women are more prone to speaking up and expressing their feelings and that may come off as being bitter. While guys avoid confrontation and prefer to be silent or run from facing the situation. This may be seen as being mature or being the innocent party.

Being able to communicate feelings and issues properly is a major problem for many

Just a another "generalization" thread devoid of real facts. Plus the Op doesn't take criticism well...only discussing with commenters that agree with her point of view. For others, it's a default timid and predictable response.

Jman06:
He's actually right unless you don't reside in Nigeria or don't want to tell yourself the truth

As I said, I have constantly seen ladies remarrying. Maybe you haven't. And that is fine

iammo:


Painful waste of life,

The society, especially women needs to start understanding that Men are actually more Emotionaly and Pschologically fragile, just because of strong muscle it doesnt mean strong heart or mind..

Look at the torture teebills went through silently, similar to what churchil and Somadina Reginal nwoko's ex are going through with the society not giving a damn untill they go.violent or jump off a bridge

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True. We need to be thoughtful towards men and what they may be going through and the load they are carrying.

pocohantas:
Well said.
I used to think like that guy, not anymore. I was invited for one on Sunday, told the guy I ain't doing anything below VIP tickets. I got to work and a colleague told me he is going, with his gf and another couple...they are getting a table. I decided to send him my fraction and we sit together.

These things na opportunity to network o.
Make I go find rich husband abeg

Lol. Networking is key and you cannot meet those people at the 5000 area even if it is to laugh that all of them came for.

I know someone that goes all the way from mainland to lekki on friday evenings to play ball. It may be far but the reward due to the calibre of people that come to play there is enough for him.

midastouch040:
I would like opinions and experiences on this.
Did you save for your first car? Was it feasible. Did you spend the money before you could buy the car? If you succeeded, what did you gain?

Did you take a loan? Was it easy paying back? What did you gain?
Thanks.

Don't take a loan for a car. A car is not something that will generate income to repay the loan. It becomes a liability. Keep saving, keep your ears to the ground and network with people. You could get a good deal from a company trying to sell off their cars to buy new ones or someone trying to sell a good car and relocate. Or you can keep saving to get your choice. But don't get a loan.

comshots:
I always wonder if the people buying a table for ₦1m to go and laugh in a comedy show are into genuine businesses.Na the same yahoo wey AY dey and his colleagues dey blast go still buy 2/3 of those tables wey him dey sell.

Some people's 1,000 naira is another person's 1m. People need to change their mentality about wealthy people. Not all of them are into fraud, yahoo, etc.

Ephetar:
Bros u dey scare me o...

A lot of people telling you to stay would leave in a heartbeat if they were in your situation. There are a lot more opportunities there than here.

Talk to your friends and people that stay there and let them put it into perspective for you. Don't rely on people who haven't left this country and seen how other systems are working.

Bros and all of us never die finish?

Forget matter, is like you no see one old homeless Nigerian for U.S.A wen dey sick no fit even afford hospital and him been day U.S.A. If your destiny dey somewhere you come leave the place, the kinda suffahead wen the person go experience, no be for this world.

One old sick homeless Nigerian...out of how many? Wetin the man take im life dey do since?

That is one out of thousands and the oga should talk true

Prognose:
Perhaps he was trying to test her?

You know those old fashioned advice of giving the girl small money to cook food and deliberately making her angry to see how she would react.

Seeking a good wife now is like hunting in a thick jungle with very dangerous animals.

Na so you go carry your marital issue come social media.

Carry go. The man dodged a bullet.

Dodge bullet indeed. It's the lady that dudged a bullet either from a stingy man or a guy that tests ladies

truthsayer009:
Lol I get what you're saying & i have already said that here.



That is how they can build houses in Nigeria because of Currency exchange rates.

Even in the 80s and 90s with the former exchange rates, people who lived and worked abroad could almost easily build their houses back home.

We are talking too much. Move a neutral person that has never lived in both countries. Let the person stay 1yr in Nigeria, search for a job, commune to and fro work without a car. Then let the same person stay the following 1yr in the US, search for a job, commune to and fro work without a car.

Where do you think the person would pick after the exercise?

truthsayer009:
Okay sha, I'm am 100% sure so many people will disagree with you on this. Canada isn't built to make you Rich Lmao. Someone who acquired houses there isn't average by any means. He was probably earning around C$100k to purchase houses via mortgage, then start leasing them.

Canada, US is built to make you average.

Yet people that live in those countries build houses back in Nigeria. People that ordinarily could not have ventured it in the next 10 years if they were in Nigeria.

What I am saying is that you cannot compare the quality of life in those countries to life here. They are miles apart. Many people would rather hide out and stay there than come back to this jungle

truthsayer009:
Hmm okay, your points are very good. The only trade off is you'd never become Rich in Canada, but you'll only have a better life. The only time your money would have value is when you convert it to Naira.

You can be rich anywhere. I know of someone that already acquired houses there and is renting them out. Infact when the person explained the trick to it(completely legal), i was impressed at people's business sense.

Besides, some people will never be comfortable in Nigeria not to talk of being rich. They will always struggle with electricity, schooling for their children, etc. When a system is working, life is easy.

truthsayer009:
Hahaha are you sure ma? In Germany, cost of living at minimum goes around 750 - 850 Euros, calculate that to Naira & see for yourself.

Labour in Nigeria is the cheapest in the World, If you earn 1M in Nigeria per month, you are a King. You can save 850K every month.

In Nigeria, once my Rent is paid, I never spend upto 100k Naira in Expenses in a month. You can even setup Solar one time for 600k, light never goes off in your home forever.

In Nigeria, your HMO works pretty well once you work in a company that pays Health Insurance, nothing special about Health Insurance, People should stop making noise about Health please. You can use Private Hospitals with HMO.

The cost of living is proportional to their minimum wage/earning. And when they pay tax, they benefit from healthcare, free education to a level in standard schools.

Can you compare the minimum wage in Germany to that of Nigeria when you convert it? A civil servant there lives much better than those collecting proposed 30k here.

There is a big deal about health care o. Not all companies in Nigeria give HMO. I worked in one. A good friend who stays in Toronto was in the hospital for about 4months because of a difficult pregnancy and she didn't pay a dime because she is a PR. Except you are working in a multinational in Nigeria, that cannot happen.

You have said it all. How many people earn 1m in Nigeria? What is the percentage to the population of the country? Can a civil servant afford to install the inverter of 600k? You can see that you are funding your electricity even if you are paying PHCB bills.

If you are objective, you won't compare Nigeria to countries where the system is working... where you pay bills and tax and you reap the benefits.

ogawisdom:
Give me examples Nigerian female divorcees that have remarried esp the celebrities or any known name let's start from there.

Will u even allow your brother to marry a second hand? lol

Our everyday people are much more than the celebrities...regular people that have remarried.

However, some celebrities who have remarried are Uche Obi Osotule, Stella Damasus, Monalisa Chinda, Funke Akindele, Stephanie Okereke, Foluke Daramola, Lola Alao, Regina Askia. We have those like Clarion Chukwura, Shan George, Ann Njemanze who remarried but it didn't last.

These are even the popular ones not to mention the low key ones.

dirtycoin:
You are wrong here.

The Op has done nothing wrong narrating her experiences with other women.

Moreover she did not generalise the matter under discussion.

Her women, her opinion. She should not generalize it. Let it be in the confines of her school

truthsayer009:
Nothing, Nigeria is a great place to live once you have an American Passport. You can go in & out anytime you want, you can pay cheaper rates for Tuition in US because you are a citizen & you can also bring your Children back occasionally to spend some time back home, they will have best of both worlds. Nigeria is cheap to live in, their Dollars will have much value anytime they visit home & their peers will worship them.

You mean America is a great place to live when you have an American passport. Nigeria is not a cheap place to live in because you pay for everything even after paying tax. You pay for electricity and still buy fuel for gen. You pay for good healthcare if you want the best or you use the govt hospitals that would frustrate you. You pay for security, you pay heavily to send your children to good schools because the government schools are below standard.

There is no solid reason to pick Nigeria over US. No reason at all. And it has been getting worse instead of improving because we have terrible leaders.

truthsayer009:
He can give birth to Children in the US & earn the citizenship, every other thing is unnecessary.

And then bring them back here to a failed country where the basic amenities are luxury. Why? To be patriotic? What is in this country that it should be picked over the US?