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jawalis:
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with all what I read and see ladies duin, you still expects heart beat?

Even with all the wrong, egoistic and immature guys filling up the whole place, I still found what I needed exactly. I believed there were still sane people and I got one.

What you believe and seek usually comes to you.

Fadedvoices2:
You mustn’t get married to escape poverty . You can escape poverty by being hardworking and
making your own money

Who said anything about getting married to escape poverty? And who says the guy also should not be hardworking?

jawalis:
thanks ImaIma, I get annoyed at little things, and most time avoid contact or any form of conversation with anyone who previously got me annoyed me. sure I can't engage mom, but I don't know what to do to help the situation. about been serious, I see that as a result of my freewill of not disappointing Mom. she has really suffered to breed us, thanks again.

Maybe you expect too much from people. You should reduce your expectations of people and put it at the back of your mind that people will always mess up. It will help you relate better with people because we are all not perfect.

Yeah you shouldn't disappoint your mum. You should always have her in mind but let it not stop you from living your life.

Goalnaldo:
if no be brokenness I for don make move oh..you think say na play when I tell you say I love you ?

Your brokeness is mostly in your mind. Your mind limiting you.

jawalis:
just me, no serious relationship.though I have a lady but I know within me that no iota of love from me, I feel bad but I can't help it. as a matter of fact, I never loved a woman aside Mom. pple complains i am too serious and mean, some says it to my face that I'm sadist, what do I do?

But you know you can't marry your mum. And it will do you good not to try to measure girls you meet against your mum.

Don't be too serious! Try to enjoy life...meet people and mix up. When you are too serious you age faster. Please...free yourself

Mypeople2:
Babe I wish I could fall in love with that special one but I haven't found her yet

If you are positive and open to it, you will

ThothHermes:
I'm not sure you got the question.

How many women do you know that were not suffering in their father's house as a result poverty but began to suffer when they got married because of their husband's poverty?

It is very rare, if it is possible that is for a woman's living condition to be made worse because she got married.

Well it is possible especially if the husband is someone that measures everything. He may even be richer than her dad but he pinched money .

A lot of couples start small but grow and become more comfortable. But I think the problem would be a man that is laid back and doesn't push himself to be better (in terms of the topic). And off course the lady also has a part to play

UyaiIncomparabl:
Hmmm. Your story is soooo romantic it made me cry.

Commot dia! You cry? I hear you

ThothHermes:
I asked the cretin that created this thread a question and she has sidestepped it.

Maybe you'd help since you are clearheaded.

How exactly would marrying a broke man make you suffer if you were not already suffering in your father's house?

Hmmm...so she should just continue the suffering from father's house to husband's house since she came to this world with the sole purpose of suffering.

He was always there...from teen church...been friends. Still were in contact while in and out of Uni. Finally, we just knew we had to be together.

We couldn't resist playing MacAnthony's song at our wedding


"All the while you were in front of me i never realized
And i can't believe i didn't see it in your eyes
I didn't see it, i can't believe it but i feel it"

E don do. Laslas it is her life and she is an adult.

Bossjakande:
yes dear so true.how is ur baby

Perfect. Thank you

Bossjakande:
hmmm mama at 34 i dont want to say is a lie but I sware is almost impossible

Assumption has always been the lowest form of intelligence and is fueled by ignorance.

Funny post. So a man cannot hang out with his friends again because he is married. I disagree. The fact that we are married doesn't mean he has to forget his friends.

And it won't change the times we spend together. Can't I also hangout with my friends and have fun for hours? It doesn't change anything.

People just try to make marriage complicated

It is men in this country.

A lot of them get married and become lazy bums. Their wives wash their clothes, takes care of the house and kids and still works and brings money home...sometimes even more money. And the men will still not be satisfied.

Do men still do that? These days that everyone is angry. They will just die of hunger. When she has seen that you are rejecting food, she won't even bother making you food till you ask for the food. She will balance and eat to her satisfaction.

With time, the man will learn that food is food and fight is fight.

IamD18:
Rejecting a woman's food is one of the best way to punish or make her feel bad.

But trust me; You'll hardly see a woman accept this fact.

Hahahaha some ladies are even happy not to stress. My mean friend said she is happy when her husband is forming and refusing to eat. That she will make sure there is bread on the table so that he won't die of hunger.

She won't bother making him food for as long as he is still carrying face. It means it is time for her to rest.

Initially, it will pain us but as time goes on, we get used to the attitude and we take a break from making him food.

Bossjakande:
in d end a man will still sex u wey u carry virgenity for head. how old are u self? is easy for you to say because u are still young 18 20 yrs. sware to urself and come back if u are still a virgen at 26. u think is easy. is it not beta than masturbation

See yourself!! Someone like you will still open your mouth and say "i want to marry virgin". Do virgins fall from the sky? You guys will say there are no more virgins...all "Nigerian girls" haf spoil.

Meanwhile look at you here telling one that it is still a man that would have sex with her. Before nko! is it a snake that will sleep with her?

Bossjakande:
mama am disappointed in u. why say dis. u know its not easy one bit u are lucky u are married. wat of pole 26 aint married. am 36 37 and u think is possible to stay witout sex? is not even good for d health. once u matured into an age sex is necessary. not all guys are useless I will only ask for sex if she truly love me and dere is a chance for marriage. DAT safarigirl is still small

Hahaha don't be disappointed o. It is still possible. My close friend got married at 34/35 and she was still a virgin.

I have seen men that abstained even while with their girlfriends till they wedded. It wasn't easy but it is possible. They don't have two heads and they are not gay.

I just mean that men can actually abstain contrary to how they make ladies believe that they can die from konji

What is with the "slayqueen" tag? Everyone os slayqueen. You bloggers just use it to get traffic.

Biglittlelois:
So what exactly is your point

Please ask him. He doesn't support it but deep down he is happy she got beaten.

CruellaDeVil:
*Trigger alert*

If you know you get offended whenever you see the term *broke men* or you begin to convulse and foam at the mouth like a rabid dog when we table your matter, abeg leave! Because I can assure you, you will HATE this post and would probably have a heart attack!

That said, my question is: WHY do Broke men get sooooo upset and in their feelings when they hear a girl say she wants to marry a rich man? I mean, is it such a bad thing to aspire for? I believe all girls should aspire to "marry up", marry a man that can take good care of you! Nobody would want to be shackled to a man that is living in abject poverty na. You don't have a right to criticize us for our preferences after all, nobody says anything to you when you say you want girls with big breasts or yansh! same way you like a thick girl is the same we we prefer loaded pockets

And the funny thing is that it's usually you broke men that get upset when a girl says she wants a wealthy man. You don't ever see an actually rich man getting a seizure when a girl says this. It's just the fact that money or lack of it has shamed you and relegated you to the background once again and you cant do anything about it. Your ego is hurt beyond words when you see your fellow man getting all the respect, nice chicks ad attention because of hs money while you are spited and looked down upon

Even you sef, as you are broke, do you like yourself? Will you advise your sister to marry a broke man like you? Would you want your daughters to marry a broke man? If a rich woman and a poor woman should come and ask you out and note they are equally beautiful, intelligent and talented, won't you pick the rich woman?

I'm sure some of you retárds will come here and say only broke girls want rich guys, girls should work for their own money yen yen yen but the truth is, the desire for rich men is not just for material gains, it's also a class thing (at least in some cases). Girls from poor and those from well off backgrounds would rather be with a rich guy, even Linda Ikeji with all her wealth found a rich man to impregnate her and I highly doubt you'd ever catch her dead with a broke ass. So, it's a universal thing. ALL girls would prefer a rich guy, even the most hardworking and independent ones
In my own case, my reason is you did not see me suffering in my father's house so you cannot come and push me into a life of wretchedness

On a final note, when you hear a girl say she wants only wealthy guys, don't be offended. Nobody likes suffer head life. Instead, it should motivate you to make money so you can be a girl's desire

Lastly, to all niggas out there that'd definitely be in severe pains by my post and would come to say nonsense, I have only one advise for you :
Nwanne jee cho ba ego

The ones that get triggered or hurt are the ones that plan to remain broke. The ones talking like it is their fate to never succeed. They see rich people as a threat and always believe that the money is not clean

safarigirl:
nothing to check.

The only thing wrong with me is that I refuse to have pre-marital sex. These whor3s that litter social media ate primarily concerned with sex, every other thing is an after-thought.

Your intelligence, personality or anything else is unimportant if you don't have plans to sleep with them in the name of relationship.

Nigerian men should rather check themselves, at least the ones I have encountered. Their obsession with sex is what leads them to the same women they come here to slander everyday.

Funny truth.

Most guys have sex in their minds. It's like it is their right. Ask the guys quoting you if they can be in a relationship without sex.

Some guys would even say if there is no sex, she shouldn't expect him to spend a kobo on her.

Even the ones that keep longing for virgin brides cannot afford to wait till the wedding day before
they unravel her.

But in all of this, there are still men that can hold their side and respect your stance without looking outside for satisfaction. Because contrary to what guys make us believe, they can actually abstain but many are too sexually lazy to do so.

CruellaDeVil:
I was about to say this sis they have so much to say about a woman's physical appearance but watch them begin to foam at the mouth like epileptic patients when you remind them about their broke status

You like trolling this men. Have mercy

MariaLavina:
Lol..Op isn't encouraging women to be lazy or dependent in any form, she's only encouraging guys (financially unstable ones) to work harder instead of wailing or reliving in self pity. Truth is Nobody want to be attached with failure and every being aspire to associate with someone above him or her either financially or socially.

Op is saying that guys should not be pained when a lady marries a rich guy. It's not only broke guys that deserve to be married.

If a lady marries an average guy, everyone is fine but if she dares marry a rich guy, you will hear gold-digger, yahoo, materialistic and so on.

SageMK:
Yes ladies. Forget us broke guys.


You'd be doing us a big favour because we don't want to date ugly gold diggers also. So do run off into the arms of your ancestors with private jets and give that space to true queens that'll aid our growth. Now don't worry about us, we'll find some place else to release our semen.

But just so you know, while you jump from one rich guy to another, that boobs and ass that you count on will sag one day. Your beauty will fade & your assets depreciate.

And when that happens... No FOOL will take you.

You sound like the rich guys are bad and that the "not rich" ones are better options. There are young guys that legitimately rich; they don't have to be ancestors.

The point is that many ladies marry the upcoming guys and nobody makes noise about it but when a lady dates or marries a rich guy, it becomes a case of gold-digging, yahoo, etc.

At the bolded, don't you think her beauty will fade faster when used by a broke guy? Or are broke guys saints?

Many guys here agree.

lefulefu:
those watermelons look succulent sha

Agbaya

seyigiggle:
so you have to relish on the bad side

As I said, it was based on the topic. Why getting touchy?

Philgafauto:
Tribalistic much. If you don't like yoruba market women, you can always buy from igbo market women na. Or better still, you leave lagos entirely since it's filled with yoruba people you love to hate.

I don't hate them. I am just pointing out an observation based on the topic.

I have always been in Yoruba towns based on school and NYSC and I cook a lot. I buy from igbo, Yoruba, Hausa, whatever tribe, depending on what i need. And that is my observation. It doesn't mean they don't have their good sides.

1StopRudeness:
Mayb u should go back and read ur own comment....u clearly, falaciously, without any doubt said the kids must have things from their parents...
.Nigerian parents hardly use the word fvck, the cheapest words "I love u" is even hard for them to say....I didn't even rule out your point..I only pointed out how volatile and corrupt this age has become.. u can't always blame parents for children's outcome....kapish!

You really need to relax.

I even said "either or" but you didn't see the other option instead you decided to see fallacy.

There are many other options like social media, Tv, family, friends, etc. It is still on the parents to regulate for the kids. At that age, parents are still supposed to keep them in check.

And yes, there are "Nigerian" parents that carelessly use vulgar words around their children.

1StopRudeness:
This is the 21st century...the age where kids see pornographyy literarily everywhere...it's one click away on fones, it's softly on Hollywood, it's on MTv, it's on ghallywhood, it on nollywood....yet u blame the parents for saying something...
I guess they 8 and 10 after all....who blames minors for anything...they know nothing right...

How come you saw blame in my comment? How else would the children pick it up from if they didn't hear or see it whether on TV, friends, parents, etc.

Besides, parents still need to be alert and sieve what the children watch