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ernecy:
how is conceiving it a mistake. How a woman spread her legs, and the man insert come without wearing a condom a mistake. Abi the sperm splash on her body, and her body absorbed it unknowly, and she got pregnant .? U need to explain more

When man wears a bullet proof vest he has decided not die, he did not make a mistake to stay alive but he made decision that helped him stay alive and vice versa..

It's very simple. When two people decide to hv have unprotected sex, they must no that it may lead to pregnancy, but they still need to decide whether to keep the baby or not. Where is the mistake in that?

The problem is nobody wants to be responsible for they actions any more, always looking for technicality to avoid they responsibility, and so they denied the truth, call it mistake or some will say it's the devil

And what if the condom broke?

So you should truncate your future because your parents want grandchildren?

If they really need a child or children to keep them company, they can adopt. I have seen elderly people adopt.

But please take your time. You might be changing the course of your life in a negative way by marrying just to please your parents

ernecy:
I agree with you but having a baby is a big decision she took not by mistake. She knew she was pregnant and decided to keep it. The pregnancy lasted for at least 9 months so she had ample time to make her choice..

Having the child was a decision. Conceiving it might have been considered a mistake even if they knew that having unprotected sex could lead to pregnancy.

UBGG:
Just because she choose to keep one pregnancy is not an indicant she never had an abortion before. Also, You lot need to stop calling getting pregnant a mistake, it didn't just happen, did it?

A mistake would be me served coffee with cream instead of just black. Getting screwed repeatedly without protection nor considering morning after pills isn't a mistake.

As for the poster, you know if you were 100% sure about your decision to marry her you wouldn't have made this post about it, right?

My point (which i guess the op got) is that having a child doesn't eliminate her as unfit to be wedded.

When i say "mistake", it is not in the having sex without protection and blah blah. Even married couples refer to some of their kids as "mistake"

UBGG:
Just because she choose to keep one pregnancy is not an indicant she never had an abortion before. Also, You lot need to stop calling getting pregnant a mistake, it didn't just happen, did it?

A mistake would be me served coffee with cream instead of just black. Getting screwed repeatedly without protection nor considering morning after pills isn't a mistake.

As for the poster, you know if you were 100% sure about your decision to marry her you wouldn't have made this post about it, right?

My point (which i guess the op got) is that having a child doesn't eliminate her as unfit to be wedded.

When i say "mistake", it is not in the having sex without protection and blah blah. Even married couples refer to some of their kids as "mistake"

izombie:
See wetin buhari dey cause.

Abeg Buhari didn't cause anything. She is a thief. Even if God Almighty was the president, she would steal

EzendiEgo1:
He said, “I travelled on Thursday to attend a burial in Abraka, Delta State. I left Abraka the following day for my hometown in Ebonyi State. I called my wife around 11pm to know how she was faring. We exchanged pleasantries.

What kind of confusion is this, this is why she was murdered.

Having two husband at the same time.

When a woman decide to carry out Evil even the devil will be her apprentice.

Nothing justifies the killing

Because we are in a hurry to find that person, we just end up with the wrong one.

For me, i was in church one day and the pastor said we keep giving God specifications of the kind of person we want...tall, dark, fair,etc. He said that don't we think that God who created us and knows everything about his product knows exactly the kind of person that would compliment us.

It was an eye opener and from that day, i just prayed "God you created me and You know the kind of man i need...." and voila!!! It worked!!! I didn't give specifications and i got my fit.

Silvermoney:
I don't want a sexually charged wife. All these women who are always hot and ready for action scare me marriage wise. When you have children, flabby body sets in, post baby big stomach that is almost permanent with many women, and overfamiliarity blurs the initial lust and attractiveness. Your desire to have sex with her as a man would drop. And yet she would still expect you to be pumping her regularly with the vigor you would if you meet a new sexy 22 year old girl. Simply not possible.

It doesn't work. I don't want that at all.

If you marry someone you truly love, you will be blind to some things. What of those that had sex all through the pregnancy amidst the throwing up and big belly

Besides, help her to lose the belly fat. Let her know your feelings towards it. Not all women even retain it.

1 years old?

Beautifully black.

Well i heard women get pumped to look pregnant these days and then they adopt.

Lesson to be learnt:

Never take hook line and sinker what any human being says. People talk based on their limited knowledge,experience and principles or what have you.

That said...i hail all our feminists and alpha males.

Because they prefer to cry in a Bentley(if the guy is rich) than cy in a keke marwa.

Elder001:
head of the house my ass... they tried setting up business for her but she squandered the money 3times!

who'll still want to carry the burden of such lady?

I am talking about the children. Won't he carry the burden of the children? Or will he allow the children suffer because of their mother's foolishness? He still has a responsibility to the children.

SoapQueen:
TBoss sometimes come off as a proud person. He apologised, let it slide.

I think it is even the guy that is proud. He wants to apologize codedly for his ego sake when he insulted her in the open. Serves him right.

I think it is a good one. A lot of people get married knowing they cannot have children. They wait till after the wedding to speak up and now expect the spouse to accept it since they are already married.

Buying a used phone.

Elder001:
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is the kids not also the woman's responsibility?

madam.. the man is tired! too much burden isn't good for a man's health

So what do you suggest he does? The burden is not good for him but it is good for his child to bear?

What was he doing when his wife decided to pause her life for church sake? He watched her all these years. If one parent is foolish, the other has to take charge. Their failure is not the children's business. Theu still need to take care of them.

Is he not the head of the family and the man of the house? Too many men these days running away from their responsibilities.

Elder001:
do you have conscience at all?
How can a man be bear the whole burden for about 20years because the dude said his mom deliberately stopped working 20years ago.

why won't he run away? do you want him to die?
I want the guy to leave the house.. the woman will rethink .nonsense

So if the son runs away too, there is no problem. Father can bail but son should stay and carry the responsibility.

This has nothing to do with conscience. What if his son didn't have job?

Whether the father is bearing the burden for 20 or 50yrs, the fact is that they are his family and responsibility. He has to figure out a way and not dump the stress on his son and run

Elder001:
you can't force the man to take responsibility because he's obviously tired.... didn't you read his last thread where he said his mom deliberately stopped working! because she became a born again.. like wtf does that? they tried setting up business for her up to 3times but she squandered the money
The father has no choice but to run away because he's tired of the burden

If the father can run away, why should the son take over his responsibility. She is his wife and his cross to carry. The son has his own life and future to build.

It is because he is staying there...that's why he is being stressed with responsibility.

Go out more, hang out with friends. Don't be an introvert. You need to go out for you to meet men.

But you also need to be careful. There are too many laid back guys looking for a well to do lady to leech on.

Cute couple. Meanwhile my neighbours wore iro and buba/ matching with husband and son "and co" for their son's one year birthday. Nice

Lalas247:
one of the beautiful souls we have on Nl..the guy is so real. and trust me gives the best unbiased advice ..
one person I can vouch for

You got the phrase right...beautiful soul.

Too many angry and bitter guys on this platform. It is good to have a breath of fresh air (lefulefu)

lefulefu:
lol i was a user when sexkillz was a moderator. Anyway don't take seriously the comments some of these guys post here. Its jus a trolling galore and the comments are just thrown as a means to hurt some ladies. Its the same way some ladies also post some hurtful comments about broke guys and it gets at some dudes here..dats nairaland. But then at the end of the day in the real world the ladies in their 30s or 40s still get married while broke dudes still get involved in a relationship.

Yeah i remember sexkillz.

You are correct. And some of these guys are guys and girls in their early 20s or late 10s that are somewhat clueless about life.

Not changing pant. That is deep

When i see story telling, i scroll down first to see if there is a "read more" link. I just move on.

Bad habit.

lefulefu:
i no dey take anything on nairaland that seriously. If 36 na abominable age for a single lady in Nigeria then how come 30 something yr old ladies are still gettin married in naija. What is important is good character,then she should be easily approachable, and less of a snob and a good man would come. This is what most men want and not really about age.

Wow!! What planet are you from? Are you sure you are a Nigerian guy on NL? I hardly ever see you insult people or throw abusive words around. You must be from Nairaland of old and not the new generation NL users.

lefulefu:
prince harry looked so happy being married to her. I saw d wedding on tv. I think he got married to a girl he really fancies.didn't look like a royal arranged marriage.

Yeah. She is 36...in her 30s. The abominable age for single ladies on NL

luke55720:
ladies unmarried at their 30s are leftovers.

Tell that to Prince Harry